Daughter finds the write words from dad


My father rarely wrote anything down. Take birthday cards, for example: While my mother would embellish the printed message with sweet, loving passages and hand-drawn hearts, my father’s heavy script only appeared at the bottom, where he signed his name. It seemed strange for a man who told me, when I began writing fiction in grade school, that he once wanted to be an author.

As I got older, I realized his reticence stemmed from something deeper — it was hard for him to express emotions, either verbally or on the page. He rarely spent quality time with me, and never seemed interested in my personal life. Sure, he would praise a high test score at the dinner table or, on rare occasions, help me with a math problem or science project, but conversation never flowed naturally between us. Our brief exchanges usually petered out when he turned back to the TV or the newspaper, detached. 

I grew envious of my friends’ relationships with their fathers. They had dads who remembered the names of their friends, who shared inside jokes, who lent a patient ear during times of teen angst. I couldn’t imagine confiding in my father about a crush or any kind of school drama. He only seemed to care whether I kept enough gas in the car. There was a moat between us, and eventually, neither of us remembered how to cross it. 

Just before I left for college, we seemed to find common ground. He was perpetually immersed with books about geopolitics, and I was hungry to expand my worldview. He began to treat me as an intellectual partner, if not an emotional one. We talked stocks, commodities markets, global finances. I felt privileged that he was finally lavishing me with attention. 

One day, in a moment of boldness, I suggested, “Why don’t you write me a book?” It would give him a chance to become the author he wanted to be, and it would also fulfill a selfish desire of mine: I craved more communication from him; I was starved for his words. But he never picked up a pen. 

When Alzheimer’s disease began to set in six years ago, my father’s writing, ironically, was our first clue. My mother and I began to find notes around their house — email addresses taped to the computer screen, phone numbers scrawled on the desk and on filing cabinets. Once, we found a short paragraph he had written, describing the nature of his Army service in the 1950s. Its only purpose that we could fathom was to preserve the memory. I held onto it — even a few sentences in his choppy hand were better than nothing. 

The years of distance between us have taken their toll. Now that my father stays in a nursing home, I don’t visit him as often as I could. There is even less to say than before, when he still remembered what I do, where I live, my husband and cats — when he could easily recall my name. 

But a few months ago, my father’s second cousin in Israel called with a bombshell: My dad had written him letters over the years. Lots of them.

Letters? When he could barely sign a greeting card? 

Not only that, but my father’s relative had dutifully preserved them. He scanned a few so I could see them, and I caught my breath as the images popped up on my computer screen. 

October 2000: Rachel has one more year in high school, so we are starting to look for a university she could attend. She is mostly interested in art, literature and creative writing.

March 2002: Rachel will be starting her university education in late August. She will be 200 miles away and we will miss her.

I felt gobsmacked. So there was life on the other side of the moat, after all. And caring. And pride. Had I missed something?

As my father’s illness progresses, the channels between us are opening in other surprising ways: He’s starting to say all of the things he never could when he was well. When he sees me walk into the room now, his knitted brow relaxes and the corners of his mouth turn upward. On walks, he asks to hold my hand. He kisses my fingers and tells me, “You’re beautiful.” 

When I was sitting next to him on the couch recently, he suddenly turned to me, clutched my hand and announced, “My darling girl.” I was stunned. Had I been his darling girl this whole time? Why didn’t he say so?

Yet maybe, in his own way, he did. I printed the letters and showed his heartfelt sentiments to my mother. 

“Shocking, right?” I asked her.

“Not shocking,” she countered. “You don’t remember everything.”

“What don’t I remember?”

“How much he cared for you.”

So maybe there’s another side to the narrative. Maybe I, too, am guilty of forgetting — of focusing only on my resentment and the ways I felt cheated over the years, of holding fast to my grudge. Thinking back, maybe I closed my ears to my dad and ignored the quiet hum of how he felt. Just because he didn’t say kind words out loud doesn’t mean they weren’t there. 

After seeing his thoughts written down — uttered, it turns out, to someone else — I’m starting to re-evaluate his constant inquiries about the gas in my car, about whether I lock my doors at night. That might have been the closest he could come to saying, “You’re important to me.”

I can’t ask my father for closure now; there’s no point in replaying memories he can no longer recall. Maybe memory only has so much value, anyway. Maybe there is healing in letting go. 

Dad can take daughter to church, court rules


A father may take his Jewish daughter to church, a court in Chicago ruled.

Cook County Judge Renee Goldfarb, who had denied Joseph Reyes permission to take his daughter Ela to Easter services, said in a divorce judgment handed down Tuesday afternoon that Reyes could take his daughter to church during his visitation times, which are to include Christmas and Easter, according to reports.

Goldfarb said her decision to allow Reyes to take his daughter to church was based on “the best interest of the child,” the Chicago Sun-Times reported. 

Reyes grabbed headlines last winter when he took Ela to church and had her baptized despite a temporary restraining order filed by his estranged wife that barred him from exposing their daughter to anything but the Jewish faith.

Reyes converted to Judaism when he married his wife, Rebecca, and according to her promised to raise Ela in the Jewish faith. But after the couple filed for divorce, he returned to his Christian faith and baptized his daughter without his wife’s knowledge.

Obituaries


Michael Avganim died Jan. 27 at 61. He is survived by his daughters, Dorit and Corinne; mother, Margalit; and sister, Haya. Sholom Chapels

Bernard Barens died Feb. 2 at 96. He is survived by his son, Arthur; four grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Ellen Kaufman. Malinow and Silverman

Beverley Becker died Jan. 13 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Claire Bowman; son, Steven; sister, Selma Steinberg; six grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Nora Cohen Breckler died Jan. 30 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Peter and Andrew; and granddaughters, Emma and Charlotte. Hillside

Anne Caplan died Feb. 2 at 87. She is survived by her four nephews; three nieces; and sister-in-law, Ruby (George) Kuntz. Mount Sinai

Joseph Aaron Cohen died Feb. 5 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and sons, Aaron and Vidal. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Copper died Jan. 31 at 92. She is survived by her son Leon (Bobette); daughter, Fern (Michael) Chorna; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Alex Cramer died Feb. 4 at 97. He is survived by his son, Irl (Dina). Sholom Chapels

Harold Dresser died Feb. 2 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Norine; son, Mark (Carole Del Signore); daughters, Andrea (Barry) Fisher and Amy (Julio) Trejo; four grandchildren; and brother-in-law, Mickey Shapiro. Mount Sinai

Herman Friedberg died Feb. 5 at 98. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; sons, James (Susan) and Thomas (Sarah); two grandchildren; brother, Bernard (Arlene) Richards; and sisters, Miriam (Paul) Shulman and Flora (Moe) Schwartz. Mount Sinai

Rose Friedland died Jan. 31. She is survived by her nephew, Dieter (Sarah) Goldschmidt; and great-nieces, Lisa and Lori. Hillside

Fay Gak died Feb. 5 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Miriam (Jack) Grund; son, Carl (Carol); three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Dr. Fred Geller died Jan. 31, at 80. He is survived by his wife, Lyla; daughters, Bonnie (David) Aylesworth and Valerie; grandchild, Adam Aylesworth; and sister, Jacqueline Pearlson. Hillside

Hannah Gertz died Feb. 3 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Sherwin (Penny) and Bob; daughters, Sherry and Paula; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Lee Glanzer died Jan. 20 at 101. He is survived by his daughters; Rosalie Zemansky and Joan Rosenstein; three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Fredrick Raymond Glassman died Feb. 3 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Carol; daughter, Robin (David) Harris; son, Ramond; stepson, Gabriel Romero; two granddaughters; two great grandchildren; and brothers, Sheldon (Jerry), Charles (Linda) and Ray (Sharon). Malinow and Silverman

Arlene Grubman died Feb. 3 at 84. She is survived by her daughters, Judith Whitmore and Patricia; son, William; six grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Fern Siegel. Malinow and Silverman

Sylvia Goldstein died Jan. 31 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Harlene Schwartz; and sister Frieda Ellis. Hillside.

Nora Hecker died Feb. 4 at 97. She is survived by her son, Fred. Malinow and Silverman

Rhoda Heirshberg died Feb. 4 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Ben; sons, Art and Stan (Diane); daughter, Gayle (Richard Mah); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Elizabeth Izenstark died Jan. 29 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Joseph; daughter, Susan Rosenthal; one grandchild; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Ida Jarrett died Feb. 4 at 106. She is survived by her nieces, Mona (Arnold) Root and Audrey Croft. Malinow and Silverman

William Klein died Jan. 26 at 82. He is survived by his son, Leonard; daughter Beverly; two grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Abram Kleinman died Jan. 30 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Margarita; son Mark (Tanya); and grandson, Ethan. Hillside

Marion Koran died Feb. 2 at 93. She is survived by her sister, Vivian Katzin; and nieces, Roberta Bronstein and Geri (David) Small. Mount Sinai

Edna Kotick died Jan. 31 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Harry; daughters, Judy (Bob) Heimlich and Bonnie; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Joseph Linsman Feb. 4 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Connie Gale; son, William; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Joseph Litvak died Jan. 31, at 92. He is survived by his son, Michael (Georgia); two grandchildren; and two grea- grandchildren. Hillside

Bernard Mack died Jan. 31 at 92. He is survived by his children, Pamela and Alan; two grandchildren; and brother, Lou. Mount Sinai

Rebecca Masliah died Jan. 30 at 93. She is survived by her husband, Albert; son, Errol; daughter, Esther; grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Sholom Chapels

Carolyn Meltzer died Feb. 4 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Terri Menter and Linda (Benjamin) Rubinstein; son, Dr. Larry (Joan); nine grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Lillian Mattis-Russin died Feb. 2 at 84. She is survived by her son, Ronald Palmieri; three grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Jack Mattis; Groman

Pauline Ofman died Jan. 31 at 99. She is survived by her son, Dr. William (Sheila); daughter, Dr. Anna (Thad) Berger; five grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marly Rauchway died Feb. 2 at 91. She is survived by her children, Susan (Harold) Fetterman, Enid (Erlend) Graf, Michael (Audrey) and Amy; six grandchildren; and three great grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Dr. Robert Rosen died Jan. 31 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; daughters, Deborah (Reno) Goodale, Rebecca and Stephanie; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jane Rosenfeld died Jan. 31 at 59. She is survived by her mother, Paula; brothers, Gary (Alice) and John (Frances); and sister, Ellen (Jeffrey) Arrow. Malinow and Silverman

Benjamin Saget died Jan. 30 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Rosalyn; son, Bob; four grandchildren; and sister, Thelma (Jonah) Shorr. Mount Sinai

Regina Sarko died Feb. 4 at 83. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Marie Sautman died Feb. 3, at 83. She is survived by her husband, Irving; children, Susan, Barry, Steven and Michael (Jullie); and six grandchildren. Hillside

Obituaries


Kate Altman died Dec. 28 at 97. She is survived by her daughter, Sheila (David) Aenis; son, Gerald (Sharon); five grandchildren; nine great-grandchildren; and brother, Yale (Bobbi) Simons. Mount Sinai

Anne Bergstein died Dec. 23 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Ralph and Roger. Malinow and Silverman

Mortimer Berkey died Dec. 23 at 97. He is survived by his nieces, Lynn (Larry) Robbins, Lolly Coria and Barbara (Cal) Miller; and nephews, Burt (Helene) Homonoff and David. Mount Sinai

Gerald Bernstein died Dec. 20 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Dorothy; sons, Stephen and David (Patrice); and two granddaughers. Malinow and Silverman.

Irene Bistreich died Dec. 23 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Wendy. Malinow and Silverman.

Abraham (Abe) Blumberg died Dec. 28 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Sadie; sons Eddie, Geoffrey and Aubrey; daughter, Beverly; stepdaughter, Ethne; stepsons, Morris and Colin (Sharon); seven grandchildren; two stepgrandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Eden

Miriam Dybnis died Dec. 29 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Henri; daughter, Monique (Moshe) Goldwasser; son, Dr. Sacha (Bunny); and grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Rachelle Elek died Dec. 29 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Gwynne; sister, Eve Rosove; brother, Sheldon (Babs) Bay; sisters-in-law Phyllis and Rita Bay; nieces; and nephew. Hillside

Helen Joseph Epstein died Nov. 17 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Joni (Monte) Gordon; brother, Benjamin (Ellen) Joseph; grandchildren John (Sun Xin) Gordon and Elizabeth (Jack) Stephens-Morgan; and three great-greatchildren. Hillside

Mildred Ettlinger died Dec. 19 at 94. She is survived by her sister, Bertha Carp. Malinow and Silverman.

Paulette Gast died Dec. 27 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy; son, Allen; four grandchildren; and sister, Selene Sheriff. Hillside

Sylvia Eleanor Goldstein died Dec. 27 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Elaine (Berwyn) Bleecker Friedman and Rosalyn Gilman; son, Charles (Suzanne); eight grandchildren; nine great-grandchildren; sister, Gertrude Sunshine. Malinow and Silverman

Sadie Grossman died Dec. 20 at 101. She is survived by her son, Barry; and two grandsons. Malinow and Silverman.

Ruth Hoffman died Dec. 24 at 89. She is survived by her son, Paul; sister, Gloria Wolen; and nine grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman.

Esther Karpel died Dec. 24 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Susan; sister, Mathilde Goldstein; two grandchildren; brother, Morris Weiss. Malinow and Silverman

Esther Kaufman died Dec. 28 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Rick, Ken (Karen), Ben and Mike; daughter, Sonya Schus; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Frank Lerner died Dec. 17 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Lillian; daughter, Shari (Henry) DeCambra; sons, Mark (Noreen) and Stuart (Karen); six grandchildren; and sister, Nessa (Bob) Wilk. Malinow and Silverman.

