Keeping Your Head If Your Child Intermarries


When you first learn that your child is — or might be — marrying someone who’s not Jewish, you may not feel like celebrating. This can be a difficult and stressful occasion instead of the joyous one you had hoped for. To help you, here are a series of tips from people whose children have intermarried, as well as from outreach professionals and counselors.

  • When your child first tells you about her engagement, congratulate her and express your love for her. First impressions are very powerful, and if you react coldly to the news, your child may remember your response for a long time.
  • As soon as you have an opportunity, congratulate your child’s partner and express your love for him. This can be a powerful way to welcome your child’s partner into your family.
  • Treat your child as an adult. If he feels that you are speaking to him as one adult to another, and not as an anxious parent to a child, he’ll be more receptive of your opinions.
  • Assume that your child has good judgment. If you think she is ignoring something, don’t tell her. Ask her if she has thought of it. You won’t always agree, but knowing that she and her partner are thinking things through will help. Don’t lecture or be judgmental.
  • Accept your child’s partner for who he is. Pushing people to be different creates resistance to change. People are much more likely to change when they feel respected and accepted.
  • Remember that it’s not your fault. If your child chooses a partner of a different religion; it’s not because you didn’t give her a strong Jewish identity or because she’s rejecting you. She’s choosing a partner of a different religion because she fell in love with the partner, and the partner’s religion — or your parenting — had very little to do with that decision.
  • Learn about the religion and background of your child’s partner. The more you know about where your child’s partner came from, the better you will understand your child’s and his partner’s religious decisions. If you are knowledgeable about your child’s partner’s religion, it’s more likely your child will listen to your perspective. Notice any and all similarities between their values and your Jewish values and discuss these similarities with your child’s fiancee and her family.
  • Let your child know you want to be involved in her life. Ask what her plans are and ask to be included and informed. Be truthful about what you would like, but understand that your wishes won’t always be fulfilled.
  • Be honest about your feelings for Judaism and talk about them. Let your child and her partner hear how Judaism works in your life and why it has an important place for you. Before you discuss what Judaism means to you, it may be helpful to make a list of those Jewish practices and values which are meaningful to you.Once you clarify for yourself where your commitments to the Jewish religion and the Jewish people lie, you are better able to communicate with your children on this important and sensitive subject. Also be honest about your doubts and complaints about Judaism.
  • Invite your child and his partner to share in your holiday observances and celebrations and to accompany you to temple when you go. Invite them to help you prepare for these occasions, thus providing an opportunity to teach about the holidays, their rituals and symbolic foods. You can be an ambassador to Judaism.
  • Celebrate your child and her partner’s efforts to participate in Jewish rituals. Don’t criticize them for not observing the way you do.
  • If possible, invite the family of your child’s partner for a small gathering just before or just after the wedding. Both are good opportunities to share your mutual joy over your children’s wedding.
  • If your child is having an interfaith wedding ceremony, offer to assist with one of the interfaith aspects, like helping them find someone who will create an interfaith ketubbah (marriage contract). This gesture of acceptance can create a lot of good will.
  • Don’t bring up grandchildren immediately. Your child has enough to worry about with planning a wedding, and this may add to the stress level or touch on a sore subject between you and him. However, if your child and his partner have started talking about children, it is OK to offer your input about how you would like them raised. Our children do want to please us and gently explaining your wishes can affect your child’s decisions.

(Compiled by the staff of InterfaithFamily.com.)

Obituaries


Gerald Albert died Aug. 26 at 76. He is survived by this wife, Estelle; son, Jeffrey; daughters, Marilee and Raquel; and two grandchildren. Groman

LARRY ALLEN died Aug. 15 at 48. He is survived by his wife, Traci; two sons; parents, Charlotte and Herb Beatus; parents-in-law, Eddie and Myrna; and sisters ,Tami Jones and Michele Wagner. Hillside

RUTH ALTMAN died Aug. 19 at 87. She is survived by her sisters, Beatrice Baron and Mary Berton; and nephew Ross Berton. Hillside

Hannah Dora Angress died Aug. 17 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Lillian (Luis) Macias; son, Robert (Gail); and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Zelda Barton died Aug. 22 at 84. She is survived by her nieces, Sharon Levine and Marsha Besheff. Groman

Ann Bernstein died Aug. 14 at 93. She is survived by her son, Howard; daughter, Marsha Hervey; and four grandchildren. Groman

Audrey Blanchard died Aug. 11 at 85. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Gertrude Bohm died Aug. 18 at 89. She is survived by her son, Fred Graff; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Sylvia Sussman. Groman

LILLIAN BOLKE died Aug. 17 at 97. She is survived by her sons, Donald and Edward; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Julius Cohen died Aug. 17 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Marjorie; daughters, Jeri Sue (Marty) Serota and Judith (Michael) Goldman; sons, Lawrence (Ginger) and Martin (Debbie); seven grandchildren; and sister, Jean Bonus. Malinow and Silverman

Mordechay Cohen died Aug. 17 at 94. He is survived by his daughters, Yardena Cohen, Erela Levin and Anat Finck; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Lucille Cooper died Aug. 12 at 84. She is survived by her daughter, Harriet. Malinow and Silverman

Janet Critchfield died Aug. 11 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Susan Milstien; son, Bill (Leslee); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jean Davidow died Aug. 11 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Solomon; and son, Robert. Malinow and Silverman

Martha Diamond died Aug. 16 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Adele (Robert) Levine and Jackie Rosen; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

BERNARD MONROE EISENSTEIN died Aug. 19 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Lenore; daughters, Helaine (Michael) Lieberman and Michele (Michael) Evans; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Edward Elkus died Aug. 12 at 72. He is survived by his brother, Philip; and sister, Florence. Mount Sinai

Ira Englander died Aug. 23 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Nancy; sons, Bradford, Mitchell and Craig; seven grandchildren; brothers, Wayne Englander and Ron Willens. Groman

Morris Fierson died Aug. 24 at 90. He is survived by his son, Walter (Carolyn). Malinow and Silverman

DR. DAVID FILS died Aug. 16 at 92. He is survived by his sons, Kenneth and Lawrence (Victoria); and four grandchildren. Hillside

Bess Finger-Zeitlin died Aug. 20 at 99. She is survived by her son, Sheldon Sills; daughters, Sherna (Howard) Hahn and Marsha (Bob) Allen; six grandchildren; and 15 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Gerald Fischer died Aug. 23 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; sons, Larry and Mike (Sandra); daughters, Janis (Ola) Nordquist and Sherry; five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Harry Fisher died Aug. 20 at 93. He is survived by his companion, Sylvia Coonen; sons, Marc (Dale) Norman and Lance; daughter, Gail (Jeffrey Wohlgethan) Fisher; three grandchildren; and sisters, Marion and Dorothy Pine. Mount Sinai

Ira Charles Fishman died Aug. 12 at 53. He is survived by his sons, Matthew (Noemi), Jason and Adam; daughter, Nicole; grandson, Jack; mother, Pearl; brothers, Joel (Lenore), Allen (Dale) and Marty (Cheryl); companion, Matthew Blum; and former spouse, Susan. Mount Sinai

Seymour Fogelson died Aug. 21 at 90. He is survived by his son, Andrew (Susan); two grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Lewi Fox died Aug. 22 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Rose; son, Jackie; daughters, Evelyn Reiser and Gladys; three grandchildren; and sister, Freida Schonbrun. Groman

Lee Freeman died Aug. 23 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; children, Daphna (Eric), Ari (Jackie), Dani (Trisha) and Elana; stepchildren, Stephanie and Jeremy Balkin; granddaughter, Alexia; mother, Eve; and brothers, Larry and Matthew (Rebecca). Mount Sinai

Berton Donald Goldbaum died Aug. 18 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Adrienne; sons, Edward (Jennifer) and Steven (Teri); and seven grandchildren Mount Sinai

Elma Goldberg died Aug. 20 at 93. She is survived by her husband, W. Earl; four grandchildren; seven great grandchildren; and sister, Bonnie Flier. Malinow and Silverman

Dorothy Goldstein died Aug. 23 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Marvin; sons, Michael (Pamela) and Jerry (Kimberly); daughters, Gloria (Richard) Ring and Sherrie Price; nine grandchildren; and sister, Adele Golding. Mount Sinai

Fred Goldstein died Aug. 16 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Kathy Robinson-Goldstein; daughter, Elana; sons, Marc, Josh and Jon; and five grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Pearl Goldstein died Aug. 14 at 83. She is survived by her daughters, Arlene (Alan) Weingart and Nancy (Gary) Driscoll; son, Mark (Ellyn) Goldstein; five grandchildren; and sister-in-law, Vera Glassberg. Mount Sinai

ROSE GOODMAN died Aug. 14 at 92. She is survived be her sons, Robert (Doris), Martin (Bobbe) and Larry (Patty); eight grandchildren; 10 great grandchildren; and sisters: Frances Buchsbaum and Florence Kaplowitz. Hillside

SHEILA GOTTLIEB died Aug. 12 at 65. She is survived by her husband, Bob; and daughter Amy. Sholom Chapels

Frank Jacob Greenfield died Aug. 20 at 81. He is survived by his sons, Barry and David (Orit); daughter, Linda (Laurence) Bear; three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and many other relatives. Sholom Chapels

Herbert Greenspan died Aug. 11 at 83. He is survived by his daughter, Dorothy; son, Frank; and granddaughter, Claire. Mount Sinai

Danny Inkelis died Aug. 26 at 94. He is survived by his son, Stan (Mary Beth); two grandchildren; and brother, Morris. Mount Sinai

Lillian Jacobson died Aug. 18 at 94. She is survived by her daughters, Eleda Matorin and Beverly Steinberg; six grandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Groman

Katherine Kadelburg Kadell died Aug. 20 at 90. She is survived by her son, Tony. Malinow and Silverman

Martin Kaplan died Aug. 21 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Linda; and son Lawrence. Malinow and Silverman

BELLE KASHINSKY died Aug. 22 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Howard (Lisa) and Steven; daughters, Peggy (Mike) Pardue and Bonnie Grace; nine grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

JOSEPH KIFFERSTEIN died Aug. 13 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Judith; son, Alan; daughter, Victoria Rossellini; four grandchildren; sisters, Elaine Manson and Claire Wolf; and many relatives. Hillside

HERMAN CHARLES KLEIN died Aug. 17 at 80. He is survived by his son, Steve; two grandchildren; and sisters, Anne Handler and Jyl Riendeau. Hillside

Herman Kutchai died Aug. 13 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Robert (Robin) and Martin (Judith); daughter, Gloria (Joel Schwartz); and four grandchildren

EVA LEV died Aug. 11 at 78. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughter, Judy; and brother-in-law, Abe Schwartz. Sholom Chapels

Florence Lewin died Aug. 18 at 93. She is survived by her daughters, Belle (Ed) Landa and Marianne (Jeff) Kast; six grandchildren; and great-granddaughter, Olivia. Mount Sinai

RITA KURTZ LEWIS died Aug. 18 at 85. She is survived by her daughters Jolie (Tom) Greiff, Amy Lynne Girling and Arla; four grandchildren; and sister, Adle Robbins. Hillside

Lawrence Loden died Aug. 11 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Carole; son, Jay; daughter, Harriet Minke; and one grandchild. Groman

Rebecca Lofchie died Aug. 18 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Leo; son, Bruce; daughter, Linda (Kenneth) Selander; two grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; two great-great-grandchildren; and brother, Van Kennedy. Groman

Stanley Marcus died Aug. 20 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Karen; daughter, Leigh; son, David; and sister, Marilyn Distler. Malinow and Silverman

Rhoda Margolis died Aug. 16 at 72. She is survived by her daughter, Zanne (Jeff) Kibbee; sons, Allan and Bruce (Jodie); three grandchildren; brothers, Fred and Maurice (Harriett) Donenfeld; and sister, Ann Cohen. Mount Sinai

Judith Marks died Aug. 14 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Melvin; sons, John (Audrey) and Richard; three stepgrandchildren; and sister, Florence Plotkin. Malinow and Silverman

BARBARA ANN MARSH died Aug. 15 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Steve; son, David; daughter, Judy; and brother, Jerry Korengold. Hillside

Ronald Wesley McGranahan died Aug. 17 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Carol; sons, Michael (Denise) and Mark (Jean); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Norman Mehr died Aug. 13 at 89. he is survived by his daughter, Serlinda (Richard) Hadden; son, Charles (Janice); and nephew, Irvin (Rita) Benowitz. Mount Sinai

ALEXANDER MESZAROS died Aug. 23 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Liora; son, Amir; and daughter, Dr. Tamar (Dr. David) Silberstein. Sholom Chapels

ROBERT MORTON MEYER died Aug. 20 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Dusty; daughter, Nikki Maloney; one grandchild; and niece, Christine Janus. Hillside

Harry Moss died Aug. 24 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Frances; and sons, Mel (Janice) and Ron. Groman

Rose Noosbond died Aug. 19 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Denise (Philip) Green and Marla Burgess; son, Jeffrey (DeDe); four grandchildren; and sister, Pearl Weiss. Mount Sinai

Harold Novak died Aug. 23 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Klara; and sons, Michael and Shay. Groman

Arthur Nozick died Aug. 14 at 73. Malinow and Silverman

Richard Oberman died Aug. 12 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Sandra; daughter, Vicki (Steve) McIntosh; son, Jeff (Kim); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Sidney Olkes died Aug. 12 at 56. He is survived by his wife, Elyse; son, Ryan; daughter, Kacie; and brothers, Bob and Stuart (Susan). Mount Sinai

Sholom Ouaknine died Aug. 15 at 66. He is survived by his nephew, Asher; and cousins, Armon and Roni Vakneen. Chevra Kadisha

Lilyan Pell died Aug. 26 at 94. She is survived by her sister, Irene Bockoff; brother, Arnold (Margaret) Groveman; nephews, Daniel (Yeda) and Averill Strasser; and nieces, Naomi (Michael) Godfrey and Carol (Donald) Glaser. Mount Sinai

Ruth Pordy died Aug. 19 at 90. She is survived by her son, Bart (Harriet Scharf) Sokolow; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Martha Pollack died Aug. 15 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Judy; son, Ron (Deborah); five grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; brother, Jack (Karen) Rabin; and sister, Pearl Ann (Max) Marco. Mount Sinai

RACHEL PTASZNIK died Aug. 13 at 85. She is survived by her son, Jake; daughter, Lucy Fainzilber; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Manuel Rabbani died Aug. 14 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Khanom; and son, Iraj. Chevra Kadisha

Gussie Ratner died Aug. 17 at 95. She is survived by her son, Irv (Tessa) Horwitz; daughter, Dolly Astor; seven grandchildren; and 18 great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Harriet Rawdin died Aug. 22 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Lita Singer; sons, Robert (Helen) and Dr. Martin (Myrna); 10 grandchildren; and 13 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

CLAIRE KRONE RESNICK died Aug. 15 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Jules and Steve; and two grandchildren. Hillside

Ray Rosen died Aug. 26 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Judith C. Wollman. Malinow and Silverman

Jack Jacob Rosen died Aug. 24 at 87. he is survived by his wife, Dorothy; children, Beverly Fleisher, Dale, Loren (Mary) and Sheldon (Rosie); eight grandchildren; sister, Jean; and brother, Douglas. Mount Sinai

Lillian Rosenberg died Aug. 18 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Jane Rosenberg Porter. Malinow and Silverman

BLANCA ROSENBLATT died Aug. 19 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Edward; son, Fernando; daughters Carol and Astrid; and seven grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Ethel Rousso died Aug. 24 at 88. She is survived by her son, Victor C.; daughter, Suzanne; and brother, Harold Harrison. Malinow and Silverman

Fatholah Sadighim died Aug. 11 at 57. He is survived by his brother, Roohollah; and cousin, Shawn Tabibian. Chevra Kadisha

Alvin Saltzman died Aug. 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Irene; sons, Mark (Marla), Joel (Esther) and Steven; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Beatrice Sarkin died Aug. 15 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Davis; sons, Allan and Ralph; daughter, Robin Haines; and six grandchildren. Groman

Stanley Sazzman died Aug. 18 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Raeleen; sons, Allen (Lori) and Marc (Rosemarie); and daughters, Laurie (Scott) Wallace and Sara. Groman

Louis Alan Schechter died Aug. 15 at 40. He is survived by his father, Morris; and brother, Todd. Malinow and Silverman

Thelma Shriftman died Aug. 14 at 82. She is survived by her son, Michael. Malinow and Silverman

EVELYN SILVER died Aug. 12 at 75. She is survived by her daughters, Sharon and Jodi; grandchildren, Philip and Emily Serebrenick; sisters, Ruth Gutkin and Hannah Steindel; 15 nieces and nephews; and her longtime companion, George Kaloian. Hillside

EVELYN SILVERMAN died Aug. 20 at 97. She is survived by her son, Marshall; daughter, Doralee Jacobson; two grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Jeffrey Skversky died Aug. 15 at 37. He is survived by his wife, Roberta. Malinow and Silverman

Helen Dorothy Slotnick died Aug. 15 at 97. She is survived by her son, David (Terri) Stanton; daughter, Judy (Michael) Quinn; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Mera Soltes died Aug. 22 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Alisa D’Alessandro Judith and Eva; two grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Fanny Spencer died Aug. 19 at 99. She is survived by her sons, Richard (Diana) and Howard. Mount Sinai

Sam Stein died Aug. 14 at 90. He is survived by his daughter, Nadine; and brother, Jack. Groman

ERWIN TARSKY died Aug. 16 at 98. He is survived by his son, Fred (Karin); daughter, Benita Young; two grandchildren; and brother-in-law, Morris Halford. Hillside

DR. STUART TURKEL died Aug. 25 at 76. He is survived by his son, John. Sholom Chapels

Morris Walman died Aug. 16 at 88. He is survived by his son, Mitchell (Michele); daughters, Tammy (Robert) Harrison and Linda (David); and seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

RUTH WEIL died Aug. 20 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Benita Cohen; son-in-law, Tylee James; three grandchildren; and two great grandchildren. Hillside

Mike Weinberg died Aug. 12 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Lili; daughters Anita (David) Heber and Ariella Weinberg Rutschman; and four grandchildren. Groman

