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May 7, 1998

Life and Death with Morrie

Mitch Albom,highly decorated sportswriter for the Detroit Free Press, has probedevery subject from Dennis Rodman to Latrell Sprewell. Yet hisbest-selling book, “Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, A Young Man,and Life’s Great Lessons,” finds him tackling an even more demandingsubject: death.

Watching “Nightline” one evening, Albom wasstunned to discover that his former Brandeis University professor,Morrie Schwartz — with whom Albom shared a close relationship as astudent in the 1970s — is the topic of conversation. Schwartz wasdying of Lou Gehrig’s disease (amyotrophic lateral sclerosis).

Keeping a vow he had made 18 years prior to thethen-60-year-old sociology professor, Albom decided to visit the oldman in his suburban Boston home one Tuesday afternoon. Every Tuesdaythereafter — a total of 14 — became set aside for Morrie and Albomto meet together — talking, laughing, living.

Those meetings became their “last class together,”with the book being Albom’s final thesis — and tribute — to hisfallen professor.

“I didn’t want it to be a death book. I wanted itto be a life book,” said Albom, who was in Los Angeles last month fora speaking engagement at Sinai Temple. “So, every time I felt myselfgetting sad, I would steer away from that.”

With Morrie dispensing his wisdom on life — anddeath — and Albom providing the warm comfort of an open ear, the twodeveloped a kindred spirit of sorts.

Albom, who, at the impressionable age of 20, hadto watch his uncle die, said that he was “stupid about death” at thetime, refusing to ask his dying uncle the types of questions thatweighed on his mind lest he become too close to a man who would soonbe leaving him.

With Morrie, things would be different.

“It was hard to go every week and watch somebodydie, but I looked forward to it,” said Albom, who admits that he feltjaded and confused about his career — and his life — beforereuniting with Morrie. “It was hard, but it was great that we wereable to talk up until the end, and I could ask all the questions Iever had about death.”

What did he feel about dying? Was he scared? Wouldhe do anything differently, given the chance? (“No, nothing. I lovedmy life — and my death,” answered Morrie, who was, by then,bedridden.) What’s it like waking up, knowing in a week or two, youwon’t?

In time, all his questions would be answered.Albom decided to make the last 14 weeks of Morrie’s life (“Coach,” hecalled him) their last class together. The book, an account of theirmeetings together, was initially written (a joint decision by Morrieand Albom) to defray some of the mounting medical costs that Morriefeared would leave his family encumbered after his death.

After Morrie’s death, however, the book, whichAlbom finished in nine months, bore new meaning for its author. Thementor’s final wish was that the young sports journalist visit him atthe cemetery “to talk.” Incredulous, Albom asked how he could hold aconversation with somebody who was, well, dead.

“You talk, I’ll listen,” said Morrie.

“And that is the essence of the book,” said Albom,who, since rediscovering Morrie, has rebuilt relationships withbrothers and sisters with whom he had lost touch. (His youngerbrother, stricken with brain cancer seven years ago, lives in Spain,and Albom recently visited him after not seeing each other for overfive years.) “If you lead your life as he did — with people, makingmemories with people — then when you’re gone, you’re not completelygone, because you spent your time while you were here putting yourvoice into their lives.”

Never particularly religious, Albom finds himselfgoing to synagogue nowadays, helping with charity benefits and doingthe sorts of things that, before meeting Morrie, he would have deemeda waste of time: “Work. Work. Work. It’s all I did.” Now, Judaism hasa renewed influence on Albom, who, along with wife Janine, lives inMichigan. He said that he now savors his newfound connection to hiscultural background.

“I don’t worry about things so much anymore,” hesaid. “Work isn’t nearly as important as it used to be, because I’mspending more time with my family. Morrie taught me, taught us all,the beauty of life and the dignity of death. I’ll always rememberthat. In fact, for the very first time, me and my wife are trying tohave children.”

Avi Lidgi is a free-lance writer in LosAngeles

 

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You seem to be a nice guy, so what are you doing living in Austria?

“You seem to be a nice guy, so what are you doingliving in Austria?”

It’s a question that Paul Grosz, the president ofVienna’s Jewish community, has come to expect from foreign visitors,and he responds indirectly and somewhat wearily.

“It’s not taboo for a Jew in London or New York tosay I’m British or I’m American, but it’s quite different to maintainI’m a good Jew, but I’m also an Austrian,” he says. “To maintain thatbalance is quite a job in itself.”

Nevertheless, agrowing number of Jews in Austria are coping with their dualidentity, to the point that Grosz can declare confidently, “TheAustrian Jewish community is now a permanent fact.”

Grosz himself would not have dared to make such astatement in 1945. Then, the 20-year-old son of a furrier was one ofsome 2,000 Jews — out of a prewar population of 180,000 — to havesurvived the war in Vienna.

He owed his survival partly to the oddcircumstance that his mother, though Jewish, had been a foundling,and her birth certificate had been signed by the local parishpriest.

Austria’s IsraelitischeKultusgemeinde (Israelite ReligiousCommunity) today numbers 8,000 dues-paying members, with another8,000 unaffiliated Jews, Grosz estimates, living in thecountry.

As before the war, about 90 percent of Austria’sJews live in Vienna, with smaller organized communities in Salzburg,Innsbruck, Linz and Graz.

