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February 1, 2001

Your Letters 02/02-02/08/2001

Boy Scouts

Your editorial on the Boy Scouts’ policy banning gays was commendable (“Scout’s Honor,” Jan. 26). However, a very important part of the picture was missing: the affect of the bigoted policy upon the boys themselves. The policy further encourages hatred and violence against gay scouts at a time when physical and verbal attacks are endemic among teenagers. As a gay man (who was also a Boy Scout), I have spent a lifetime battling the reign of terror against my dignity and self-respect by heterosexism and homophobia, such as the Boy Scout policy, and have seen its devastation upon the lives of gays and lesbians.

A Boy Scout who knows that his scout leader happens to be gay immediately understands that his gayness is just one small part of the whole and will most likely learn he is just like any leader — skilled and respected.

Also, your use of “avowed homosexuals” in the very first sentence is insulting and counterproductive to your enlightened conclusion. Using Rabbi Rosove’s test, which you quote, how would we feel if the term “avowed Jews” were used instead of “Jews?”

Gerald A. Gerash, Santa Monica


Ehud Barak

Kudos to Rob Eshman for his courageous comments about the faltering peace process (“Men and Martyrs,” Jan. 12). Clearly, American Jews have no right to tell Israeli leaders what to do and how they should negotiate.

Middie and Richard Giesberg, Los Angeles


Arab Americans

Thank you for giving the deserved attention to our Arab brothers and sisters in L.A. (“Stepping Out,” Jan., 12).

Having worked or associated with Salam Al-Marayati, James Zogby and others over the years, I couldn’t be more proud of their leadership.

May the time not be distant when we will accept that we are of course of the very same, one community.

Andrew Kay Liberman, Los Angeles


Temple Mount

While I personally know David Myers and Rabbi Seidler-Feller and admire their commitment to Israel, I disagree with their stance that as part of an Israeli-Palestinian peace agreement, Israel should relinquish sovereignty over the Temple Mount in Jerusalem (“Ceding Control,” Jan. 19). They state that because Muslims conquered Jerusalem centuries ago, Muslims should continue to control the Temple Mount as a religious site. By this logic, if Israel regained control of Jerusalem, then Israel should have sovereignty over the Temple Mount. Indeed, when Israel defeated the Muslim forces that attacked Jerusalem in 1967, it regained control of Jerusalem and the Temple Mount after 2,000 years. However, instead of reestablishing a Jewish religious presence on the Temple Mount, Israel graciously enabled the Muslims to continue their religious administration of the Temple Mount. Maybe being a “nice guy” was a mistake.

Paul Nisenbaum, Los Angeles


[Ahad] Ha-am conceptualized that the Temple Mount and Jerusalem were the life blood, the neshama, the spirit of the Jewish people and always would be. Even if the Temple Mount were only the symbolic center, this symbolism is understood by both the Muslims and the Jews. That is why the Muslims want to take it away from us so desperately — to break our spirit.

They want to marginalize us and treat us ignominiously. The Temple Mount is our heart. It sends out the waves of the greatness of Jewish history. The hallowed ground of the Temple Mount resounds with the great Jewish martyrs who have given their lives for Jewish continuity. As the blood from the heart beats throughout our body, so does the Temple Mount pulsate as an emblematic shrine that gives hope to world Jewry.

Someday we might build a Third Temple on the Temple Mount, so it is essential that we maintain our sovereignty there. If we don’t maintain control of this area, what is to become of the many centers of Jewish learning that exist in the Old City? We cannot give away our dreams and our future.

Manny Glaser, Pacific Palisades


A few weeks ago there was a rally in Jerusalem to affirm the Jewish people’s loyalty and allegiance to Jerusalem and the Temple Mount. It was nonpolitical and was attended by the largest crowd at any rally (about 350,000 people). Those attending were secular and religious, right wing and left wing, Israelis and Jews from all over the Diaspora. We believe they speak for the Jewish people, not Prof. Myers and Rabbi Seidler-Feller, sitting here in the security of the campus.

Josef and Becky Gellmann, Los Angeles


It is hard to understand why Prof. Myers and Rabbi Seidler-Feller believe that Israel saying that it will relinquish the Temple Mount will result in peace, given the implacable hostility that Arafat has shown to Barak’s unprecedented peace offers. Appeasement has failed, and the Israeli electorate appears on the verge of rejecting those who never stop insisting that more and more should be given up.

Mel Aranoff,Valley Glen


Myers and Seidler-Feller advocate relinquishing sovereignty over Har HaBayit in the interests of peace specifically to “fulfill the religious imperative of saving lives.” If Palestinians control this site, there will be nothing to stop Palestinian gunmen there from shooting at Jews praying down below and preventing Jewish access to the Western Wall. International law will be invoked to prevent Israel entering its most holy place in order to stop Moslems killing Jews in the name of Islam.

Bob Kirk, Los Angeles


David N. Myers and Chaim Seidler-Feller respond:

Few issues evoke as much passion as control over sacred space. We appreciate — and indeed share a sense of — the centrality of the Temple Mount in Jewish historical consciousness. But we believe that one of the reasons that Jews have survived for millennia is that they have been able to live with the tension between present-day realities and future dreams. This was the sound pragmatism of the rabbis in rebuilding Judaism after the destruction of the Temple in 70 C.E. This was also the pragmatism of a more recent figure, Moshe Dayan, in a much different context. In 1967, at the height of Israel’s dizzying victory in the Six-Day War, Dayan granted functional control over the Temple Mount to Muslim authorities. Like the rabbis, Dayan understood that in order to live peaceably in the present, we must learn to grapple with the tension between the here and now and the end of days.