Betty Weinberger died Aug. 26 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Ruth Barnett; two grandchildren and six great grandchildren. Groman

Max Weinstein died Aug. 19 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Charlotte; son, Jeffrey; daughter, Shelley Opos; two grandchildren; brother, Murray; and sister, Cecil Taub. Groman

Harold Weinstock died Aug. 23 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Gertrude; sons, Michael, Arthur and Barry; five grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; and sister, Ethel Ganberg. Groman

Samuel Weitzen died Aug. 18 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughters, Monica (Ronald) Richterm, Deborah (Peter) Martin and Rita; four grandchildren; brother, Louis; and sister, Rose (Fred) Weiss. Mount Sinai

Estelle Williams died Aug. 26 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Jack; sons, Mitchell, Kenneth and Gary; and three grandchildren. Groman

Jerry Wolff died Aug. 12 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Arlene; sons, Steven (Gayle) and Mark (Lisa); daughter, Ellen; and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jennie Youner died Aug. 17 at 97. She is survived by her granddaughter, Lynn Menlo. Chevra Kadish

 

Obituaries


Meyer Adler died Aug. 10 at 94. He is survived by his sons, Jeffrey and Arnold; daughter, Sharyn; two grandchildren; and sister, Goldie Wolinski. Groman

MIRIAM AUSTERLITZ died July 24 at 59. She is survived by her brother, Dr. Michael. Sholom Chapels

Ida Bender died Aug. 10 at 87. She is survived by her son, Les (Dianne); daughter, Elaine (Paul) Seidman; grandchildren, Rachel and Michael; and sister, Frieda Schiller. Chevra Kadisha

Joan Mary Blumenstein died Aug. 4 at 75. She is survived by her daughter, Anne (Lance) Mejia; son, Carl (Hannah Rebkin); four grandchildren; and brothers, Athol, Owen and Keith Lawrence. Malinow and Silverman

Saltanat Banayan died Aug. 3 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Habibollah Rokhsar; sons, Drs. Manucher, Massoud and Mehrdad Rokhsar; daughter, Jackline Mahanian; nine grandchildren; brother, Eskadar; and sisters, Akhtar Ghadoshi, Ashraf Bakhshi, Ezat Tehrani and and Malieh. Chevra Kadisha

Doreen Bonner died Aug. 9 at 77. She is survived by her sons, Ivan (Ruth), Charles (Leah) and Mark; daughter, Joy; brother, Arthur Levy; eight grandchildren; sister, Esther Saltz. Chevra Kadisha

Frieda Chesler died Aug. 5 at 99. She is survived by her son, Leonard (Linda); five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ESTHER MANTEL COHEN died Aug. 3 at 91. She is survived by her son, Larry (Paulette); daughters, Sharon (Robert) Wiviott and Faye (Gary) Waldman; 12 grandchildren; 20 great-grandchildren; and sisters, Edythe Merkow, Sara Mazur, Mary Davis, Millie (Milt) Kaplan and Roz Coleman. Hillside

Sidney Erlbaum died Aug. 8 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Edna; daughter, Tina (Rick) Eckstein; sons, David and Alan (Jane); eight grandchildren; and sister, Hildy Freiman. Mount Sinai

Philip Farber died Aug. 9 at 83. He is survived by his brother, Samuel; nephew, David (Joy); niece, Judy (Joe) Salamon; great-nephew, Brian; and great-niece, Nicole. Mount Sinai

Helen Feldman died June 26 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Keren (Fernando) Goldberg; son, Lane (Marie); grandsons, John and Evan; and sisters, Ruth (Dave) Pollock and Gertrude. Palm Springs Mortuary

Harold Finkel died Aug. 3 at 93. He is survived by his daughters, Arlene (Michael) Bernstein and Barbara (Stan) Trachtenberg; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Randall Cary Frank died Aug. 9 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Lisa; sons, Sean and Joshua; daughter, Juli; three grandchildren; and brother, Jay. Groman

Isabel Gilbert died Aug. 9 at 94. She is survived by her son, Charles. Malinow and Silverman

David Gordon Gill died Aug. 7 at 57. He is survived by his son, Jarrod; daughter, Roxanne; brother, Richard (Eve Newton-Gill); sister, Irene Yeger; three nieces; and two nephews. Chevra Kadisha

Vera Golbin died Aug. 9 at 83. She is survived by her daughters, Caryn (Dean) Hanna and Barbara; grandchildren, Dina and Sean; and brother, Jack (Sally) Pullman. Mount Sinai

Nettie Isenberg died Aug. 3 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Jerrold (Madeleine) and Sherwin (Rina); daughter, Roberta Maimes; nine grandchildren; nine great-grandchildren; and sister, Toby Kass. Chevra Kadisha

Philip Kalish died Aug. 9 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Mildred; sons, David and Richard; six grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

IRVING KATES died Aug. 8 at 80. He is survived by his sons David, Howard and Steven; daughters, Michele Schulman, Cheryl Remington and Linda Norton; 12 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Sarah Klapman died Aug. 5 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Karen Jackman and Jacqueline Bacharach; seven grandchildren; and 12 great-grandchildren. Groman

Sally Kurlander died Aug. 7 at 94. She is survived by her son, Donald Charein. Malinow and Silverman

TILLIE LANG died Aug. 9 at 98. She is survived by her sons, Melvin, Kenneth and Howard. Sholom Chapels

Bertha Leiner died Aug. 5 at 92. She is survived by her stepsons, Fred and Lewis. Groman

Anne Levine died Aug. 5 at 62. She is survived by her husband, Harvey; son, Marc; and daughter, Sarah. Groman

ALICE LEVY-STEWART died July 28 at 46. She is survived by her brother, Morris Levy. Sholom Chapels

Sandra Lynn Loen died Aug. 8 at 66. She is survived by her husband, Harold; son, Lloyd; stepdaughter, Linda; and sister-in-law, Jan Laquidara. Groman

Alex Miller died Aug. 9 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Henrietta; daughters, Joy (Robert) Stigile and Darlene; granddaughter, Sara Nygard; and sisters, Dolly (Irwin) Green, Gloria (Abe) Boyarsky and Irene (Jerry) Cohen. Mount Sinai

BARBARA NASH MISSMAN died July 29 at 64. She is survived by her sister, Bonnie Nash. Sholom Chapels

Dorothea Elizabeth Odenheimer died Aug. 6 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Frederick; son, Michael; and two grandchildren. Groman

Lillian Oreck died Aug. 10 at 90. She is survived by her son, Les (Phyllis); daughter, Sherry (Michael) Showacter; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ESTHER PFEFFERMAN died July 23 at 75. She is survived by her son, Sam; daughter, Ethel Perles; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Eleanor Helen Philips died Aug. 5 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; sons, Stephen (Caren), Rodger, Michael (Jan Rothchild); daughter, Renee (Murray) Hutchings; eight grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

RACHEL RICHARDS died Aug. 4 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Tom; parents, Simon and Sima Friedman; sister, Esther Friedman; and brother, Michael (Etti) Friedman. Sholom Chapels

Jerome Rocklin died Aug. 10 at 82. He is survived by his sister, Gloria London. Malinow and Silverman

ROBERT ROSE died Aug. 7 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Joyce; daughter, Susan (Chuck) Weisbart; sons, Steven (Mary) and David (Mary Anne); six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

LILLIAN ROSENZWEIG died Aug. 10 at 88. She is survived by her son, Gary (Mazine). Sholom Chapels

Shirley Sadofsky died Aug. 5 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Greg and Jay; and sister, Sara Flaum. Mount Sinai

CAROLYN RUTH SCHACHTMAN died Aug. 7 at 86. She is survived by her sons, William and Robert; daughter, Judith Schwartz; five grandchildren; and six great- grandchildren. Hillside

Charlotte Shapiro died Aug. 7, at 105. She is survived by her daughter-in-law, Leslie; and grandson, Miles. Mount Sinai

Gilda Berdine Shaevitz died Aug. 7 at 55. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; father, Julius; sister, Rhonda; and brothers, Howell, Joel and Harrison Karabel. Malinow and Silverman

Melvin Charles Shryer died Aug. 8 at 88 He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; daughter, Sandee (Gary) Glickman; sons, Jeff and Marc (Kimberly); four grandchildren; and sister, Helyn Lederman. Mount Sinai

Nate Silberberg died Aug. 5 at 69. He is survived by his son, Fred (Deborah); former wife, Euy; three grandchildren; and sisters, Alice (Leo) Granierer, Ruth Lester and Inge Rubin. Mount Sinai

FRIEDA SILBERMAN died July 28 at 90. She is survived by her son, Allen (Judy); daughter-in-law, Irma; three grandchildren; and sister, Bertie (Sam) Krieger. Sholom Chapels

Elizabeth Speiser died Aug. 7 at 79. She is survived by her daughter, Lisa (Paul) Hessell; son, Steve (Leslie); four grandchildren; sister, Olga (Julian) Reinheimer; and sister-in-law, Henny Daly. Mount Sinai

Annie Tessel died Aug. 3 at 86. She is survived by her son, Larry; daughters, Esther (Dave) Collins, Sharon Belson and Reba Tessel; three grandchildren; sister, Miriam Lewis; and nephew, Larry Fox. Groman

Zola Tisherman died Aug. 7 at 85 He is survived by his wife, Lillian; son, David; daughters, Phyllis (Tom) Foreman and Bari (Caleb) Edwards; grandson, Jonathan Foreman; and sister, Pauline Greenstein Mount Sinai

Olga Wittenberg died Aug. 8 at 93. She is survived by her son, Joseph; daughter, Judy Barnhardt; and one grandchild. Groman

Samyil Yudilovich died Aug. 10 at 60. He is survived by his wife, Lyudmila. Groman

ESTHER ZACKS died Aug. 9 at 86. She is survived by her son, Charles. Sholom Chapels

Bette Zinderman died Aug. 7 at 80. She is survived by her son, Mark (Carole); daughters, Danaand Jann; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries


Cyril Amitin died July 26 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Renee; sons, Alan (MaryAnne) and Michael (Valery); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Mone Anathan Jr. died July 21 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Adele; daughter, Caryl Sunshine; and son, Mone Anathan III. Malinow and Silverman

DEANNA ATKINS died July 20 at 64. She is survived by her sister, Joanne Bryan; brother, Jack Cohn; nephew, Michael Lang; and niece, Kari Jelsma. Hillside

Esther Bergstein died July 21 at 102. She is survived by her niece, Judy Green. Groman

Nina Berman died July 21 at 97. She is survived by her daughters, Teraza (Norman) Weiss, Sheila and Marcia; four grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sister, Sara Greenberg. Mount Sinai

Lee Blair died July 22 at 85. She is survived by her son, David. Chevra Kadisha

Eva Bledstein died July 26 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Harry (Steffi) Blitzstein and Bernard; grandchildren, Joseph and Andrea Blitzstein; great-grandson, Andrew; and sister, Anne (Bernard) Krom. Mount Sinai

LEONA BLEIBERG died July 22 at 72. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Daniel; daughter, Laura Rogers; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Shirley Brown died July 24 at 79. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughter, Judith; three grandchildren; two grandchildren; and sister, Hilda. Groman

Sunnie Crasnick died July 24 at 100. She is survived by her sons, Gerald (Sylvia) and Donald; three grandchildren; and great- grandson, Daniel. Mount Sinai

ANTHONY DANNO died July 22 at 50. He is survived by his sister, Nancy; brother, James; and companion, Tony Yollin. Hillside

Mikhail Dranitsky died July 22 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Dora; sister, Reva Huberman; nephews, Norman (Dalia) and Bernie Huberman; nieces, Mimi (Albert) Assanti and Evette (Johnny) Knight; and nine great-nieces and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

MILDRED DRESNER died July 22 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Sol; son, Dr. Steve; daughters, Marcia Kabaker and Joanne; five grandchildren; sister, Elaine Michaelson; and brother, Sidney Auster. Hillside

Stuart Elkins died July 26 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Rochelle; daughter, Dori; sons, Glenn (Danielle) and Kieth (Jackie); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ursula Flink died July 25 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Vivienne Jimenez. Malinow and Silverman

Robert Gerry died July 23 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Catherine; son, Michael; and daughter, Patricia Gerry Wilson. Groman

HELEN RUSTY GILFORD died July 24 at 80. She is survived by her brother, Stanley (Marrisa). Hillside

Louise Gillin died July 23 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Philip and Andrew; brother, Stanley Herzoff; eight grandchildren; and 15 great-grandchildren. Groman

Mia Goldberg died July 22 at 84. She is survived by her sons, Mark (Pat) and Alan; daughters, Donna (John) Carter and Lynda Ehrlich; seven grandchildren; and five great- grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Burton Goodman died July 23 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Sonja; children, Karen (Eric) Forsberg, Keith (Patti O’Farrell), Kelly and Kenneth; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

David Gordon died July 25 at 88. He is survived by his nephew, Howard Scheckman. Groman

Henry Greenberger died July 21 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Florence; sons, Martin (Terry) and Sam (Christine); daughter, Ellen; three grandchildren; and sisters, Sara Flaum and Shirley Sadofsky. Chevra Kadisha

Evelyn Grossman died July 21 at 90. She is survived by her son, Gary; and three grandchildren. Groman

Rouhollah Issac Hakim died July 22 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Fahimdokht Barkohanai; and daughter, Jilla. Chevra Kadisha

HELENE HERZ died July 22 at 88. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughter, Joanne; three grandchildren; and two great grandchildren. Hillside

Jack Hurwitz died July 25 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Bette; daughter, Leslie (Robert) Bergman; three grandchildren; brother, Harvey (Peaches); sisters, Rhoda Schwarz and Arlyne (Milton) Ray; and several nieces and nephews. Mount Sinai

BERNICE KERT died July 23 at 81. She is survived by her son, Charles; daughters, Kathryn Kert Green and Elizabeth; and eight grandchildren. Hillside

BEN KRINITT died July 21 at 95. He is survived by his son, Phillip; daughter, Barbara (Andrew) Danny; stepsons, Rick, Dennis and Perry; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Kathleen Riback Kwasman died July 22 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; son, Matthew; daughter, Alyssa; mother, Beatrice Riback; brothers, Michael (Elizabeth) and David (Rose) Riback; and sister, Karen (David) Barnes. Mount Sinai

Tillie Lasker died July 23 at 91. She is survived by her son, Martin; daughter, Penny Sax; and four grandchildren. Groman

Sam Maltz died July 26 at 80. He is survived by his nieces, Jodye (Joel Kirshman) and Arnaa (Bill McCarthy) Alcon. Mount Sinai

Ruth Manns died July 21 at 94. She is survived by her nephew, Robert. Groman

Lewis Margulis died July 21 at 96. He is survived by his sons, Marc and Burton; and daughter, Rita Eklof. Malinow and Silverman

Leland Jack Metzger died July 22 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Sondra; sons, Jeffrey (Lisa) and Keith (Lori); daughters, Karen (John) Sheets and Kim (Jim) Gilfellin; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Eleanor Anita Modes died July 22 at 70. She is survived by her sons, Scott and Jeffrey (Saffron); brother, Paul Tayne; and seven grandchildren. Groman

Dorothy Oleesky died July 22 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Norm (Helene), Alan (Brenda), Robert (Carol) and Mark (Jackie); daughter, Barbara (Andre) Llanos; 12 grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ann Olen died July 24 at 96. She is survived by her daughters, Nancie Piccus and Joan Schloss; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Moreno Perez died July 26 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Esther; son, Mark; daughter, Judtih Hawes; and four grandchildren. Groman

Abrahim Rashtian died July 21 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Tiuran; and son, Tom. Chevra Kadisha

Rose Kaplan Romm died July 20 at 92. She is survived by her son, Richard; and daughter, Barbara (Morton) Barancik. Malinow and Silverman

Solomon Julius Saffian died July 21 at 68. He is survived by his son, Mark; and daughter, Lisa. Groman

Janet Semler died July 25 at 73. She is survived by her sons, Daniel Gutman and Gary; daughters, Lisa Larson and Maren; five grandchildren; and brother, Jerry Lushing. Groman

Carole Sindel died July 22 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Howard; son, David (Karen); daughter, Maura; and two grandchildren. Groman

Hyman Sisko died July 25 at 83. He is survived by his sons, Marty (Diane) and Howard (Geraldine); five grandchildren; great- grandson, Ethan; and sister, Anna (Irv) Pollin. Mount Sinai

EDITH MALKOFF SOCOL died July 26 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Albert; daughter, Susan Moon; eight grandchildren; and brothers, Mel (Mary Ann) and Irving Hoffman. Hillside

SIDNEY SOLOMON died July 26 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Alan; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Dulcy Rhea Steinlauf died July 21 at 80. She is survived by her son, Mitchell Lauford. Malinow and Silverman

Samuel Ross Tannenbaum died July 24 at 86. He is survived by his daughters, Jane and Barbara; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Anna Thorn died July 25 at 94. She is survived by her daughters, Sondra Stahler and Susan Appel; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Groman

Jean Weisman died July 22 at 95. She is survived by her nephew, Alan D. Weisman. Malinow and Silverman

Ethel Weintraub died July 20 at 66. She is survived by her husband, Alvin; sons, Ronald and Daniel (Virginia) Friedman; stepdaughters, Linda Firestone, Sondra (Thomas) Ditty and Diane; three grandchildren; and sister, Pearl Spiszman. Mount Sinai

Helen Wisotsky died July 26 at 86. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughters, Michele Perl and Judith Left; eight grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sister, Beverly Miller. Groman

Lulu Yellen died July 20 at 99. He is survived by his grandson, Jerry Jacobson. Groman

Obituaries


Irvin Atkins died July 14 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Ida Mae; and daughter, Marilyn Feiman. Groman

LILLIAN BADEN died July 14 at 90. She is survived by her son, Jerry; grandchild, Dylan; and many relatives. Hillside

Theodore Berg died Aug. 9 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sarah; daughters, Elayne, Sandi and Judy; grandchildren, Beth and Michael; and sister, Esther Gillman. Mount Sinai

ANNE BOVILL died July 13 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Davida; son, Martin (Pirjo); sister, Esther Morris; and many relatives. Hillside

Beryl Caron died July 19 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Helene; son, Daniel (Debra); daughters, Cherie Hickok, Kathy Mandell and Suzie Caron; and five grandchildren. Groman

Rose Cohen died July 18 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Shelley (Mike) Lubinsky and Sandra Gallob; six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren; and brother, Meyer (Margie) Jacobs. Malinow and Silverman

STANLEY COOPER died July 16 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; and daughter, Shelley. Hillside

Bessie Farash died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, Marty (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (Murray) Cohen; three grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Alexander Farkas died July 19 at 75. He is survived by his wife, R. Barbara; son, Steven (Susan); daughters, Marilyn (Scott) Pilcher and Ellen (Gary) Davidson; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

LOIS FRANKEL died July 19 at 75. She is survived by her brothers, Walter and Richard. Hillside

Abraham Froch died July 15 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Lois; daughter, Alieen (Gil) Borok; sons, Michael (Jill) and Larry (Cari); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Karl Gerwer died July 14 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Satoe; and sons, Scott and Eric. Groman

Bess Helen Gold died July 18 at 95. She is survived by her son, Peter. Chevra Kadisha

Sumner Granby died July 18 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Alan and Mark; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Gloria Glauber died July 18 at 77. She is survived by her daughter, Micki (Mark Flint) Hollien; son, Russ (Olivia); five grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren; brother, Sidney (Dolly) Goodman; and sister-in-law, Judy (Lou) Shaltzer. Mount Sinai

Bertha Hellman died July 16 at 96. She is survived by her son, Bryce (Hannah); daughter, Racelle Manes; eight grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Marilyn Bella Horowitz died July 16 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Irving; son, Alan; daughter, Sherry; and four grandchildren.