Similar to the situation in Germany, thepreponderance of Austria’s Jews are immigrants or children ofimmigrants from former communist countries, who arrived in threemajor waves. The first wave came from Poland after the anti-Semiticoutbreaks of 1948, the second from Hungary after the failed uprisingof 1956, and the third from the former Soviet Union from the late1960s through the 1980s.

Prominent in the latter group are immigrants fromBukhara, in the Asian hinterland of the former Soviet Union. Thankslargely to their high birthrate, and that among smaller groups offellow Sephardic Jews from the Caucasus region, “we have had morebirths than deaths during the last two years,” says Grosz. Hepredicts that, shortly, the Sephardim will take over the mainleadership post in the Vienna Jewish community.

Since Austria clamped down on immigration, Jewishor non-Jewish, earlier in the decade, Grosz has had a difficult timetrying to gain entry for the remnants of the Bosnian Jewishcommunity. This restrictive situation may change radically in thenext few years as the European Union mandates free movement andimmigration among its member states, including Austria.

When that happens, predicts Grosz, Austria will bethe first stop of new waves of Jewish and non-Jewish immigrants fromthe Czech Republic, Slovakia, Poland, Yugoslavia and Slovenia.Coupled with natural increases, Austria’s organized Jewish communitywill almost double in size, from 8,000 to 15,000 affiliated members,in the next 10 years, Grosz believes.

Before the war, Vienna’s Jewish community wasperhaps the wealthiest in Europe, and over the decades, many of theproperties and businesses confiscated by the Nazis have been returnedto the community. Rents on these properties and other enterprises nowprovide the Jewish community with 90 percent of its income, theremainder derived through assessments, according to income, of itsmembers.

The revenue pays for a first-rate Jewish schoolsystem, from kindergarten to the equivalent of senior high school,attended by two-thirds of the Jewish youngsters in Vienna.

Grosz also points with satisfaction to thecommunity-run Vienna City Temple, the only of 90 prewar synagogues tosurvive Kristallnacht; a community center; youth football clubs; and asoon-to-be-completed sports center.

There is a strong Chabad presence and educationalsystem in place, and the various landsmanschaften and Sephardicgroups, representing different immigrant strains, maintain their ownsocial and religious institutions.

At present, all Jewish organizations andinstitutions, across the political and religious spectrum, are partof a unified communal structure. This may change, Grosz fears, as therift between the fervently Orthodox and more liberal streams ofJudaism widens.

A point of pride is the Jewish Museum, which wasoriginally founded as the first of its kind in the world, in 1869. Itwas closed after the 1938 Anschluss by the Nazis, re-established in1989, and reopened in its new quarters in the Palais Eskeles in1993.

The museum is financed almost entirely by themunicipality and attracts some 100,000 visitors a year, mainlynon-Jewish, including regular tours of school classes, says Dr. GeorgHaber, the museum’s managing director.

Worth noting are a series of 21 dramatic hologramsthat chronicle the history of Jews in Vienna. Also impressive is thecollection of ritual objects and artifacts from all over Europe thatwere confiscated by the Nazis for their planned “Museum of an ExtinctRace” in Prague.

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Beyond ‘Schindler’sList’

“He was a satyr, a black marketeer, a drunk and a savior.”

The pithy description by author Thomas Keneallyrefers, of course, to Oskar Schindler, the flawed but ultimatelyheroic German businessman who saved his 1,200 Jewish employees duringthe Holocaust.

The man and the myth will be re-examined in “OskarSchindler: The Man Behind the List,” which airs on the A&Enetwork’s “Biography” series on Friday, May 8, at 5 p.m. and 9p.m.

Although the hour-long documentary does not changeour basic perception of the man portrayed indelibly in StevenSpielberg’s “Schindler’s List,” the new production certainly broadensour perspective.

While the movie focused on the six years of WorldWar II, the documentary serves as both prologue and epilogue bytracing Schindler’s life from his birth in 1908 to his death in1974.

For hisportrait of the young Schindler, Martin Kent, left, the documentary’sproducer, director and writer, drew on the family albums andrecollections of a hitherto undiscovered Schindler niece, stillliving in Germany.

The postwar Schindler evolves partly through arare interview on German television, but mainly through the words ofthe “Schindler Jews” he saved and who stayed with him and by himthrough his last decades as an unsuccessful entrepreneur.

Among the eloquent survivors are two Angelenos,Leon Leyson and Leopold (Poldek) Page, whose close friendship withSchindler will be the subject of a future documentary by Kent.

Although the documentary dwells on Schindler’ssexual conquests perhaps more than necessary, it is dotted withstriking black-and-white photos and intriguing bits ofinformation.

There is an unforgettable photo of Amon Goeth, thesadistic SS labor camp commandant, as a shirtless fat slob — in noway resembling the trim figure of actor Ralph Fiennes in theSpielberg movie.

Long before Spielberg, we learn, MGM optioned therights for a feature film in 1963, after an article on Schindler byHerb Brin appeared in his Heritage weekly. Fortunately, inretrospect, MGM dropped the project after paying $50,000 toSchindler, who promptly squandered the money on fancy hotels andwomen.

Filmmaker Kent is the son of Holocaust survivorsfrom Poland, and like many of similar family background, he distancedhimself from his parents’ tragic experiences for many years.

“I thought I could deal with the Schindler projecton an impersonal level, but once I got into it, it affected me moreand more,” Kent said in an interview.