It is undeniable that the here and now is not so pleasant. The Palestinians are not ideal partners in peace. But they are the only partners Israel has. And calculated risks must be taken. We do not harbor the illusion, as Mel Aranoff suggests, that surrendering sovereignty of the Temple Mount will lead to peace. Rather, we argued that if peace negotiations do reach the point of culmination, the end game should not hinge on the question of sovereignty over the Temple Mount.

The reason, we reiterate, is that functional control of the Temple Mount has been for centuries — and remains today — in the hands of Muslims. In contrast to Mssrs. Nisenbaum and Glaser, our point is not to focus on the primacy of the Jews’ historical claim to this space relative to the Muslims. On that score, there can be little doubt. But what is the functional value of the Temple Mount for Jews today? As distinct from the Western Wall (which must remain under Israeli control under any future peace deal), the upper portion of the Temple Mount is the site of regular worship for Muslims, not Jews.

To speak of the Temple Mount as if it were a presence in the daily life of Jews is to misconstrue the past two millennia of Jewish history. Judaism survived and flourished following the destruction of the Bet Ha-Mikdash in 70 C.E. Even Zionism, for all its success in restoring the Jewish people to its homeland, did not overturn long-standing religious injunctions against rebuilding the Holy Temple, much less against Jews setting foot on the Temple Mount. This does not mean that we need to surrender our dream of a rebuilt Temple in the future. But the lessons of Jewish history instruct us to inhabit the present, seeking a secure existence for ourselves in harmony with our neighbors. Accordingly, we must be prepared to acknowledge Muslim sovereignty over the Temple Mount if a peace agreement depends upon it.

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Calendar 02/02/-08/02/ 2001

3/Saturday

Temple Beth Torah: 9 a.m. Spiritual meditative healing service. 10 a.m.
Tot Shabbat for 3- to 5-year-olds, with service, stories, snacks and crafts.
16651 Rinaldi St., Granada Hills. For more information, call (818) 831-0835.

Temple Emanuel: 10 a.m. New Emanuel minyan followed by a potluck dairy/vegetarian
lunch. 1:30 p.m. Tu B’Shevat Experience for 4- to 5-year-olds, followed
by Stop and Smell the Spices Havdallah. 8844 Burton Way, Beverly Hills.
For more information, call (310) 274-6388.

Pacific Trio: 8 p.m. The classical music trio performs works by Brahms,
Faure and Turina in a benefit concert for Congregation Ohr HaTorah. $50
(reserved); $30 (general admission). Colburn School for Performing Arts,
200 S. Grand, Los Angeles. For reservations or more information, call (310)
278-9049.

Kaleidoscope: 8 p.m. Cable television program with discussion of “Israel
and the Palestinians, living in perfect disharmony.” AT and T Broadband
channel 43.

Young Adults Dedicated to Altruism (Y.A.D.A.): 5:30 p.m. Social gathering
for Bnai Zion’s new social action group, at Chaya in Beverly Hills. For
more information, call (323) 655-9128.

Leo Baeck Temple: 9:30 a.m. Dr. Arnold Eisen leads a weekend of discussion
on “How shall we be Jewish in America?” Through Sunday. $40. To register,
call (310) 476-2861.

4/Sunday

With One Heart: 7 p.m. Benefit concert to provide urgent security and
medical supplies for yishuv K’far Tapuach. Performers include Sam Glaser,
Rebbe Soul, Yehuda Solomon and the Moshav Band. $18 (general admission);
$10 (students). Beth Jacob Congregation, 9030 W. Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles.
For more information, call (310) 358-0460.

American Film Institute: 5 p.m. International Film Series begins tonight
with Israel’s “Time of Favor,” followed by reception dinner. $85. Mark
Goodson screening room, AFI, 2021 N. Western Ave., Los Angeles. For reservations
or more information, call (310) 652-0032.

Temple Beth Torah: 1 p.m. Tu B’Shevat Seder led by Rabbi Arnold Stiebel
and Cantor Sharone Rosen. 16651 Rinaldi St., Granada Hills. For reservations,
call (818) 831-0835.

Women’s American ORT: Noon. Monthly luncheon meeting for the Pico West
chapter. $6.50. Fu’s Palace Restaurant, 8751 W. Pico Blvd. For more information,
call (323) 653-0400.

Sholem Community Organization: 10:15 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Lecture and discussion
on Sholem Aleichem as a chronicler, looking beyond humor and rooftop fiddling.
$10. Culver City Middle School, 4601 Elenda St., Culver City. For more
information, call (818) 760-6625.

Conejo Jewish Academy: 11 a.m.-4 p.m. Rabbi Manis Friedman leads a seminar
in kabbalah titled “The Curtain Parts: a glimpse into the spiritual cosmos.”
$65. 30345 Canwood St., Agoura Hills. For reservations or more information,
call (818) 991-0991.

Jewish Vegetarians of Los Angeles: 2 p.m. “So now what do I eat?” lecture
by Marr Nealon. Valley Beth Shalom Synagogue, 15739 Ventura Blvd., Encino.
For more information, call (818) 888-7271.

5/Monday

UCLA Center for Jewish Studies: 7:30 p.m. Special performance of “Remnants,”
a voice play by psychologist Henry Greenspan, based on his interviews with
Holocaust survivors. Fowler Museum Auditorium, UCLA. For more information,
call (310) 825-5387.

Encore/OASIS Older Adult Program: 1 p.m.-2:30 p.m. Seminar on planning
your vacation. Pierce College, 6201 Winnetka Ave., Woodland Hills. For
more information, call (818) 710-4163.

Valley Storefront, Jewish Family Service: 2 p.m. Dr. Rachael Guth speaks
on “Bones and Groans,” including arthritis and osteoporosis. 12821 Victory
Blvd., North Hollywood. For reservations, call (818) 984-0276.