Michael Bernard Horowitz died July 18 at 59. He is survived by his wife, Diane Ganley; stepson, Tom Ganley; sister, Margie Bonar; and brother, Thomas. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Horowitz died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Judith; one grandchild; two great-grandchildren; sisters, Frances Aoltz, Belle Schneider and Sylvia Hallman; . Groman

ESTHER HOUGH died July 16 at 53. She is survived by her brother, Randal Grant Powers; and sister-in-law, Shendl Diamond. Hillside

TERRY JACKSON died July 17 at 91. She is survived by her son, Michael (Alana); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Fred Kelly died July 12 at 76. He is survived by his son, Robert (Debbie); daughter, Helaine (Andy) Rogers; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Kranz died July 15 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Madelon; son, Bryan; daughter, Tamara (Eran) Bikovsky; one grandchild; and mother, Irene. Malinow and Silverman

CHARLOTTE LAKSBERGER died July 17 at 97. She is survived by her son, George (Robin) Lakes; daughter, Annette (Ron) Massman; six grandchildren; and 13 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Eve Lester died July 19 at 82. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Larry Gay; daughters, Julie Moores and Susan Meyers; eight grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

CAROL MARJORIE LEVIN died July 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Marty; sons, Steve (Pam) and Robert (Julie); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Michael Levine died July 17 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Yehua Zhu-Levine. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Levine died July 12 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Steven (Elizabeth) and Mitchell (Sharon); and by five grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Thelma Jo Lewis died July 19 at 85. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Kay Gertrude Lipton died July 18 at 83. She is survived by her sons, David and Jay; and one grandchild. Groman

SHARON WEISS HARRIS LUSSIER died July 18 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Paul; son, Larry Harris; daughter, Jill Cordova; four grandchildren; and one great grandchild. Hillside

Shirley Manoil died July 17 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Melinda; son, Robert; three grandchildren; and three great grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Vera Miller died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Solomon; son, Stephen (Celia); daughter, Sharon (Brian) Olson-Ahern; and four grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Fahimeh Nathan died July 12 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Manoucher; sons, Ramin and Elly; daughter, Noushin (Morris) Farajola; two grandchildren; sisters, Frough (Sion) Shooshani, Mangeh (Manoucher) Gohre, Gili (Firous) Tabiri and Mino (Mandour); and brother, Iraj (Faraba) Raouf. Mount Sinai

Rhoda Neiman died July 14 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Harold; daughters, Jillana and Paula; brothers, Harry, Mark and Bernard Wisner; and sister, Brandi Wisner. Chevra Kadisha

Joe Orloff died July 13 at 96. He is survived by his wife, Ruetta; daughters, Tami (Robert) Finkbeiner, Penny and Rikki; son, Michael (Karen); seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Klara Sapirshteyn died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, James. Malinow and Silverman

Gertrude Jane Schwab died July 16 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Howard (Michelle) and Richard (Colleen); daughter, Helen; and four grandchildren. Groman

Julius Selinger died July 12 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Elinor; daughter, Anita Anderson; sons, Henry and Gary; six grandchildren; brother, Frank. Malinow and Silverman

Hertzel Shirazi died July 13 at 49. He is survived by his wife, Mitra; brother, Mike; and brother-in-law, Abe Manzour. Chevra Kadisha

Julie Ann Siem died July 19 at 44. She is survived by her daughter, Elisha; son, Jordan; and parents, Donald and Lois Arnstein. Mount Sinai

Dan Silberberg died July 19 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughters, Jennifer and Nicole; brother, Naftali; sisters, Inga Rubin, Ruth Lester and Alice (Leo) Granierer. Mount Sinai

ETHEL SOLOMON died July 17 at 94. She is survived by her friends. Hillside

J. Dorian Sonnenschein died July 17 at 56. He is survived by his brother, Marco; and sister, Miriam (Max) Feit. Malinow and Silverman

Sidney Stonehill died July 14 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Joan; son, Anthony; and daughter, Dena Stonehill Penney. Groman

Theresa Remes Suffin died July 15 at 86. She is survived by her son, Steve (Leah); and daughter, Fay Shinder. Chevra Kadisha

Morton Wolk died July 12 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Rolinda Suttle; granddaughter, Tessa Suttle; and significant other, Annette Naftal. Mount Sinai

Mitchell Wortsman died July 19 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Edith; daughter, Melissa Applebaum; and brother, Abner. Groman

Yahya Jonathan Yasharpour died July 17 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Louise; son, Sami; and daughter Yasamin. Chevra Kadisha

Marcus Gershun Zilber died July 17 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Anna; daughters, Sima Epshteyn and Masha Serebryany; and grandchild, Inna. Chevra Kadisha

Obituaries


MORRIS APPLEMAN died July 8 at 98. He is survived by his daughters, Sandi Liebert-Simon and Elaine Glaser; four grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Hillside

THELMA AYEROFF died July 6 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Lana Brody; son, Jeff (Martie); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Alvan Irving Beck died July 5 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Blanca; sons, Daniel and Luis Marcilla, Dennis and Brent; daughter, Rosi Marcilla; five grandchildren; brother, Larry. Groman

JACK BERMAN died July 7 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Barbara Dreyfus. Sholom Chapels

Evelyn Bobrosky died July 4 at 83. She is survived by her son, Jerry; daughters, Suzy Reznick, Debby Shuman and Edie Dayan; 12 grandchildren; and seven great grandchildren. Groman

SAMUEL COHEN died July 5 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Esther; daughters, Sharon (Bob) Wiviott and Faye (Gary) Waldman; son, Larry (Paulette); 20 grandchildren; and 20 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Joseph Conison died July 6 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Ilene (Andrew) Scharlach; granddaughters, Rebecca and Emily Scharlach; brothers, Julius and Allan; sister, Eva Nedelman; and brother-in-law, Robert Friedman. Sinai Memorial Chapel

DAVID EDSON died July 5 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Bobbi; daughters, Dori (Chuck) Boyles, Lisa, Cindy (John) and Libby. five grandchildren; and brother, Chuck (Sue). Hillside

SAUL EZERSKY died July 5 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Suzanne; and son, Mark. Sholom Chapels

CELIA FELDGREBER died July 4 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Marcey Wallman. Sholom Chapels

Nettie Frishman died July 4 at 92. She is survived by her son, Edward (Gaye) Peltzman; daughter, Shirley (Sol) Morrison; stepdaughters, Marian (William) Schiff and Norma Baitman; nine grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; brothers, Stanley (Phyllis) and Marshall (Adrienne) Nathanson; and cousin, Edythe Spinadel. Mount Sinai

KELLEY GARDENS died July 4 at 76. She is survived by her daughter, Candace Culp; 14 grandchildren; and 20 great grandchildren. Hillside

Leonard Allen Goldman died July 7 at 75. He is survived by his wife, MeraLee; son, Mark (Tracey); daughters, Tami and Robin (Jim Popkin); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

IRVING GORDON died July 6 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Dorothy; son, Gary; daughter, Betty; three grandchildren; brothers, Jack and Milton; and sister, Maddy. Hillside

Frances Gray died July 7 at 88. She is survived by her son, Steve; and sister, Janice. Mount Sinai

Sacha Grunpeter died July 6 at 33. He is survived by his parents, Joseph and Susan. Chevra Kadisha

CLAIRE HALPRIN died June 20 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy (Lonny) Scharf; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

BERTHA HELLMAN died July 16 at 96. She is survived by her son, Bryce (Hannah); daughter, Racelle Manes; grandchildren; and great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Mac Helsabeck died July 6 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, June (Paul) Canter; sons, Steve (Dianna), Eric (Pat) and Glen (Penny); eight grandchildren; and nephew, Joseph. Mount Sinai

Arthur Holz died July 8 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Doris; son, Michael; daughter, Joanne (Jonathan) Holz-Evans; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Bluma Horwitz died July 6 at 92. She is survived by her daughters, Judith Jeffen and Lael Horwitz; four grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren; sisters, Genevieve Robbins and Fern Naxon. Groman.

Selma Helena Kagan died June 30 at 89. She is survived by her son, Robert (Mimi) Real; and grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

BENJAMIN KATZ died July 4 at 77. He is survived by his sister, Pearl Ziskrout; and niece, Julia Kelly. Hillside

SUSAN WOLF KOZBERG died July 4 at 68. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy Paul; sons, Steven (Gisele) and James (Wendy) Paul; seven grandchildren; and brothers, Bennett (Sue) and Donald (Elaine) Wolf. Hillside

Polina Lerner died July 6 at 68. She is survived by her husband, Yakov; and sons Vadim and Yevgeniy. Chevra Kadisha

Morton Lesh died July 4 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Rhoda; daughter, Susan; sons, Scott (Darla) and Mitchell (Aleta); three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Sandy Zerbersky. Mount Sinai

Florence Levinson died July 3 at 96. She is survived by her daughter, Harlene (Fred) Leeds; six grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sister, Lillian. Mount Sinai

Stanley Levinson died July 5 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Judy Weisman; three grandchildren; great-granddaughter, Megan Beitner; and brother, Robert. Mount Sinai

Esther Lewinstein died July 6 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Ruthie Krivis; son, Bill; six grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; and sister, Mary Lewis. Mount Sinai

Harry Liebman died July 7. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice; son, Gary (Denae); daughter, Barbara; and grandchildren, Brandon and Todd. Mount Sinai

Helayne Lipkin died July 7 at 56. She is survived by her father, Nathaniel; and sister, Stanlee Lipkin. Malinow and Silverman

HANS MANASSE died July 5 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Margot; daughter, Diana (Mitchell) Mednick; son, Jerry; grandchildren Michele (Matthew) and Robert; great-grandchild, Jaden; sister-in-law, Charlotte (Ernest) Wulkan; and many nieces and nephews. Hillside

PEARL MARKS died July 3 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Murray; son, Daniel; daughter, Eileen; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Barbara Ann Moore died July 5 at 60. She is survived by her mother, Sylvia; and brother, David (Tobi) Schneider. Malinow and Silverman

PAUL NEWMAN died June 20 at 96. He is survived by his daughter, Paula. Sholom Chapels

DOROTHY OKEN died June 25 at 87. She is survived by her son, Dr. Ben Chatoff. Sholom Chapels

Dorothy Oppenheim died July 6 at 86. She is survived by her son, Elliott (Kathy); daughter, Sheri (Chaim) Neuberg; four grandchildren; sisters, Sarah (Harvey) Austin and Betty (Leonaard) Gorelick; and brother, Jack Cohen. Mount Sinai

IRA REISMAN died July 3 at 51. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; daughters, Stacey and Jamie; brother-in-law, David Finkelstein; and nephew, Eric Finkelstein. Hillside

Shirley Reiter died July 5 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Jerome; son, Terry (Margie); daughter, Genise (Geoff) Tully; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Pearl Saltsman died July 6 at 96. She is survived by her stepsons, Sidney (Helen), Louis (Florance) and Gerald (Ann); nine grandchildren, 17 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

FLORENCE SANDLER died July, 5 at 78. She is survived by her son, Howard; daughter, Lori; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brothers, Robert and Paul Rehmar. Hillside

Jennie Sherman died July 7 at 90. She is survived by her niece, Christine Silberman. Malinow and Silverman

Khaya Shrage died July 4 at 86. She is survived by her sister, Mysia Robin. Groman

Theodore Spector died July 5 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Esther; sons, Ira (Alisa) and Mark; daughter, Francine (Michael); three granchildren; and nieces and nephews. Hillside

Saul Stanoff died July 2 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Marsha; daughter, Robin Williams; six grandchildren; brother, Harry Stanoff; and sister, Rose Danchik. Groman

Israel StuhL died July 6 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Sarah; sons, Michael (Paula) and Jeremy (Dina); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Perri Turkheimer died July 5 at 55. She is survived by her husband, Alan; son, Aaron; and sister, Jan Matthews. Mount Sinai

Jeannette Wachbrit died July 6 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Michael (Jill), Joel (Jill); granddaughters, Michelle and Tracy; brother, Dr. Seymour (Annette) Bird; and sisters, Selma Framson and Annalee (Kal) Kaufer. Mount Sinai

Sylvia Leah Weitzman died June 14 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Seymour; daughters, Randy (Robert) Greenspan and Karen Hampton; stepdaughters, Terie Lesner and Farryl; stepsons, Marc (Kathie) and Bruce; nine grandchildren; great-grandchild, Rieley; and brother, Emery (Shirley) Kubrin. Mount Sinai

ALYCE MARIE WOLF died July 5 at 88. She is survived by her husband Dr. Earl; son, Dr. Stuart (Peggy) Wolf; daughter, Dorianne Tobey Bass; grandchildren, Dr. Bryon and Ari (Heather) Bass; and great-grandchildren, Betsy and Darcy Bass. Hillside

 

Obituaries


ESTHER ADLER died June 2 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Herman; sons, Don, Lane and Steve (Yosi) Saks; daughter, Elana (Made) Saks; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

MOUSA ANVAR died June 12 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Isaac (Sima) and Anoucher (Oranus); five grandchildren; and brothers, Mansour, Amir and Morad; and sister, Shoshana. Chevra Kadisha

SONIA BERLE died May 27 at 96. She is survived by her son, Elihu. Chevra Kadisha

Charlotte Bernstein died June 9 at 79. She is survived by her sons, Scott and Larry. Groman

BENJAMIN BROOKSTEIN died June 8 at 87. He is survived by his daughter, Sheila Chadroff; and two grandchildren. Groman

Harriet Cohen died June 12 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Jerry; daughter, Diane (Mark) Goldstein and Sandra (Jeff) Landau; two grandchildren; and brothers, Don (Barbara) and Howard (Shirley) Benjamin. Mount Sinai

Lillian Dushane died June 11 at 83. She is survived by sons, Robert and Steven; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Dennis Ehrmann died June 10 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Eileen; daughter, Leia; son, Michael; and cousins, Sandra (Robert) King and Barbara (Steve) Schott. Mount Sinai

Louis Feldman died June 8 at 93. He is survived by his friends. Malinow and Silverman

Phillip Fox died June 11 at 89. He is survived by his sister, Edith (Harold) Rose, and brother, William (Shirley). Mount Sinai

PHYLLIS GANULIN died June 9 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Marty (Roni) and Stewart; daughter, Denise; four grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sister, Lee Furra. Hillside

Sam Geller died June 8 at 91. He is survived by his daughters, Corinne Rosen and Joyce Amram. Malinow and Silverman

Herbert Lee Goodman died June 9 at 76. He is survived by his sister, Ruth Karch. Groman

IRVING WILLIG HAMMER died June 2 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Patricia; and son, Craig. Chevra Kadisha

Wala Izrael died June 10 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Janet Strayer; and two grandchildren. Groman

Arnold Katchen died June 10 at 90. He is survived by his sons, Larry (Sheryl) and Howard; six grandchildren; and brother, Ben. Groman

RAYMOND JEROME KORNFELD died June 10 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; and sister, Maureen. Hillside

Harold Korman died June 11 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Mildred; daughter, Susan (Rob) Evans; son, Paul (Ilene); four grandchildren; and brother-in-law, George Frechter. Malinow and Silverman

Bessie Kudler died June 10 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Lois Brooks and Linda Absler; and sister, Adline Cramer. Malinow and Silverman

Norman Lee died June 11 at 99. He is survived by his wife, Sadie; brother, Benjamin; sister, Jo; nephews, Paul and Mark; nieces, Hermionie and Bridget; and seven grandnieces and grandnephews.