So strong was the impact that Kent and hispartner, Pavel Vogler, recently formed Kunstler Films (derived fromthe family name of Kent’s parents). The new company will devoteitself to producing “documentaries on Jewish topics, but withuniversal appeal,” said Kent. He also hopes to form a “strategicalliance” with a large Jewish organization or institution.

The first project of Kunstler Films is “The LastJews of Poland,” which will depict the struggles of the country’s35,000 remaining Jews to survive and retain their identity.

Kent, a resident of Calabasas, is a prolificdocumentary maker, whose first production, in 1983 on “Carl Reiner:The Light Stuff,” won an Emmy. “I was raised in the cable industry,where the motto was ‘keep the costs down, but make it look good,'” hesaid.

Two other Kent documentaries, one on famouskidnapping cases, the other the quest for a sunken Spanish galleon,will air on A&E during the last two weeks in May.

 

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Celebrating Israel’s50th

The peace process is stalled, pluralism issues remain unresolved and the Netanyahu government is in turmoil. But organizers of a major, star-studded 50th anniversary tribute to Israel later this year are focusing their attention on celebration, not contention. Indeed, a rare in-gathering of major Hollywood celebrities, Jewish communal officals and organizational leaders has come together to mark Israel’s first half century. &’009;

First among the planned events is “America Salutes Israel at 50,” scheduled to take place April 14 at the Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles. The producers of the Academy and Emmy awards shows, Gil Cates and Don Mischer, respectively, are teaming up for the first time to produce what is promised to be a Hollywood-style, entertainment extravaganza that will be broadcast on CBS April 15 to millions in the United States and around the globe. Hosted by actor Kevin Costner, it will feature other well-known stars — for the moment unannounced. The Jewish Federation and Simon Wiesenthal Center have joined together in the effort to make the event a resounding success.

During a kickoff sales meeting last week at the Four Seasons Hotel in Beverly Hills, speakers did not completely ignore the troubled state of current Israeli politics. Extravagant plans for an official jubilee celebration in Israel have been stymied by lack of funds and internal wrangling.

But in Los Angeles, organizers are more sanguine about the festivities. “We all know what is going on in Israel,” said honorary co-chair Lew Wasserman, former chairman of MCA Universal and a major Jewish philanthropist. “I think it’s vital that people in Israel know that they still have the support of the rest of the world.”

“With all the things that separate the Jewish people, we can use a 50th anniversary to bring us together in celebrating the accomplishments of the Israeli state,” added Herb Gelfand, president of the Federation and the other honorary co-chair of the Los Angeles at 50 celebration.

“It’s important to remind ourselves what Israel has done for world Jewry,” said Rabbi Marvin Hier, founder and dean the Simon Wiesenthal Center.

Details of the evening at the Shrine are somewhat sketchy. Costner, who isn’t Jewish, is expected to have a crossover appeal to non-Jews. “M*A*S*H” creator Larry Gelbart is the show’s head writer. The lineup of stars isn’t set yet and won’t be for a while, said Mischer, whose credits include the opening ceremonies for the 1996 Olympic Games and gala events surrounding the hand-over of Hong Kong last year. Mischer said the show’s roster would include major names in film, television and music. “It should be an All-American show.”

Other plans for the two-hour event include: a satellite link-up with Israel, film clips of highlights from Israel’s first 50 years and possibly a pre-taped musical performance from Masada. “We’re going to party for Israel,” added Cates, who has produced seven Academy Awards shows and more than 25 films. “It’s going to be a very emotional event that should make us feel proud to participate and to be Jews.”

Two other Hollywood veterans, Merv Adelson and Marvin Josephson, are overseeing the CBS special and many other events in conjunction with Israel’s 50th. Both were appointed to serve as international co-chairs of the 50th celebration, at the behest of Israeli Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu, but have denied that politics is a factor in their involvement. “I didn’t give a single shekel or dollar to Bibi, the Likud or Labor,” Josephson, chairman of the powerhouse talent and literary agency, ICM, told The Jerusalem Report recently. “I am not Likud or Labor. I’m interested in Israel.”

“I truly believe this will be the most important event of the 50th outside of Israel,” said Adelson, speaking via speaker phone to the Four Seasons gathering. The show transcends politics and “who is on the left and who is on the right,” added the former chairman and CEO of Lorimar Pictures. “This is a celebration of the 50th anniversary of the greatest friend America has.”

The overall budget for the event is about $6 million. CBS is paying $3 million for the broadcast, with the other $3 million being raised by the jubilee committee, headed by Adelson and Josephson. Los Angeles’ share is about $1 million, which is expected to be raised by sales of the 6,000 Shrine seats and to the gala that will follow, as well as by sales of ads in the tribute journal. The Wiesenthal and Federation have agreed that any extra dollars raised will be used to send children to Israel.

The tribute book, expected to run over 50 pages, will include decade and “mega-event” pages outlining key moments in Israel’s history, as well as personal eyewitness accounts of people who played a role in that history. The pages will be sponsored at $5,000 per page, with $10,000 as the price for the two-page decade and mega-event spreads. Eyewitness tales of Israel’s first 50 years are being sought.

Tickets to the Shrine event will range from $18 (block sales only), $25 and $100 general seating (available through Ticketmaster) to $1,000 for VIP tickets which will entitle the ticket holders to sit in a special area, and admission to a gala reception after the show. The reception menu will be created by Jewish cookbook author Judy Zeidler in partnership with Terry Bell, former Federation president and general campaign chair. Since the event occurs in the middle of Passover, the meal will include a charoset tasting and a variety of other Pesach entrees and desserts.