Leslie Howard Levin died Dec. 22 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Marilyn; daughter, Diane; son Jeffrey, (JoAne); and brother, Bill. Malinow and Silverman.

Libby Levine died Dec. 22 at 96. She is survived by her daughters, Wendy (Bill) Carpio and Julie (Bob) Sutton; six grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Bruce Liebovich died Dec. 24 at 43. He is survived by his sons, Yehuda, Mordy and Joshua; daughter, Ester; and parents, Ted and Shirley. Chevra Kadisha

Jerome Barry Ludgin died Dec. 23 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Rachelle; daughter, Debra (Scott) Klein; brother, Arthur (Bobbie); and sister, Janice (Mickey) Stevens. Malinow and Silverman.

Shirley Markson died Dec. 20 at 80. She is survived by her son, David; daughters, Stacey (Vince) Winninghoff and Peggy; brother, Marc (Louise) Monheimer; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman.

Marcia Merritt died Dec. 27 at 66. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Michael; sons, Brent (Hilleri) and Steve; two grandchildren; and brother, Richard (Barbara) Fine. Malinow and Silverman

Sylvia Muchnick died Dec. 29 at 88. She is survived by her son, Dr. Carl; sister, Ethel Rosenfeld; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Harry Phillips died Dec. 26 at 91. He is survived by his son, Frank; daughter, Sandra Schur; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Louis Pomerantz died Dec. 24 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Doreen (Shalom) Cohen; granddaughters, Lori (Roger) Lampert and Wendy (Philip) Anthony; and great-grandchildren, Brian and Rachel Lampert. Mount Sinai

Susan Ponedel died Nov. 14 at 60. She is survied by her mother, Mollie; and sister, Ann Bourman. Home of Peace

Nathan Rauchway died Dec. 29 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Marly; children, Enid (Erlend) Graf, Susan (Harold) Fetterman, Michael (Audrey) and Amy; and six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Leo Rosenbaum died Aug. 14 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Gloria; daughters, Leslie and Lori; son, Louis; grandchildren, Alexis and Zachary; and sister, Janet Cornblatt. Hillside

Rose Sahlman died Dec. 25 at 93. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Theresa Schneider died Dec. 15 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Leah (Gregory) Bergman and Diane; son, Alan; three grandchildren; and brother, Bernard Gershman. Malinow and Silverman.

Joseph Schwartz died Dec. 26 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Marcia; daughter, Sandra (Stephen) Brown; son Stephen; and eight grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Bella Smolyakova died Dec. 27 at 97. She is survived by her nephew, Yesim (Polina) Koretsky. Malinow and Silverman

Suzanne Stolnitz died Dec. 23 at 69. She is survived by her husband, Art; son, Scott (Cindy); granddaughter, Skye; and sister, Barbara Kantro. Mount Sinai

Joan Lenore Strong died Dec. 24 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Dr. George; daughters, Cori Persky and Nikki Shocket; sons, Evan Peller and Shannon; seven grandchildren; and brother, Dr. Paul Rubinstein. Malinow and Silverman

Edward Leon Vendt died Dec. 29 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Lillian; daughter, Sheila (Dick) Miller; sons, Jack Bellano and Steve (Cheryl); and two grandsons. Malinow and Silverman

Bess Warren died Dec. 25 at 88. She is survived by her son, Roger; daughters, Beverly Safsel and Rhonda Diamond; six grandchildren; nine great-grandchildren; one great-great-granddaughter; and sisters, Natalie Apple and Grace Feuerberg. Chevra Kadisha

Thelma Weiss died Dec. 21 at 79. She is survived by her son, Michael. Malinow and Silverman.

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Obituaries


Mildred Ball died Sept. 23 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Joseph and David. Malinow and Silverman

Albert Benaltabet died Sept. 28 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Allegra; daughters, Lynn (Don) Sonderling and Michele Smith; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, Samuel; Malinow and Silverman

Albina Bennett died Oct. 1, at 83. She is survived by her son, Dr. Martin; and daughter, Marilyn (Larry Mott). Mount Sinai

Edythe Bennett died Sept. 22 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Benjamin; daughter, Nina Cantley; and three grandchildren. Groman

Ann Boodnick died Sept. 24 at 94. She is survived by her son, Jerome (Aliza) Ben-Ner; daughter, Margartet (Norman) Arinsberg; five grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Groman

Sheldon Cohen died Sept. 22 at 60. He is survived by his father, William; and social worker, Ivette Rodriguez. Groman

Selma Comsky died Aug. 24 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Michelle Margolis, Jan and Andrea; sons-in-law, Jack Cousin, and Mark Margolis; and two grandchildren.

Sarah Decovnick died Sept. 22 at 100. She is survived by her sons, Stanley and Harvey; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Anthony Peter Merrill Dent died in July at 61. He is survied by his friends.

Gil Donchin died Sept. 26 at 42. He is survived by his parents, Emanual and Rina. Malinow and Silverman

Jean Dreisen died Oct. 3 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Janet and Betsy; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Selma Ruth Cohn Erso died Sept. 28 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Henry; son, Harold Rice-Erso; daughter, Robin (Michael) McIntyre; five grandchildren; and sister, Marcia Spiegel. Mount Sinai

Edward Ezra Feinstein died Sept. 23 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Li Jiang; and nephew, Dr. Eben. Malinow and Silverman

Anna Fox died Sept. 30 at 93. She is survived by her daughters, Helen MacKinnon and Marilyn Cooke; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Minnie Garr died Sept. 27 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Norman and Rabbi Ronald (Minda); three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; sisters, Fay Levy and Tamar (Dr. Gerald) Freeman; and brother, Nathan Frankel. Mount Sinai

Hanne Gilinsky died Oct. 1 at 73. She is survived by daughter, Margaret (Thomas) Noble; in-laws, Barbara and Jerry Werlin and Richard and Hetty Gilinsky; nieces; and nephews. Hillside

Elsie Goldstein died Sept. 29 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Maurice and Gerald (Naomi); and eight grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Harris Goldstein died Oct. 5 at 64. He is survived by his wife, Andrea; sons, Matt and Dave; two grandchildren; parents, Harold and Adeline; and brothers, Joel and Gary. Mount Sinai

Frances Shirley Kass died Oct. 3 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Reuben; daughters, Ilene Blok and Anne Bowman; and four grandchildren. Groman

Myer Keleman died Oct. 4 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Helen; daughter, Dorene (Steven) Shapiro; son, Steven (Laurie); four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Sylvia Keys died Sept. 27 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Stan (Dorothy), Paul (Carmen) and Harvey (Mickey); six grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren.

Alvin Klugman died Oct. 2 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Marjorie; daughter, Peggy (John) Cronin; grandsons, Paul and Bryan Cronin; and sister, Faye Hershman. Hillside

Sally Kraft died Sept. 28 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Sheila (Dr. Elliot) Leifer; three grandchildren; and five great grandchildren. Groman

Sol Lederman died Oct. 4 at 84. He is survived by his daughters, Jill Fine, Patti Rose and Sue Minkoff; four grandchildren; and sister, Rose Silverstein. Groman

Bernard Lifson died Oct. 3 at 94. He is survived by his son, Allan; daughter, Barbara (Mendel) Kahan; and grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Dr. Irving Madoff died Oct. 2 at 96. He is survived by his wife, Frances; daughters, Cindy (Bertrand) Marcano and Jane; grandsons, Stewart and Scott Marcano; and great-granddaughter, Hannah. Hillside

Benjamin Gale Mannis died Sept. 25 at 94. He is survived by his daughter, Lynn Hill. Malinow and Silverman

Steven Jules Markman died Sept. 30 at 59. He is survived by his mother, Esther Kevenson; son, Joseph; sister, Barbara (Bert) Pronin; and brother, Larry. Malinow and Silverman

M. Stanley Muskat died Oct. 3 at 96. He is survived by his daughters, Joyce and Carol; and nephew, Harvey Kates. Malinow and Silverman

Joseph Nathenson died Oct. 4 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; son, Larry; daughter, Jill (Thomas) Bassett; one grandchild; and sister, Shirley (Ken) Bassett. Mount Sinai

Denise Rachel Oschin died Oct. 1 at 52. She is survived by her daughter, Ritta Sophia Papadopoulos; stepmother, Aggi; sister, Renie. Groman

Edythe Pauline Ouslander died Sept. 28 at 91. She is survived by her son, Arnold; and one grandchild. Groman

Constance Passamaneck died Oct. 5 at 69. She is survived by her husband, Steven; daughter, Julia (William) Jensen; stepchildren, Evi (Scott) Graham and Daniel (Kelly); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Howard Pearlman died Oct. 4. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; son, Larry, (Janelle); daughter, Judy; three grandchildren; great-granddaughter, Georgia; and sister, Bernice; Hillside

Leslie Preston died Sept. 29 at 63. He is survived by his brother, Monty (Polly); and nephew, Darren. Mount Sinai

Maurice Rabin died Oct. 1 at 83. He is survived by his nieces, Wendy (John) Kelsey, and Maxine Blaurock; and nephew, Michael Pantel.

Walter Roth died Sept. 29 at 85. He is survived by his sons, Albert and Edward; and former wife, Henny. Sholom Chapels

Arthur Rothenberg died Oct. 2 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Maxine; sons, Richard, Howard and Phillip; daughter, JoAnn Mercer; six grandchildren; and three great- grandchildren. Hillside

Davis Sarkin died Oct. 3 at 80. He is survived by his sons, Allan (Lisa) and Ralph; daughter, Robin Haines; six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Rabbi Richard Ira Schachet died Sept. 20 at 70. He is survived by his daughter, Tamara (Wally) Schachet-Briskin; stepchildren; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Obituaries


Werner Anders died Sept. 27 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Lily; daughter, Rachel (Leo) Woss; son, Gideon (Leslie); five grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; and one great-great-grandchildren.
 
Roberta “Bobbie” Bernstein died Sept. 25 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Hy; sons, Steve and Keith; daughter, Deanna; and four grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha
 
Shari Cohen died Sept. 25 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Harry; daughters, Barbara Racklin, Margie Baumbac and Debra (Stuart) Blum; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai
 
Jonathan Comras died Aug. 8 at 44. He is survived by parents, Jackie and Richard; and brother, Lawrence. Mount Sinai
 
Selma Comsky died Aug. 24 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Michelle Margolis, Jan and Andrea; sons-in-law, Mark Margolis and Jack Cousin; and two grandchildren.
 
Harry Drucker died Sept. 8 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and son, Barry. Sholom Chapels
 
Mae Falikoff died Sept. 20 at 95. She is survived by her son, Marvin. Sholom ChapelsJordon Feldman died Sept. 27 at 70. he is survived by his wife, Bette; son, Adam; and daughter, Abbie. Mount Sinai
 
Isaac Fields died Aug. 26 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Dora; son, Allan (Elyse); daughter, Pauline (Milton) Zablow; six grandchildren; and brothers Max (Betty) and David (Gladys).
 
Mildred Handelsman died Sept. 17 at 91. She is survived by her husband, David; and sons, Burton and William. Groman
 
Jeffrey Michael Harman died Sept. 22. at 48. He is survived by his wife, Debbie; son, Eric; parents Martha and Sam; brothers, Harvey and Steven; and friends. Beth Israel Cemetery
 
Alice Horowitz died Sept. 14 at 90. She is survived by her son, David (Miriam); daughter, Phyllis (Dr. David) Katzin; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Sholom Chapels
 
Ayouch Yechiel Ifrah died Sept. 18 at 85. He is survived by his sons, David, Albert, Gabriel, Raphael and Max; daughters, Jacqueline, Annette, Helen, Tersa and Judith; 14 grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Chevra Kadisha
 
Herman Klein died Sept. 10 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Jenny (David) Cohen and Rose Margolis; son, Larry; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels
 
Semen Khanukayev died Sept. 20 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Olga; sons, Josef and Igor; daughter, Anna; nine grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha
 
Aaron Phillip Moss died Sept. 19 at 89. He is survived by his son, Jack Crayne; daughter, Phyllis; and stepson, Richard Cohen. Groman
 
Herbert “Lou” Press died Sept. 25 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Ina; daughter, Susan Shulman; son, Evan (Isis); four grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; sister, Evelyn Lehman; and brother, Burt (Trueen). Mount Sinai
 
Martin Alden Rohrlich died Sept. 17at 87. He is survived by his daughters, Janice Lang, Linda Cohn and Andrea Cohen; and six grandchildren.
 
Alfred Ross died Sept. 12. He is survived by his brother, Max (Doris). Sholom Chapels
 
Martin Saben died Sept. 26 at 82. He is survived by his sons, Jack and Gary; and cousin, Glenda (Larry) Carver. Mount Sinai
 
Diana Ruth Siegel died Sept. 21 at 98. She is survived by her sons, Robert (Sally) and Allan (Melinda); daughter, Elaine (Harry) Smith; seven grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; and brother, Al Powell. Mount Sinai
 
Sarah Silverberg died Sept. 17 at 88. She is survived by her nephews, Marvin Kay, Howard Rudnick and Jeff Monka. Sholom Chapels
 
Bess Smith died Sept. 25 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Murray and Barry (Denise); three grandchildren; and brother, Max Muravnick. Mount Sinai
 
Judith Tiger died Sept. 26 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Siggy; sons, Michael and Peter (Lynn); daughters, Inez (Mark) Tiger-Lizer and Leone (Etai) Zion; son-in-law, Drummond; and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai
 

Obituaries


Gladys Bloom died Aug. 27 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Penelope Rosenberg and Lois Tunick; six grandchildren; three stepgrandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Groman
 

I Was Kid Free and Guilt Free! For A Week!