Clothilde Levinson died June 11 at 76. She is survived by daughters, Nancy Vizcarra, Janet Munson and Lyn Alkan; sister, Alice Wolfson; four grandchildren; and ex-husband, Mark. Groman

HAGHNAZAR MOTAHEDEH died June 5 at 87. He is survived by his son, Kayvan. Chevra Kadisha

Rachel Newman died June 11 at 86. She is survived by her daughers, Susie Kimmel and Esther; son, Allen (Kerry); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Maurice Oshan died June 10 at 89. He is survived by sons, Evan and Michael; daughters, Karen Peters, Judith Griser and Shelene Grey; six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

ARTHUR SANDER ROZ died May 31 at 46. He is survived by his mother, Adele. Chevra Kadisha

Moe Rubin died June 9 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Sunga Greisman; sons, Shelley Herman and Steven; five grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren; and sister, Dorothy Del Monte. Sholom Chapels

Adrienne Schweit died June 11 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Stuart; sons, Jack (Jessie) and Jeffrey (Heidi) Gottlieb; daughters, Shana (Michael) Rogers and Julie; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

IRAN SHAOULIAN died June 10 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Rafi and Morris. Chevra Kadisha

Frances Solomonow died June 8 at 95. She is survived by her stepson, Allan (Ofelia Alayero). Mount Sinai

Brenda Louise Spector died June 10 at 68. She is survived by her sons, Steven, Jeffrey and David; two grandchildren; and sister, Melinda. Malinow and Silverman

David Samuel Stark died June 8 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Jennie; son, Barry (Jane); grandchildren, Wendy (Devin) Senelick and Bob; and brothers, Lou (Pearl) and Max (Carolyn). Mount Sinai

Gerda Stern died June 9 at 91. She is survived by daughters, Audrey and Hazel (Lawrence); three grandchildren; and great-grandson, Noah. Kiefer and Eyerich Mortuary

 

Obituaries


Robert F. McGuire Jr., ‘Irish Moses,’ Dies at 94

Robert F. McGuire, Jr., a pilot dubbed the “Irish Moses” for his key role in airlifting 45,000 Yemenite Jews to the new-born State of Israel, has died at the age of 94 at his home in Northridge.

McGuire, an Irish American, was the chief pilot of Operation Magic Carpet in 1949-50, when Alaska Airlines, for which he worked, was contracted by the American Joint Distribution Committee for the secret and risky airlift. Flying over hostile Arab territory during Israel’s War of Independence, McGuire and fellow pilots crammed their human cargo into DC-4 planes, at three times their normal capacity.

Despite numerous close calls, the airlift never lost a plane or passenger.

Even after Alaska Airlines bowed out of the operation, McGuire continued the work by buying and leasing planes and setting up Near East Air Transport.

Before Magic Carpet, McGuire had been hired by the United Nations and relief organizations to fly Jewish refugees from China to Israel.

McGuire, a World War II veteran, never talked and sought recognition for his services to the Jewish state, even after then-Prime Minister David Ben-Gurion lauded him as the “Irish Moses.”

His feelings for the Jewish people may also have been influenced by his father, who served as an American judge at the Nuremberg war crimes trials.

Last year, the Simon Wiesenthal Center conferred its medal of valor on McGuire. — Tom Tugend, Contributing Editor

Blanche Abrams died May 26 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Rabbi Arthur (Claire) and Stanley (Phyllis); five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Leo Balkin died May 29 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Betty; daughters, Bonnie Anketell and Renee Wouters; three grandchildren; and brother, Sol (Janell). Mount Sinai

ERNEST BERKOWITZ died May 28 at 58. He is survived by his wife, Deanna; son, Ben; and sister, Rachel Benveniste. Groman

LOUIS BREWSTER died May 27 at 97. He is survived by his son, Barry (Phyllis); daughter, Sondra (Bob) Duran; and five grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Groman

Kurt Cahn died May 25 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Eva; sons, Peter (Nadine) and Robert; daughter, Nancy (Steve) Steinhardt; and grandchildren, Erica and Matthew. Mount Sinai

Henry Corden died May 19 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Angelina Corden. Malinow and Silverman

BERNARDINE EDMUNDS died May 28 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Rod and John (Gennie); two grandchildren; and sister, Frances Hirsh. Hillside

ZION GABRIEL EYTAN died May 19 at 78. He is survived by his wife; and daughters. Chevra Kadisha

GERTRUDE FELDMAN died May 27 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Abraham; son, Sandy Singer; stepdaughter, Barbara; one grandchild; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Gerald Fleishman died May 27 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth, sons Jeffrey and James; two grandchildren; and three stepgrandchildren.

Florence Frank died May 25 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Marsha Frank Berke; son, Barry (Hatiga); two grandchildren; and one great-grandchil. Malinow and Silverman

Lieza Gitelis died May 29 at 81. She is survived by her son, Vladimir (Sofiya); daughter, Rina (Mark Pravin); three grandchildren; and one great grandchild. Mount Sinai

REIZA GITMAN died May 29 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Sarra (David) Finkel; and four grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

JULIA GOODE died May 29 at 87. She is survived by her son, H. Allen Benowitz; and daughters, Marilyn Benowitz Denman and Bonnie Winters; five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Ruth Goodley died May 26 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Eleanor (Sam) Heeger; Dr. Paul (Devora); seven grandchildren; and 12 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MICHEL GOODMAN died May 25 at 85. She is survived by her son, Carl; daughters, Ellen (Robert) Eveler and Mya Wilkinson; nine grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Maxine Hartman died May 25 at 79. She is survived by her son, Jonathan (Corine); and granddaughter, Julia. Mount Sinai

BEATRICE HASSEN died May 30 at 84. She is survived by her son, Dennis Jacobs; daughter, Leslie Jacobs; and sisters, Margie Berman and Marcella. Groman

ISADORE HELFING died May 26 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Lucile; sons, Sheldon (Barbara) and Robert (Laurie); three grandchildren; and brother, Henry (Sarah). Chevra Kadisha

SOLEIMAN KERMANI died May 26 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Parvin Kohan. Chevra Kadisha

EDWARD KOSLOWSKI died May 25 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice, son, Ron, and grandchildren, Chloe and Madison. Hillside

PHIL KORNSTEIN died May 26 at 78. He is survived by his sons, Barry (Nancy Renick) and Howard (Theresa); three grandchildren; brother, Dr. Bernard Korenstein; sister, Claire Herman; and two nieces. Groman

ELISSA IONE KOTLER died May 28 at 49. She is survived by her fiance, Shawn Robinson; brother, Ronald (Carolyn); two nieces; and one nephew. Namkung. Hillside

RANDALL CURTIS KRAMER died May 30 at 45. He is survived by his wife, Jacqueline; sons, Sydney and Noah; brother, Derek (Nancy); two nephews; aunts Lana (Mike) and Gail (Tom); and uncle, Albert (Karen). Hillside

Sanford Marvin died May 25 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Arlette; sons, Alan and Samuel (Terry); daughters, Lois (David) Friedman and Sheryl (David) Best; five grandchildren; and sister, Rhoda Garber. Mount Sinai

STEVEN MAZIN died May 30 at 53. He is survived by his son, John Kenneth; sister, Sharon; aunt, Bernice Manocherian; uncle, Stan Schneider. Groman

Edward Mendel died May 26 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Florence; daughters, Lynne (Austin) Godsey and Debra (Steve) Freedman; and granddaughter. Mount Sinai

LILLIAN OBER died May 26 at 90. She is survived by her son, Charles. Groman

DOROTHY PRINCE died May 27 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Arnold and Michael (Brenda); and one grandchild. Hillside

Sara Prujan died May 26 at 88. She is survived by her husband, Jack; sons, Dr. Ross (Linda) and Robert; daughters, Caryl (David) Lightfoot and Jan Farquhar; five grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sister, Lee Hudson. Mount Sinai

MIRIAM SALTZMAN died May 25 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Susan Barnett, Barbara Kinoshita and Marjorie Krug; and two grandchildren. Hillside

IRWIN SAXON died May 29 at 73. He is survived by his brother, Joseph. Groman

Miriam Schaefer died May 26 at 82. She is survived by her daughter Elise (Dr. Carl) Hartman; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Laurie Shubb died May 30 at 61. She is survived by her son, Zack (Hyla); daughter, Lindsay; sister, Susan (Davina River) Shwarts; and ex-husband, Rik (Patricia). Mount Sinai

LILLIAN SILVERMAN died May 26 at 85. She is survived by her son, Ron (Christy); grandaughter, Lauren Boiles; and sister, Shirley Gold. Hillside

SIGMUND STEINBERG died May 30 at 93. He is survived by his daughter, Diane Wetheim; three grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Shirley Friedberg. Groman

JOAN WATNICK died May 25 at 77. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra Nadel; brother, Howard (Thelma) Lockwood; and grandaughter, Marsha Nadel. Chevra Kadisha

EVELINE WEISS died May 25 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Barnard; daughter, Debra; and four grandchildren. Groman

Richard Wessler died May 30 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Maureen; daughers, Susan (Ignacio) Enbom, Caryl Lippman and Deborah; four grandchildren; and sister, Rose Gorday. Mount Sinai

ALLAN WHITE died May 27 at 88. He is survived by his son, Steve; daughter, Sherry Endresen; one grandchild; sister, Elinor Goodman; and nephew, James Goodman. Hillside

ERIC WOYTHALER died May 30 at 94. He is survived by his sons, Julius, Albert and Ben; six grandchildren; and brother, Rabbi Bert. Groman

 

Obituaries


MARION APPELL died May 19 at 104. She is survived by her daughter, Adrienne (Stuart) Schweit; and two grandchildren. Groman

HERBERT APTEL died May 23 at 95. He is survived by his son, Joseph; daughters, Leslie Chotiner and Stephanie Siebert; four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

AVNER BAN died May 24 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Anna; and son, Erez. Chevra Kadisha

Dorothy Benson died May 20 at 85. She is survived by her sons, David (Shauna) and James (Sandra); granddaughter, Jennifer; and sister, Marjorie Paul. Mount Sinai

GERTRUDE BLEIER died May 23 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Alfred; son, Joel (Noel); daughters, Karen (Stuart) Tobisman and Elizabeth (Don Nickerson); seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Thelma Blumenfield died May 24 at 100. She is survived by her son, Dr. Arnold (Kathleen) Jacobs; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Irene Bors died May 15 at 86. She is survived by daughter, Helene Zenia; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Stanley Bors died May 22 at 93. He is survived by his daughter, Helene Zenia; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Shelly Canes died May 22 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Lyonel; daughter, Julie Ann; and brothers, Nick Arditti and Morris Arad. Malinow and Silverman

SOLIMAN COHENSEDGH died May 5 at 77. He is survived by his brother, Moussa Kohansedgh; sister, Pari (Mansur) Asilzadeh; nephew, Amin Asilzadeh; and niece, Susan Gabby. Chevra Kadisha

Gertrude Davidow died May 21 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Kayla Kantrowitz; three grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marvin Stanley Ehrenberg died May 22 at 82. He is survived by his sons, Paul (Sara) and Jim (Karen); daughter, Francine (Jack) Darling; step-daughter, Rayna (Robert Tafoya) Morrison; five grandchildren; brother, Brad (Iilla) Sherman; and sister, Glory (Elias) Balbinder. Mount Sinai

HOWARD ESKO died May 20 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; sons, Michael and Neal; daughter, Lori Stein; and two grandchildren. Groman

Gilbert Fitch died May 22 at 95. He is survived by his daughter, Kate Nikolenko; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Leonard Goldstein died May 23 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Vicky; daughters, Stacy (Jamie) Daugherty, Leslie (Dave) Steinman, Lisa Lipeies, Debbie Cipolla and Dawn (Ernie) Roubidoux; son, Derek; 11 grandchildren; and brothers, Richard (Penny) and David (Gloria) Goldstein. Mount Sinai

STANLEY GOLDENBERG died May 19 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Rosalie; daughters, Susan Lyn Schlosser and Beth Lisa Keesler; and three grandchildren. Groman

Henry Gould died May 19 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Charlotte; brother, Mauri (May); and sister-in-law, Sandra (Herbert) Bloom. Mount Sinai

SAMUEL GUBER died May 23 at 96. He is survived by his sons, Peter, Michael and Charles; eight grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

SYLVIA HITTLEMAN died May 23 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Barbara (Jeffrey) Robbins and Lynn Collins; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Gloria Epstein. Hillside

PARVIN HOMAYONFAR died May 20 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Alias; daughters, Mahsid Kashani, Diana Shahedi, Fariba Barokhian, Elena Yousefzadeh and Nazila Razi; brothers, Parviz, Shapoor, Shavel and Manoucher Shabanzadeh; and sisters, Pari Parivash and Nazi Ornamaguen. Chevra Kadisha

Fred Katz died May 19 at 75. He is survived by his sister, Doris; and nephew, Larry Linker. Malinow and Silverman

BEHROUZ KHALILI died May 20 at 49. He is survived by his wife, Mahnaz. Chevra Kadisha

David Allen King died May 19 at 55. He is survived by his wife, Cynthia; son, Aaron; daughters, Rebecca and Sarah; mother, Barbara; and brothers, Paul and Bruce. Malinow and Silverman

Morris Klein died May 20 at 88. He is survived by his nephew, Stephen (Barbara) Queen. Malinow and Silverman

ELEANOR KRETZER died May 21 at 90. She is survived by her son, Dr. Frank (Marilyn); daughter, Carol (Rabbi Richard) Levy; four grandchildren; brother, Leon Hollerman; sisters, Evelyn Karin and Betty Stoller; one niece; and two nephews. Hillside

VICTORIA KRIEGER died May 19 at 86. She is survived by her son, Jerome (Adrien); daughter, Sharon Fisk; seven grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sisters, Anne Levin, Tillie Addison, Irene Rifkin and Essie Baron. Chevra Kadisha

Louis Kripple died May 21 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Adrianna; and sisters, Sharlene Basch and Esther Pretsky. Chevra Kadisha

MILDRED JACOBS died May 21 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Bernard; son, Dr. Michael; daughters, Dr. Brenda and Linda; three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

YAKOV LIVSHITS died May 22 at 46. He is survived by his wife, Bronislava; daughter, Inna; and father, Aron. Groman

Susan Menin died May 22 at 69. She is survived by her husband, Lloyd; and son, David. Malinow and Silverman

JAY MILLER died May 24 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Freya; sons, Michael (Miriam) and William; daughter, Suzanne Kasmer; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

John Miller died May 24 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Madeleine; son, Joel; and daughters, Danielle and Gabrielle. Mount Sinai

ISADORE PITESKY died May 21 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Elva; and brother, Sheldon. Groman

Harper Roisman died May 21 at 95. He is survived by his friends. Malinow and Silverman

JEANETTE ROSENBERG died May 19 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Alan, Steven and Howard; and eight grandchildren. Groman

EVELYN SALKA died May 23 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Saul; son, Donald; daughter, Sandra Milken; eight grandchildren; and sister, Janice Clotzman. Hillside

JEAN SAYER died May 19 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Floyd; son, Andrew; daughter, Nancy; and brother, Dr. Howard Fenning. Groman

Max Schwartz died March 30 at 90. He is survived his sons, Philip and Jack; daugher-in-law, Andrea Wagner-Schwartz; three grandchildren; great-granddaughter, Ella; and life partner, Anne Rothschild. 

Sanford Steinberg died May 19 at 78. He is survived by his daughters, Terri (Barry) Budow and Denise; son, Stuart (Evie); three grandchildren; sister, Dorothy Rice; and sister-in-law, Gloria. Mount Sinai

STANLEY SEYMOUR STRAIN died May 23 at 63. He is survived by his son, Michael; brother, Robert; sister, Anita; ex-wife, Sherri; and companion, Gail Lukas. Groman

BEATRICE THOMAS died May 19 at 86. She is survived by her sons, Laurence and John; and one grandchild. Groman

Andrew Warren VanDerlaske died May 22 at 39. He is survived by his son, Aaron; daughters, Jessica Yaugher and Haiden; parents, James and Barbara; sister Jolenne (Andy) Tuttle; brother, Ian; parents-in-law, Ronald and Marilyn Otting; and brother-in-law, Steven (Tamara). Malinow and Silverman

Rhonda Eugenia VanDerlaske died May 22 at 39. She is survived by her son, Aaron; daughters, Jessica Yaugher and Haiden; and parents, Ronald and Marilyn Otting; brother, Steven (Tamara); parents-in-law, James and Barbara; sister-in-law, Jolenne (Andy) Tuttle; and brother-in-law, Ian. Malinow and Silverman

Marilyn Walitt died May 19 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; daughter, Stephanie; mother, Frances Walley; and brother, Morton Bernard (Roberta) Walley. Mount Sinai

Leah Grace Whiteman died May 23 at 88. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Norman (Linda); daughters, Harriet (Alan) Cohen and Sandy (Marvin) Schotland; eight grandchildren; six great- grandchildren; and sisters, Sophie Spector and Edna Fried. Malinow and Silverman

Eva Zepel died May 22 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Irving; sons, Arnold (Sharon) and Barry (Janet); and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

 

Obituaries


Greta Furst,
L.A. Free Clinic Auxiliary Co-Founder,
Dies at 73

Longtime Beverly Hills resident Greta Lenetska Furst, L.A. Free Clinic auxiliary volunteer co-founder, died June 1 at the age of 73. Furst was honored Dec. 6, 2004, at the organization’s 28th annual dinner gala at the Regent Beverly Wilshire Hotel, where a full house of friends, associates and family were proud to see her honored for the three decades of unselfish service and devotion she has given to the organization.

“It is very personally rewarding to assist in raising funds that provide free medical services to those in need,” Furst said.

Greta was born and raised in New York, and moved to Beverly Hills in February 1957 as the new bride of Lionel Furst. Prior to her marriage, she traveled around the world delighting audiences with her vocal medleys. In 1999, she gave the community a small glimpse of her special talent when she presented a one-woman show featuring a collection of her favorite songs.

Since moving to Beverly Hills, she became active in the community and served on Beverly Hills Traffic and Parking Commission, was president of El Rodeo PTA, and served on the boards of Beverly Hills CPR, Los Angeles County West Mosquito Abatement District and Advisory Committee for Access Services. For 21 years she was on the board of the Los Angeles Free Clinic, continued on the Friends board and founded the New Friends of the Clinic and the clinic’s Auxiliary Group. She was recipient of the clinic’s Lenny Somberg Award in 2004 and was United Way Agency Volunteer of the Year in 1999.

Greta’s example of unconditional love and service toward those in need remains the most precious gift she has shared with our community.

She is survived by her husband, Lionel; daughter, Valeri (Ron Wauschek); son, Larry (Nu Usaha); and granddaughters, Emma and Kate Wauschek.

In lieu of flowers, please send donations to the L.A. Free Clinic Greta Furst Fund, 8405 Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90048.