City of Hope: 3 p.m.-4:30 p.m. Legacy Builders, a support group for
those facing a terminal illness, first and third Mondays of each month.
City of Hope Cancer Center, Hillquit Bldg. Rm. 4015, 1500 E. Duarte Rd.,
Duarte. For more information, call (626) 359-8111 ext. 5465.

Young Israel of Beverly Hills: 7:30 p.m. Path of the Righteous, Jewish
ethics class with Rabbi Yisrael Petlak. 8701 W. Pico Blvd., Los Angeles.
For more information, call (310) 275-3020.

6/Tuesday

Temple Ner Tamid of Downey: 9:45 a.m. Ezra Center for Mature Adults
presents “A Seder for Tu B’Shevat, new year for the trees,” program with
Jerry and Eve Silverman. 10629 Lakewood Blvd., Downey. For more information,
call (562) 861-9276.

Jewish Vocational Service: 7:30 a.m. Breakfast with the CEO series kicks
off with Rhino Entertainment President Richard Foos. $50. West LA location.
To register, call (323) 761-8888 ext. 8895.

Jewish Home for the Aging: 1:30 p.m. Informational meeting for those
who want to volunteer at JHA. Board room, Eisenberg Village campus, 18855
Victory Blvd., Reseda. For more information, call (818) 774-3040.

Kol Tikvah Temple: 7 p.m.-8 p.m. Sex, food, money and your profession:
Jewish values and ethics, taught by Rabbi Steven B. Jacobs. 8:15 p.m.-9:15
p.m. The Genesis of family: Function and dysfunction, taught by Rabbi Jay
Levy. Through March 13. Free (members); $18 (nonmembers). 20400 Ventura
Blvd., Woodland Hills. For more information, call (818) 348-0670.

University of Judaism: 7 p.m.-9:30 p.m. Filmmakers and You: A reel look
at Jewish identity, weekly documentary film series through March 6. $125.
15600 Mulholland Dr., Bel Air. For registration or more information, call
(310) 440-1246.

Conejo Jewish Academy: 8 p.m. Homeward Bound, a two-part workshop on
bringing a Jewish atmosphere into a home. Also meets Feb. 13. 30345 Canwood
St., Agoura Hills. $10. For reservations or more information, call (818)
991-0991.

The Academy for Jewish Religion: 8 p.m. Academy study circle, ongoing
Tuesday night learning session with Rabbi Mordecai Finley and six other
teachers. 11827 Venice Blvd., Los Angeles. For more information, call (310)
398-0820.

7/Wednesday

Valley Beth Shalom: 7:30 p.m. Ethical issues panel discussion series.
This week: “After Rampart: Recommendations for changes in the L.A.P.D.”
15739 Ventura Blvd., Los Angeles. For more information, call (818) 788-6000.

University of Haifa: 7:30 p.m. Speakers from Israeli and Californian
universities discuss the Globalization of Education: Possibilities for
Israeli-American collaboration. Royce Hall, UCLA. For reservations or more
information, call (310) 262-5086.

Los Angeles World Affairs Council: Noon. The Muslim-Jewish dialogue
group leads a discussion forum on transcending Middle East hostilities.
Beverly Hills Hotel. For more information, call (213) 628-2333.

Congregation N’vay Shalom: 7:30 p.m. Rosh Chodesh women’s group, meeting
in a private home. For more information, call (323) 463-7728.

8/Thursday

Congregation B’nai Tzedek Sisterhood: 7 p.m. Tu B’Shevat seder led by
Cantor Linda Ecker. 9669 Talbert Ave., Fountain Valley. For reservations
or more information, call (714) 963-4611.

National Council of Jewish Women, Brentwood Division: 11:30 a.m.-2 p.m.
Monthly meeting, with The Mendelssohn Trio from Crossroads School performing
classical music. Temple Beth Shir Shalom, 1827 California Ave., Santa Monica.
For more information, call (310) 395-1802.

Rishon B’nai B’rith: 6 p.m. Dinner meeting with entertainment by dancer
Jon Destry. $7.50. Temple Judea, 5429 Lindley Ave., Tarzana. For reservations,
call (818) 758-3800.

Valley Beth Shalom Family Center: 7:30 p.m. Parenting together: Rivalry
or harmony? Workshop for parents on sharing responsibilities and supporting
one another. 15739 Ventura Blvd., Encino. For more information, call (818)
788-4667.

Yoga Garden: 8 p.m.-9:30 p.m. Yoga, meditation and Judaism class. 2236
26th St., Santa Monica. For more information, call (310) 450-0133.

9/Friday

The Getty Center: 8 p.m. “The Maelstrom: A Family Chronicle.” Peter
Forgacs’ documentary using home movie footage of a Dutch Jewish family,
1938-1942. For reservations or more information, call (310) 440-7300.

Temple Etz Chaim: 8:15 p.m. Scholar-in-Residence weekend lecture series
with Rabbi Neal Weinberg, focusing on the survival of the American Jewish
community in the 21st century. Additional events and lectures through Sun.,
Feb. 11. 1080 Janss Road, Thousand Oaks. For more information, call (805)
497-6891.

The Movable Minyan: 7 p.m. Tu B’Shevat seder, with dairy/vegetarian
potluck, preferably made from grains, fruit or nuts. Wear green or leafy
things. Singer Lounge, Westside JCC, 5870 W. Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles.
For more information, call (310) 285-3317.

Temple Isaiah: 6:15 p.m. Tu B’Shevat seder and new member Shabbat, followed
by bring your own picnic dinner. 10345 W. Pico Blvd., Los Angeles. For
more information, call (310) 277-2772.

Temple Ahavat Shalom: 8 p.m. Shabbat Shira, a special
Shabbat service in song. 18200 Rinaldi Place, Northridge. For more information,
call (818) 360-2258.