My children were unexpectedly away for a week this summer, and I didn’t miss them a bit. Apparently, that’s grounds for expulsion from the Good Mommy Club.

My husband, 8-year-old son, 14-year-old daughter and I were on our way back to Los Angeles from a trip to Squaw Valley, and we’d stopped in the Bay Area to stay with family friends overnight. As we were packing the car the next morning and getting set for the long ride home, our hosts suddenly invited our two children to stay for the week.

“Don’t be ridiculous,” I said. “That’s way too much work for you.”
But they insisted that it was the perfect week for such spontaneity. Their own two kids, who are very close with ours, had nothing to do: no school, no camp, no anything.

“Let them all be together and have one last summer fling,” the mom said.
After a bit more requisite protesting on our part, my husband and I fished our children’s bags out of the trunk, went online to buy a pair of one-way airplane tickets for the following Saturday and found ourselves headed back to Los Angeles in a most unfamiliar position: just the two of us, alone.

At first, we felt more strange than giddy.

“Miss them yet?” my husband said after we had been rolling for, oh, three or four miles. But about halfway down I-5, it started to sink in: We realized that we’d been talking for hours and that no one had interrupted us to ask that we turn up the music (if it was theirs) or turn down the music (if it was ours). Or to tell us he was hungry. Or she was thirsty. Or had to go to the bathroom. Or to ask us when we would be arriving home — over and over and over again.

The next day I wasn’t even unpacked before I boasted to a friend — a bit smugly I admit — that we were child-free. She answered back: “You must miss them, though.”

“No,” I replied, “I don’t miss them at all.”

“Oh,” she said. “Wait a few days. You will.”

But I didn’t. Not then, not in a few days and not even on my last day of freedom. Frankly, I enjoyed every moment of it.

My husband and I dined out all but one night — and without the slightest consideration that my daughter doesn’t like Thai food or that my son won’t try Indian. We ate late, lingered over our last sips of wine and took long evening walks.

I slept in for a solid week, drank coffee and read my morning newspapers uninterrupted. When I sat down at my desk to work, my computer was not set on RuneScape, my son’s favorite online game. And my scissors, pencils and pens, pencil sharpener, dictionary, notepads and Scotch tape were exactly where I had left them the last time I used them. Miracle of miracles!

When I went to take a shower, no wet towels littered the floor, and I didn’t have to step over my daughter’s housecoat, blue jeans or discarded shoes to get there.

And every time I looked in the refrigerator or freezer for some juice, a piece of fruit, a bowl of ice cream, whatever, it was there because the hordes of teenagers that usually hang out at my house had not emptied it out five minutes after I’d returned from a $200 grocery store run.

I spent no time on the phone arranging carpools for my daughter or schlepping her to sleepovers, the mall or movies. My son did not noodge me for countless play dates, complain of being bored or pester me to buy him comic books or a Game Boy for his next birthday (still six months away). It was heaven.

I bragged to just about everyone I ran into that we were without our children for the week. Almost all of them asked if I missed them and almost all of them seemed surprised — some even slightly horrified — when I said no.

My husband asked me several times, as well, if I missed the kids, though he seemed more amused than shocked by my response: “Not even a little.”

Now, before you get your knickers in twist, know this: I love my kids deeply. And I was thrilled to see their sweet faces when they arrived home. But for goodness sake, they were gone for a blink. Next summer, I think I’ll try to convince them to go away for two weeks. Or maybe even three.

By then, after 51 weeks of togetherness, my Good Mommy credentials should be reinstated, my membership in the club renewed.


Randye Hoder is a Los Angeles-based freelance writer. Her work has appeared in the Los Angeles Times, Los Angeles magazine, The Wall Street Journal and others.

Five Gold Bangles and World of Difference


The morning of my wedding day, my mother called me into her bedroom.
“Come sit with me,” she said quietly, patting the spot next to her on the bed.
I sat down beside her, the softness of the mattress causing our shoulders to touch.

She turned her face toward mine, looking happier than I had seen her look in years. I attributed it to the fact that her almost-30-year-old daughter was finally getting married. Smiling, she handed me a box.

“Open it,” she urged.

Inside the box were five beautiful, gold-filigree bangle bracelets of different patterns. The gold was unlike any I had ever seen and warmed to my touch. They were not new, their shapes having been altered from perfect circles to imperfect ones by the wrists they had adorned.

I turned them over in my hands and, one by one, slid them on my right arm. They were truly beautiful.

“Oh, Mom, I love them! Where did you get them?”

She answered by telling me a story about my great-grandmother, Jemilla Danino, who, at the age of 12, married a man more than three times her age to become his second wife. Born in 1882 to a poor family in Alexandria, Egypt, she had no choice but to respect the arrangement her parents had made. One afternoon he arrived, and within the week she left with her new husband to live in Haifa, never to see her parents again. The bracelets on my arm were the same ones that Jemilla had received from her husband as a token of his commitment to marry her.

Living in the 21st century, it is hard to fathom an arrangement like the one Jemilla’s parents made for her. I barely get a vote as to whom my own daughter dates, let alone a veto. And I cried for three nights when I sent her off to summer camp and she was the same age that Jemilla was when she left home forever. And knowing, as Jemilla’s parents surely did, that I would never see my child or my grandchildren, is a thought I don’t even want to entertain.

It’s hard to believe that as recently as the early 1900s, my great-grandmother lived in a harem; marketing, cooking, washing and cleaning side by side with the other wives who shared her husband’s bed. Yet for Sephardic Jews who lived in communities influenced by Islam, like Egypt, Yemen, Morocco and Turkey, polygamy was an accepted practice.

This is in contrast to the Jews of Eastern Europe, where Rabbi Gershom decreed a ban on polygamy in the 10th century. Sephardic Jews did not accept Rabbi Gershom’s ban however, and when Israel was created in 1948, the state faced the problem of what to do with Jewish immigrants who had multiple wives. The Israeli government permitted those marriages already in existence to stay in effect while forbidding any future ones. Today, the ban on polygamy is universally accepted in the Jewish world.

The Bible is filled with stories of the problems and the unhappiness that exists in a polygamous marriage: Sarah was derided by Hagar because she couldn’t have a child, Leah was jealous of Rachel because Isaac loved her more and Solomon’s many wives brought idolatry into the land of Israel. My great-grandmother suffered a similar fate when, at the age of 13, she gave birth to my grandfather amidst women who could not bear children. Barely a teenager herself, she learned how to care for her child in a home where her life was made miserable by the disappointment and bitterness of other women. What saved her during those difficult years, and throughout her life, was her wit, wisdom and undying love for her son, my grandfather.

There are other laws that have been changed or prohibited throughout Jewish history. Another example is Rabbi Gershom’s decree prohibiting a man from divorcing his wife against her will, for any or no reason at all. This reversed a long-standing injustice that left women totally vulnerable in a marriage. The law was changed requiring the consent of both parties to a divorce, although there are still problems when a husband refuses to give the woman a bill of divorcement, or a get in Hebrew. (But I will save that topic that for another time!)

I treasure wearing my gold bracelets for many reasons. They help me remember my great-grandmother, a woman whose courage, strength and devotion carried her through a lifetime of struggle. They remind me of my mother, who wore them as a young girl when she was raised by Jemilla as a result of her own parents’ tragic and untimely deaths. And they give me a sense of optimism about our future as Jews.

For it is through the wisdom of the Jewish tradition and its ability to change and respond to laws that are patently unfair or result in causing hardship and injustice, that our greatest hope for the future lies.

Shiloh Welcomes Shiloh


Residents of the West Bank settlement of Shiloh voiced pleasure at having a new namesake in the daughter of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie: Shiloh Nouvel Jolie-Pitt..

“Residents of ancient and renewed Shiloh wish the new Shiloh good health and a productive life,” community official Yisrael Medad said in a statement circulated this week.

Shiloh means “peaceful one.”

It was also the biblical site where Joshua first divided up the newly conquered Land of Israel among the 12 tribes descended from the patriarch Jacob. Today, it is a mostly Modern Orthodox community of 1,500.

The baby, who is the couple’s first biological child, was born Saturday, May 27 in Namibia.

 

Obituaries


Leonore Arvidson died April 26 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Enid; son, Dean; grandson, Ben; sisters, Bea (Max) Perlberg and Char Goldberg; and brother, Stan Charnofsky. Mount Sinai

HERMAN BRAGER died April 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Betty; son, Steven; daughter, Rhonda; one grandchild; and sister, Estelle Singer. Hillside

Rodman Rubin Cohen died April 27 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Rose; sons, Jeffrey (Judie), Paul (Kathy) and Mark (Maribel); daughter Joan (Steven) Soltz; 12 grandchildren; and brother, Herman (Terry). Mount Sinai

SONDRA SHAMES-COHEN died April 27 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Morton Cohen; children Mickey (Steven) Lewis and Brad (Julie) Shames; 11 grandchildren; and one great-granddaughter. Hillside

Nettie Condon died April 26 at 91. She is survived by her sons, John (Cyd) and Frank; and granddaughter, Chloe. Mount Sinai

SUSAN COOPER died April 29 at 62. She is survived by her husband, Steven; son, Todd (Alexandra); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Morris Farkas died April 26 at 93. He is survived by his son, Morris. Groman

Jerry Freeman died April 30. He is survived by his wife, Aviva; daughters, Leslie Aaronson and Nili Ovsiwitz; one grandchild; and sister, Judith Kahn. Groman

MAX GEFFNER died April 26 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Valerie; sons, Sandy (Ellen) and Bob (Ellen); daughters Nola (George) Geffner-Mihlsten ; stepson, Steve; and eight grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Zena Gold died April 30 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Judith (David) Rosenthal and Maxine (Lloyd) Kouri; grandchildren, Greg (Barbara) Rosenthal and Tina Kouri; and sister, Ina Gruman. Mount Sinai

Mae Goldberg died April 8 at 98. She is survived by her son, Maurice; daughter, Marcia Gomberg; six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Bertha Goldstein died April 24 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Julian; son, Steve (Judy); daughter, Ellen (Stephen) Goldstein-Tersigni; three grandchildren; brother, Irving (Arlene) Shapiro. Mount Sinai

DOROTHY SARA HOFFS died April 22 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Dr. Josh (Tamar) and Dr. Malcolm (Ellen); six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Hillside

JACK JOSEPH JACOBSON died April 26 at 93. He is survievd by his wife, Libbie; children, Annee Tara (Tom Rumpf) and Tom Jacobson; grandchildren Ethan Jacobson and Leah (Jake) Schug; and great-grandchild, Alexander Joaquin Schug. Hillside

Arnold Kaplan died April 28 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Sheila; children, Alison (Jan) Kelleter, Howard and Lorn; two grandchildren; and mother, Mildred. Mount Sinai

Charlene Karwoski died May 2 at 74. She is survived by her daughters, Marcy Brenner and Rose Arellanes; sons, Sanford (Lena) Brenner, Frank (Kim), Vince (Mary) and William Arellanes; 10 grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and brother, Howard (Bea) Block. Mount Sinai

Morris Katz died April 24 at 92. He is survived by his sons, Martin and Carl; brother, Nathan; and sister, Gertrude Linder. Mount Sinai

Dr. Gregorio Kazenelson died April 24 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; and daughter, Debra (Jeff) Dean. Malinow and Silverman

Rose Kravitz died April 30 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Sheldon (Denise) and Herbert (Eleanor); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MATTHEW CAMERON LEWIS died April 26 at 18. He is survived by his parents, Adena Berger and Robert; grandparents, Sheldon and Venita Berger; and sisters, Rachel, Lilly and Olivia. Hillside

EMANUEL LIGHT died April 24 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Celia; sons, Jeffrey (Francine), Donald (Jane) and Dennis; four grandchildren; and two great-granddaughters. Hillside

Carol Love died April 25 at 56. She is survived by her sons, Bellaamy Mitchell, and John Brink; daughter Maydee Mitchell; and three grandchildren. Groman

Evelyn Magid died April 29 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Bonnie (Barrett) Bearson; son, Jerry; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

RICHARD NEAL NORTH died April 26 at 53. He is survived by his father, Milton; and cousin, Don Preston. Hillside

LISA BLOCH OLSHANSKY, died April 29. She is survived by her husband, Richard Olshansky; children, Amy Rose, Chaysen and Max; parents, Richard and Nancy Bloch; and brothers, Andrew and Jonathan Malinow and Silverman

Teresa Perchuk died May 1 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Felica Lopez and Silvia; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MAC RAFF died April 29 at 86. He is survived by his son, Mitch; and sister, Sally Springer. Sholom Chapels

Nat Regenstreif died May 1 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Vivian; sons, Ron (Roxann) and Allan (Adele); three grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sisters, Irene (Martin) Travis and Marlene Semel.

Rebecca Rosen died April 29 at 91. She is survived by her son, Albert Rosen; daughter, Elissa Berzon; five grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Groman

Judy Rothstein died May 2 at 75. She is survived by her sons, Ron, Glen and Kenny; daughter, Gail Ream; two grandchildren; brother, Leonard Abraham. Groman

MARY ANN SACHERMAN died April 21 at 82. She is survived by her daughters, Lynne (Dennis) Fliegelman and Lynda (Michael) Rubenstein; grandchildren, Natalie and Alex; and sister, Sally Cole. Hillside

EDWARD SARROW died April 24 at 82. He is survived by his companion, Phyllis Ames; son, Ron; three grandchildren; brother, Arnie.