BETTY ABRAMS died May 13 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Lenore Sherman; eight grandchildren; and 14 great-grandchildren. Groman

Blanche Abramson died May 16 at 95. She is survived by her niece, Sue Rothstein; nephew, Rick Rothstein; and great-niece, Gina Oken. Mount Sinai

BlanChe Ashe died May 9 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Karen Einstein. Chevra Kadisha

NEIL ALLEN AUERBACH died May 18 at 59. He is survived by his sister, Janet Lapins. Groman

Bouena Avlas died May 14 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Dora (Solomon) Soulema; sons, Sam and Morris; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

LAWRENCE BARSKY died May 12 at 84. He is survived by his son, Richard David; daughter, Marcia Spiess; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

ALICE BAY died May 9 at 98. She is survived by her sisters, Eve Rosove and Rachelle Elex; brother, Sheldon (Babs); brother, Harry; sisters-in-law, Phyllis and Rita; and 12 nephews and nieces. Hillside

ROBERTA BENNETT died May 15 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Mark; son, Lance David; daughter, Deborah Ann; and one grandchild. Groman

Debra Branker-Ward died May 9 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy (Stephen) Weled; son, Gary (Suzee) Branker; four grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

EVA BRONNER died May 17 at 93. She is survived by her husband, James; son, Dr. Philip; and two grandchildren. Groman

JACK MONROE CAINE died May 15 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Joann; sons, Daniel Port and Robert; daughters, Beth McCain, Julie Hohn and Cary Port; and 10 grandchildren. Hillside

SELMA CHERRY died May 9 at 86. She is survived by her son, Sam; daughter, Paula (Jeff) Proctor; and two grandchildren. Hillside

Murray Cohen died May 9 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; daughters, Marilyn Zussman and Carole (Robert); three grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sisters, Ethel and Beatrice Levy. Mount Sinai

Bernice Coleman died May 11 at 82. She is survived by her son, Ira; daughter, Nancy; and grandchildren, Ben and Sarah. Mount Sinai

Harriet Crane died May 17 at 86. She is survived by her son, Donald Glass. Malinow and Silverman

SAADA DAHAN died May 17 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Jacques, David and Maurice; daughters, Nadine Kaufman, Fortune Elgrably, Anne Crosner and Natalie Selzer; 23 grandchildren; and 16 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Hannah Davis died May 12 at 93. She is survived by her sister, Marjorie (Les) Forman; stepson, Richard (Carol Brewer); and brothers, Edward (Bess) and Sherman (Harriet) Sperling. Mount Sinai

ANNA EISENBERG died May 9 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Marilyn Mandel; and granddaughter, Olivia Mandel. Hillside.

Sarah Fefferman died May 10 at 93. She is survived by her nieces, Julie Freitas and Susan (Charles Alexander); and nephew, Dan (Susan). Mount Sinai

MARVIN FREEDMAN died May 11 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Pauline; and Cheryl Lyons. Chevra Kadisha

NORMAN GENISLOW died May 15 at 55. He is survived by his parents, Seymour and Selma; brother, Howard; and sister, Jeni Deloff. Groman

PAULINE ROTH GEST died May 11 at 92. She is survived by her son, Jonathan; and niece, Marsha Wilson. Hillside

MARJORIE GILBERT died May 10 at 92. She is survived by her nephews, Fred (Marcia) Fink and George King; great-nieces, Gail (Tony) Greer and Cheryl (Cameron) Edwards. Mount Sinai

ANNE GLASER died May 11 at 90. She is survived by her four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Betty Greenfield died May 12 at 98. She is survived by her sons, Robert and Leonard; four grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; brother, Irving Myers; and sisters, Jean Myers and Aida Glick. Groman

Ernst Hancz died May 18 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Estu; daughter, Terry Weissman; sons, Danny and Fred; seven grandchildren; and one great-grandchild.

Sandra Herzberg died May 14 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Bernyce Green. Malinow and Silverman

Irving Hoffman died May 16 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughters, Ellen (Ken) Grossbart and Beth; three grandsons; great-grandson, Brady Solomon; and sister, Anna Reiss. Mount Sinai

SIDNEY HURWITZ died May 14 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Carmen; and brother, Melvin. Groman

ALLYN JACOBS died May 10 at 51. He is survived by his wife, Ana; son, Burt; and father, Burt. Hillside

Lilly Kahan died May 10 at 79. She is survived by her sons, Ken (Roneet), Dennis (Diane) and Stanley (Sandi); nine grandchildren; brother, Frank Oehlbaum; and sister, Ella (Joseph) Brandt. Mount Sinai

Miriam Rae Kales died May 10 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra (Morris) Alpert; grandchildren, Kevin Alpert and Karile (David) DiNardo; great-grandchild, Payton Grivin DiNardo; and sister, Mildred Weiner. Mount Sinai

JACK KAMEN died May 13 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; sons, Robert, Richard and Roy; daughter, Carol Ann; three grandchildren; brother, Seymour; and sister, Lilly Milner. Groman

SHARON KAMINS died May 16 at 82. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Brown. Hillside

Greta Furst,

L.A. Free Clinic Auxiliary Co-Founder,

Dies at 73

Longtime Beverly Hills resident Greta Lenetska Furst, L.A. Free Clinic auxiliary volunteer co-founder, died June 1 at the age of 73. Furst was honored Dec. 6, 2004, at the organization’s 28th annual dinner gala at the Regent Beverly Wilshire Hotel, where a full house of friends, associates and family were proud to see her honored for the three decades of unselfish service and devotion she has given to the organization.

“It is very personally rewarding to assist in raising funds that provide free medical services to those in need,” Furst said.

Greta was born and raised in New York, and moved to Beverly Hills in February 1957 as the new bride of Lionel Furst. Prior to her marriage, she traveled around the world delighting audiences with her vocal medleys. In 1999, she gave the community a small glimpse of her special talent when she presented a one-woman show featuring a collection of her favorite songs.

Since moving to Beverly Hills, she became active in the community and served on Beverly Hills Traffic and Parking Commission, was president of El Rodeo PTA, and served on the boards of Beverly Hills CPR, Los Angeles County West Mosquito Abatement District and Advisory Committee for Access Services. For 21 years she was on the board of the Los Angeles Free Clinic, continued on the Friends board and founded the New Friends of the Clinic and the clinic’s Auxiliary Group. She was recipient of the clinic’s Lenny Somberg Award in 2004 and was United Way Agency Volunteer of the Year in 1999.

Greta’s example of unconditional love and service toward those in need remains the most precious gift she has shared with our community.

She is survived by her husband, Lionel; daughter, Valeri (Ron Wauschek); son, Larry (Nu Usaha); and granddaughters, Emma and Kate Wauschek.

In lieu of flowers, please send donations to the L.A. Free Clinic Greta Furst Fund, 8405 Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90048.

Evelyn Kassel died May 10 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Steven and George; daughter, Marlene Josephs; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Jerry Schectman. Groman

BETTY KATZ died May 17 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra (Selwyn) Ginsburg; and grandsons, Gregg and Scott. Hillside

SALLY KATZ died May 16 at 96. She is survived by her sons, Joel and Burt Stonefield; and nine grandchildren. Groman

WILLIAM FRANCIS KATZKY died May 10 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Anne; stepson, Robert Levin; stepdaughter, Judith Brandon; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

MANLEY KAUFMAN died May 15 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Sara; sons, Dr. Craig and Rod; five grandchildren; and sister, Emma Goldstein. Groman

Aleck Knell died May 14 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Lena; sons, Bill (Joyce) and Robert (Jacqueline); daughter-in-law, Roslyn; nine grandchildren; 15 great-grandchildren; brother, David Knell; and sister, Gladys Shapiro. Mount Sinai

ROWBEN KOHANBASH died April 27 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Maryam Rambod; son, Amin; and daughter, Shoshana. Chevra Kadisha

AMY KRONE died May 9 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Martin and Gary; daughter, Elaina (Bob) Mills; four grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; brothers, Stanley and Leroy (Betty) Goldberg; and sister, Sandra Goldberg. Chevra Kadisha

SALLIE SHAFT LAKE died May 13 at 87. She is survived by her son, Robert; and daughter, Barbara Schemm. Groman

Debra Ann Lebenbom died May 12 at 46. She is survived by her parents, Milton and Marjorie; brother, Stuart; and nieces and nephews. Sholom Chapels

Eugene Loopesko died May 9 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Lila; and daughter, Mara Madieros. Malinow and Silverman

ZELDA LOUISON died May 12 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Murray; son, Raymond; and daughter, Stephanie. Groman

ANN MAKLER died May 18 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Rochelle; two grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Mollie. Hillside

Richard Miller died May 16 at 55. He is survived by his mother, Corrine. Chevra Kadisha

MAUREEN MINGAIL died May 7 at 77. She is survived by her nieces, Julie and Susan; and nephews, Steve and Eli. Chevra Kadisha

DORA MITCHNICK died May 16 at 93. She is survived by her sons, Arnold and Les; and three grandchildren. Groman

MURRAY EDWARD MOSS died May 11 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Denise; sons, Randy (Lori) and Craig (Heidi); daughters, Wendy (Joey) Klein and Jody (Barry) Soosman; stepchildren, Michelle and Mark; seven grandchildren; sisters, Ann (Bob) Fry and Nancy (Dr. Bob) Podosin; former wife, Jacqueline; and friends, Milt, Arnie, Vinnie and Spiro. Hillside

Roslyn Hilda Moss died May 9 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Gayle (Charles) Rosenberg; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

SOPHIE OENSTEIN died May 9 at 88. She is survived by her husband, William; sons, Paul and Steven; five grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Arnold Eisenberg. Hillside

Anna Perez died May 15 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Sarah Kasman; sons, Avi (Wanda) and Ethan (LiYan); four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Sam (Jeanette) Block. Mount Sinai

Stella Pierce died May 8. She is survived by her children, Leslie Sipos and Susan (George) Sickman; five grandchildren; and great-granddaughter, Leah Sickman. Mount Sinai

Samuel Plevin died May 18 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Lois; daughters, Cheryl Gallon, Francine (Jeffrey Lewis), Danielle (David) Statland and Gloria; four grandchildren; brother, Leon (Gloria); and sister, Marilyn. Mount Sinai

Betty Lois Raykoff died May 14 at 82. She is survived by her daughters, Tina (Jeremy) Oderkirk and Marnell; sons, Robert (Laurie) and Howard (Judy); five grandchildren; and brother, Sidney (Winifred) Reed. Malinow and Silverman

Diana Gloria Reed died May 12 at 63. She is survived by her son, Paul Miller; daughters, Mona Asher, Lori Densing and Heahter Spiro; 12 grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sister, Geraldine Meyers. Groman

George Roane died May 9 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Sally; daughter, Sosha (Calm) Rosen; sons, Malcolm (Debi) and Ken (Carol); six grandchildren; and brother, Herbie Cohen. Mount Sinai

Julie Rogoff died May 8 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Carol Hallstrom; and son, Richard (Christine). Malinow and Silverman

Eleanor Rose died May 16 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Harold; sons, Alex (Kristi) and Bruce (Rosemary); daughter, Stephnie; three grandchildren; brother, Jack Goldstyn. Mount Sinai

Mae rosen died May 12 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Dale (Bob) Nater and Jackie (Ron) Clark; six grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; brother, Max Feldstein; and sister, Beatrice Elkind. Sholom Chapels

Morris Rosenblatt died May 12 at 93. He is survived by his daughter, Harriet (Michael) Stepner. Malinow and Silverman

Ralph Rosenstock died May 15 at 102. He is survived by his sons, Jerry and Donald (Bonnie); eight grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Sachs died May 11 at 87. She is survived by her son, Marshall (Janice) Sachs; daughter, Carole (David) Rubinger; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

DOROTHY SCHULMAN died May 14 at 92. She is survived by her son, Gilbert; daughter, Ronny Schwimmer; eight grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Groman

Richard Schulman died May 12 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Jeanne; nephews, Jeffrey (Barbara) Robsenbaum and Randy (Debbie) Gallant; niece, Jillian (Rame) Barrett. Mount Sinai

MOLLIE SEDACCA died May 18 at 84. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Dr. Robert; daughter, Helene (Robert) Dolan; and two grandchildren. Groman

IRVING LOUIS SEIFF died May 16 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Molly; daughter, Sara; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, Leonard; and sister, Judy Karpe. Hillside

Harold Senter died May 16 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Marlene (Walt) Zaslove; son, Arnold (Linda); three grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and brothers, Stoney (Ellie) and Louis (Betty). Mount Sinai

Albert Simons died May 9 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; daughters, Patricia (Wayne) Allen, Danielle Bercel and Jan; four grandchildren; and brother, Jesse. Mount Sinai

ADELE SINGER died May 13 at 103. She is survived by her daughter, Elaine Blossom (Irving) Woolf; five grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Marjorie Singerman died May 10 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Millard; sons, Jonathan, Richard (Laurie) and Ron (Iryna); five grandchildren; and sister, Riza (Sy) Rosenthal. Mount Sinai

Harry Snyder died May 18 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Bernice; sons, Ira (Lucy) and Jeffrey (Christine); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MILDRED SPRITZ died May 16 at 92. She is survived by her cousins, Dorothy and Mark Levine. Chevra Kadisha

Dorothy Sriro died May 12 at 93. She is survived by her sons, Harold (Kande) and Gary (Elly); two grandchildren; sister, Ida Blum; and brother, Ben (Jane) Rosen. Mount Sinai

Lillian Stern died May 11 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Maxine (Seth) Marcus and Shelley (Brian) Ferris; sons, Kenneth (Jacqueline) and Jack; and 10 grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Jeffrey Lee Swartz died May 10 at 42. He is survived by his wife, Julie; daughters, Maya and Rebecca; mother, Eunice; father, Louis (Joan); brothers, Jeremy and Jonathan; and mother-in-law, Cele Schoenbrun. Mount Sinai

Leon Tolley died May 17 at 85. He is survived by his daughter, Joy (Bernie) Sullivan; son, Gary (Corky); three grandchildren; and sister, Ida Sugarman. Mount Sinai

JANET TROMBKA died April 30 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Fred and Mark (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (John) Williams; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Chevra Kadisha

GERTRUDE UDOFF died May 17 at 86. She is survived by her sons, Martin (Judy) and Barry; daughter, Julianna Brandes; four grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sisters, Elaine Haidt and Bunny Rosenberg. Groman

RICHARD LESLIE ULMER died May 9 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Dalia; and son, James Randall. Chevra Kadisha

Clara Viola died May 10 at 86. She is survived by her son, Ronald; daughter, Judy Bandy; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Dr. Tom Wallach died May 13 at 54. He is survived by his wife, Deborah; daughters, Brittany and Jacqueline; mother, Maggie; brother, Michael; and father-in-law, Charles Royce. Malinow and Silverman

Madelynne Wasserman died May 16 at 98. She is survived by her son, Roger (Julie); grandchildren, Jeffrey (Jennifer) and Amy; and great-grandchildren, Trevor and Abby. Mount Sinai

Cathrine Weiner died May 18 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Thomas (Epi) and Gary; granddaughter, Samantha; and sister, Nellie (David) Gola. Mount Sinai

Beverly Elaine Wexler died May 18 at 75. She is survived by her daughters, Jill (Tracy) Lavarnway and Jodi (Stuart) Silverstein; three grandchildren; and sister, Enid (Marty) Meltzner. Mount Sinai

Ruth Zugsmith died May 16 at 94. She is survived by her son, Mike (Rachel); daughter, Suzan Smith; seven grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries


Constantin Andronescu died April 26 at 61. He is survived by his daughters, Liana and Nicole. Sholom Chapels

LILLIAN DIANE ASHER died May 3 at 92. She is survived by her son, Howard; daughter, Roberta Isaacson; four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Groman

BRENDA BAGG died April 27 at 51. She is survived by her husband, Gerald; son, Andrew; daughter, Allison; parents, Denise and Alfred Kahn; sister, Janice Elsden; and brother, Lawrence Kahn. Hillside

Dena Bierman died May 2 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Mary Webster; four grandchildren; and five great grandchildren. Mount Sinai

BERNARD BILSON died April 26 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Jane (Donald); four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

DAVID HARRY BLEVISS died May 3 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Michael; daughter, Carmi; and brothers, Zeyming and William. Hillside

FRANCES RUTH BREITNER died May 1 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Michael; daughters, Leslie Solomon, Penny Dutton and Jill; and seven grandchildren. Hillside.