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Changing Lives, Making Peace

Illustration from “Painting with Passion,” 1994. Photo-illustration by Carvin Knowles

Losing My Religion

Dear Deborah,

My husband and I have decided to get a divorce, and we have amicably worked everything out — finances, custody, etc. What has become acrimonious and ugly are our religious differences in raising our child, age 5. I am Jewish, and my husband is Christian, but neither of us ever took religion seriously until we had our child. We used to think that when the child got old enough, he would decide for himself.

How do we do this? We are fighting all the time. Can you tell us who, other than our attorneys, can impartially guide us. We each want the child to follow our own faith. Help!

Struggling

Dear Struggling,

One cannot be a Jew on Saturdays and Yom Kippur, and a Christian on Sundays and Christmas. Yet this is undoubtedly how it will play for your son after the divorce. So, although a mediator, family counselor or both may be able to “impartially” guide you, no matter what is decided, odds are that no one will be satisfied with the outcome because this is a question of fundamental identity and values, which, unlike time or money, may not simply be sliced in half. No one is going to win this one, but if you make this a contest, the biggest loser will be your son.

Place the focus upon your child, who is about to suffer a great loss and be forced to endure some difficult changes. The question is not about whether he will be Jewish or Christian, but, rather, how both parents may provide religious environments that are warm, informative and, above all, respectful enough to not engender turmoil, guilt or confusion.

Perhaps the simple truth is best for now: “Mom is Jewish, and Dad is Christian. You will learn a great deal about both religions as you grow up in each of our homes. When you are an adult, you will decide upon your religion, and we both will respect whatever you choose.” In other words, you probably have no choice but to

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Making an Impact

In a world normally reserved for men, Mimi Lederhas achieved remarkable success. Chosen by Steven Spielberg to directtwo of his DreamWorks studio’s first features, she is making a namefor herself as a talented action-entertainment director.

So it seems reasonable to expect that, in person,she will be somewhat severe, aggressive even. How else is a woman tosucceed in what has been, until now, earmarked as male-onlyterritory?

This expectation, it turns out, could not befurther from the truth. With her latest film, “Deep Impact,”complete, life can revert somewhat to normal, she says, and therewill be time to spend with her family — husband Gary Werntz, actorand writer, and 11-year-old daughter Hannah — in their San FernandoValley home.

Leder’s calm, unassuming manner makes it all themore surprising that she’s found a niche directing fast-paced actionmovies, one of the few women in Hollywood to have done so.

But her gentleness belies a secureself-confidence, the foundation of which she attributes to herfather, independent filmmaker Paul Leder, who died in 1996 of lungcancer.

“He was very much, ‘Be your own person — you cando anything you want to. Just believe in it and don’t be afraid,'”Leder says during an interview in her sunny DreamWorks office. “Myfather never faltered; he just kept going. He made 23 low-budgetmovies in his lifetime — quite an achievement. And during hissix-year illness, he wrote two screenplays and directed twomovies.”

Left,Robert Duvall, center, as astronaut Spurgeon Tanner, confers with theshuttle crew in “Deep Impact.” Below, Tea Leoni, as a televisionreporter, talks with the president, played by Morgan Freeman.Photos by Myles Aronowitz

In “Deep Impact,” a massive comet hurtles towardEarth, threatening to destroy the human race. While a team ofscientists tries desperately to throw the comet off course, the worldstruggles to come to terms with its impending death sentence.

It is the second feature from the Emmy-winningdirector who brought us “The Peacemaker” last year (also a DreamWorksproduction) and first came to our attention with television’s”ER.”

“What drew me to this story,” says Leder, “is itsexploration of the choices that we would have to make in our liveswhen faced with a death sentence.”

With “Deep Impact” boasting names such as MorganFreeman, Vanessa Redgrave and Maximillian Schell, a healthy $75million budget, and a host of special effects, her second featurefrom DreamWorks (a co-production with Paramount) is set to do well atthe box office when it opens this week.

Leder has coped with the huge responsibility ofdirecting DreamWorks’ first features in a typically understatedfashion. Unfazed by the enormity of the task ahead, she simplyapproached the huge, multi-location projects frame by frame: “It’sthe only way,” she says. “You can’t function if you put yourselfunder high pressure; you’ve just got to be in the moment.”

And while critics have said that Leder has yet toprove herself on the big screen, she knows how to please heraudiences, producing finely crafted, superbly paced actionentertainment.

Her next project, “Sentimental Journey,” will tellthe extraordinary story of her parents’ love affair and will be afamily collaboration with brother Reuben, a writer, and sisterGeraldine, who will cast it.

Leder’s mother, Etyl, survived the Holocaust infour different concentration camps, including Auschwitz. Paul, amedic in Gen. Patton’s army, was one of the liberatingsoldiers.

“It’s an epic love story,” says Leder. “And veryimportant because it speaks about the issues of love when you havelived through the devastation of war. It shows how even after thehorrors of the Holocaust, when people had been stripped of allfeeling and all humanity, they still had the ability to love.”

Paul wrote “Sentimental Journey” 20 years ago, andit was his life’s dream to see the film completed.