Singles

3/Saturday

Jewish Single Parents and Singles Association: 6:30 p.m. Dinner at Mykonos
Greek Restaurant, 5374 E. Second St., Long Beach. Followed by dancing.
For reservations or more information, call (562) 985-3273.

Jewish Association of Single Professionals: 8 p.m.-1 a.m. Westwood cocktail
and dance party, with DJ, appetizer buffet and dessert. $20. W Hotel, 930
Hilgard Ave., Westwood. For more information, call (323) 656-7777.

4/Sunday

Kosher Meet Market (21-35): Noon-5 p.m. Kosher basketball league begins,
meeting at Grant High School. To sign up or for more information, call
(818) 993-7249 ext. 2.

Elite Jewish Theatre Singles: 7 p.m. “How the Other Half Loves,” at
the Pasadena Playhouse, preceded by a dinner social. $30. Also, Feb. 28,
8 p.m. Orchestra seats for “The Lion King.” $75. For reservations or more
information, call (310) 203-1312.

Jewish Singles Golf Connection (50’s-60’s): Short courses, friendship
and fun. Experienced only please. For reservations, call (310) 802-0079.

Westside JCC: 8 p.m.-midnight. Israeli folk dancing with David Dassa.
$4 (members); $5 (nonmembers). 5870 W. Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles. For
more information, call (323) 938-2531 ext. 2225.

5/Monday

Singles Helping Others: 7 p.m. General meeting, discussing upcoming
events. 13130 Burbank Blvd. For more information, call (323) 769-1307.

New Age Singles (55+): 7:15 p.m. Torah study meeting with Selma Semmelman
at a Westside location. $3 (members); $5 (guests). For reservations or
more information, call (310) 659-5868.

Israeli Folk Dancing: 8 p.m. All levels of experience welcome for the
ongoing class, with instructor Israel Yakovie. Lessons until 9 p.m.; open
session 9 p.m.-12:30 a.m. Also meets Thursday. $5. 2244 Westwood Blvd.,
Los Angeles. (800) 750-5432.

6/Tuesday

Westwood Jewish Singles (45+): 7:30 p.m. Coffee, cake and conversation.
Professionally led discussion and support group. Also meets Sun., 8 p.m.
$8. For more information, call (310) 444-8986.

Bridge Group (60+): 7:30 p.m. Intermediate players meet in a private
home in Marina del Rey. $4. Also meets Sun. and Thur. For more information,
call (310) 398-6558.

7/Wednesday

Conejo Jewish Singles Connection: 7:30 p.m. Lecture on the nine choices
happy people make. $5 (members); $8 (nonmembers). Temple Adat Elohim, 2420
E. Hillcrest Dr., Thousand Oaks. For reservations, call (805) 381-1514.

Jewish Singles Meeting Place (30’s-40’s): 7:30 p.m. Bring a favorite
board game for game night, at a private home in Valley Glen. For reservations
or more information, call (818) 780-1202.

8/Thursday

Conversations!: 7:30 p.m. Singles group with a guest speaker every Thursday
night. Light dinner served. $15. 820 Harvard St., Santa Monica. For reservations,
call (310) 315-1078.

9/Friday

Sinai Temple (25-40’s): 7:30 p.m. Friday Night Live, an exciting Shabbat
service for young professionals on the second Friday of each month. 10400
Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles. For more information, call (310) 474-1518
ext. 3234.

Upcoming

Klutz Productions and SpeedDating (21-39): 6:40 p.m. The
Snow Ball, SpeedDating event followed by dance party at 9 p.m. $20 (both
events); $10 (dance party only). Lush, 2020 Wilshire Blvd., Santa Monica. For
more information, call (310) 247-7477.

J-Ski: Feb. 23-25. Jewish singles ski trip to Mammoth, note the new date.
$159. For reservations or more information, call (818) 342-9508, or e-mail JskiLa@aol.com.

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Planting the Tree Of Knowledge

In 1997, an Israel-based rabbi, Yehoshua Kohl, dreamed of returning to his native Southern California and opening a center of learning for all Jews. After obtaining initial funding of about $150,000 from local donors in the Los Angeles area, along with seed money from benefactors in New York and Sao Paulo, Brazil, Kohl realized his dream in the fall of 1999, opening the Valley Kollel. It’s been growing ever since.
Although the Kollel offices and many of its classes are in donated space at Orthodox shul Shaarey Zedek in North Hollywood, the Kollel is itself unaffiliated, and courses are taught at private homes throughout the San Fernando Valley and at Cal State Northridge. There are classes somewhere every day except Shabbat — and even on Shabbat there is a learner’s service. The instructors are young and energetic, well-traveled and from a variety of backgrounds, all passionate in their love of teaching Torah. Most amazing of all, however, in this day of ever-soaring tuition and enlightenment-for-the-right-price kabbalah seminars, the Kollel’s instruction is totally, completely free of charge.

Kohl said he has always felt strongly that he did not want to charge money for the Kollel, except for special fundraising events.

“The two things should be separate. Wanting to give to charity to benefit the community should be separate from wanting to come and study,” Kohl said. “Plus, Maimonides teaches you are not supposed to charge for teaching Torah, because it is the inheritance of every Jew,” adding that he hopes Jews in the Los Angeles community will see Jews studying Judaism as “a worthwhile investment.”

Kohl, who has run programs for unaffiliated Jews from Dallas, Texas, to Budapest, Hungary, including a stint with Aish HaTorah, said he does not intend to compete with other adult education programs in the L.A. area. Instead, he hopes to attract learners who are searching for a no-pressure environment for study.
“It’s different from classes like those at Aish in the sense that I found Aish more involved with getting people committed to [becoming more observant],” Kohl explained. “We wanted to focus on people studying and knowing enough to make their own decisions. I wanted to build a place for people to study on an intellectual level.”