Anne Breitowich died May 3 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Vicki Gladstone. Malinow and Silverman

CHAYA BURNSTEIN died April 25 at 81. She is survived by her husband, Alex; and daughters, Penny and Vivian. Hillside

JACQUELINE CARLISH died May 3 at 59. She is survived by her husband, Ronald; daughters, Joelle Jarvis, Marla (Michael) Zack, Jennifer Chavez and Rebecca; 10 grandchildren; brother, Robert (Debbi) Singer; sister-in-law, Connie Chavez, and brother-in-law, Christopher Chavez. Hillside

AILEEN EARLE died May 1 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Stephen; and sons, Michael and Andy. Hillside

Ruth Einhorn died May 2 at 81. She is survived by her nephew, Norman. Chevra Kadisha

MILDRED FINER died May 2 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Eli; and sisters, Sara Maron and Marion Marcieb. Groman

Beverly Freeman died May 2 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Marc and Arnold; sisters, Lillian (Meyer) Ackerman and Dorothy Levitt; and companion, Mel Ross. Mount Sinai

JENNIE GLICKSMAN died May 2 at 101. She is survived by her son, Dr. Kenneth Fox; daughter, Toby Shatanoff; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

HARRY GOLDSTEIN died May 3 at 81. He is survived by his daughters, Cynthia and Deborah. Adat Shalom Memorial Park

RITA HORNWOOD died April 26 at 93. She is survived by her son, Rick; daughter-in-law, Roberta; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

BEATRICE JAKOWSKY died April 29 at 91. She is survived by her brother, Jerry Massler; niece, Joan Hooper; and grandnephew, Rory Hooper. Hillside

Sylvia Mashman died May 2 at 92. She is survived by her sons, Edward (Carolyn) and Melvin (Deirdre Harrington); daughter, Sandra (Daniel) Davisson; grandchildren, Jeffrey Jacobs and Julie (Oleg) Bozhor; great-granddaughter, Milena Bozhor; and brothers, Frank and David (Sonia) Golad. Mount Sinai

LEAH MEDNICK died April 24 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Betty, Estelle, Barbara and Wendy; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

ELLIS DAN MILSTEIN died April 29 at 48. He is survived by his parents, Howard and Mildred; and sister, Sherry. Hillside

PATRICIA KAHAN MIRISCH died April 30 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Walter; sons, Andrew and Lawrence; daughter, Anne (Steven Sonnenberg); and two grandchildren. Hillside

Bertha Nadel died May 1 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Jeff and Norman; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

SHIRLEY FRANCES PERKISS died May 2 at 83. She is survived by her son, David (Rose); daughter, Laurel; and one grandchild. Hillside

Toula Pessah died May 2 at 69. She is survived by her husband, Morris; daughter, Elvira (Brad) Cabelli; son, Elliot; and brother, Moses Albalas. Malinow and Silverman

Doris Preston died May 2 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Leslie and Monty (Polly); and grandson, Darren. Mount Sinai

THEA SCHUBER died April 24 at 82. She is survived by her son, Larry Levin; daughter, Miriam (Steven) Watenmaker; five grandchildren; and brother, Harry (Sena) Rothschild. Hillside

PHYLLIS SHAMBERG died April 24 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Doug; sons, William (Susan) Graysen and Bob (Kathy); daughters, Beth Devermont, Joni Hayes, Peggy (John) Pettis and Gail; 11 grandchildren; five nieces and nephews; and five great-nieces and great-nephews. Hillside

Molly Shugerman died May 1 at 80. She is survived by her sons, Stephen (Julia) and Ken; daughter, Nancy (George) Rubens; and seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MURIEL SIEGAL died April 29 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Zola; son, Michael; two grandchildren; and brother, William Novick. Hillside

Sara Spitzer died May 2 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Loreen (Dr Sheldon) Haas and Barbara (Marshall) Hacker; six grandchildren; 10 great- grandchildren; two stepgreat-grandchildren; brother, Maury Engle; and sisters-in-law, Florence and Dorothea Spitzer. Mount Sinai

Charles Wade died May 2 at 81. He is survived by his nephews, Murray (Terri) Auerbach and Mitchell; and nieces, Salley (Daniel) Stein and Bonnie Auerbach. Mount Sinai

Alice Zukin died May 1 at 79. She is survived by her son, Kenneth Schorr; daughters, Candise (Michael) Kovacevich and Robin (Michael) Chibnik; nine grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Herbert (Shirley) Sanders. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries


 

SOUSAN AKHAVAN died April 29 at 46. She is survived by her husband, Shahram. Chevra Kadisha

HANOUGH AIENEHSAZAN died May 1 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Sara; and son, Sharyar Aynesazan. Chevra Kadisha

Mark Becker died April 25 at 51. He is survived by his mother, Helen; niece, Sandra (Darrel) Mickens; cousin, Roland Rozen; and friend, Blaze Kisler. Mount Sinai

ROSA BERGER died April 23 at 91. She is survived by her husband, Uri; daughters, Sara Berger and Batya Ref; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

ILENE ROSE BJORLING died May 1 at 54. She is survived by her parents, Charles and Annie Rich; sister, Nancy Houbrick; and brother, Gary Rich. Groman

Dorothy Bliss died May 1 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Larry, David (Marie) and Richard (Dayna); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

SHEINDEL BOBROW-POTASHNIK died April 29 at 93. She is survived by her son, Shlomo Bobrow; three grandchildren; and sisters, Bracha Rosenberg and Sara Klinger. Groman

Evelyn Cohn died April 29 at 92. She is survived by her daughters, Arlene (Frank) Nathan, Susan (Robert) Shepard, Sheila Kasindorf and Carol (Howard) Shankman; son, Michael (Sandy); 11 grandchildren; and many great-grandsons. Malinow and Silverman

Bernard Dovbish died April 24 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Eileen; daughter, Teveya; sister, Dorothy (Joseph) Siegel; and brother, Alfred (Diana). Mount Sinai

Dr. Irving Farsht died May 1 at 95. He is survived by his daughter, Grace (Ronald) Koretz; six grandchildren; great-grandchildren, Molly and Duke; and sisters, Marcia Miller and Charlotte Shapiro. Mount Sinai

Leona Friedman died April 27 at 93. She is survived by her cousin, Barry Freeman. Malinow and Silverman

Edgar Friedman died April 29 at 92. He is survived by his daughters, Shelley (Ramiro) Boyer, Elaine (Joseph) Lieber and Diana (Bill) Woodruff; five grandchildren; and sisters, Vera (Aggie) Margolis and Dorothy Schulker. Mount Sinai

GORDON PAUL GITLEN died May 3 at 52. He is survived by his mother, Edith Fiel; father, Howard; brother, Scott; nephew, Jonathan; and many friends. Hillside

Harold Glazier died April 27 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice; and son, Bill (Laura). Mount Sinai

Gertrude Gleekel died April 25 at 98. She is survived by her daughter, Susan. Malinow and Silverman

MIRIAM GOLDFABER died April 24 at 83. She is survived by her brother, Lawrence. Groman

Judith Ann Harris died April 25 at 62. Malinow and Silverman

EVELYNE KALB died April 24 at 78. She is survived by her son, Victor Luster; daughter, Elizabeth Clark; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brothers, Nathan and Daniel Gross; and sister, Rhoda Tarrash. Groman

LEATRICE SHANDOBIL JACOBS died April 30 at 80. She is survived by her sons, Steve and Randyl; daughters, Amy Schiff and Jill Boldyc; four grandchildren; and brother, Martin Grant. Groman

Lee Karp died April 23 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Irving; daughter, Davida; son, Orrin; grandsons, Sumner and Lyndon; and sister, Rose Gersten. Mount Sinai

JOSEPH KREMER died April 24 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Edith; daughters, Margie and Harriet Bilford; four grandchildren; and sisters, Lillian Scherman and Margaret Friedman. Groman

ADELINE IMBER died April 24 at 92. She is survived by her son, Paul (Gail) Sussman; five grandchildren; and nine great grandchildren.

Arthur Lederman died April 28 at 64. He is survived by his sister, Barbara (Alan) Dickson; and niece, Karen Kafka. Mount Sinai

RUTH LITT died April 26 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Barry, Mitchell and Richard; daughter, Penelope Saltsburg; seven grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; brother, Irvin Sobel; and sister, Harriet Roth. Groman

Seymour Middleberg died April 25 at 80. He is survived by his daughter, Gail Binda; and niece, Rene Fedyna.

ALVIN NEWMAN died April 24 at 86. He is survived by his sons, Philip (Sue), Barry (Carol); 11 grandchildren; and 16 great-grandchildren. Hillside

ROBERT NOVICK died April 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Roberta; son, Michael; daughters, Lisa Blons and Nancy Fox; six grandchildren; and brother, Donald. Groman

BEZALEL NUTOVITS died April 29 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Cipora; and daughter, Devora. Chevra Kadisha

Edna Kay Oschin died April 26 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Helaine (Rudy) Melnitzer; two grandchildren; and sister, Rose Rogovy. Malinow and Silverman

MARTIN PEPPER died April 23 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Mollie; sons, Alan (Tobie) and Andrew (Linda); three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Darryl Martin Pine died May 1 at 55. He is survived by his wife, Vivian; mother, Marion; and sister, Pamela (Richard Scott). Mount Sinai

Eileen Porter died April 25 at 70. She is survived by her husband, George; daughters, Lisa Kaulen and Denise Powell; and son, Marc (Lori) Powell. Malinow and Silverman

Maj. Alvin Radiloff died April 25 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; son, Steven (Milla); daughter, Nancy (Daniele) Capisani; four grandchildren; and brother, Harold (Berta). Mount Sinai

George Rhodes died April 24 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Doris; daughter, Lisa (Russell) Hayter; son, Jon (Gabriela); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Michael Rogers died April 25 at 55. He is survived by his mother, Marjorie; brother, Marshall (Jackie); sisters, Michelle Wilson and Mia Vanetek; and girlfriend, Annetta La Bonte. Mount Sinai

Leonard Rood died April 26 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Frema; son, Steven (Marcia Falk); daughter, Suzan (Mark Wilson); grandsons, Abraham Falk-Rood and Henry Rood Wilson; and sister, Bernice (Joseph) Kelley. Mount Sinai

WILLIAM SAMUEL ROZAY died May 1 at 93. He is survived by his son, Sam. Groman

STANLEY SCHNEIDER died April 29 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Faye; son, Bob; daughter, Wendy (Bruce) Compton; one grandchild; and brother, Marvin. Groman

Martin Schonfeld died April 30 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Eva; and sister, Helen (Harold) Lang. Mount Sinai

ESTHER SILVER died April 24 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Mort; son, Marvin; daughter, Betty Garren; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Stanley Arthur Socol died April 23 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughters, Sharon (Donald) Bergh and Phyllis (David) Minor; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

BARBARA SPEAR died April 26 at 89. She is survived by her nephew, Dr. Allan Abrams. Groman

Wendy Tazartes died April 25 at 43. She is survived by her husband, Fred; son, Sam; daughter, Rebekah; parents, Harvey and Rachel Sandman; and sister, Alyce Kinkin. Mount Sinai

Seymour Tenney died April 22 at 64. He is survived by his wife, Francine; daughter, Susan Beauvais; son, Jason (Erin); and granddaughter, Alexis. Mount Sinai

Judith Henrietta Tlusty died April 27 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Alice (Leonard) Maltin; son, Ted (Janice) Taylor; three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and brother, Paul (Vivian) Merker. Mount Sinai

Bebe Trabish died April 26 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Nancy (Richard) Marks and Emily (Larry Hoffman); sons, Herman (Teri) and Drew (Jan); three grandchildren; brother, Bill (Rose) Kaplan; nephew Darrell (Gail); and grand-niece, Jackie. Mount Sinai

JANET WEINBERG died April 30 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Fred and Mark (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (John) Willams; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Chevra Kadisha

Dinah Weiner died April 24 at 94. She is survived by her son, Jay. Malinow and Silverman

SOPHIE WEINSTEIN died April 13 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Leon; and daughter, Natalie Gold. Chevra Kadisha

Geraldine Weissman died April 22 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Dean (Karen) and Glen (Dawn); and granddaughter, Holly. Mount Sinai

Ernest Sumner Wolfe died April 30 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughter, Karen (Dan) Rosenfeld; son, Gary (Stacey); and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Marion Wygand died April 25 at 80. She is survived by her daughters, Roma (Warren) Levy and Lee; grandchildren, David and Laura Levy; and sister, Elaine Shebby. Mount Sinai

 

Hail to the Seder Chief


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I can just imagine my Orthodox grandparents worrying about making the seder come alive for their grandchildren. Grandma was too busy de-feathering chickens and grandpa taking care of business in his violin shop to think about how we might be kept happy at their seder table. Entertainment and seder would never have been uttered in the same sentence in their Bronx home behind the H. Bass Music store.

But I am different. I have the time and the energy to make our seder a swirling, interactive event for my four grandchildren. Why, they can even dip their little feet into my cellophane Red Sea as it parts on my living room floor.

And, to top it off, I am the maven of plague bags. When the kids were very little, the bags were little. The first years they were small, white paper bags with simple black lettering. Simple items went into them: frogs that I had made out of green paper, 99 Cent Store kid’s sunglasses for darkness, wrapping bubbles that popped like boils and small plastic cups colored with red markers to signify the blood.

No grandchild would ever sit tired and glassy eyed just waiting and praying for the meal. We would go through the entire hagaddah, but with enough diversions to allow them to stay ‘with us’ without having a grand melt down before the first course.

In 2003, I went big time. I bought small canvas bags for 99 cents each but then had them machine embroidered by my dressmaker friend Liz. Each child’s name was written in a different font and color. She attached ribbon fringe with multicolored beads to the bags. Creativity and hopes of keeping their attention and in the process teaching them the significance of the seder meal was my goal. And now, my friends were getting involved as well.

Last year, we had our bags, we had our green gummy frogs, we had our boils and our blood. When it came to talk about darkness, I turned out all the lights and each person at the table talked about what darkness meant to them. The kids said bedtime and a few of the adults joked about sex.

But everything seems to pale in comparison to my hail. Now, you have to understand that the previous years’ hail was quite adequate. Small rolled up pieces of silver foil did the trick and could be playfully tossed around the table. But, a few weeks before Passover, I had read in The New York Times about a grandfather (surely he did not own a violin-making store) who also tries to engage his young grandchildren at seder time. During the day, the article said, this man secretly and gently places minimarshmallows on top of the blades of his wooden ceiling fan. My eyes lit up. This would be a real crowd pleaser. When the fan was turned on, the little white pseudo-hail would fly around the room, just like the real thing as all would watch, wide-eyed.

I had a ceiling fan. I would buy the tiny puffs and we too would have our authentic San Fernando Valley hail. Surely the kids and the grown-ups would stand in awe of this my most fabulous creation to date.

Everyone followed me from the table as we marched to my computer room where the fan was silently waiting with its marshmallow topping. One of the kids turned on the fan and as predicted, the tiny white confections started flying. Up, down and on the ground. I waited, if not for deafening applause, at least oohs and ahs from my adoring fans.

Here is what really happened. They looked; some may have even thought, “Wow, that was great!” At least I hoped they did. But no one said much and if they did, it was lost in the shuffling of feet as they scurried back to the seder table.

The marshmallows. I was too tired to even think of cleaning them up that night or even asking for help. We did get a few up, but that was because they had stuck to the bottom of shoes and kept sticking us down as we walked.

The marshmallows a week later? Many still remained where the fan had dutifully blown them the night of our seder. Many more hardened where they lay but I learned to walk gingerly among them. As the days melted into weeks, they began to harden. A friend said, “If you leave them on the floor long enough, next year they will really feel like hail.” She was on to something. My ever creative mind clicked in and I answered:

“Yes, and the kids could wear woolen hats and mufflers and maybe even ski clothing.”

When I started to think about erecting a miniature ski lift next to the pool, I knew, that even for me, that would be going over the edge.

Maybe my grandparents back in the Bronx had the right idea after all.

Barbara Joan Grubman is a retired speech specialist and author of “Introduction to terrariums: A step-by-step guide” (Nash Pub, 1972) She lives in Woodland Hills.

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Grampa’s Advice: Pass on ‘First-Tell’


It took me six years of being a grandfather to accept the fact that my grandchildren may not be more brilliant or athletic than everyone else’s.

Here’s how I realized it. There’s this thing between grandparents I like to call “first-tell.” Say you meet your friend, another grandparent, and are the first to tell some amazing stories about your grandchildren; if he or she responds by telling you stories that make their grandchildren out to be as talented or more-so than yours, you have every right to assume the grandparent you are talking to is lying. And vice versa: they’ll assume you’re lying if they have “first-tell.” Or, in both cases, you could assume, with great difficulty, that your grandchildren are not above and beyond all others.

What impresses us so much about the abilities of our grandchildren? In my case I must admit it was the comparison of them to me. Ross, at age 3, hits a wiffle ball with a plastic bat better than I could hit a softball with a wooden bat at age 12, even though the bat had Joe Dimaggio’s signature on it. And Max, 6, throws a hardball accurately from third base to home plate. I couldn’t do that until I was in summer camp at age 14 — and then not consistently, costing my green team the championship game against the blues in color war.

But in my defense, I didn’t have a grandfather to drive crazy and exhaust with pleas to “catch with me, grampa,” “pitch to me, grampa.”

One grandfather had passed away before I was born, and the other had lost a leg in some war for or against Russia prior to my birth in 1932. My own father was on crutches from polio he acquired at age 3, and while he could throw very well, since I couldn’t, a game of catch meant him throwing, me catching, me throwing and me chasing the errant ball that I threw back.

The only ball I ever threw both strongly and accurately was a snowball I threw at a target, drawn with chalk on the side door of my synagogue, which was the entrance to the Hebrew school in Englewood, N.J. The snowball would have hit the bull’s-eye had not the rabbi opened the door at that instant to call us all in to class. I lived with guilt for many years — not for hitting the rabbi, but for Sammy Wides’ getting blamed for it (although he took it well and enjoyed the celebrity). In that neighborhood, in those times, I would have been looked down on by the “gang” if I stepped forward, hero-like and said, “It wasn’t him, rabbi, it was me.” (I would have been a total outcast if I said “It wasn’t he.”)

It was less than a week ago that I bumped into a friend with his 6-year-old grandson at the park. Ross and Max were wearing their mitts and I was carrying a bag containing 10 wiffle balls and a bat. It is easier pitching 10 balls and then retrieving them all at once rather than pitching and chasing one ball at a time.

My friend quickly jumped in with “first-tell,” — an unnecessary move, since we were about to see exactly what our grandchildren could do.

“You won’t believe how far Amos can hit a ball,” he said.

“Great”, I replied, deciding I would have my satisfaction when he saw how much better Max and Ross could hit and throw a ball.

“Do you want to pitch?” I offered. He did. I became the catcher.

We all agreed that each child would have five swings, and the other two would play the field. We also agreed that Ross would be the first batter, then Amos and finally Max, who didn’t mind being last when I told him he would be batting “clean up” — a spot usually reserved for the best batter on the team. Max and Ross knew the lingo because they went to many Dodgers games and watched even more on TV. Ross hit two of his five pitches beautifully and although my friend was properly impressed he mouthed, “Wait till you see Amos.”

Amos got up and hit five balls very well, but no better or worse than Max did. Did my friend see what I saw?

Our grandkids are great — but not any greater than each other. I wonder, though, if he was more disappointed than me. He’d bragged about Amos, and I didn’t brag about Max. We both had to learn that our grandsons are special; not because they can throw well or run fast or bat hard, but because they are ours.

Hopefully, Amos’ grandfather will also learn that sometimes it’s good to pass up “first-tell.”