Marion Schneider died April 24 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Martin; children, Ronald (Terry), Avery (Barbara) and Wendy; granddaughter, Juliette; and brother, David (Gina) Tepper. Mount Sinai

ALAN SCHULTZ died April 21 at 61. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; sons, Randy (Jill) and Rob; mother, Bella; brother, Steven; sisters, Gail and Joy; and friend, Elaine Saller. Hillside

John Bruce Sills died May 1 at 62. He is survived by his wife, Patricia; mother, Edythe Fahringer; and brothers, Steven and Mickey. Groman

Henry Silver died April 27 at 94. He is survived by his nieces, Miriam (Asher) Harel and Jean Priver. Mount Sinai

Howard Sookman died April 30, at 80. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; daughters, Barbara (Cantor Edwin) Gerber and Sheryl; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

SHERRI LEE STONE died May 1 at 59. She is survived by her husband, Michael; children Aaron (Lisa) and Joshua; mother, Rebecca Orinstein; sisters Carol (Jon) Swinnerton and Harriet Orinstein; parents-in-law, Oscar and Shirley; brothers in-law, Bruce (Susan) and Hal (Lynda Stone); and eight nieces and nephews. Hillside

Adele Strauss died April 28 at 93. She is survived by sons, Dr. Ronald (Susie) and Stephen; granddaughter, Valerie; and niece, Helen Kurtz . Mount Sinai

Shirley Venger died April 27 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Paula (Ed) Albert; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

RANDY LEE WEIL died April 25 at 52. She is survived by her mother, Ruth; sister, Sharon (John) Aaron; and friend, Rabbi Judith Halevy. Hillside

SPENCER JAY WILLENS died May 1 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; children Douglas, Donald, Michael, Damon and Stacey; six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Gazella Yaffe died April 24 at 89. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughter, Barbara Feinberg; and two grandchildren. Groman

Comforting Mothers Without Mothers


“My childhood skidded to a stop on a Tuesday afternoon in the middle of my 15th year, with my mother’s first mammogram results,” writes Hope Edelman in her moving new book, “Motherless Mothers: How Mother Loss Shapes the Parents We Become” (Harper Collins). For Edelman, her mother’s illness and subsequent death from cancer two years later in 1981 were the beginning of a journey of loss, self-exploration and eventual emotional redemption that has spanned nearly a quarter-century and spawned three well-received books on the subject.

“I wanted to find ways to help women cope, and even thrive in the absence of a mother,” says Edelman from her home in Topanga Canyon.

A native New Yorker who graduated from the Northwestern School of Journalism, Edelman first explored “mother loss” while studying creative nonfiction writing at the prestigious Iowa Writers’ Workshop in the late 1980s. She discovered that, other than a few pieces of clinical work gathering dust in university archives, women seeking guidance and reassurance had few resources.

Her first book, “Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss,” published in 1994, fused her own experiences with research and with excerpts from interviews with hundreds of women. She received thousands of letters from women who heard their voices expressed in her pages. The book became a New York Times best seller that sparked dialogue and helped pave the way for a more open discourse on the subject.

In the midst of this success, her own life was about to change dramatically — a seismic shift that would inspire her next major book project.

Edelman was living in New York in 1996 when she began dating Uzi Eliyahou, an Israeli high-tech executive based in Los Angeles. Seven months into their whirlwind long-distance relationship, she discovered she was pregnant. Within the year, she was married, living in Los Angeles and the mother of Maya, now 8 (Eden, 4, followed a few years later).

Through this experience, Edelman became convinced that as a motherless daughter, she faced a unique and different set of challenges that she wanted to share with both laypeople and medical professionals.

She was motivated in part by a disturbing interaction with the first gynecologist she saw after becoming pregnant. When faced with Edelman’s particular concerns about coping, as a pregnant woman, with the loss of her own mother, the doctor just wasn’t interested.

“Let me know when you get it figured out,” he told her.

She later heard similar tales of insensitivity from other women.

Edelman hoped that in her book she could help doctors and psychologists develop empathy for the experience of the motherless mother.

“As with most of the women I interviewed, the big question that arose was, ‘How will I know how to be a mother?'” Edelman says.

Other issues that loom large for soon-to-be or new mothers include the fear of dying young, the anxiety of losing a loved one and the desire to give their children an emotional security they did not have themselves.

“I’m about to reach the same age my mother was when she died,” Edelman says. “And that looms large.”

In the course of her research, Edelman discovered that becoming a mother often brought the pain of her mother’s passing into the forefront, but that the process of pregnancy, birth and childrearing can be healing. Even so, there’s a multigenerational effect to account for.

Since most women keep photographs of their late mothers prominently displayed in their homes, the pictures spark curiosity, and discussion.

“We talk about my mother often and openly,” Edelman says.

Another unexpected result of motherhood has been reconnection with faith.

“My mother was the center of Jewish identity in our house,” Edelman says. “When she died, our family’s connection to Judaism loosened.”

According to Edelman, the mother typically serves as “kinkeeper,” the one who brings friends and family together for holiday meals and rituals.

“When a Jewish woman loses her mother, she loses the most important role model for how to sustain a Jewish home.” Edelman says. “You are suddenly without the person who is primarily responsible for cooking Shabbat dinner or preparing the seder. We became religious orphans when my mother died.”

It was her older daughter, Maya, named for Edelman’s mother, who helped bring the family back into the Jewish fold. Edelman and her husband enrolled Maya in school at Chabad of Topanga. Maya soon came home bursting with knowledge about all of the holidays. “She wants to observe all the holidays,” says Edelman. “It’s a connection I only recently made,” she added, explaining that the process of Jewish ritual and community has helped heal the wounds of her mother’s premature passing.

Edelman is pursuing a variety of writing projects, but doesn’t want to overlook a main theme of her work: the importance of spending meaningful time with your family.

“There were far too many 14-hour days in the past three years,” Edelman says. “I’m enjoying spending more time with my husband and children.”

Hope Edelman regularly holds one-day Motherless Daughters writing workshops For more information, visit

Obituaries


MIRIAM MOLAY ALBIN died April 10 at 89. She is survived by her son, Dr. David; daughter, Judy (Dan) Platus; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Hanriet Shalom Barlava died March 31 at 80. She is survived by her son, Ezatollah; and brother, Jacques. Chevra Kadisha

Arthur Beer died April 8 at 87. He is survived by his son, Edward; daughter, Linda Fisher; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

MARVIN NELSON BIRKEN died April 10 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Mickey; children, Jim (Lois Courtney), Maxine (Richard) Eisenberg and Leonard; step-children, Carrie (Bob) Grodin-Vehling, Donna (Richard) Trubo and Marty (Elaine) Grodin; 12 grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Betty Bledy died April 9 at 77. She is survived by her sons, Leslie and Mark; and four grandchildren. Groman

David Boder died April 9 at 83. He is survived by his son, Steve; daughter, Adrienne Azouz; and two grandchildren. Groman

SYLVIA BRAHINSKY died April 5 at 97. She is survived by her daughter, Sunny Deutschman; son, David (Linda) Brahinsky; five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Evelyn Cooper died April 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Nathan; daughter, Barbara Azar; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Dr. William Copen died March 27 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; son, Dr. Stephen (Naghmeh); and one grandchild. Mount Sinai

Ashraf Farahi died April 3 at 91. She is survived by her son, Mousa; and daughter, Angela Faradin. Chevra Kadisha

Beatrice Feldman died April 9 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; sons, Steven and Robert; daughters, Freddi Ann Horowitz and Deborah; seven grandchildren; brothers, Murray, William and Albert Balopole; and sister, Sylvia Tetenbaum. Groman

MARILYN FELT died April 4 at 68. She is survived by her husband, George; daughter, Laura (Steven) Baker; and grandchildren, Jed and Lucie Baker. Hillside

Dorothy Finestone died April 15 at 92. She is survived by her sons, Alan and Bill; and six grandchildren. Groman

WALLACE FISCHMANN died April 5 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Madelyn; daughter, Dr. Laura Havstad; sons, Scott and Steve; seven grandchildren; and brother Harvey. Hillside

ARTHUR FRANCAVILLA died April 8 at 89. He is survived by his son, Michael (Gayle); daughter, Melodie; five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

DONNA GLICK died April 12 at 57. She is survived by her husband, Marshall; daughters, Marni and Heather; brother Marvin; sister-in-law, Laura; and three nieces.Hillside

LEON GOTTDANK died April 6 at 83. He is survived by his niece, Sandy Bogin. Hillside

Richard Groff died April 8 at 85. He is survived by his sons, Vaughn, Carl and David; daughters, Lorraine Brake and Paula Pearlman; seven grandchildren; brother, Ray; and relative Eddie Hendricks. Groman

Melvin Jay Guthman died April 7 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Laura; son, Mitchell; daughter, Dr. Julie; one grandchild; and sister, Ruthe Pearlman. Groman

Sol Hauptman died April 8 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Adeline; son, Leslie; daughter, Dale Schneider; brother, Jack; seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Ann Hausman died April 10 at 84. She is survived by her son, Donald; daughter, Sheryl; sister, Dorothy Zettler; and five grandchildren. Groman

Boris Ibragimov died April 15 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Julia; and daughter, Angela. Chevra Kadisha

Justine Sophie Jaffe died April 7 at 84. She is survived by her son, Robert; daughter, Lisa Richards; three grandchildren; brother, Lawrence Wild. Groman

David Lou Kass died April 13 at 74. He is survived by his daughter, Michelle Meyer. Chevra Kadisha

Franklin Lewis Kent died April 14 at 85. He is survived by his son, Thomas; and brother, Edward. Groman

LOUIS LEMBERGER died April 10 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and seven grandchildren. Hillside

BARBARA LEVENTHAL died April 8 at 49. She is survived by her sons, Chad and Aaron Penny; brothers, Robert, Marvin and Brian; and sister-in-law, Dorothy Leventhal. Hillside

Ina Allene Levine died April 7 at 72. She is survived by her sons, Jeffrey and Jon; daughters, Jodi Levine and Jill Butterbaugh; mother, Myra Dorshkind; nine grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

ROBERT LIVINGSTONE died April 6 at 81. He is survived by his son, Keith (Nancy); daughter, Patti (Todd Finkle); grandson Joseph Ritzo; and sister Sharon, (Ted) Asnis. Hillside

Ray Evelyn Lowenstein died April 15 at 99. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Davis; and grandson, Howard Davis. Chevra Kadisha

Maurice Mazer died April 14 at 86. He is survived by his nephews, Claudio Balter and Laurence Balter; and nieces, Amy Friedlander, Lily Holland and Lucy Kihm. Groman

Iraj Manshoory died April 7 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Berokha; and son, Mike. Chevra Kadisha

Yaghoub Mehdian died April 11 at 52. He is survived by his wife, Guillermina; and son, Shahnum Josh Mehdian. Chevra Kadisha

Annette Miretsky died April 16 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Nina (Simon Asheroff) and Pamela; son, Donald (Bonnie); grandchildren, Izaah and Noah; sister, Linda Prosk; and brother, Marty (Hillary) Kamenir. Mount Sinai

Herbert Martin Newman died April 6 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Livia; and sons, David and Sam. Chevra Kadisha

Anita Bernstein Phillips died April 15 at 75. She is survived by her sister, Rosalind (David) Spielsinger; cousin, Judith Hyman; nieces; nephews; and friend, Naomi Mark. Pinelawn, N.Y.

Larry Rabkin died April 15. He is survived by his wife, Eleanor; daughter, Leslie (Mark); sons, Richard (Gloria), Mark (Randi) and Michael (Chip); five grandchildren; and sister, Fruma. Malinow and Silverman

Bess Raskin died April 6 at 95. She is survived by her daughters, Jo Anne Brosnahan and Gloria Rosenthal; three grandchildren; and nine great-grandchildren. Groman

Margaret Rose died April 17 at 99. She is survived by her nieces, Jackie (Reuben) Alvy and Linda; nephews, David and Michael; great-nieces; and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

Maurice Rosenson died April 10 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Bella; sons Bernard and Charles; daughter, Sylvie Deutsch; and eight grandchildren. Groman

ANNE SAKS died April 8 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Yonetta (Leonard) Asin. Hillside

Allan Rothenberg died April 9 at 81. He is survived by wife, Harriet; son, David; daughters, Marsha Kendall and Carol; four grandchildren; and sister, Luba Small. Groman

Mildred Sheanin died April 16 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Carol (Philip) Cramer; son, Stephen (Jackie Applebaum); three grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Henrietta (Irv) Levine. Mount Sinai

Beverly Rita Solomon died April 16 at 74. She is survived by her daughter, Fran; son, Michael; and stepbrother, Joseph Weissbard. Mount Sinai

Irma Templer died April 8 at 106. She is survived by her niece, Joanna Grun. Groman

Sylvia Miller Tishk died April 14 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Todd, Garth and Rex Miller; 11 grandchildren; sister, Ida Kofsky; and niece, Joan Gesson-Jacobs. Groman

Sura Vainberg died April 9 at 78. She is survived by her son, Yaakov Grinblat; daughter, Marianna; and grandchildren, Diana and Michelle. Chevra Kadisha

Phyllis Wiesenberg died April 17 at 82. She is survived by her son, Mark; daughters, Randi Chazan and Wendy Weisenberg; and one grandchild. Groman

Houshang Yadgari died April 17 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Jilla; and son, Allen. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries


Ruth Adler died April 8 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Michelle (Gevik) Bachoian; son, Frank (Karen); five grandchildren; and sister, Bella Cohen. Mount Sinai

Elana Belinkoff died March 13 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Adar; daughters, Dalia (Ira), Alisa (Howard), Dena (Sol); seven grandchildren; and sister Rama Zamir. Hillside.

Betty Bledy died April 9 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Arthur; sons, Mark and Leslie; four grandchildren; and two great- grandchildren.