Why the Valley?

“There was no one teaching adults full time here,” he said. “I grew up in Santa Barbara, went to Camp Ramah every summer, and so I felt I had a sense of the Los Angeles Jewish community, in particular the Valley.”

Kohl is proud that “from 6:30 a.m. to 10:30 p.m., there’s always something going on here.” The Kollel offers a wide array of classes from sophisticated study of Talmud to beginners’ seminars such as “Judaism 101.” There is also a program of individual study in which students are paired up one-to-one or in small groups with one of the Kollel rabbis. Class times are designed to fit around the schedules of both nine-to-fivers and stay-at-home parents. The monthly calendar of courses is posted on the Kollel’s Web site (www.valleykollel.org), but not all classes are listed and many are for men or women only; it might be best to consult with Kohl, at least initially.

My first visit to a Kollel class was somewhat disappointing — more basic than I expected. The next, which I attended on and off for several months, was far more satisfying.

An intensive study of the Pirkei Avot (“Ethics of the Fathers”), the sessions were held in the beautiful Calabasas home of one of the students. The teacher, Ariella Adatto, though young, was very knowledgeable and pushed us to think beyond the few lines of text we studied each week, asking us to connect it not only to our knowledge of Torah but to our knowledge of humanity. I had never studied Jewish texts with other women and found it refreshing to hear their insights and their connection with the readings. Adatto’s style is gentle but determined, and I came away from each meeting feeling more connected to my faith and other Jews than I remember feeling in a very long time.

It is this kind of connection with Torah-based living that Adatto and the other Kollel teachers seek to foster in their students.

“It’s like chocolate cake. If you had a friend who had never had it, you’d want them to taste it and enjoy it,” Adatto said. “It’s something I find so meaningful and deep. I can’t imagine how people live without it.”

Adatto, 26, grew up in Los Angeles, moving across the spectrum of observance from Conservative to Orthodox Judaism by the time she was in high school. Like many observant teenagers she graduated from Yeshiva University High School of Los Angeles (YULA) and headed for a year’s study in Israel at a women’s yeshiva. She returned to the U.S. and to her deferred admission to Harvard University, where she graduated with a degree in Russian history. A friend fixed her up with another YULA graduate, Rabbi Moshe Adatto; the pair now have three children under the age of 5. Both teach a variety of classes through the Kollel, where Ariella is currently co-coordinator of women’s programming.

Adatto admits it is not always easy, balancing the life of a scholar, teacher and parent.

“For me, one of the advantages of teaching is I have to continue my own learning,” she said. “It’s a juggling act — how many phone calls can I make while the kids are playing, how many pages can I read before the baby wakes up.”

She hopes by her example, other busy women will see that it is possible to make regular Torah study a part of their lives.

“People want meaning in their lives. What we’re dealing with [at the Kollel] is how to offer something for everyone. … We help people see the all-encompassing picture,” Adatto said.

“It’s possible to have a perfectly fine life without Judaism,” she continued. “It’s like my computer, which came with a 400-page manual. I can use the computer to do word processing perfectly well without reading the manual. It does what I need it to do, but I know I’m not using it to its full potential. Without reading the manual, I’m not maximizing the computer. Without Torah, we are not maximizing ourselves.”

The Kollel’s Judaism 101 course will run for five Tuesdays at 8:15 p.m. beginning Feb. 6 at the West Valley JCC, 22622 Vanowen St. in West Hills. For more information on these and other classes, call (818) 760-3245.

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What a $230 Million Deal Means to You

After last-minute negotiating, Austria, the United States and Jewish groups signed an agreement two weeks ago under which Austria agreed to pay $210 million, plus about $20 million in interest, to cover victims’ property claims and unpaid insurance polices. The government also will pay an estimated $100 million in social welfare benefits to Austrian Jews.

The agreement will give lifetime pensions to all Austrian Jewish survivors, including about 10,000 living in the United States. In the joint statement issued by all the parties, Austria admitted its “moral responsibility” and said it is “facing up to the light and dark sides of its past and to the deeds of all Austrians, good and evil.”

“No amount of money can undo the tremendous suffering and losses that have been inflicted on our Jewish citizens,” said Austrian Ambassador Ernst Sucharipa at the signing ceremony.

Pieter Launsky-Tieffenthal, Austria’s bright, young and energetic new consul general, recently arrived in L.A. after a four year posting in India. (He met and married documentary filmmaker Aradhana Seth there.) We asked him how the agreement might affect Jewish natives of Austria now living in L.A.

Journal: Who is eligible?

Launsky- Tieffenthal: Former Jewish residents of Austria can apply for financial compensation for rented apartments, small- and medium-sized businesses and other properties, except for art.

Journal: How do they apply?

Launsky-Tieffenthal: They should send a letter via e-mail to nationalfunds@eunet.at
or via fax to 011-4314080389.

Journal: What about for art works?

Launsky-Tieffenthal: That law has already been in place for three years.

Journal: How was this settlement received by the Austrian public?

Launsky-Tieffenthal: This was considered the next step in a three-prong settlement that includes the national fund, restitution and reconciliation for slave laborers. It has gone down well.

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Downhill Doubts

My father has disowned me. We did not get into a fight about the family business — there is no family business. I did not marry out of the faith, and I have no children about whose upbringing we can disagree. The source of our irreconcilable differences is that we went skiing together last year, and he is convinced that I cannot be his natural child.