Leder first found out about her mother’s life whenshe saw the tattoo on Etyl’s arm. “I think I was 10 when I firstunderstood what it meant,” she says. “My mother did tell us about herexperiences, I think in doses. And as we got older, she told us more,and she managed to be communicative without burdening us with herpain. My mother’s marriage to my father meant that she didn’t liveher life in the past. Despite what had happened, they didn’t live indarkness.”

Leder came early to filmmaking. When she was inher teens, her father would say: “OK, I’m making a movie. C’mon,let’s get to work!” And they did, with Leder learning every job thefilm set had to offer.

In South Korea, where they traveled to do a KingKong movie called “Ape,” Leder was script supervisor, second unitcinematographer, runner and camera loader. All that and she taughtthe Korean crew how to work a three-dimensional camera. It was theperfect introduction to filmmaking.

Leder is known for her ability to bring emotionaldepth to the wooden characters normally seen in action drama.

“I think it’s always interesting to work with acharacter who’s being tested or has to find their voice in some way,”she says. “Like Dusan, the terrorist in ‘The Peacemaker,’ who wasvery important to me because, although he was a very moral person, hecommitted a very immoral act.

“I felt that Dusan was probably a very decent manwith a loving family before the war and all the hatred had begun. Thewar took away his humanity, his morality. I did not want to condoneterrorism in ‘The Peacemaker’ but to understand Dusan’s motivation,what had gone wrong for him and how this crazy world could let thathappen.

“I always want to make a movie that sayssomething, that gives over a message, a movie that makes you feelsomething. Because that is what I love about going to the movies –being made to feel. Hopefully, the audience will walk out of ‘DeepImpact,’ re-evaluating their lives and the choices they’vemade.”

Leder studied cinematography at the prestigiousAmerican Film Institute, which is known for encouraging unusual,creative talent. AFI had wanted her to come in as a director (she hadalready directed a short film), but Leder was uncertain. “I wasafraid, and I didn’t know whether I had it in me to direct. But Iknew that I wanted to paint pictures, and after I learnt the camera,I gained confidence and decided to be a director.”

But it was through her study of cinematography,learning the camera, that Leder understood how to be a director.”Knowing the power of the camera helped me to understand how to tella story,” she says.

“ER” is a testament to her visceral, dynamicdirecting style. The innovative use of steadicam, for which theseries became known, evolved as a response to the uninterruptedenergy generated by the script. “When we were shooting the first fourepisodes of ‘ER,’ we didn’t have any feedback,” she says. “We didn’tknow what anybody thought; we were just doing it. What we were doingjust felt right. It was a great way to tell the story of theemergency room with that moving camera.”

You can feel Leder’s films, touch them, as if theyhave a texture. She creates an immediacy that draws the viewer inclose. “I don’t really plan to move the camera,” she says. “I operateon an emotional level, not an intellectual one, when I’m working. Youneed a camera to help tell the story but not to see it. So I try notto make self-conscious moves — I move the camera by responding towhatever m
oves me within the scene we’re shooting.”

Like Spielberg in “Schindler’s List,” Leder nowfinds herself in the rare position of being able to explore seriousissues while working within a big-budget framework and having thepower to reach a wide audience. She readily acknowledges that this isa remarkable and privileged position to occupy.

It is a privilege that Leder is likely to respect.”Morality is very much a Jewish concern,” she says. “And I am verymuch a Jew. That is what I try to bring to my work — to be honestand fair and to tell the truth as I see it.”

“Deep Impact” is now playing at areatheaters.

Leila Segal is a free-lance writer who lives inLondon.

 

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Gore’s Campaign Stop

Vice President Al Gore’s visit to the Middle Eastlast week may have been the biggest and best event yet in his 2000presidential campaign, political observers here say.

During a five-day swing through Egypt, SaudiArabia, Israel and the West Bank, Gore adroitly positioned himself asa player in the stalled Israeli-Palestinian negotiations, they say –but not too muchof a player.

“It was the best of all worlds for him,” said aleading Jewish Democrat this week. “He got to portray himself as anegotiator without doing the risky things negotiators have to do,especially in Israeli-Palestinian talks.”

Throughout his visit, Gore insisted that he was”not a negotiator.” Instead, his role was to reinforce relations withthe principals in the Israeli-Palestinian drama, and especially PrimeMinister Binyamin Netanyahu, whose relationship with PresidentClinton has been stormy — and could get stormier after this week’sLondon negotiation sessions, which ended on an ambiguous note.

Gore’s unscheduled, late-night airport meetingwith Netanyahu and his emotional words at ceremonies marking Israel’s50th anniversary had a big impact on the Israelis, said MalcolmHoenlein, executive vice chair of the Conference of Presidents ofMajor Jewish Organizations, who was with the vice president duringsome of his Israel visit.

“He charmed the people of Israel with his styleand his Hebrew and his warmth,” Hoenlein said. “His role was tore-establish the personal chemistry in the relationship. Ithink he did that.”

And that could produce both diplomatic andpolitical dividends.

“There >have been concerns about theimpression of American pressure,” Hoenlein said. “The vice presidenthelped alleviate that and dispelled some of the fears about where theUnited States is. That could help the negotiations.”

Politically, “it was an extraordinaryperformance,” said presidential historian Allan Lichtman, of AmericanUniversity. “It’s the best we’ve seen from him. He comes out of thisa major player on a vital and sensitive issue.”

Gore, he said, won stature with Americans ingeneral by appearing diplomatic-without losing points with Jews, avital constituency in his expensive quest to win the Democraticpresidential nomination in two years.