Obituaries


PERLA ABITTAN died Aug. 3 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Emile; son, Arie; daughter, Rica (Yizhaz) Elbaz; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Max Barbach died Aug. 1 at 98. He is survived by his sons, Ron (Sharlene) Barback and Harry (Eleanor); daughter, Sandra; grandson, Robert (Nancy) Barback; granddaughter, Vicki Pierce; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Jared Berman died Aug. 5 at 36. He is survived by his mother, Sonia; brother, Steve (Gabi); uncle, Dr. Maurice Rapport; and nephews, Daniel and Jimmy. Mount Sinai

Herman Brotman died Aug. 2 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Stuart; daughter, Eve Zanni; one grandchild; brother, Benjamin; and sister, Sarah Pizzi. Groman

Alice Cohen died Aug. 5 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Edward; sons, Bruce (Regina) and Robert (Vicki Corbin); daughter, Jacki (Jimi) Freeman; four grandchildren; brother, Herbert (Ruth) Copelan; sister, Jeanette Greenwald; and sister-in-law, Shirley.

Stephen Coopersmith died Aug. 4 at 63 He is survived by his wife, Madelyne. Mount Sinai

BARRY CORCHNOY died Aug. 3 at 60. He is survived by his father, Morris; and sisters, Marcia Fazekas and Barbara Styles. Groman

Perry Dean died Aug. 6 at 58. He is survived by his wife, Marsha; daughter, Alison; brother, Stuart (Debra) Schrift; three nieces; one nephew; and cousins, Diane Lichenstein, Victoria Glassman and Shelley Winters. Mount Sinai

Samuel Dubell died Aug. 4 at 86. He is survived by his sister, Rita Rosenfeld; nephew, Malcolm Rosenfeld-Danare; niece, Lynne (Brad) Hoffman; and grandnephews, Brandon and Matthew. Mount Sinai

KHATOUN EBRAMI died Aug. 4 at 93. She is survived by her son, Jamshid; daughters, Mahin and Samin; two grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

PRINCESS SHIRMA GERBER died Aug. 3 at 77. She is survived by her sons, Gary (Kerry) and Zalman (Miriam); daughters, Denise (Stuart Perlman), Beverly (Daniel Wells), Simcha (Ronnie Fine), Tobi and Chava; 31 grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Maria Gittelson died July 31 at 91. Hillside

Ruth Goldstein died Aug. 2 at 85. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughters, Andrea Robinson and Nanci Edwards; seven grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; sister, Annette Conely; and brothers, Arnold and Gerome Graboys. Hillside

Morris Greitzer died Aug. 1 at 96. He is survived by his son, Steven (Eve); daughter, Harriet (Mel) Belasco; six grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, Simon (Rose). Hillside

Leon Independence Gubin died Aug. 3 at 98. He is survived by his wife, Louise; daughter, Virginia (Harry) Roney and William (Nancy); four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Lillian Harris died Aug. 1. She is survived by her son, Ron (Carol); daughter, Elaine (Robert) Steaffens; seven grandchildren; and four great- grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Dr. Durwood Hersh died Aug. 3 at 87. He is survived by his son, Alan (Janice); daughter, Ruthann (Ken) Bachrach; five grandchildren; and sister, Rosalyn Katz. Hillside

Edith Howard died July 31 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Milton; sister, Sylvia Tussett; brother-in-law, Harold; sister-in-law, Geri; and three nieces. Hillside

Seymour Kagan died Aug. 3 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Elaine; son, Matthew; daughter, Nicole Davis; and sister, Anita Travers. Malinow and Silverman

Jessie Kohn died Aug. 2 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Barry (Will Harrison) and Mel (Wendy); grandchildren, Elisa (Alex) Taub and Gary Kohn; great-grandchildren, Lindsey and Jonathan Taub; brother, Hillis (Miriam) Rittenberg; sisters, Mimi Harris, Tybie Flapan and Gertrude Cousens; and many relatives. Mount Sinai

BARBARA LAYCOOK died Aug. 5 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Thomas; sons, Nathaniel and David. Hillside

Gregoriy Levkov died Aug. 4 at 57. He is survived by his wife,Valentina; sons, Alex and Maxim; daughter, Alla; and brothers, Simon (Paulina) and Yakov (Alla). Mount Sinai

Irving Levy died Aug. 5 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Earl (Linda) and Burton (Jan); stepson, Si Tenenberg; and grandson, Daniel. Mount Sinai

JOSEPH Albert LICHTMAN SR. died Aug. 4 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Caroline; son, Joe Jr. (Bess); daughters, Nancy (Scott) Treggett and Gail (Ed) Margulies; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Charles Mandell died Aug. 2 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Myrtle; daughter, Mimi (Robert) Borden; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Clara Zupnik Mantelman died July 31 at 79. She is survived by her nephew, Dr. Herman Zupnik; niece, Ruth Zupnick; great-nieces, Jennifer and Laua; and great-great-nephew, Shayne Andor. Groman

Bernard Jerome Marcus died Aug. 2 at 76. He is survived by his daughters, Julie (Mark) Shimko and Marilyn (Harvey) Fisher; five grandchildren; and sister, Mildred Stone. Mount Sinai

Harry Markowicz died Aug. 5 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Clara; brother-in-law, Meyer Rofe; and niece, Anna (Larry) Rofe. Mount Sinai

Irma Milman died Aug. 3 at 79. She is survived by her husband, David; sons, Mark (Margo), and Craig (April); four grandchildren; and brother, Donald (Joan) Hodes. Mount Sinai

Harriet Munoz died Aug. 4 at 74. She is survived by her husband, William; sister, Millie Kellner; brother, Irving (Florence) Kroten; and niece, Judith (Craig) Pettigrew. Mount Sinai

Max Musnicki died Aug. 3 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Rita. Mount Sinai

Melba Pearl Nedler died Aug. 6 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Jerry; children, Beth (Chris) Barber, Barrie (Mathew Miller) and Lee; three grandchildren; and sister, Gloria Cohen. Mount Sinai

Mary Nemer died Aug. 3 at 98. She is survived by her daughter, Beverly Karp; 11 grandchildren; 13 great-grandchildren; and three great-great-grandchildren. Groman

Alfred Oberman died Aug. 3 at 81 He is survived by his brother, Philip (Fran); sister, Lilian (Sam) Morris; nieces; nephews; great nieces; and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

ISAAK PODOLSKIY died Aug. 4 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Esfir; and two grandchildren. Groman

FRANCES HILDA RASKIND died Aug. 4 at 96. She is survived by her sons, Harvey and Marshall; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

BETTY KOLKO ROSENFELD died Aug. 1 at 82. She is survived by her son, Sherman. Chevra Kadisha

EVELYN ROTHFELD died Aug. 2 at 88. She is survived by her sister, Renee Nash; and niece, Nancy Deyorle. Groman

Betty Behr Ryback died Aug. 4 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Rabbi Martin; daughters, Anne (Steven) Schmidt and Elizabeth; son, Charles; granddaughters, Samantha and Cassandra; and brother, Walter (Barbara) Behr. Mount Sinai

Lawrence Salk died Aug. 4 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Judith; daughter, Jessica (Ron) Tammarillo; sons, Eric (Liz) and Daniel; mother, Maxine Koolish; and sister, Judy Watson. Mount Sinai

James Singer Sayre died Aug. 2 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Elinor; sons, Steve (Carol) Horvitz and Darron (Marilyn); daughter, Margie Moulton; five grandchildren; and brother, Timmy (Harriet) Singer. Mount Sinai

ALFRED SCHWARTZ died Aug. 4 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Letitia; sons, Ted (Margaret) and Sam; and two grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Deborah Stern died Aug. 3 at 103. She is survived by her daughter, Jean Charney; and granddaughter, Chris Marks. Hillside

Charles Wingis died Aug. 2 at 73. He is survived by sons, Steve (Nancy) and Mike; daughter, Jean; grandson, Brett Bolderman; and brother, Joseph (Peggy) Boda. Mount Sinai

RabBi Alfred Wolf died Aug. 1 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; sons, David and Dan; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Obituaries


Edward Simon Aboud died July 27 at 75. He is survived by his friend, Rose Lee Holman. Groman

Thomas Alon died July 25 at 55. He is survived by his wife, Cheryl; daughters, Rachel and Stephanie; stepdaughter, Claudette (Alan) Ganger; stepson, Jeffrey Hope; two grandchildren; mother, Ann; brother, Gabriel (Jin); stepbrother, Robert (Kati). Mount Sinai

Irene Beck died July 26 at 90. She is survived by her son, Arthur (Marilou); daughter, Samantha; three grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Harvey Cooper died July 27 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Joan (Robert) Burton; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Rana Davoodian died July 28 at 69. She is survived by her son, David Bakhaj; daughters, Florance Bakhadj and Shohreh Vamanvaeeh; and nine grandchildren. Groman

Samuel Doctors died July 29 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; daughter, Sandra Ascher; and son, Harvey. Mount Sinai

Sylvia Gould Fine died July 26 at 92. She is survived by her sons, Jeffrey and Stephen; two grandchildren; brother, Charles Gould; and sisters, Beatrice Levin and Lucille Brochu. Groman

Harold Fink died July 25 at 77. He is survived by his sister, Helen May. Groman

Dr. David William Frantz died July 25 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Rhea; sons, Bob (Nancy) and Howard (Miri); daughter, Sharon (Daniel) Feller; and seven grandchildren. Hillside

George Galanfi died July 31. He is survived by his wife, Anna; son, Gabor; grandsons, Gabor and Bence; sister-in-law, Katrina Leone; and cousin, Marta Magyar. Mount Sinai

Lillian Greengus died July 27 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Sherman; daughters, Marlene Beach and Mindy Rose; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Leona Grud died July 27 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Marcia (Howard) Grey and Lauren Seymour McCollum (Lee); nine grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Rubin Makabi Hamdani died July 30 at 81. He is survived by his son, Behouz. Chevra Kadisha

Irving Hersh died July 25 at 98. He is survived by his daughter, Louise (Herb) Gordon; granddaughters, Shery Frymer and Allyson (Ross ) Pearlman; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Gertrude Honeyman died July 30 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Edward (Mary) and Steven (Helen); five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Bertha Horowitz died July 27 at 85. She is survived by her son, Hal; daughter, Karen Thompson; five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Bettye Horwitz died July 27 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Abbie Ann Brody and Gail Sussman; four grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Hillside

Camille Kart died July 28 at 93. She is survived by her son, Stuart (Sandi); four grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sister-in-law, Juliet Baum. Hillside

Robert Joseph Kaye died July 29 at 86. He is survived by his son, Rick (Tammy); daughters, Charlene (Russ) Kransnoff, Alison (Colleen Wilson) and Julie (Andy) Reo; three grandchildren; uncles, Jack (Estelle) Williams, Ralph (Helen), Eugene and Norman (Mary Quinlan); aunts, Pearl and Eleanore; and many nieces and nephews. Hillside

Marcus Kuczynski died July 26 at 85. He is survived by his son, Leon. Chevra Kadisha

Morvarid Lalehzarzadeh died July 30 at 87. She is survived by her son, Shokrollah Akhavan. Chevra Kadisha

Arthur Libman died July 28 at 78. He is survived by his son, Casil (Miriam). Malinow and Silverman

FErn Libow died July 25 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Julius; son, Brian; daughter, Sher; daughter-in-law, Kat Wellman; and four grandsons. Groman

Beverly Lowe died July 29 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Fred (Karaen DeMott) Lowe and Gregory (Jody); four grandchildren; and sister, Shirley (Don) Miller. Mount Sinai

David Marshall died July 28 at 43. He is survived by his parents, Elaine and Howard. Hillside

Sofya Ostrovskaya died July 26 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Ida (Eugene) Nosovitskaya; and grandsons, Dimitry (Karolina) and Henry Nosovitsky. Mount Sinai

Dave Oziel died July 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Mary; sons, Bob and Daniel; daughter, Lea (Joe) Moche; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Carol Pohja died July 31 at 53. She is survived by her mother, Marvella Grant; father, Richard (Kendall) Altheimer; son, Josh (Christopher Dallman); sisters, Nancy (Leon) Darling and Sherry (Rick) Miller; half-sister, Kimberlin Altheimer; companion, Dan Preciado; and five nieces and nephews. Mount Sinai

Aaron Poznick died July 28 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; daughter, Debbie; and daughter-in-law, Joan. Malinow and Silverman

Ray Richman died July 29 at 91 She is survived by daughters, Lila (Steve) Klausner and Marlene Weinberg; four grandchildren; and great-grandsons, Ethan and Justin Klausner.

Robert Rona died July 27 at 54. He is survived by his wife, Rebecca; son, Daniel; daughters, Allison (Nick Stevens) and Jessica; mother, Barbara; brother, Jeff; and sister, Shoshana. Hillside

Henry Rosenthal died July 25 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Arlette. Malinow and Silverman

Arthur Rosner died July 28 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Alice; son, Leland (Deborah); daughter, Renee (William) Klein; three grandchildren; and brother, Irving. Hillside

Evelyn Rosner died July 27 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Andrew and Richard; four grandchildren; and brother, Alvin Greenberg. Groman

Sharyn Rubenstein died July 27 at 57. She is survived by her daughters, Ilyse (David) McKimmie and Dana (Andrew) Neujahr; grandson, Jack McKimmie; parents, Leon and Sylvia Newman; sister, Lesley (Ron) Dominano; and ex-husband, Stephen. Mount Sinai

Judith Schlesinger died July 30 at 71. She is survived by her sons, Kenneth, Rob and Daniel. Groman

Nettie schwartz died July 30 at 101. She is survived by her daughter, Adela (Philip) Wallack; five grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Groman

Elaine Sherman died July 26 at 79. She is survived by her sons, John, David and Stephen; daughter, Carol Sandusky; 10 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Louis Sorosky died July 26 at 93. He is survived by his son, Dr. Robert (Karen) Sorosky; eight grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sister, Rose (Gene) Weiner. Mount Sinai

Libby Strull died July 26 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Henry; daughter, Karen Greenburg; and sister, Ethel Foster. Mount Sinai

Edward Trostler died July 28 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth; sons, Gerald and Robert; daughter, Flora; 10 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Richard Cooper Vinetz died July 30 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Ann; sons, Paul and Joseph; two grandchildren; and sister, Lois Brandon. Groman

Lili Wasserman died July 25 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Steve and Chaim Markheim; and four grandchildren. Groman

Leo Weinstein died July 30 at 61. He is survived by his wife, Lela; sons, Jason and Robb; daughter, Lisa; three grandchildren; mother, Rochell; brother, Vladimir; and sisters, Linda Etling and Rosalyn Feldman. Groman

Lawrence Judea Yago died July 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and son, Glenn. Chevra Kadisha

A Single Thread Links Generations


Becoming a grandparent is a very exciting event. Being able to create an heirloom pillowcase out of heirloom pieces for the britim, or covenant ceremonies, of our first grandchildren was an equally humbling and exciting adventure.

Our daughter and son-in-law, Alisha and Ahud Sela, became the proud parents of twin babies, Yael Shira and Gavriel Yair Sela, on May 4, 2004. Knowing beforehand that they were giving birth to twins, a girl and a boy, set the wheels in motion for planning a brit milah, ritual circumcision, and brit mikvah, ritual purification — a relatively new ceremony for a girl, for the two babies. It was planned that the babies would be carried in on pillows for the ceremonies.

While researching what should be written to enhance a bris pillowcase, I found the suggestion of using old family tablecloths for the construction of the pillowcase. I had a tablecloth and napkins given to us by my husband’s grandmother for our wedding, which were now 33 years old. I contacted Ahud’s mother, Rita, and found out she had tablecloths from her grandmother and mother that they had used regularly and were packed up in her attic. Rita sent me a full box of beautifully cross-stitched tablecloths, well worn with loving holes from regular use. I looked at the cloths for two weeks before I had the nerve to make my first cut.

I carefully looked at the cross-stitch designs, imagining what would be the best use of the pieces so lovingly stitched so many years ago. Making the first cut was the hardest, but once that was done everything else fell into place. The back of the pillowcases consists of the edge of a green tablecloth with white fringe and white thread on the cross-stitch design. This was stitched by the baby’s great-great-grandmother, Minnie Aronow (mother of Joel, father of Rita).

Attached to this is a piece from the center of a white cloth with brown cross-stitching created by the baby’s great-grandmother, Yetta Aronow (mother of Rita).The bottom portion of the front of the pillowcase is a white cloth stitched with Shabbat symbols in many colors by Yetta. Rita remembered using this cloth “all the time.” I attached a white napkin from the set given to my husband, David, and myself by the baby’s great-great-grandmother, Anna Robinson (mother of Sandy, mother of David). In one corner of the napkin I attached three white crocheted rosettes that were part of a tablecloth made by great-great-grandmother Anna Robinson and great-aunt Rachel Vorspan (David’s sister). In the other corner is part of an embroidered and crocheted doily made by Bessie Wolfson, first cousin of great-great-grandfather Kopel Kaminsky, who died in the Shoah (father of Sime, my mother).

Before our grandchildren were born, I embroidered in Hebrew, “L’Torah, ul’chupah, ul’ma’asim tovim” on the napkin portions of the pillowcases. This is a prayer for them to study Torah, arrive to the marriage canopy and do good deeds in their future life. I used blue variegated Brazilian embroidery floss for one pillow and a pink, yellow and lavender variegated floss for the other pillow. After the babies were named, I was able to fill in their names in English and Hebrew with their English and Hebrew birth dates. I will be stitching a label inside each case that identifies who made each piece.

Rita and I had the privilege of carrying the babies into the ceremonies on these pillowcases lovingly stitched by the generations that came before them. How delighted these ancestors would be to know that the work of their hands would embrace the future of our families with such love. Our husbands, Nadav and David, held the babies during their britot cradled in the pillowcases.

Alisha and Ahud asked each of the grandparents to share a blessing with their grandchildren. They wanted the blessing to take place under a canopy held up by the baby’s aunts and uncles, Ben Vorspan, Shaina Vorspan and Amitai and Rebecca Sela. I was asked to make this canopy during Passover when Alisha could have had the babies any day (they were born three weeks later). Stitchery was out of the question, so I painted a family tree on a Battenburg lace small round tablecloth. I was able to include some names of great-great-great-great-grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles. What a holy moment to stand under so many generations and bless our precious jewels.

David and I and Rita and Nadav are truly blessed with these new additions to our beloved families. I can’t wait to add more names to the heirlooms we have created, but for the time being, we’re all very delighted to enjoy the newest blessing.

Bonnie Vorspan is an educator at Kol Tikvah in Woodland Hills.