His theory, which is a little complicated, goes like this: Jews have been enormously successful in myriad activities during the past 4,000 or so years, among them arts, science, finance and, lest we forget, religion. We have been far less successful in the field of navigation and exploration. It took Moses 40 years to get from Egypt across the Sinai, about a three-week walk if you know where you’re going. We did somehow manage to get just about everywhere in the world, but it’s not clear as to whether our ancestors wound up in, say, Spain as a result of a well-considered expedition to spread the word, or if they just made a wrong turn at the Gaza Strip and refused to stop at a gas station to get directions until they hit the Prado.

The theory continues that only a handful of Jews turned right and headed for Northern Europe. As a result, there are no Svens or Larses in our mishpocheh, only Arnies and Murrays.

When I was growing up, the chosen destination for winter holidays was Miami or Maui, not Aspen or Gstaad. Maybe our family just never got the word that it was okay to go outside and play in the snow, but now that I’ve become a somewhat adventurous skier, my father says the three most dangerous words in the English language are “Follow me, Dad.” His reasoning is that it’s crazy for Jews to be skiing in the trees. By that logic, if I ski in the trees, I must be either crazy or not Jewish and therefore not his son. Ergo, I am disowned.

I knew we were in foreign territory on my first ski trip to Deer Valley, Utah. After a rough day on the bunny hill, I returned to the Stein Ericksen Lodge and found the bar packed at 3 p.m. (It turns out that Stein is the first name of Mr. Ericksen, a famous Norwegian Olympian. I thought there was a Jewish partner in the hotel with top billing.) At one table of raccoon-eyed apres skiers was a blond couple wearing white sweaters with a little blue snowflake pattern. These people drink in the afternoon and never spill anything on themselves. In my family, a white sweater is a blank canvas on which one invariably spills his Bloody Mary.

There are many famous Jewish athletes, but every time one comes to prominence, every time Shawn Green comes to bat, we whisper with pride, “Did you know he’s Jewish?” Then we answer back, “Really?” with a prideful little nod of the head, a raised eyebrow, awestruck that the shtetl could ever produce such a lean, limber specimen, as if to say, “Our boy’s pretty good, huh?” Yet, for all the Sandy Koufaxes and Lenny Krayzelburgs, you never hear about great Jewish Winter Olympians.

My mother explained the dearth of famous Jewish skiers by saying, “It’s cold, it’s wet, it’s too fast, it goes down a hill, you could fall and hurt yourself.” After a moment she added, “And those clothes make you look fat.”

I don’t know what it is that says to a button-down businessman, “You’d look good in a red-and-yellow one-piece and a blue hat.” Perhaps it’s the thought that if he falls down and can’t move, people will be able to find him. No one looks good in these clumsy outfits, with the possible exception of Robert Redford, who, I should point out, is not even remotely Jewish.

Then there are the boots. You tighten these eight-pound molded plastic monsters until only the big toe can move one millimeter. Occasionally I hear someone on a chairlift tell me about how comfortable his boots are since he got the ergonomic foot beds. No, Bally loafers are comfortable. Ski boots are anti-Semitic.

Skiing does not come naturally to most people. We struggle with the rhythm of off-weighting, keeping our balance forward, planting the pole, initializing the turns, visualizing the fall line (why do they insist on calling it that?). It could be reasonably asked why people want to subject themselves to this torture test in the first place. Once I reasonably mastered the groomed slopes, I took on the bumps. Again, why? I ask myself that question at the end of every mogul run. I think the answer may lie in the importance of my burgeoning relationships with my chiropractor and my masseuse. For a lot of people, skiing is like taking the very long way, the scenic route, from your condo to the bar.

Maybe there aren’t enough Jews in Canada or enough ice in Tel Aviv to field a hockey team. And with our considerable investment in cosmetic dentistry, we are often precluded from participating in any sport where getting your teeth knocked down your throat is the goal of the opposing team. I tried to talk some friends into forming a luge team, but it holds little appeal for our people. Any sport in which you travel at speeds of more than 90 miles per hour and lead with your genitals is not going to gather a minyan. There are no guys named Arnie or Murray on the luge, and there never will be.

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Raising Children

What’s the Jewish way to raise children? Simple: just teach them Torah, model your values and encourage them to be like their ancestors. Right?

Right and wrong. True, as Jews we are all about education. But what kind of education? What kind of children are we aiming to raise? And how can we appropriately meet the needs of all different types of children? This week’s parasha, Bo, mentions three times questions asked by children and the answers offered by parents regarding the Exodus from Egypt and the Passover ritual. These passages (along with one other in Deuteronomy) become the textual source for the well-known section of the haggadah called “the four sons.” In this brief section we read of four different types of children: wise, wicked, simple and unable even to ask a question.

Passover is still two months away, but the challenge of the four sons is ever present. Why does the haggadah speak of distinctly different types of youngsters?

Some scholars have explained that it is a lesson in pedagogy — instructions to teachers for how to answer various nuances within queries. Others have seen it as representing different religious or theological attitudes. But there is a message in the text of the four sons that is even more direct.

It is a lesson in being a parent.

Once a year, at the seder, we tell the story of our people. Over the course of the evening, we take the time to share our history, our values, our beliefs with our children.

Every single day, parents tell their story to their kids. They teach, they share, they model their history and values and beliefs. That’s what we call “parenting.”

The haggadah says: Tell the story, but know your listener. If he’s wise (you’ll know from his questions) explain things one way. If he’s simple, say it another.

This wisdom expands far beyond the retelling of the Exodus story. It reaches right into us, into how we tell our story. We might want to convey parts of our spirit, our knowledge, our guidance to our kids, but each child hears it differently; each person begins and continues life with a unique disposition. Sometimes they just can’t hear it the way you’re saying it. So what’s a parent to do?

In recent years, researchers in special education have promoted what’s been hailed as a revolutionary concept: meet the child where he is. Don’t expect him to hear and heed you. Rather, you find out his place and meet him there. Instead of trying to get the child to see what you see, look through his lens, or listen first and then tell.