Other observers noted that Gore’s Mideast missionboosted his presidential prospects by demonstrating a level ofinvolvement in high-level policy unusual for vice presidents.

“He set himself up to win no matter whathappened,” Lichtman said.

“It was very good politics.”

Vice President Al Gore with Israeli PrimeMinister Binyamin Netanyahu at the Israel at 50 festivities inJerusalem. Photo by Peter Halmagyi

Clinton Honors Israel

By James D. Besser,Washington Correspondent

Did the White House reception marking Israel’s50th birthday last week provide any clues about how the Clintonadministration plans to proceed with its latest Mideast peace processrescue effort?

Maybe, according to several who witnessedPresident Bill Clinton’s legendary shmoozing skills up close.

“It was very reassuring,” said Rep. Ben Cardin(D-Md.), who joined Clinton, Vice President Al Gore and about 400Jewish bigwigs on the White House lawn and, later, inside theexecutive mansion. “The president made it very clear he was speakingas a friend. I came away convinced there would be none of thepressure on Israel that some of us have been concerned about.”

Clinton told the crowd that “as a Christian, I donot know how God, if He were to come to Earth, would divide the landover which there is dispute now. I suspect neither does anyone elsein this audience.”

That, Rep. Cardin said, was another signal thatthe administration does not plan to “force Israel to make anyconcessions that will compromise its security.”

Administration insiders continue to report intensefrustration over Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu’s approach to thestalled talks, but Clinton went out of his way to seek a personalconnection with the Israeli leader.

In speaking about the pioneers who created amodern, secure Israel, he referred to “the valor of citizen soldiersand military and political leaders like Golda Meir, Moshe Dayan,Yonni Netanyahu.”

That was a reference to the prime minister’sbrother, Jonathan, the only Israeli officer killed in the 1976hostage rescue mission at Entebbe.

“There was a very deliberate effort made toexpress warmth, not just to Israel and its people but to thegovernment and to Mr. Netanyahu,” said a longtime pro-Israel leaderwho attended.

Clinton, awarded an honorary degree at the eventby Hebrew University, said that he accepted the honor “on behalf ofmy predecessors, beginning with Harry Truman — nine Americanpresidents, all devoted to Israel’s security and freedom, allcommitted to peace in the Middle East. I accept it on behalf of theAmerican people who have formed not just an alliance, but a profoundfriendship with the people of Israel over these last 50years.”

Jewish leaders were impressed.

“It was an effective program and it was conductedon the level of state to state, rather than government togovernment,” said Ismar Schorsch, chancellor of the JewishTheological Seminary and one of the religious leaders featured in theceremony. “It transcended the tensions of the moment. The presidentwas at his very best, and gave lots of reassurance as to theunbreakable character of the friendship, which is more than analliance.”

 

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In Honor of Justice

Despite his Italian surname, joked DistrictAttorney Gil Garcetti, “[My heritage] is Mexican-American and my wife is Jewish.So our kids ask, ‘Well, what are we?'”

Garcetti was praising our city’s multiethnicpopulation as he spoke at last week’s Anti-Defamation League SpringLuncheon, touted as a tribute to Israel’s 50th Anniversary but, infact, honoring Deputy District Attorney Carla Arranaga andDeputy Sheriff BerniceAbram. Recognized for their efforts incombating hate crimes in Los Angeles, they were this year’srecipients of the Sherwood Prize for Combating Hate. The luncheon washeld at the Harriet and Charles LuckmanFine Arts Complex on the campus ofCal State Los Angeles.

Both Abram and Arranaga have been instrumental inthe development and implementation of various anti-crime projects.Abram directed the Sheriff’s Department’s Multidisciplinary DomesticViolence Training Project and helped develop the “Field Deputy’sGuide to Domestic Violence” and the California Peace OfficerStandards and Training ’96 Domestic Violence Telecourse.

Arranaga’s accomplishments include working withthe ADL on establishing “Hate Crimes Protocol” and co-chairing theLos Angeles County Human Relations Commission Task Force on HateCrimes.

In her succinct acceptance speech, Abram, anAfrican-American, thanked the largely Jewish audience for the “newwords I learned today: todaraba” (“thank you very much”).

Before introducing Arranaga, Garcetti spoke to TheJournal, praising the deputy district attorney and the ADL for “afabulous job” in the fight against acts of anti-Semitism.

“Because of Carla,” said Garcetti, “she had themcertified to adult court. Probation is not the message we want tosend [to these perpetrators]. They were sentenced to two years instate prison. That’s the kind of thing she’s doing, and it’stough…and she does it almost single-handedly. I’m proud ofher.”

He went on to commend Arranaga, aseventh-generation Angeleno, for her focus on the source of themajority of hate crimes — juveniles — and her commitment to “nipthis problem in the bud” by instituting programs designed to tackleracism at an early age.

When Arranaga took to the podium, she returned theadulation, thanking Garcetti for his “wonderful vision in the battleagainst hate crimes.”

She also said, “I am touched because this honorcomes from the ADL, an organization that I have respected, emulatedand admired.” Thanking her parents “for instilling decency andhumanity,” Arranaga alluded to the importance of strong parental rolemodels.

Representing the family responsible for the prize,Joe Sherwoodsummed up the afternoon’s honors, singling Abram and Arranaga for the”good work that they’ve done.”

Also present at the function was CaliforniaSupreme Court Justice StanleyMosk.