Blanche Bloom died April 11 at 87. She is survived by her son, Noel (Susan); daughter, Maggie; three grandchildren; brother, Hal (Pat) Alexander; and nephew, Rob (Lisa) Miller. Mount Sinai

Israel David Borenstein died April 8, at 84. He is survived by his sons, Larry (Laurie) and Jeff (Judy); daughter, Blanche (Mark) Kraveitz; six grandchildren; and sister, Anna Gutwillic. Mount Sinai

Harriett Cherney died April 3 at 87. She is survived by her brother, Victor Bochacki; and sisters, Annette Bafo and Majorie Adamski. Malinow and Silverman

Allan Davis died April 13 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Beryl; sons, Gary (Victoria) and Paul (Ginnie); five grandchildren; and brother, Cyril Davis. Mount Sinai

Betty Ducat died April 7 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Shirley Laderman. Malinow and Silverman

Shirley Mae Epps died April 4 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Lorry (Mate) Greenblatt; son, Jack (Cynthia); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Emanuel Finkel died April 7 at 94. He is survived by his son, Ted; and daughter, Irene Landsberg. Malinow and Silverman

Rose Fisher died April 4 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Arnold and Robert (Ofra); daughter, Verna Erez; six grandchildren; and sister, Ida Chisvian. Mount Sinai

LARRY GOLD died April 4 at 52. He is survived by his wife, Cindy; children Andrew, Olivia, Ian and Madeline; mother, Beverly; siblings, Donna (Bruce) Rothstein, David Ross and Lisa; sister-in-law, Penny (Jerome) Madden; and three nephews. Hillside

Mae Goldberg died April 8 at 98. She is survived by her son, Maurice (Arline); daughter, Marcia (Jerome) Gomberg; six grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Florence Goldstein died April 3 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Elsie (Jack) Hunn. Malinow and Silverman

Henry Goldstein died April 4 at 94. He is survived by his daughter, Beverly Cohen. Malinow and Silverman

Jack Greenberg died April 14 at 98. He is survived by his son, Anthony. Malinow and Silverman

Clifford Harris died April 7 at 58. He is survived by his wife, Ellen; sons, Kevin (Joanna) and Scott (Sierra); daughter Meggan (Adam Miller); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Florence Kauffman died April 11 at 88. She is survived by her husband, Richmond; sons, Andrew and Richard; four grandchildren; and brother, George Hausman. Malinow and Silverman

Rosaline Klein died April 5 at 92. She is survived by her daughters, Roberta Thompson and Francine Denmeade; six grandchildren; 12 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren. Groman

Anne Ladon died April 3 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Carol Alpert; and granddaughter, Julie Alpert. Mount Sinai

Michelle Ann Leve died April 2 at 34. She is survived by her mother, Deborah. Malinow and Silverman

Marian Le Vine died April 6 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Marsha Krieger; son, Jerry (Carole); six grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Harold Milton Lewis died April 11 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; son, Steven; daughters, Lynn Alschuler and Babette Walter; sister, Jean Remar; 14 grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Sam Lereya died April 14 at 100. He is survived by his daughters, Rachel Aflalo and Zaava. Malinow and Silverman

Max Lipshultz died April 9, at 84. He is survived by his children, Diane (Tony) and Michael; two grandchildren; brother, Fred; and sisters, Sara Agata and Eva. Mount Sinai

Mindla Majdat died April 3 at 94. She is survived by her stepson, Percy (Natalie) Cooper. Mount Sinai

Louis Marder died April 9 at 84. She is survived by her son, Sheldon; and granddaughter, Jennifer. Mount Sinai

Monroe Miller died April 7 at 90. He is survived by his sons, Kenny (Martha) and Jeffrey (Rich); and daughter, Marsha. Mount Sinai

Linda Barbara Moffa died April 6 at 58. She is survived by her husband, Philip; daughters, Sharon (Dr. Andrew) Horodner and Dr. Allison; and one grandson. Malinow and Silverman

Yetta Newman died April 9 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Dale (Carolee) and Jeffrey (Lila); six grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; sister, Helen (Sam) Weingard; and brother, Marvin (May) Berman. Mount Sinai

Dorothy Nissenson died April 10 at 92. She is survived by her son, Bernie (Marcia) Labowitz; grandchildren, Paul Labowitz and Shannon (Michael) Coleman; great- grandchildren, Kyle and Rachel Coleman; and cousin, Fern. Mount Sinai

Yoram Pourtavosi died April 10 at 48. He is survived by his wife, Shadi; children, Cobby, Elliot and Kevin; mother, Nosrat; sisters, Mehri (Hooshang) Davdodpour and Minou (Yoel) Eshagian; brothers, Yahiah (Dina Asheghian) and Joseph (Sohila); and cousin, Abbey Tabariai. Mount Sinai

Molly Rael died April 6 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Irving; son, Michael; and sisters, Eileen Phinney and Frieda Uretz. Mount Sinai

Beatrice Weisstein Ridgley died April 4 at 91. She is survived by her husband, Paul; son, Larry; daughter, Renee’ (Linda) Perez; three grandchildren; and sister, Thelma Sundick. Malinow and Silverman

Gloria Rudolph died April 4 at 78. She is survived by her son, Randy. Malinow and Silverman

Judith Sandler died April 12 at 87. She is survived by her son, Barry (Naomi); and two grandsons. Malinow and Silverman

Stuart Seidner died April 12 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Roxane; son, Daniel; daughter, Erin; mother, Ruth; brother, Gary (Luciano); and sister, Sandra (Robert) Rosenstein. Mount Sinai

Esther Shapiro died April 4 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Susan; son, Alan (Pearl); four grandchildren; and four great- grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Betty Ann Silver died April 3 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Rosalind. Malinow and Silverman

Nancy Sollish died April 10 at 98. She is survived by her son, Melvin; daughter, Pauline; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren.

Philip Solomon died April 3 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Claire; son, Barry (Linda); four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Leon Harold Specktor died April 5 at 83. He is survived by his daughter, Denyse; and brother, Dr. Marshall (Marlene) Spector. Malinow and Silverman

Martin Stiller died April 6 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; sons, Neil (Kimberly) and Gary (Vicki); three grandsons, David, Jonathan and Wesley; and sisters, Elaine (John) Bush, Beverly Setser and Leslie Steiner. Mount Sinai

David Tamarin died April 5 at 87. He is survived by his daughters, Adreen DuBow, Judy and Faith; three grandsons; two great-grandchildren; sister, Anna (Glen) Popperwell; and brother, Carl. Mount Sinai

Randolph David Thornton died April 6 at 50. He is survived by his wife, Kim; daughters, Sean and Michelle; mother, Elizabeth; sister, Cindy; and brother, Michael. Malinow and Silverman

Irving Willner died April 5 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; son, Paul (Lynn Clancy); daughter, Julia (Scott) Parker; granddaughter, Erin Alyssa; and sisters, Shirley (Sol) Matzkin and Phyllis (Jonas) Herskovitz. Mount Sinai

Margaret Zelson died April 7 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Carol Miller. Malinow and Silverman

 

Father of the Bride: No Job, Just Smile


Recently, I told some friends that I was going to accompany my younger daughter while she tried on wedding dresses. Their reactions were as follows:

From the women: “How very sweet”; “How lovely to bond with your daughter”; “I’m sure you’ll enjoy it.”

From the men: “Bring your checkbook.”

This is not going to be a rant about how difficult it is for men to deal with weddings — their own or someone else’s. (In fact my daughter paid for her own dress and, with her fiancé, is also paying for the wedding.) My role was to stand by, look as though I knew what I was doing, and contribute my considered judgment on how she looked in the dresses she was trying on. Not being an utter fool, I restricted my comments to an occasional “lovely” with a few “beautifuls” added for variety.

Face it friends, when it comes to weddings, men are about as essential as a third leg. This is true during the premarital stages and the wedding itself. (After the wedding it’s another story, but this is a family newspaper.)

We generally stand around, amazed at the enormity of effort that goes into its preparation and then, at the event itself, we walk down the aisle looking like penguins and stand under the chuppah unnoticed while everyone gazes in awe and admiration at the bride. If it weren’t for the fact that the law requires two for a wedding, we could just as well stay home and watch the Wedding Channel.

Viewing the preparations for my daughter’s wedding (never mind that it is scheduled for next November), I am in awe at the breadth and intensity of the action. I can recall three sites that were officially chosen and then rejected. Latest word is that it is set for the chapel of her alma mater, Brandeis University. The bride has informed me of the principal reason for this. Apparently the chapel has a glass wall, which catches the sun at a certain hour of the afternoon so that the wedding pair is silhouetted against the sky. I am not making this up.

When last I heard, the guest list was being kept to 125, a goodly number of whom will fly in from California, where she was born and lived until we moved to Rhode Island. Others will be arriving from Seattle, St. Louis, Chicago and Washington, D.C.

The dresses for the bridesmaids have already been selected, the canopy has been chosen and the rabbi has been alerted. Enough non-Jews will be present so that my wife will write a booklet explaining to them what they are watching. It will probably contain no reference to the fact that this is an all-woman production.

My role consists of saying the aforementioned “lovelys” and “beautifuls,” as well as a plentiful number of “yes, dears.”

Clayton, the other half of the duo-to-be, has only to utter one “I do,” an important responsibility, granted, but one I’m sure he can handle. His role has been even smaller than mine; he didn’t even get to watch the dress selection. Truth is, he is probably quite happy with this arrangement; call me a sexist pig if you will, but women seem genetically wired for this sort of activity while men are more interested in what takes place after the last grain of rice has been thrown. (Oops, sorry. I forgot. Family newspaper.)

The mother of the bride has been content with offering advice when requested. As a practicing historian, her interest in weddings as a genre is limited to the marital customs of the Incas and the Aztecs, most of which would probably be illegal in California. The stepfather of the groom lives in Washington state and has, thankfully, been most circumspect in his queries about what to expect when the day arrives. I doubt whether he will be surprised at anything that transpires. As a former Marine, he knows when to duck and weddings provide many opportunities for the men involved in them to practice their avoidance skills.

Which is pretty much what I am about at the moment. Frankly, I’m not anticipating the wedding as much as the aftermath, because in a year or two I expect that the products of this union will begin to emerge, among them I trust, at least one baby boy. Eventually he will develop a liking for the important things in life: baseball, TV, “EverQuest” and girls. When he does, you know whom he will turn to for advice and counsel. And the best part is that when he finds the right girl and is ready to marry, never, ever, will he ask me if the shoes he has picked match the socks he will be wearing at his wedding.

For this let us all give thanks and say, amen.

Yehuda Lev, former associate editor of The Jewish Journal, now makes his home in Providence, R.I. His business card reads “Journalist Emeritus.”

 

Obituaries


Cecile Abers died Nov. 26 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Emanuel; daughter, Laurie; one grandchild; and sister, Beverly Sloane. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Balman died Nov. 22 at 89. She is survived by her cousin, Harvey Pollak; and friend, Lyudmila Siderman. Mount Sinai

Margaret Berkowitz died Nov. 27 at 99. She is survived by her daughter, Sally Blecher; four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild; and sister, Bernice Getzug. Groman

David Blaustein died Nov. 25 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Belle; daughter, Lenore (Steve) Newman; son, Paul (Nancy); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ruth Leah Brackman died Nov. 27 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Beverly Diaz; and son, Dr. Harold. Malinow and Silverman

SARAH BRENESSEL died Nov. 28 at 89. She is survived by nieces Joyce (Jon) Hewitt, Karen Peterson and Betty (Mike) Pongracz; nephews, Steven (Diane), Darrell (Chris) Cozen, Glenn (Debra) Cozen; and “adopted son” Rob Hearsch. Hillside

Aziz Cohanshad died Nov 27 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Ashraf Rabizadeh; son, Mehrdad; daughter, Rebecca; and nephew, David. Chevra Kadisha

Dorothy Danoff died Nov. 27 at 87. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughter, Robin (Walter) Adler; and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Warren Delson died Nov. 25 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Olga. Malinow and Silverman

Lorraine Feldman died Nov. 23 at 70. She is survived by her husband, Martin; daughters, Barbara MacDonald and Melody Feldman; and sister, Irene Van Deusen. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Feuerstein died Nov. 22 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Arnold; daughter, Roberta; son, Elliot (Diane); four grandchildren; sister, Edith (Herbert) Turk; and brother, Eli Reinhard. Malinow and Silverman

Jean Fink died Nov. 24 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Joseph; daughter, Joanne; and sons, Jonathan and Jeffrey. Malinow and Silverman

Marion Brown Finnley died Nov. 22 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Lee (Ed) Madick and Annette (George) Sykulski; son, Marvin (Hannah); and eight grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Sara Frankel died Nov. 23 at 75. She is survived by her sons, Jordan, Steven and David; seven grandchildren; brother, Arnold Rubin; sister, Yetta Barack. Groman

Harry Friedman died Nov. 22 at 93. He is survived by his, wife, Mary; son, Bruce (Monique); daughter, Susan Klein; four grandchildren; one great-granddaughter; and sister, Bessie Anglein. Mount Sinai

HARRY FULTERMAN died Nov. 23 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Leah Kaplan; son, Martin; three grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and friends Ida Nagin and Luis Manapat. Hillside

GISELLE GANZ died Nov. 21 at 82. She is survived by her son, Sheldon; daughters, Judith (Eli) Pelman and Karine Grunfeld; six grandchildren; brother, Alan Rogier; and sisters, Judith Rosenberg and Ramola Robins. Sholom Chapels.