Using this approach, many parents and educators have made remarkable progress with children even with profound developmental disabilities — all because they learned to try seeing the world from the child’s point of view, then figure out what works. That same approach is exactly what the Torah and the haggadah lay out for us. What’s the Jewish way to raise children? Start by learning about who exactly it is you’re raising.



Shawn Fields-Meyer is rabbi of Congregation Etz Hadar in Redlands and instructor of liturgy at the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies at the University of Judaism.

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Plush Reminders

Bunny. Das-tardly Bunny. Stupid stuffed, fluffy gift from his ex-girlfriend. Bunny, you’ve enjoyed life on his pillow for awhile, but now you must die. Bunny must die.

This is what I thought as I tossed Bunny out the window of his bedroom last week. You see, there’s something cute about a man with a stuffed animal, but when I realized they used to call each other “Bunny,” it was all too much. Bunny, though cute, was a symbol of a love that had already hippity-hopped on by.

I flung Bunny out into the middle of the street with the deranged zeal of a future serial killer blowing up a cat with a firecracker. Bunny was splayed out like plush road kill.

The Boyfriend ran down the stairs and rescued Bunny with some pathetic excuse like, “Come on, Bunny’s mine now. You have to love Bunny.”

But when Bunny made it back to the pillow, I tossed it back out the window.

“That was the most juvenile thing you’ve ever done,” he said, out of breath from the Bunny rescue but somewhat amused.

“No, this is the most juvenile thing I’ve ever done,” I said, racing back out the door to place Bunny just under the hefty tire of a parked truck.

I couldn’t go through with the Bunnicide. The poor thing looked up at me with its plastic eyes, and I felt certain that it wasn’t the little critter’s fault. I was just disturbed that the Boyfriend had a past, a past filled with cute nicknames, weekend getaways, her meeting his family, and her moisturizer and hair clips still in the bathroom cabinet. Not that I was snooping.

In fact, it’s not just Bunny that bothers me. It’s Pookie, Shmoopy and Bobo. It’s the ghosts of all the ex-girlfriends past haunting me. In a sense, I’m grateful for all their hard work. They trained him. He opens car doors, shows up on time and doles out compliments. He came assembled. Still, in my mind, the parade of exes are all gorgeous, courteous and easygoing. In short, they are better than I am in every way, and I can’t stop wanting to know about them while at the same time wanting them to have never existed.

He has his share of ex-boyfriends to deal with, too. I tried to rid my apartment of all evidence, but when you have as many exes as I do, it can be difficult, sort of like the former Soviet Union getting rid of all evidence of Lenin. Even if photos and trinkets are hidden, the anecdotes seem to crop up. I know it’s a bad idea, but I can’t stop myself sometimes from bringing up past relationships. The stories can be boiled down into one basic sentiment: It’s not like I’ve never been loved before. You’re lucky to have me.

This is lame but under-standable. The question is why I would want to know about Bunny and company.
Can I be shallow for a moment (as if I haven’t already)? Sometimes I ask myself what would be worse, if his ex-girlfriends are all dot-com millionaires and supermodels or community college dropouts with bad perms. I compare myself to these women I don’t even know. If I fall short, that would be painful. If I fall long, would that be even worse?

The fact is, these relationships are over, as lifeless now as a stuffed bunny. I’m probably just looking into the past for clues how our relationship will end — or not end. But maybe it’s like those warnings at the end of mutual fund commercials: “Past performance is not an indication of future earnings.” There’s no use in obsessing about the past. Even I know that.

Yesterday, I noticed another stuffed animal behind a pile of books. It was a small Winnie the Pooh with a hat, antennae and pink wings. Stitched to its shirt were the words, “Love Bug.” Before I could complete the thought, “Love Bug must die,” the Boyfriend saw me see the Love Bug and grabbed it, chucking it right out the living room window.

It was a nice gesture, but the window had a screen. The momentum of the toss forced the Love Bug to ricochet off the screen and land right in my lap. There’s no getting rid of the Love Bug.

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The Price of Freedom

To facilitate pidyon shvuyim (redeeming captive Jews from secular prisons) we are commanded to go so far as to sell a community’s Torah scroll. Yet it is hard to rejoice that Bill Clinton pardoned four chassidim from the village of New Square, N.Y., along with an alleged tax evader who donated megabucks to Israel. In contrast to the complex moral and ethical questions that grated pro-and-con during discussions over the possible pardons of Michael Milken and Jonathan Jay Pollard, there is something unequivocally outrageous in Clinton’s decisions to pardon the four Squarer chassidim and the international oil merchant whose dealings prompted the Justice Department to allege, among other things, tax evasion and trading illegally with Iran.

I come from humble roots. My Dad sold toys and stationery goods as a wholesaler in New York City’s Lower East Side, working six days a week for his brother. My parents did not go to college. We were not well-connected. We were not connected. When I wanted to go to Columbia for college, I had to figure out how to get accepted on my own, and I had to figure out how to pay my way through the Ivy League. No one helped.

Later, when it came time for Yeshiva University (YU) to place me after I had studied for smicha (ordination), I had no well-connected relatives, no big donors, no name rabbis in my family. So YU’s rabbinical placement office tried to farm me off to a synagogue in Christchurch, New Zealand. I could have been the grand rabbi of Christchurch. When I refused, they tried to sell me on Cape Town, South Africa. And then one last option: Wichita, Kan. They would not give me a shot at anything near a significant Jewish community, choice ground reserved for the chosen and the connected. So I had to find a big-city congregation on my own. And to me, that is the American dream: making it on one’s own.