Following the buffet luncheon — a smorgasbord ofMexican and Middle Eastern culinary delights — attendees weretreated to renditions of classical music standards by theIsrael Camerata Jerusalem.

Public Counsel Thanks Steven A.Nissen

A room awash in blues, browns and grays, cracklingwith energy…

No, this isn’t a Max Beckmann exhibit at theArmand Hammer Museum but the sea of three-piece-suit-clad attorneysholding court at a recent silent auction sponsored by Public Counsel Law Center, theagency that provides free legal help and access to low-incomeresidents and nonprofit organizations. The event, with proceedsbenefiting Public Counsel, was held this year at the Century Plaza Hotel in CenturyCity.

Following the auction — which included luncheswith staffers from the Los Angeles Times, hotel and dining packages,and Mattelproducts such as Chinese Empress Barbie (! ) — the crowd movedinto the Los Angeles Ballroom for the William O. Douglas AwardDinner. Sidley &Austin, TheGreenlining Institute and Mattel Inc.received the Law Firm Pro Bono Award, the Community Achievement Awardand the Corporate Pro Bono Award, respectively.

But the man ofthe hour was Steven A.Nissen, the executive director of thestate Bar and the former chief executive officer of Public Counsel.Close friend and Los Angeles Chief of Police Bernard Parks moved the crowdwith his introduction of Nissen, praising his “body of knowledge, hiscode of ethics, and [the fact that] he never works in [his] ownself-interest.” In accepting the award, the visibly moved Nissenpraised and thanked his staff at Public Counsel numerous times, aswell as his wife, fellow attorney LynnAlvarez. (Photo of Steven Nissen, left, with Bernard Parks by BrendanEisen)

Nissen, a Fairfax HighSchool graduate, went on to study law atStanford andUC’s Boalt Hall.In 1984, at the age of 33, he became the chief executive officer ofPublic Counsel and turned a failing organization into “the nation’slargest pro bono law firm.”

 

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Putting Heart

The rabbis-in-training were making the rounds at UCLA Medical Center. They stopped at bedsides to chat with patients, to inquire about their needs, to offer prayer and consolation. Then, unexpectedly, the sight of wires, tubes and surgical dressings took its toll. One student rabbi fainted.

Clearly, rabbis are not always at ease in a hospital setting, nor are they always knowledgeable about today’s medical practices. But for spiritual comfort in time of crisis, even the not-very-religious frequently turn to their rabbis.

A unique program at Hebrew Union College brings rabbinical students into the world of medicine so that they can better serve their future congregants. HUC’s chaplaincy training program, partially funded by a grant from Mr. and Mrs. Irving Kalsman, provides for student internships in hospitals throughout Southern California. The program’s innovative centerpiece is a one-semester course in which Dr. William Cutter (assisted this year by Rabbi Alan Henkin) uses Jewish texts to talk philosophically about illness and then brings students into the hospital to see for themselves what healing is all about.

The carefully selected student rabbis meet with doctors, make hospital rounds to visit patients, then keep personal journals of what they’ve learned.

“This class is a place where they really lose their innocence,” said Cutter, professor of education and literature at HUC and a rabbi, “and that is a wonderful thing.”

Some of the students (two men and five women) believe that, as ordained rabbis, they might gravitate toward a hospital chaplain’s post. Others have signed on as a way of countering painful memories.

“It was a chance for me to face reality,” said Daniel Treiser, who, as a boy, coped with his father’s heart attack. “I knew it was there, and I knew I wasn’t comfortable with it.”

Recognizing how much harder it is for a rabbi to help with healing than with celebration, Miriam Cotzin summed up a common view: “It’s about learning how to really be present for people in difficult and challenging moments.”

During the semester, these student rabbis have gained practical insight into the mitzvah of bikur holim (visiting the sick). Karen Shahon, who, as an HUC chaplaincy intern, spends more time at UCLA Medical Center than her fellow students, has discovered one good way to interact with the seriously ill: “It’s not always what you say but what you don’t say. The silent times really help people.”

While focusing on the illness of others, the students also gain new understanding of themselves. At the first session, the Rev. David Myler, head chaplain at UCLA Medical Center, warned the students that “it’s very important to learn what gets triggered in you and what kind of things push your buttons.”

Later, after a first round of visits to sickbeds, Susan Lippe wrote in her journal, “I need to learn to control my tears.” Fortunately, none of this semester’s student rabbis has fainted at the sight of blood and tubes. When Lippe recently spent an afternoon in the ICU, comforting a seriously ill patient and his loved ones, her main problem was that “it was hard to suppress my curiosity and be present only for the family.”

An important part of the HUC course is the informal lectures by top medical professionals. Dr. Leslie Eber, a cardiologist who has treated Cutter (who has had several major heart attacks), gave the students an in-depth look at heart disease. He then brought home to them the crucial importance of the rabbi within the healing process. When Eber’s own 90-year-old mother was recently hospitalized, a visit from a young female rabbi made all the difference. “It was like a beautiful, warm wind that came through that room. It helped her turn the corner emotionally.”

By the same token, in this era of HMO’s and medical cutbacks, the rabbi must take up the slack for doctors who are too angry and confused to pay attention to a patient’s emotional state. Eber told the rabbis-to-be: “We need you because we’re not doing our job anymore. We’re treating people on conveyor belts. I don’t think people are getting bad care. I think they’re getting heartless care.”

It’s the rabbis, then, who need to put heart back into the medical system.