Harry Greenberg died Nov. 27 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Ida; daughter, Trena (Ronald) Thompson; son, Jack (Elsie); four grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; sisters, Pearl Zeiler, and Rosie Sinclair; and brother, Morty. Mount Sinai

Lee Elizabeth Herzikoff died Nov. 22 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Marci Cohen; and son, Jim. Malinow and Silverman

Daniel David Isenberg died Nov. 21 at 47. He is survived by his mother, Molly; daughter, Elizabeth; son, Michael; brothers, Eric and Philip; and sister, Karen Fiske. Malinow and Silverman

Pola Diament Goldfeld died Nov. 26 at 78. She is survived by her daughters, Brenda Nemeth and Dr. Anne; granddaughters, Hayley and Hope; nephews, Dr. Henry (Leslie) and Dr. Buddy (Jacque Jones) Ullman; niece, Laura Ullman (Mark Epstein); and brother-in-law, Isaac Ullman. Mount Sinai

Albert Greene died Nov. 28 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; sons, Dr Bill (Marilyn), John (Marie) and Bob (Trisha); stepdaughter, Ellen (Wilbur) Faulk; six grandchildren; and sister, Shirley Brill. Mount Sinai

Irma Greenfield died Nov. 23 at 87. She is survived by her niece, Cara (George) Gordon. Malinow and Silverman

Leonard Hale died Nov. 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; son, Joseph; daughter, Ellen Wood; and five grandchildren. Groman

Miriam Katz died Nov. 25 at 88. She is survived by her son, Arthur Geilman; daughter, Judy Goldstein; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren; sister, Marjorie Cohen. Groman

Barbara Kubert died Nov. 25 at 68. She is survived by daughter, Heather (William) Thomas; son, David (Pagona); mother, Lucy Margolis; and brother, Ray (Carol) Kirschbaum. Mount Sinai

Fortunee Alcahe Lahana died Nov. 27 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Jeanette Resnik, Lina Dyen and Sarah Helfing; sons, Jim and Dr. Daniel; 14 grandchildren and 13 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Estelle Lit died Nov. 25 at 84. She is survived by her daughter, Bonnie (Terry) Ramey; son, Jeff Franco; three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sister, Annabelle (Arthur) Sandler. Mount Sinai

Diane Miller died Nov. 24 at 86. She is survived by her sister, Shirley Hellman; nephews, Cary (Linda) and Avery (Nancy) Hellman; niece, Beverly (Marty) Zisner; one great-nephew; and two great-nieces. Mount Sinai

MILTON MILLMAN died Nov. 23 at 87. He is survived by his son, Michael (Marie); daughter, Lisa (Gene) Worton; and grandsons, Jeffrey and Brian. Hillside

RICHARD MOUALIM died Nov. 27 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Marcia; son, Jeffrey; and sister, Kate (Sam) Crofts. Hillside

Mildred Peskowitz died Nov. 23 at 90. She is survived by her son, Barry Charles; daughter, Ruthlee Becker; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Eva Pepper died Nov. 27 at 54. She is survived by her husband, Richard; sons, Aaron and Ethan; daughter, Brenna; mother, Serena Blumenfeld; and sister, Sherry Rothstein. Groman

Frances Platzer died Nov. 27 at 91. She is survived by daughters Lori (Michael) Solomon and Meril; five grandchildren; sisters Ruth Wasserman and Irene Robinson; nieces; and nephews. Groman

Ferdose Rabbani died Nov 24 at 80. She is survived by her son, Hamid; daughter, Tamar Bakshian; and grandaughter, Atoofa. Chevra Kadisha

Jean Riskin died Nov. 24 at 96. She is survived by her sons, Lester and Sheldon; daughter, Myrna; and sister, Minnie Joseph. Mount Sinai

Jeff Robinson died Nov. 26 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; son, Adam; daughter, Sabrina Hansen; one grandchild; mother, Sophie; and sister, Janice Kriegel. Groman

Esther Rubenstein died Nov. 3 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Arthur; son, Howard (Lauri) Roberts; daughter, Sue (David) Northrup; granddaughter, Rachel (Tim) Davidson; and great-granddaughters, Emilee and Jacqueline. Mount Sinai

EDYTHE SCHWARTZ died Nov. 25 at 101. She is survived by her son, Merton (Jacqueline); daughter, Elaine Marshall; three grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

HARRIETT SCHWARTZ died Nov. 24 at 86. She is survived by her son, Gary; and daughter, Rhonda. Hillside

Marion Shafer died Nov. 25 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Ilene (George) Chiochios and Lois (Michael) Bergman; four grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Doris Siegel died Nov. 25 at 77. She is survived by her daughters, Susan (Harvey) Lopez-Giss and Joann (Elaine Chernoff); sons, Scott (Nikki) and Jerry; and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Leon Tabak died Nov 24 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Rebeca; daughters, Aida Kaufer and Vivian; six grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren.

Sadie Weizer died Nov. 23 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Marc (Lorrie) and David (Christine) Winters; seven grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Dr. Murray (Trudy) Grant. Mount Sinai]

 

Obituaries


JACK ADRIANUS ABBENHUYS died Nov. 11 at 73. He is survived by his domestic partner, Helen Jasik; sons, Jimmy and Jerry; and brother, Frank. Hillside

Rosalyn Abrams died Nov. 16 at 77. She is survived by her son, Howard (Dawn); daughters, Sherry (Marc) Rosenberg and Elaine (Richard) Lucia; six grandchildren; and brother, Edward (Fay) Schneier. Mount Sinai

SIDNEY MELVIN BAKER died Nov. 12 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; sons, Neil and Gary; and one grandchild. Hillside

Irving Baron died Nov. 14 at 86. He is survived by his son, Fred; grandchildren, Jennifer (Michael) Van Iersel and Josh (Tracy); great-grandchildren, Ethan and Alec; and sister-in-law, Florence Kirchner. Mount Sinai

Gary Anton Berge died Nov. 6 at 51. He is survived by his mother, Fay. Groman

Allan Bluestein died Nov. 8 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Selma; and daughter, Ilene Kosof. Malinow and Silverman

Elizabeth Straus Boasberg died Nov. 10 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Susan Turner; son, Dr. Peter; and sister, Barbara Weil. Malinow and Silverman

Jonathan Delamere Booth died Nov. 18 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Nancy; sons, Sean and Michael; daughter, Andrea Yakerson; two grandchildren; mother, Mary Scibetta; and brothers, Nat, Jim, Bill and Tom. Groman

BERNARD BROWN died Nov. 16 at 94. He is survived by his son, Roger; daughter, Barbara ( Edward); grandchildren, Ryan (Amy) and Erica (Bill), four great-grandchildren; sister, Zelda; brother, Harold; companion, Shirlee Tzinberg; nieces; and nephews. Hillside

Blanche Brussell died Nov. 18 at 82. She is survived by her daughters, Bobbette Kemp and Heidi Brosnan; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

HELEN CHAPNICK died Nov. 4 at 98. She is survived by her son, Michael. Sholom Chapels.

Vivian Churg died Nov. 7 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Warren and Dr. Andrew; and two grandchildren. Groman

ANITA COHEN died Nov. 3 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Karen Knapp and Marilyn Candus; son, Richard Candus; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

RALPH DAYAN died Nov. 17 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Nina; daughters, Irma Silberman and Judy (Tony Jones); grandchildren, Ilana (Kevin) Hinners and Aaron Silberman; brother, Clement; and sisters Alice, Allegra and Nina. Sholom Chapels.

RENE DOMROY died Nov. 3 at 85. She is survived by her son, Ted (Donna); two grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Bernice Duban died Nov. 8 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Susan; and son, Larry. Malinow and Silverman

Seymour Eidman died Nov. 9 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Rhoda; son, Richard (Lisa); daughter, Adrienne (Val Tierney); grandchildren, Rachel Wells and Daniel; sister-in-law, Natalie Goodman; and brother-in-law, Saul (Lenore) Roseman. Mount Sinai

Dorothy Fisher died Nov. 15 at 91. She is survived by her son, Mark; daughter, Arlene; and three grandchildren. Hillside

STAN FLINKMAN died Nov. 15 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; sons, Lewis, Michael (Penny) and Russell (Marta Jevenois); daughter, Linda (Marty Humphreys) daughter-in-law, Gina Oken; and three grandchildren. Hillside

J. Harold Fox died Nov. 15 at 98. He is survived by his friends. Malinow and Silverman

DONALD LEON FRANKLIN died Nov. 9 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Marie; son, Cary; grandchildren, Emily and Hannah; and sister, LaVerne Kayne. Hillside

Marilyn Freeman died Oct. 14 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Paul Freeman; daughters, Louise (David) Goldstein and Sandy (Bob) Hart; and three grandsons. Mount Sinai.

JOEL FRIEDHEIM died Nov. 5 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Sherry; children; and parents, Max and Pat. Sholom Chapels.

Meyer Friedlander died Nov. 7 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Dorothy; sons, Norman, Gary and David; five grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, Murray. Groman

Eunice Fruchtman died Nov. 6 at 75. She is survived by her son, Michael; three grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, David Dashevsky. Groman

Jean Gardsbane died Nov. 13 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Herman; sons, Steven Dale and Kenneth; and three grandchildren. Groman

Muriel Roselyn Garver died Nov 3 at 79. She is survived by her son, Bruce (Alicia); and daughter, Rita Margaret Besikof. Chevra Kadisha

Alfred Geibelson died Nov. 5 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Mitzi; son, Jeffrey (Melody); daughter, Vicki Sostman; 18 grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Al Gerow died Nov. 3 at 78. He is survived by his daughters, Barbara Flax and Sharon (Jeff) Jacobs; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Claire Freeman. Groman

David Goldberg died Nov. 8 at 90. He is survived by his son, Joel. Malinow and Silverman

Ettie Golden died Nov. 5 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Steven (Nancy) and Kenneth; daughter, Susan Weinreb; five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Anne Goldstein died Nov. 12 at 88. She is survived by her son, Jerry (Colleen); daughter, Lea (Brian) Greenberg; grandson, Brian; and brother, Ben (Sally) Slavkin. Mount Sinai

MALCOLM GREGORY GORDON died Nov. 17 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Annette; son, Bruce; daughter, Heidi (Bob) Bendetson; and six grandchildren. Hillside

Ann Gorowitz died Nov. 10 at 76. She is survived by her daughter, Susan (Andy); son, Warren (Phil Levin); and grandsons, Alex and Harrison Trachman. Mount Sinai

STEPHEN LEWIS GRACE died Nov. 7 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Marcia; daughters, Marjorie (Jeffrey) Grace-Sayers, Anna (Jim) Blanc and Debora; six grandchildren; brother, Irv; sisters, Alice Lapan and Rose; and niece, Marion Lapan. Hillside

Henry Grossberg died Nov. 8 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Lola; sons, Leonard and Rudy; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

THEODORE HARRIS died Nov. 3 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Constance; and son, Steven. Sholom Chapels.

Hyman Samuel Heimowitz died Nov. 17 at 78. He is survived by his niece, Barbara Goldberg. Malinow and Silverman

Shirley Lana Heller died Nov. 3 at 59. She is survived by her sister, Linda Scholl. Malinow and Silverman

Ann Bachner Hirsch died Nov. 16 at 93. She is survived by her son, Samuel (Arleen) Bachner; daughter, Glenda (Melvyn) Schneidman; four grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; and sisters, Faye Reisman and Shirley Miller. Mount Sinai

Janet Hyman died Nov. 13 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Edward; daughters, Kathi (David) Sandweis, and Laura (Brett) Kaufmann; three grandchildren; sister, Zona; and brother, Stephen (Barbara) Bernstein. Mount Sinai

Joseph Horst Joffe died Nov. 8 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Janet; sons, Larry (Sharon) and Martin (Kathy); three grandchildren; sisters, Judith Schwartz and Seldi (Harold) Ruchlin; and brother, David. Malinow and Silverman

Harold Kahn died Nov. 16 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; son, Richard; daughters, Dr. Myra Lipsey and Marlene; and two grandchildren. Groman

IRENE KALLISON died Nov. 5 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Marvin; daughters, Jane (Harry) Bruckel and Lynn; sister, Alma Malet; and brother, Leonard Swatt. Hillside

Henrietta Katz died Nov. 12 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; son, Robert; daughters, Julie Meyers, Laurie Matuso and Marsha Sasville; five grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Lawrence Lesser; Groman

MARVIN KOMORSKY died Nov. 14 at 73. He is survived by his wife Linda; son, Jason; daughters, Marci, Sherri, and Melissa; and four grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Audrey Doreen Koz died Nov. 4 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Melvin Pearlman; sons, Jeffrey and David; daughter, Roberta Wilson; stepdaughters, Debra Pearlman, Linda Lentz and Ellen O’Regan; and eight grandchildren. Groman

RUTH GOLDSCHMIDT KUNZER died Oct. 9 at 90. She is survived by her sister, Mirian Solomons; nieces; nephews; and cousins.

Edward Lash died Nov. 15 at 79. He is survived by his son, David (Beth Becker); daughter, Karen; granddaughters, Drew and Ryan; and sister, Dale (Len) Pitt. Mount Sinai

Ester Lavi died Nov 3 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Parviz and Ibrahim; daughter, Meira Yedidsion; and grandson, Elazar. Chevra Kadisha

ROBERT LAZARUK died Nov. 14 at 74. He is survived by his son, Kirk (Samantha). Sholom Chapels.