Clinton came in as the “man from a place called Hope,” the ’60s idealist who could feel the pain of the little guy. Clinton’s dad had left his mom, and his mom had left him to be reared by a grandmother or an aunt while she worked long hours. When his stepfather threatened to punch out his mom, Clinton stood up to the bully. From such beginnings, he made it to Yale and then became a Rhodes scholar. It was a great story, much true and admirable. But over eight years, he closed the book on his own story.

Soon, he was renting out the Lincoln Bedroom as if it were his personal Motel 6 for rich donors. He abused his position of power, and now he has bequeathed a legacy stained by granting pardons to four crooks whose village grand rabbi effectively has been deemed to have delivered 340 votes for each pardon.

Similarly, Clinton has pardoned an alleged tax-evader who chose two decades of European exile to the alternative of arguing his innocence in an American court of law — and whose ex-wife helped raise some million dollars to Democratic Party candidates and causes, then beseeched Clinton for a pardon. Those four Chassidim defiled everything that is remotely holy in Judaism as they cheated society out of approximately $40 million dollars, creating a bogus yeshiva built on lies. But the grand rabbi had delivered a bloc of more than 1,300 votes to Hillary. And, as Hillary has written, “It Takes a Village.”

So Teddy Roosevelt’s legacy to America was the Square Deal. Franklin Roosevelt’s legacy was the New Deal. And, for all their posturing through the 1990s as populists for the little guy in the Roosevelt traditions, the Clintons’ legacy to America is the “New Square Deal.”

There should be a problem with the calculus that if I steal $10 million dollars and keep $9 million of the loot for myself but disperse the remaining $1 million to charitable causes, then I deserve to be guest of honor at an institution’s annual dinner dance. There seems something far more noble in the person who never gets honored but who awakes at 5:30 in the morning, lays tefillin, prays to G-d, goes to work, works hard and accounts for every penny, davens again, feeds a family honestly though humbly, comes home late at night, perhaps after finishing a second job because it takes two jobs to break even, then davens a third time and drops into bed from exhaustion after spending a few moments with the children to teach them values like love, honor, respect, honesty, loyalty, trust, devotion.

It really is horrible, just plain awful, when people who proudly boast that they do not read newspapers and who think that all non-Jews are reincarnated Chmielnitzki Cossacks and Russian pogromists, decide that it is OK to cheat and steal in the name of our Torah. The United States is a warm, kind, and generous country. There is no anti-Jewish head-tax here. And the only ghettoes in which Jews reside in America are those that Jews voluntarily create for themselves, while the only walls within which Jews are enclosed are those at the exclusive “gated communities” for which residents pay a premium.

This mess has become the first Great American Scandal of 2001, occupying the center of the nation’s news and gossip for two weeks. When one considers the extraordinary efforts expended by many American Jews to win mercy for Jonathan Pollard, as well as the efforts to gain forgiveness for Michael Milken after the setbacks in his personal life and all he has done for children and their teachers since paying his debt to society, it is humiliating and downright degrading that the outgoing President of the United States has saddled our community with this legacy of shame for the American history books.

We always speak of the “price of freedom.” Now we know that price in two forms of currency: cash and ballots.



Rabbi Dov Fischer, a board member of The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles’ Jewish Community Relations Committee and national vice president of the Zionist Organization of America, practices complex civil litigation and First Amendment law at the Los Angeles offices of Akin, Gump, Strauss, Hauer & Feld.

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February 11: A Rally for Israel

Talmudic sages wondered how King Achav of Israel could have reigned for decades, considering his practice and encouragement of idolatry and every type of sin. They arrived at the answer that at least during his reign there was, if nothing else, unity among the Jewish people. Today we find deep divisions among our people, perhaps nowhere more so than in our attitudes toward Israel and the peace process. It almost makes you wish for the good old days of King Achav.

These days, there are radical hard-liners on both the right and left who are ready to push their single-minded agendas even at the cost of death and destruction. There are racist, bigoted Jews and self-hating anti-Semitic Jews, and both must be discredited at all costs.

As for the rest of us, it sometimes seems as though if we are united in anything, it is in the belief that the other side is dead wrong and largely responsible for the terrible predicament that confronts our people. At least we agree on something.

The losers in this struggle are Israel and the Jewish people. This is not a new circumstance for our people. The sages of the Talmud tell us that baseless hatred was the proximate cause of the destruction of the Second Temple. While this has traditionally been seen as a philosophical point, with the “great sin” tipping the scales of some heavenly balance, it has a more pragmatic interpretation as well. The Jews of Jerusalem were busy with internal conflict even as the Roman siege tightened around them. Large storehouses of food were put to the torch by Jews who didn’t agree with government policies, and the people and the city were then doomed. The unthinkable has already happened. We must not let it happen again.

We have no choice but to see ourselves again as one people. Our adversaries certainly don’t differentiate us by religious or political variant. More importantly, our own Torah sees us as one people, warts and all.

Promises by G-d of a special role in the world, of a land of our own and of our continuity as a people, were made to the nation of Israel, not to its left or right wings. It is only together that we can fulfill our destiny as Jews.

The road to achdut (unity) is long and arduous. We can begin by finding the common ground, our support for the people and the State of Israel. We feel their pains and hurts as if they were our own. It is in this spirit that we of the Orthodox Union call upon the Jewish community to unite in a rally in support of our brothers and sisters in Israel and their quest for a true peace, Sunday, Feb. 11, 10:15 a.m., at the corner of Olympic and Doheny. (Rain location is next door at Beth Jacob Congregation, 9030 W. Olympic Blvd., Beverly Hills.) The program is to include prayer, addresses by Israeli Consul General Yuval Rotem and Rep. Henry Waxman, an address by Rabbi Marvin Hier and songs of hope, unity and peace. It’s a start — please join in.



Dr. Larry Eisenberg is president of the Orthodox Union’s West Coast region.

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