Karen Shahon, an HUC chaplaincy intern, talks with a patient at UCLA Medical Center. Photo by Peter Halmagyi

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Hopeful Romantics

When you’re still “flying solo” and your 35thbirthday comes a-knocking, suddenly, the pitifully comic titlescrowding the self-help shelves of your bookstore seem less like jokebooks and more like required reading.

I should know. Just days away, that landmarkbirthday is feeling more like a land mine. It makes me want to smackthe characters of single women portrayed by the likes of JuliaRoberts, Jennifer Aniston and Calista Flockhart, who stressuncontrollably about being over-the-hill at 28. With concerns aboutcareer and life experience taking priority, many women do not feelthe panic of aloneness setting in until well into their 30s.

These, it seems, are also the observations of author andrelationship consultant Helena Hacker Rosenberg (pictured at left) inher book “How to Get Married After 35: A Game Plan for Love”(HarperCollins Publishers, 1998). Having finally met and married hertrue love in her early 40s, Rosenberg serves up a didactic recipe formidlife marriage, based on her own romantic trials and tribulations.She uses her experiences to blaze a trail for others who are tired ofbeating their heads against their proverbial walls — and are readyto resort to practical action.

Geared for women (although applicable to men), thebook explores why women remain single into their late 30s, 40s andbeyond, while also acknowledging the divorcée or widow who isre-entering the dating scene after 35.

Rosenberg outlines unconscious behavior patternsthat run rampant in these women and lead to long-term singlehood. Sheshrewdly points out how some of us unwittingly sabotage ourrelationships due to underlying fears of intimacy and commitment, andhow unrealistic hopes and fantasies compel us to choose capriciousexcitement over lasting fulfillment.

“Our Own Little Pharaohs Keep Us in Bondage,” achapter that includes a personal profile for the reader to fill out,aims to help women become aware of how old habits and behaviors canrestrict social opportunities. At first, advice about stretching outof your “comfort zone” and adopting a new mind-set may make youwince, but like a spoonful of medicine, you’ll want to take itbecause you know it’s good for you.

“The Velvet Web” charges “cozy attachments,” likethose we have with parents, friends and even pets, with keeping usfrom making romantic relationships a priority. Having had more thanone ex-boyfriend declare his jealousy of my cat, I am prepared toadmit the validity of this chapter. However, Rosenberg overlooks howsuch a “competition” can bring a woman perspective about herfeelings. Sometimes, measuring up to a favorite pet can meanbeshertstatus.

Or maybe you are cavorting with one of the endlessvariety of “Nowhere Men,” on whom, Rosenberg suggests, we often wasteall our child-bearing years. From the “Reluctant Adult” to the “PhonyManipulator” to the “Casanova,” this chapter is a loser-friendlyguide for evading Mr. Wrong.

As a thinking-woman’s “Rules” book, “How to GetMarried After 35” presupposes that its readers are self-respectingwomen who want to cultivate healthy relationships (rather thaninsecure manipulators who need game-playing antics to “land” ahusband). The book includes time-saving tips and insights, such ashow to read between the lines of personal ads and how to decipher ifa man is a prospect in only 15 minutes. If you have misgivings aboutthe practicality of such short cuts, know that such guidance isgeared for the woman who no longer feels that time is on her side andwho wants to make sure she’s using it productively.

Some of the advice outlined in the book isn’t newrevelation, and may seem familiar if you’re up on the current datingdogma or find yourself a frequent visitor to the self-help shelf. ButRosenberg does succeed in providing an impetus and a road map forwomen who are ready to emerge from an emotional or social rut andfind a spouse, as she jokes, “while they are stillambulatory.”

Using true, inspirational stories of courtshipending in nuptial bliss, Rosenberg offers hope, but reminds us thatwe have our work cut out, and we shouldn’t expect the right partner– like a 35th birthday — to just come knocking at our door.

Finding Love, Marriage and Judaism

At about the time Helena Hacker Rosenberg made thedecision to change her dating ways and find a marriageable man, shealso found herself rediscovering Judaism. The wish to feel more”connected” by seeking a mate who shared her values and desire forchildren, also impelled her to find deeper spiritual meaning throughthe teachings of the Torah. She explored that need in classes at AishHaTorah.

“I started getting much more in touch with thepart of me that had always been there, but hadn’t been nourished inyears,” says Rosenberg. “I got back to a values-based way of lookingat life.” She also found herself getting in touch with the things shetruly needed, instead of focusing on the things she thought shewanted.

This learning experience and many others gleanedfrom her Jewish studies, helped give the book its foundation. “Inever call it a ‘Jewish book’ since it was written for a secularaudience, but the truth is there’s a lot of hidden Torah in it,”admits Rosenberg.

The book proposes some of the same solid valuesthat religion strives to teach, like evaluating a marriage prospectby his inner worth, rather than superficial concerns, and not playingthe victim, giving up, or blaming society for the lack of fulfillmentin our lives. Also acknowledged, is the spiritual importance ofreflecting more and doing less — something that isn’t always easy inour busy lives. “I learned to be in the moment and appreciate thesanctity of time,” says Rosenberg. She suggests slowing down to giveourselves those moments of reflection that allow us to make gooddecisions, and help us find our beshert.

It was on her way to holiday services at AishHaTorah, that Rosenberg finally found hers. — B. T.

Bonnie Trachtenberg is a free-lance writer inNew York City.

 

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