Miriam Leboff died Nov. 10 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; daughters, Dr. Ellen Leboff-Ried, Dr. Judith Leboff-Levi and Karen Migdal; seven grandchildren; sister, Losa (Rabbi Benjamin). Groman

Ethel Lee Lenske died Nov. 5 at 97. She is survived by her sons, Sherman and Stephen; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Betty Lerman died Nov. 8 at 94. She is survived by her niece, Joanne Talpins. Malinow and Silverman

Maximilian LeRoy died Nov. 3 at 30. He is survived by his mother, Kay; and sister, Carolyn. Malinow and Silverman

HARRY LEVIN died Nov. 14 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughter, Fern (Sam Flores); and son, Roy. Hillside

Hedy Linstone died Nov. 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Harold, sons, Clark and Fred (Elissa); and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ruth Lipsey died Nov. 2 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Lewis and Marty; and sister, Hannah Lotnick. Groman

MARIAN ROSE LIVINGSTON died Nov. 10 at 88. She is survived by her son, Larry; daughter, Laura Beck, six grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Robert David London died Nov. 15 at 51. He is survived by his mother, Jean. Malinow and Silverman

Murray Louison died Nov. 8 at 81. He is survived by his son, Raymond; and daughter, Stephanie. Groman

Dr. Samuel Lyon died Nov. 15 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Daniel; daughters, Wendy (Robert Wienner) and Dawn (Robert Mann); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Max Marsten died Nov. 5 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Anita; daughters, Loni and Robbi (Tom Schiff); and grandchildren, Matthew and Olivia. Hillside

Helen Maurer died Nov. 17 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Alan and Michael; daughter, Randi; and four grandchildren. Groman

Hannelore McCarty died Nov. 6 at 78. She is survived by her son, Kent (Patty Stewart). Malinow and Silverman

BERT MICHAELS died Nov. 13 at 84. He is survived by his sisters, Joan Weinrauch and Muriel Tower; niece Darielle Podoksik; and nephew, Donn Warshow. Hillside

LINDA MINER died Nov. 13 at 65. She is survived by her granddaughter, Sabrina; and brother, Larry Wohl. Hillside

Esther Moskovitz died Nov. 4 at 93. She is survived by her daughters, June (Murray) Bass and Lois Powers. Malinow and Silverman

Miriam Moss died Nov. 6 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Martin and Jay; daughters, Renal Carol Stone and Bonnie Miller; and 11 grandchildren. Groman

Sara Movshovich died Nov. 9 at 70. She is survived by her son, Roman; and granddaughters, Ariel and Naomi. Mount Sinai

SIMON MUNTNER died Nov. 3 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Janet; sons, John and Joel; daughters, Nancy, Ellen and Jill Howat; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Edna Ostrin died Nov. 6 at 90. She is survived by sons, Murray (Marissa) and Ronald (Leslie); four grandchildren; brother, Ed Nupoll; nieces; and nephews. Mount Sinai

Naomi Ozeran died Nov. 5 at 100. She is survived by her son, Dr. Robert. Malinow and Silverman

Mildred Pakcyk died Nov. 17 at 89. She is survived by her children, David and Alan (Monica); daughter, JoAnne (Dennis) Johnson; grandson, Daryn; and two stepgrandchildren. Mount Sinai

Susan Nisker died Nov. 16 at 56. She is survived by her, daughters, Sari and Heidi (Patrick Kerney); brother, David (Gaylia) Lassner; half-sister, Mary Jean (Bruce) White; and friend, Sherry Kerdman. Mount Sinai

DANIEL PONITZ died Nov. 6 at 74. He is survived by his sister, Linda Stengel. Hillside

ELIZABETH RABINOWITZ died Nov. 13 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Diane (Jonathan) Bear; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Edward Esau Rapoport died Nov. 9 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; daughter, Paula (Leslie) McAfee; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Don Reynolds died Nov. 3 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Jeanne; children, Leslie, Greg (Carol), Samantha (Andrew) and Alan; two grandchildren; and brother, Marshall Reznick (Edie).

Max Rice died Nov. 8 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Maxienne; daughters, Wendy Wintrob and Debra Sadun; sons, David and Michael; nine grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Harry. Malinow and Silverman

Joseph Rein died Nov. 13 at 89. He is survived by his daughters, Rita Rudolf and Delcine Tartow; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Bernice Rosenfield died Nov. 15 at 87. She is survived by her husband, David; daughters, Susan (Rick Poe) Fin, and Leanna (Ron) Watts; stepdaughters, Shelly (Grady) Smith and Paula (Fred) Weiner; seven grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

JOYCE ROSEN died Nov. 16 at 85. She is survived by her daughters, Jan Morris and Linda Siegel; son, Daniel; five grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Hillside

Lucille Rosenthal died Nov. 9 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Eugene; son, Richard (Cathy); daughter, Susan (Larry Grosberg); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ROCHELLE O’BRAND ROTH died Nov. 3 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Hal; daughter, Aliza; son, Aaron; sisters, Marilyn (Larry) Franklin and Diana (Steve) Brown; cousins, Bill and Joan Raskin; and three nieces. Hillside

Esther Rubenstein died Nov. 3 at 90. She is survived by her son, Howard (Lauri) Roberts; daughter, Sun (David) Northrup; granddaughter, Rachel (Tim) Davidson; and great-granddaughters, Emilee and Jacqueline. Mount Sinai

Anne Rubins died Nov. 4 at 86. She is survived by her son, Alex (Valerie); daughter, Janis Gardner; and sister, Frances Neiman. Mount Sinai

Gertrude Rudnick died Nov. 11 at 93. She is survived by her son, David (Sandra); daughter, Joyce Leddel; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Harry (Shirley) Gershon. Mount Sinai

Rabbi Martin Ryback died Nov. 16 at 87. He is survived by his daughters, Anne (Steve) Schmidt and Elizabeth; son, Charles; and grandaughters, Samantha and Cassandra Schmidt. Mount Sinai

Shirley Shudnow Sass died Nov. 16 at 101. She is survived by her son, Howard (Ronda) Zieff; daughter, Marjorie (Gerald) Finn; grandchildren, Stephanie (Matthew) Landers and Deborah Fin; three great-grandchildren; and brothers, Phillip and Dr. Bernard (Lucille) Shudnow. Mount Sinai

Maxwell Schatz died Nov. 14 at 86. He is survived by his daughters, Laurie (Jerrold) FeiVou and Madeline; grandchildren, Blair and Svetlana; and sister, Pearl. Mount Sinai

Ronald Schneider died Nov. 14 at 76. He is survived by his sons, Brad and Evan; and sister, Shirley Edrington. Malinow and Silverman

Florence Schwartz died Nov. 9 at 82. She is survived by her son, Martin; daughters, Laurie (Michael) Warren and Helene (Joel) Silverstein; four grandchildren; brother, Marvin (Geri) Snyder; and sister, Harriet Guterman. Mount Sinai

Florence Schwartz died Nov. 14 at 78. She is survived by her daughters, Julia Baker and Laura Cohen; and one grandchild. Groman

Miriam Schwartz died Nov. 6 at 78. She is survived by her sons, Barry and Jeffrey (Nancy); daughter, Darlene (Steve) Du Frane; grandsons, Scott Du Frane and Sam; and brother, Marvin Lamm. Mount Sinai

Russell Scott Schwartzman died Nov. 8 at 47. He is survived by his wife, Rita; daughter, Madeline; son, Benjamin; parents, Irving and Edith; sister, June Soberman; and brothers, David (Susan) and Jonathan (Runa). Malinow and Silverman

Elizabeth Bertha See died Nov. 9 at 96. She is survived by her cousin, Peter Glaser. Malinow and Silverman

ANITA LEE SEGAL died Nov. 15 at 78. She is survived by her son, Edward; and daughter, Jan. Hillside

Pearl Semer died Nov. 10 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Allen (Joyce) and Stephen (Ilene); and brother, Jack Pollack. Mount Sinai

GAIL DIANE SHAFRAN died Nov. 7 at 59. She is survived by her husband, Joel; sons Philip and Jonathan; and sisters, Marion Freeman and Deborah Leeds. Hillside

Mildred Eve Sharon died Nov. 2 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Goldstone; and two grandchildren. Groman

Ethyle Sher died Nov. 8 at 85. She is She is survived by her family; friends; and caregivers. Mount Sinai

Nancy Shuirman died Nov. 13 at 50. She is survived by her parents, Gerry and Evelyn; sisters Marilyn Maddux; Felicia (Barry) Keller and Lorri Herman; two nieces; and three nephews.

SUSAN SMITH died Nov. 9 at 57. She is survived by her sons, Jamie and Shawn Silverstein; mother, Bernice; and many relatives. Hillside

Pauline Snider died Nov. 9 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Arlene Calhoun; son, Stephen (Hea); granddaughters, Tracey and Kimberly Calhoun; and brother, Hyman (Pearl) Davis. Mount Sinai

ROBERT SPERO died Nov. 3 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Pearl; sons, Mark and Rabbi Gary; and one grandchild. Hillside

Ruth Sternhill died Nov. 14 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Sherry Lipman, Maryl Magee and Fritzi Feruson; six grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; brother, Morris Shapiro; and sister, Esther Merches. Groman

Kenneth Suskauer died Nov. 7 at 76. He is survived by his sons, Stuart and Jeffrey; daughter, Eileen Schwartz; and four grandchildren. Groman

Yousef Nourollah Tashkandi died Nov 3 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Sakineh Doulatshahi Moghadam; and sister, Habibeh Naygael. Chevra Kadisha

AARON DANIEL URFRIG died Nov. 16 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Anne; sons, Jerome (Suzanne) and Donald (Carole); daughter, Wendy (Michael) Temple, six grandchildren; four great-granddaughters; brother-in-law, Leo Kolb, and sisters-in-law Jeanette Becker and Naomi Kraus . Hillside

JACK WALLIN died Nov. 8 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Fred (Sandy), Paul (Sharon) and David (Robin); and seven grandchildren. Hillside

Marion Weber died Nov. 7 at 97. She is survived by her daughter, Beverly (Tommy) Williams; grandchildren, Charles Ritch and Judith Gabriel; and great-grandchildren, Alexander and Jameson. Mount Sinai

Melvin Wolf died Nov. 5 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Frances; son, Daniel; daughter, Randee Paller; three grandchildren; and sisters, Eleanor Hammer and Gerry Finegold. Groman

BEVERLY WOLFSON died Nov. 14 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Hershel; sons, David and Bruce; and brother, Robert Blue. Hillside

Sylvia Wolinsky died Nov. 16 at 85. She is survived by her husband, William; daughter, Estelle (David) Horwitz; son, Carl (Laura Vink); grandchildren, Leah and Joshua; and sister, Yetta Berkowitz. Mount Sinai

Betty Yager died Nov. 8 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Herman; daughters, Allison (Joe) Schneider and Molly (Gene) Hofacre; five granddaughters; brother, Shimon (Ruth) Aharoni; and half-sister, Rita (Yankule) Benttaroosh. Mount Sinai

MARK ZAIFMAN died Nov. 17 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Lucy; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Roza Zborovsky died Nov 6 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Marina Kramarov; and grandchild, Basika Kramarov. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries


DR. RICHARD ANTIN died Nov. 2 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Hong; daughter Pauline; stepdaughters, Tricia and Pam; grandchildren Geneva and Savannah; sister, Nancy; brother, Mike (Evie); three nephews; and one niece. Sholom Chapels.

Zvi Baum died Nov 2 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Rachel; son, Menachem; and daughter, Elli Kohl. Chevra Kadisha

Frances Becker died Nov. 2 at 84. She is survived by her daughters, Michelle (Marc) Tuchman and Roberta Becker. Mount Sinai

Robert Bell of died Oct. 31 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Lillian; daughters, Rivian and Charlotte; sons, Martin and Hanan; daughter-in-law, Joyce Shirado; and three grandchildren.

HARRY BERLIN died Oct. 28 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Helen; son, Dr. Michael; daughters, Marla (Randy Cooper) and Adrienne (Frances Edwards); three grandchildren; and sister, Rose Racimore.

Ida Berman died Oct. 29 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Esta (Mark) Keller; and one grandchild. Groman

GARY CADISH died Oct. 28 at 62. He is survived by his wife, Carolyn; son, KC; daughter, Camie (Zach); parents, Harriet and Mitchel; brother Bob (Rosie); and niece, Lauren. Hillside

Susan Corn died Oct. 28 at 50. She is survived by her son, Morgan Beaton; brother, Glen; and close friend, Graham Beaton. Mount Sinai

VERA DHONT died Oct. 28 at 97. She is survived by her nephews, George and Jonathan Banks. Hillside

James Jean Doran died Nov 2 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Felicia; son Andrei (Vicki); grandsons, James and Daniel; and niece, Wanda. Beth Olam

REVA LESLIE FAIN died Oct. 31 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Harry; daughters, Jeanette Fain Miller, Beth and Barbara; sons-in-law, Dr. Robert Miller and Marc Meshekow; three granddaughters; and great-granddaughter, Maya Papoulias. Hillside

Berl Fajerberg died Oct. 29 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Rose; sons, Leon (Janet) and Jack Fainstadt; and granddaughter, Rachele. Mount Sinai

ROBERT FEDER died Oct. 29 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Rita; and children, Mark and Ilene. Hillside

Marilyn Freeman died Oct. 14 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Paul; daughters, Louise (David) Goldstein and Sandy (Bob) Hart; and three grandsons. Mount Sinai.