All the ChildrenAll the ChildrenAll the ChildrenAll the Children


On the eve of Simchat Torah, many synagogues auction the three major honors of the day, with proceeds benefiting the synagogue or other Jewish institutions. Two honors, hatan Torah (for the one called to the final reading in Deuteronomy) and hatan Bereshit (for the one called to the first reading in Genesis), usually receive the highest bids. The third, kol hanearim — supervising the blessing of all minor children as a tallit is held over their heads, while the honoree receives the next-to-last aliyah in Vezot Haberakha — can be a close second.

One year, however, the auction for kol hanearim in my synagogue was unusually competitive. When finally over, I asked the man who fiercely bid the highest why he vied for this honor.

Surprised by my question, he replied as if it were self-evident: “The one who supervises scores of little children crowded under the tallit, reciting the same blessing Jacob uttered over his grandchildren, is himself guaranteed Jewish grandchildren. Could I want less for myself?”

These words come to me again and again, whenever I contemplate the unique Torah portion, Vezot Haberakha, the only parsha not identified with a specific Shabbat. Rather, it is reserved for the joyous Simchat Torah holiday, with its unique kol hanearim ceremony, and as such deserves close analysis.

The Talmud, in Sukkah 42a, referring to Vezot Haberakha, provides a provocative comment: “Our rabbis taught: A minor who is able to speak, his father must teach him Torah…. What could be meant by Torah? Rav Hamnuna replied, the Scriptural verse [Deuteronomy 33:4], ‘Moses commanded us a law, an inheritance of the congregation of Jacob.'”

Rabbi Baruch Halevi Epstein, an early 20th century commentator, questions why the Talmud chose this particular passage as the first Torah verse that a parent must teach a child. Epstein suggests that by referring to Torah as a morasha, an inheritance of all Jews — young and old alike — it rejects the notion that only mature adults are obligated to observe Torah. An inheritance is age blind, and so too is the Torah.

The word morasha, however, may contain another dimension. An early 19th century German scholar, the Ktav V’Kabblah, notes that the usual word for inheritance is yerusha, not morasha. In fact, morasha is best translated as “a possession” rather than “an inheritance.” The difference is crucial. One receives an inheritance without individual effort, but one attains a possession through personal exertion. Torah, in other words, requires personal exertion rather than effortless lineage. The only way to become fluent in Torah is to work at studying Torah.

Ketav Sofer, a 19th century scholar, remarks that “morasha kehillat Yaakov,” “a possession of the congregation of Jacob,” meaning that no Jew is an island. No Jew can observe all of the mitzvot of the Torah, for the 613 commandments don’t all apply to any one person. Some only apply to Kohanim, others to Leviim, some to women, while others only to those who live in Israel. Only as a part of the congregation of Israel can we become complete Jews.

Certainly, these lessons are themes that the beautiful kol hanearim ceremony emphasizes.

First, each child has a right to Torah, an inheritance that comes with birth.

Second, kol hanearim suggests that Torah requires effort. Neither children nor adults will acquire knowledge unless they work at studying Torah. If they put in the effort, they will be rewarded with the greatest gift: the Torah itself.

And, finally, we must appreciate that a Jewish life must include the community of fellow Jews. The children are blessed as part of an entire group — part of a future community — because Torah can’t be lived in isolation. Instead, our blessing emphasizes the need for everyone to be involved with the Jewish community, for only together do we comprise the congregation that both Vezot Haberakha and Simchat Torah celebrate.

This column originally appeared in The Journal on Oct. 9, 1998.

Elazar Muskin is rabbi at Young Israel of Century City.

A Blessing for the Father


A few months ago I flew from Long Beach to Brooklyn. It was a long, sad and lonely trip. A few days earlier, my mother had turned 82 years old and was looking forward to a special birthday, when tragedy struck. A fire broke out in her home. Quickly, her life was taken by fire and smoke. No goodbyes or time to prepare for closure, just a cruel death.

My father survived the fire but lives daily with his memories. He now spends his time living a day or a week with different children and grandchildren. He recently came to California to join our family for the holidays. Even though the children and grandchildren were here something big was missing. Yes, our dear mother, the grandmother, was missed.

One way Jewish people deal with the grieving process is to name children after their dead parents, grandparents and teachers. Somehow, having a child carrying the name of a departed loved one brings a closure and tranquility.

In large families the happiest times are the holidays. That’s the time for family reunions, when adults visit with their children and grandchildren, and the mood is festive and merry. It’s a time for cousins to meet for the first time. Children find out that they are special and connected to a big family. It’s like a large tree with so many branches and leaves, each growing in their own direction, forgetting that they all come from the same root.

My American grandfather Shea had six sons. When he died, each son gave their newborn baby boys the name of their father, Shea. So at their gatherings there were five or six children called Shea Hecht. When their holy Rebbe Yosef Yitzchok died, they named their next newborn son Yosef Yitzchok. Now there were six Yosef Yitzchok Hechts. You can imagine how the third generation of boys felt when asked who they were. They had to explain that they were the sons of the sons, causing lots of confusion.

During the holiday this year, my father was sad, but he would not speak of the tragic loss. Then suddenly the phone rang: a grandchild had given birth to a baby girl. Now mom had a name.

On the following Sunday, my son called and said, “Mazel tov — congratulations, my wife gave birth to a baby boy.”

My father jumped and said, “Today is mother’s 82nd birthday, what a gift.”

Now, once again I am on the same flight to Brooklyn, but this time to celebrate the circumcision of my grandson, who was to be named Mordechai after his grandfather. My son Boruch is named after my grandfather Boruch and now his son is named after his grandfather.

It may be that our parents and grandparents don’t die; they just pass on, adopting new bodies, continuing the blessings of having wonderful families that continue their family heritage and lifestyle. Sometimes it certainly seems to be so.

I asked my father if he was happy with his life.

He answered, “A father doesn’t ask himself if he is happy. Instead, he asks himself if he is doing the right thing. When the answer is yes, then he is happy.”

Unfortunately, for so many fathers the opposite is true. If they are happy, they reason that whatever they are doing must be the right thing, regardless of the cost to the family.

My job as a father has been made simple by being blessed with a father who expects you to live like him.

There is a “Father’s Prayer” created by the great Chasidic master, Rabbi Nachman of Breslow (1772-1810):

“Dear God, teach me to embody those ideals I would want my children to learn from me. Let me communicate with my children wisely — in ways that will draw their hearts to kindness, to decency and to true wisdom. Dear God, let me pass on to my children only the good; let them find in me the values and the behavior I hope to see in them.”

A happy Father’s Day to you all.


Rabbi Eli Hecht is vice-president of the Rabbinical Alliance of America and past-president of the Rabbinical Council of California. He is the director of Chabad of South Bay in Lomita.

Eulogies: Sadie Scheiner, 102


Sadie Scheiner, 102, matriarch of a family of pioneer Orthodox Jewish community leaders and ardent Zionists in her native St. Louis and later in Los Angeles, died peacefully on Oct. 22. She was the last surviving child of the Talmudist HaRav Levi Friedberg (nee Melamud), an early arbiter (“posik”) of Jewish law in the Midwest at a time when Torah scholarship was limited primarily to the Northeast and Chicago. In Los Angeles, her children and grandchildren were among the founders and leaders of Young Israel of Northridge, Young Israel of Beverly Hills and B’nei Akiva. She and her husband, Sam Scheiner, were primarily responsible for the growth of a then-small Orthodox congregation in the fledgling Pico-Robertson area — Anshe Emet (where her husband served as president for 15 years). Under their dynamic leadership, membership swelled in the 1950s and ’60s and scores of Jews were attracted to the neighborhood.

Born on May 15, 1899 in St. Louis, Mo., Scheiner was one of seven children. Her parents’ home, first in Omaha and later in East St. Louis, Ill., became a gathering place for rabbis and Torah scholars throughout the Midwest who sought her father out to make important Jewish legal (“Halachic”) decisions. Friedberg never led a congregation and never formally taught. He owned a grocery store but left the day-to-day operation to Mrs. Scheiner’s mother, Fannie Friedberg, so he could fully immerse himself in Torah study.

In later years Scheiner lived in the Fairfax area.

She is survived by her daughter Patricia Ann Macales of Northridge; son, Julian, of Los Angeles; grandchildren Jack Macales of Rehovot, Israel, Richard Macales of Ginot Shomron, Israel, Jeffery Macales of Granada Hills; Ze’ev, Danny and Yosef Scheiner of New York; and Ruth Scheiner of Los Angeles; and 17 great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha Mortuary. Mt. Carmel Cemetery.

Boy Meets Mom


Busted flat in Barstow, I realize the desert is no place for an old Plymouth. The mechanic says something about “a machine shop in Victorville,” and I think that is one phrase you never want to hear in a sentence with your name. That and “feeding tube.”

I’m returning to Los Angeles from Las Vegas, where I spent the weekend with The Boyfriend, introducing him to The Mom, who has inexplicably decided to spend much of her retirement in a cozy little Vegas condo. She has mastered bingo and familiarized herself with every buffet and half-decent casino band in town.

The mechanic won’t know for a few hours what the exact prognosis of the Plymouth is, so The Boyfriend and I cross the dusty, sun-baked road to the Bun Boy, where it’s just about time for the early bird special.

I pretend to read the paper, but I’m mulling over the events of the weekend. I conjure an image of my mother looking right through The Boyfriend, not asking about his job or where he’s from. She’s met so many by now, and I think she and my stepfather just don’t want to get attached, in case he disappears like a political prisoner buried under some Latin American soccer stadium; in case he goes the way of the last few boyfriends, gone with little explanation.

This time, however, I could swear that my mother wasn’t seeing The Boyfriend but instead a giant sperm, a sperm that may or may not fertilize her daughter’s egg and bring her the thing she most wants: a grandchild.

That Saturday, we had all lounged in the pool. Mom’s elbows propped on the edge, she joked about when said grandchild would be coming. “I don’t care if it’s illegit,” she said earnestly, following the great Strasser tradition of voicing what should really be an inner monologue.

And “illegit”? What was she, MC Hammer? Her choice of words wasn’t nearly as disturbing as the sentiment. Then again, I couldn’t be too annoyed, because I understood where she was coming from. It was about a year ago that I woke up and suddenly found dogs and babies cute. Men don’t exactly look like big sperms to me, but I have begun to wonder how, when and if this whole family thing is going to go down.

The Boyfriend and I are polishing off a carafe of jam-like Burgundy at Bun Boy when we decide to check on the car. It’s going to be at least another hour, so we return to our diner booth.

I pretend to be discouraged, but I’m secretly thrilled to be stranded. I don’t want to go home. I love to be stuck between places. Barstow seems as good a place as any to press the pause button on life.

And The Boyfriend is a perfect companion. He’s totally unruffled by the overheating disaster. He lets me cry without offering too much advice. “It’s going to be OK,” is all he says.

“How can you say that when our fate is attached to a machine shop in Victorville?” I ask. He laughs, and I realize that hours have gone by without a tense moment between us — despite heat, a cracked radiator and a creepy tow truck guy named Jerry, who has a leathery face and a mouth full of plaque.

I’m on the fence about The Boyfriend, but I can’t deny that we get along. I sit at Bun Boy wondering how I’ll ever be able to tell the difference between a guy who isn’t right and that ever-popular “fear of intimacy.”

I don’t ever want to leave Barstow, and, according to the mechanic, that’s a distinct possibility. I won’t be able to drive the Plymouth for days. I decide to tow the old lemon back to Vegas so that my mother can return it to the mechanic who fixed the thing just days before, in exchange for another family jalopy that has proven desert-worthy.

It’s late when we arrive in Vegas, and I can tell my mother is happy just to see me again. She doesn’t see much of me these days. The Boyfriend thanks her again for her hospitality. “Just bring me my daughter and you can stay with me anytime,” she says.

“I don’t hug,” she adds by way of explaining her stance several feet from him. And all at once I understand how much I’m my mother’s daughter. And I’m ready to try going home again.


Teresa Strasser is a twentysomething contributing writer for The Jewish Journal.

Grandkids Inc.


Grandkids Inc.

Until children reach a certain age, parents seethem simply as beloved offspring. Flesh of their flesh. Withbittersweet nostalgia, they remember all, from the Gerber days tograduation day.

But then it happens: the transformation.

Suddenly, when your parents look at you, theydon’t see the adorable tot who couldn’t say “spaghetti.” Or the boywho learned to bike in the driveway. Or the young man who pinned acorsage on his prom date by the front door.

Now, they see Grandkids Inc. A factory notproducing to capacity. They’re no longer just Mom and Dad. You’re asubsidiary, and they’re co-presidents of the parent company.

They’ve invested big in this enterprise. Andthey’ve been patient, knowing there would be years of huge expensewith no output.

But the time has come. They want results.

“Nanny and Max” by Scott Prior. Painting from “The Artof Motherhood”

Hey, they’re not asking for much — just oneproduct. And they don’t need you to fill a warehouse. Two or threewill do just fine. But, make no mistake, they want ’em.

Fortunately, the pressure’s off while brother orsister subsidiaries are producing. That’s because this is veryspecial merchandise.

Assembly is required. And it takes even longerthan most train sets. It doesn’t use batteries, but you’ll needhundreds for the accessories. And the maintenance requirements areunbelievable — not just applying some oil every six months.

When a new unit comes off the line, that’s whenthe heads of the (grand)parent company get most involved. Spendingtime with the newbie is Priority 1. They can’t get enough.

This bought me a lot of time. The other two subswent into production in the early 1990s. Apparently, both were on aschedule of accelerated output. Together, they popped out six littleguys in five years. For a while, I thought they were trying to fielda company softball team.

These were the boon years. Milk and honey.Precious goods falling off the line like manna from heaven. A periodof miraculous growth, like Japan in the ’50s and ’60s.

Curiously, our family’s bull market coincided withWall Street’s, but I’m not sure which came first. Kind of achicken-and-egg thing.

Yes, it’s been a period of champagne, cigars andvery small shoes. A nonstop celebration. With so many tykes takingtheir first steps, uttering their first words and throwing theirfirst crayons in the dishwasher, not a minute was left for, say,pressuring the third sub about kick-starting his own assemblyline.

But my window of pressure-free time is running outfaster than napkins at a watermelon-eating contest.

The other two subs have reached quota. And thelatest additions to Family Corp. are rapidly approaching 12 months ofage. That means the end of the One-Year Baby Buffer, awell-established principle of grandparent science. For the first yearafter the birth of a grandchild, the newborn’s uncles and aunts areshielded from pressure to contribute additional grandchildren. It’ssafer to walk past a lion that’s been recently fed.

When I talk about family pressure, I really meanMom (and her accomplished mentor, Grandma). In our corporate family,areas of responsibility were divided between the two top executives.Dad was the CEO-PS (Chief Executive Officer of Practical Stuff). Thisincluded lawn care and auto maintenance. Mom was the CEO-EE (ChiefExecutive Officer of Everything Else). This included everythingelse.

So, Mom’s department naturally covers themonitoring of my prospects for a merger. All information is carefullyprocessed. Like cyborgs from “The Terminator,” she automaticallyscans and analyzes incoming data. But Mom doesn’t care about the waragainst the machines. Her decision parameters are aimed at maximizingthe likelihood of future grandchildren. Action options decreasingthat probability are strongly discouraged.

I can tell the Baby Buffer is almost over. Thephone numbers are starting up again — mostly daughters of Mom’sfriends and co-workers. Any expenses incurred along these lines arewritten off as R&D.

Don’t get me wrong. So far, the barometer readsonly mild pressure. Plus, no matter what, there’s always a seat forme at the annual Thanksgiving board meeting. After all, unconditionallove is the company slogan. Still, I suspect only one thing will makethe big cheeses at Family Corp. feel they’ve met all long-termobjectives: when their youngest sub finds a suitable merger partnerand finally snaps into production.

Stephen A. Simon writes for Washington JewishWeek.

A Modern Grandfather


A Modern Grandfather

By Tom Tugend, Contributing Editor

They don’t make grandparents like they usedto.

Time was when the doddering old dears couldn’t imagine a greaterthrill than having the grandkids over and spoiling them rotten.

Nowadays, a phone conversation is more likely to go like this:

Daughter: “Mom, Consuela quit on me. Bill has to go to the office,and I have an important staff conference tomorrow. Could you or Dadtake care of Benny and Becky for a couple of hours?”

Mom: “You know we’d love to, but I have my hang-gliding class andDad has a meeting of his rappelling club.”

Daughter: “OK, I’ll figure out something. Don’t forget, though,that Benny has his birthday party next week.”

Mom: “Oh, dear, we’ll have to miss that. We’re flying over toOxford for a three-day course on British history, from the Normaninvasion to Tony Blair, plus the complete works of WilliamShakespeare.”

Well, maybe I’m exaggerating a tiny bit, but it is curious how theold caricature of the “now that you’re 65, here’s your gold watch, gofishing or rock on your front porch” has changed.

Example: We have a regular tennis double, with four guys rangingfrom the early to the late 70s. The oldest is 79, and he is thesharpest of the lot. I’m not saying that we’re ready for Wimbledon,but we’ll give most intermediate players half our age a good match.

Another thing is money. With the last of our three children out ofgraduate school and finally, finally, on her own, and with themortgage paid off, we find that we actually have some loose change inour pockets.

I appreciate all the senior discounts on plane fares and at shows.But when I really needed them was in my 30s and 40s, when we had agrowing family, constant dental bills and a house to pay off.

Another fading stereotype is of the grandparents who are so dotingand mushy that the grandkids can twist them around their tinyfingers. Not so. We enjoy our grandchildren, but we demand certainstandards, and since we don’t have to wrestle with them 16 hours aday, day in and day out, we have sufficient energy and patience tomake our rulings stick.

We are abetted in our resolve by growing up in the dark ages –before we were all enlightened that telling a kid to stop talking orto turn off the radio (TV) would impose lifelong psychological scars.

One thing hasn’t changed from generation to generation. Just asour parents knew better how to raise our children than we did, so weknow better than our children how to raise their kids.

Don’t get me wrong — we really do love our four grandchildren –Talia, Yaniv, Maya and Benny. And after taking them to the park orhaving them overnight, and they get a wee bit cranky, we love toreturn them to their parents.