Robert Friedman died Oct. 29 at 88. He is survived by his son, Michael; daughter, Monica Hellman; and six grandchildren. Groman

TULA FRIEDMAN died Oct. 29 at 93. She is survived by her, son, Roger Friedman; and daughter, Elise (Rabbi Jay) Miller. Hillside

Andrew Gal died Oct. 31, at 82. He is survived by his wife, Ilona; son, Peter; grandchildren, Kristna (Jose) Suarez and Justin. Mount Sinai

Arthur Grebler died Oct. 31 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Rene; son, Robert; daughters, Gillian (Robert), Elizabeth and Harriet (Shlomo); five grandchildren; and sister Vivian. Hillside

Fay Greenspan died Nov. 2 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Frances; and nieces, Wendy, Wilma, and Emma. Mount Sinai

Lupu Velvel Gutman died Nov 1 at 79. He is survived by his son, Alex; and many friends. Chevra Kadisha

Hersz Jalowitz died Nov. 1 at 104. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; daughters, Ettie (Samuel) Councilman, Shandell (Morton) Graham, Tema (Jim) Smith and Fayga (Michael) Murane; son-in-law, Ed Selcer; nine grandchildren; and 15 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jack Jonah died Nov 1 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Helen; son, Jonathan; daughter, Rebecca; and sister, Rachel Levy. Chevra Kadisha

Iva Klein died Nov. 1 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Jonas; daughter, Michelle (William) Brock; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marvin Harold Komen died Oct. 30 at 81. He is survived by his sons, Steven and Jeffrey. Groman

EDWARD KRAKOVER died Oct. 28 at 88. He is survived by his grandchildren, Mark, Sheila, Robert and Samuel; and 10 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Edythe Lebow died Oct. 28 at 80. She is survived by her daughters, Lois (David) Goren and Michele (Gary) Proffett; brother, Fred Bassuk; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Ethel Lomars died Oct. 28 at 100. She is survived by her daughter, Donna Lomars; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Harold Lustig died Oct 29 at 55. He is survived by his cousin, Linda (Saul) Bernstein. Chevra Kadisha

Samuel Meltzer died Oct. 29 at 78. He is survived by his son, Daniel. Malinow and Silverman

FRED MENDELSOHN died Oct. 30 at 82. He is survived by his sons, Michael and Randy; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Annette Faye Ofstein died Oct 28 at 94. She is survived by her family. Chevra Kadisha

Annette Snitowsky Orisman died Oct 29 at 86. She is survived by her sons, Mike, Howard (Myrna) and Gary; daughter, Barbara (Jim) Starnes; grandchildren, Morgan Starnes and Matthew; and sister, Marilyn Geller. Chevra Kadisha

Jan Neufeld died Oct. 28 at 77. She is survived by husband, Murray; sons, Mathieu and Todd Ellis; and granddaughter, Alanna Ellis. Mount Sinai

Roman Rakover died Oct. 30 at 87. He is survived by his stepdaughter, Drane Weiss; and friend, Joan Rubin. Groman

Edith Rivkin died Oct. 30 at 97. Malinow and Silverman

Rebecca Bertha Rothman died Oct. 27 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Michael and Arthur (Morea); daughter, Marsha (Gig) Lu Metta; five grandchildren; and brother, Lee Gordon. Mount Sinai

Stanley Jules Sacks died Oct. 29 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; sons, Joel and Barry (Susan); sister, Tina (David) Kruter; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

FLORENCE SCHATZ died Oct. 31 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Martin; daughter, Sloan (Gene) Rowe; and granddaughter, Zoe Lampel. Hillside

Janet Schein died Oct. 28 at 72. She is survived by her sons, Eric, Roy and Aaron; stepsons, Alexander and Loren; and six grandchildren. Groman

Edythe Schlasky died Oct 27 at 89. She is survived by her nephew, Robert Flecker. Chevra Kadisha

Betty Silversher died Nov. 1 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Marcy Saklad; son, Neal; and granddaughters, Marissa Saklad and Kim (Rob) McDaniel. Mount Sinai

Zelda Solomon died Nov. 1 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Alvin; daughter, Judy Marks; son, Michael (Lori); six grandchildren; and great-grandchild, Brady. Mount Sinai

Max Soibelman died Oct. 30 at 100. He is survived by his son, Dennis (Carol); five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jean Starr died Oct. 31 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Carole Lazar; four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Henry Strull died Oct. 28 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Karen Greenberg; sister, Gertrude (Jules) Heichman; and brother, William. Mount Sinai

PHILIP SUBAR died Oct. 27 at 85. He is survived by his daughters, Sharon Furman and Marilyn (Claude) Fernholz; sons, Paul (Tina) and Jerry (Jan); six grandchildren; brothers David (Claire) and Seymour (Phyllis); sisters, Shirley Sklash and Adeline (Frank) Lowenberg; nieces; and nephews. Sholom Chapels.

JEFFREY PAUL WEISSBACH died Oct. 30 at 32. He is survived by his parents, Leonard and Marilyn; brother, Kevin; and grandparents Eunice and Jack Zachariash. Sholom Chapels.

Mary Winkler died Oct. 30 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Eileen Tannenbaum. Malinow and Silverman

Florence Wolf died Oct. 28 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Roberta (Larry) Weinstein and Linda; son, Michael (Ruth); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Mollie Zankan died Oct. 29 at 92. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughter, Susan Newman; sister, Augusta Singer; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

 

Obituaries


Theodore Allan Benaron died Oct. 25 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; daughters, Ruth (Frank) Rodriquez, Marsha and Judy; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Beatrice Clara Boyer died Oct. 27 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Mark and Richard; daughter, Sharon Kline; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Groman

Lillian Eva Cooper died Oct. 22 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Steve (Donna) and Philip; and granddaughter, Nicole. Mount Sinai

Maurine Cowan died Oct. 26 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Robert; sons, Eric, Jeff, Howard and Barry; 10 grandchildren; and sister, Ruth Sigman. Groman

STEVEN ALAN DAVIDSON died Oct. 26 at 55. He is survived by his mother, Ann; sister, Linda (Gary) Goldfein; niece, Courtney; and nephew, Kevin. Hillside

Phyllis Ann Dembicer died Oct 22 at 74. She is survived by her husband, David; sons, Daniel and Dr. Joshua; daughters, Robin (Dr. Reynold) Stein and Melissa (William) Hargiss; nine grandchildren; and brother, Michael Kahn. Chevra Kadisha

STELLA DERSHEWITZ died Oct. 26 at 91. She is survived by her daughters Enid (Igo) Kantor and Gail; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Bernard Finkle died Oct. 26 at 84. He is survived by his daughter, Claudia. Mount Sinai

Shirley Fischer died Oct. 22 at 84. She is survived by her son, Sam; daughter, Keri (Stan) Hausner; and granddaughter, Danielle Hausner. Mount Sinai

Rosanne Begard Foster died Oct. 25 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Susan Kennedy; and two grandchildren. Groman

ALLEN FOX died Oct. 27 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Jeanine; son, Richard; sister Sybil Fein; and cousin, Ginette Mizraki. Hillside

Murray Gesshel died Oct. 24 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Susan; daughters Nancy (Marcello) Rachilewski and Diana; son, Dan (Arcy); and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

EDITH GINSBURG died Oct. 22 at 99. She is survived by her daughter, Janice Gootkin, three grandchildren; five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Edith Gitelstein died Oct. 25 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Ruth (Ron) Amen and Brooke Lefferts; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Anne Gleimer died Oct. 27 at 87. She is survived by her son, David; brothers, Harry and Simon Hershfeld; and sisters, Sylvia Frank and Leona Slater. Groman

ABRAHAM GOLDBERG died Oct. 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Alice; son, Mitchell (Miriam); daughter, Cheryl Schmidt; and six grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Barbara Hamer died Oct. 25 at 77. She is survived by her husband, William; sons, Jeff (Deborah) and Marc; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

JUNE ORAH HAASE died Oct. 22 at 71. She is survived by her son, Tom Troccoli; and mother, Jean Desmond. Sholom Chapels.

Minnie Horowitz died Oct. 25 at 84. She is survived by her sons, Kenneth and Gerald (Jaime); daughter, Doris (Stephen) Finestone; and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Minnie Jaffee died Oct. 21. She is survived by her daughter, Sharon Lee; sons, Howard (Suzie) and Bruce (Ann Rogers); seven grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Bernard Wenst. Mount Sinai

Lucian Karp died Oct. 24, at 81. He is survived by his son, James (Vivien); daughter, Sandra; and grandchildren, David and Jennifer. Mount Sinai

Katie Korman died Oct. 26 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Jerry; and daughter, Sherrie. Mount Sinai

Ruth Goldschmidt Kunzer died Oct. 9 at 90. She is survived by her sister, Miriam Solomons; nieces; nephews; cousins.

Robert Ellis Levin died Oct. 27 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; daughter Victoria Zito; sons, Steven (Robyn) and Ira (Kelly); and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

DR. KLAUS LEWIN died Oct. 25 at 69. He is survived by his wife, Patricia; children, Dr. David, Dr. Nicola and Dr. Bruno; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Ellen Litsky died Oct. 25 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Paula (Dr. Alan) Kanter. Malinow and Silverman

Sedal Lurie died Oct. 25 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Jeff and Rick; and two grandchildren. Groman

ARNOLD LUBIN died Oct. 24 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Elsye; sons, Jeff (Barbara) and Dean (Adriane); four grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sister, Shirley Polier. Hillside

Michael Marker died Oct. 25 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Honey; sons Richard and Kenneth; daughters-in-law, Kathy and Cindy; sister, Betty (Al) Haagen; five grandchildren; brother-in-law, Bill (Bobbie) Porter; sisters-in-laws, Barbara and Dorothy Porter; four nephews; and three nieces. Hillside

IRWIN MASON died Oct. 25 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; son, Randy; and one grandchild. Hillside

Mildred Miller died Oct. 22 at 89. She is survived by her son, Harvey; daughters, Jan Greif and Beverly Morhaime; seven grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Groman

Albert Murray died Oct. 26 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Sheila (Elliott) Lokitz; son, Ken; three grandchildren; and nine great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ROBERT NINBERG died Oct. 26 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Sue; daughters, Naomi (Jeff) Kalvin and Karen (Roy) Schwartz; son, Darrell; and six grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

RENEE PEREZ died Oct. 23 at 49. She is survived by her daughter, Nicole; brother, Alan Nierob; father, Jack Nierob; and sister, Doris Levy. Hillside

Jerry Ravitsky died Oct. 27 at 86. He is survived by his domestic partner, Alfred Gernsbacher; brother, Sherman Ravine; niece, Harriet Margulies; nephews, Sid (Gloria) Kassler and Jerry Mathews; and great-nephew, Bruce (Yvonne) Kassler. Mount Sinai

SARAH BUCHSBAUM RING died Oct. 21 at 85. She is survived by her daughters, Sheila (Andy) Garb and Judy (Richard) Ellis; stepchildren, Jori (Richard) Carmel, Francie Iglow and Robert (Susan); five grandchildren; six stepgrandchildren; four great-grandchildren; one stepgreat-grandchild; and sister, Eleanor (Leonard) Mann. Hillside

Charlotte Samuelson died Oct 22 at 97. She is survived by her son Albert Selleck. Chevra Kadisha

TED SCHOENBERG died Oct. 12 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Marj; sons, Frank (Claudette), Gary (Laurie), Mark (Robert) three grandchildren; and brother, Bob . Hillside

Alexander Shwarts died Oct. 22 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Tamara; daughter, Anna Goodman; and grandchildren, Eric and Michelle Goodman. Mount Sinai

Rose Sharfstein died Oct. 24 at 97. She is survived by her daughter, Frances Shiffman; grandchildren, Michael Shiffman and Lisa (Mark) Schaffer; and great-grandchildren, Scott and Emily. Mount Sinai

Benjamin Siegel died Oct. 25 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Rachel; sons, Elliot, Joshua and Avi; mother, Annie; and brother, Stanley. Mount Sinai

Marilyn Milou Sorkin died Oct. 24 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Joel; daughter, Jill (Douglas) Lieblein; four grandchildren; and sister, Phyllis Bloom. Malinow and Silverman

Edith Sultan died Oct. 22 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra; and sons, Gary and Michael. Groman

Seymour Spector died Oct. 21 at 79. He is survived by his son, Gregg (Cora); daughters, Hilary Koloff and Debby D’Innocente; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Lee Weinstein died Oct. 22 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Harvey (Gemma), Frank, and Sheldon (Leslie); eight grandchildren; great-grandchild; brother, Phil Kaminsky; and sister, Hilda (Fred) Michaelson. Mount Sinai

PAUL MAURICE WEINSTEIN died Oct. 24 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Tessie; sons, Stuart and Barry; daughter-in-law, Kathy; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Evelyn Evans. Hillside

Isadore Widre died Oct. 21 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Lorraine; son Mark; stepson, Brian (Mary) Jaye; stepdaughters, Karen and Robin Jaye; five grandchildren; and sister, Dorothy Goldsmith. Mount Sinai

Yevgeny Vayngurt died Oct 23 at 81. He is survived by his son, Arkady. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries


FLORENCE BECKER died Oct. 17 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Duke; sons, Barry (Judy) and Rob (Rona); four grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; nieces; and nephews. Hillside

Mohtaram Benji died Oct 20 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Sion and Rohollah Ahdoot. Chevra Kadisha

Abraham Braer died Oct. 20, at 90. He is survived by his son, Stanley (Marlene); and grandson, Jeffrey (Rebecca). Mount Sinai

Abe Bolotin died Oct. 20 at 98. He is survived by his daughter, Elaine (Zev) Edelstein; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

MORTON BROOKS died Oct. 20 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; daughter, Leslie Rosen; grandson, Jeremy (Jodi) Rosen; great-grandson, Ethan; and sisters Lillian and Evelyn. Hillside

Denise Clumeck died Oct. 19 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Larry (Lea) and Ralph (Debra); daughter, Ginette (Morris) Eskinazi; 10 grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, Maurice Caniado; Malinow and Silverman

William Cohen died Oct. 14 at 94. He is survived by his son, Neil (Bonnie); daughter, Bette Tydings; four grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

FRANK EVANS died Oct. 18 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Claire; and son, Ronald. Hillside

Lillian Feinberg died Oct. 21 at 89. She is survived by her son-in-law, Gary Kosar; and grandsons, Scott and Ken Kosar. Mount Sinai

Esther Shana Fifield died Oct. 17, at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Lillene (Margret Marshall); stepgrandson, Eric (Crisanta) Brown; and four stepgreat-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Rita Miller Fischer died Oct. 18 at 73. She is survived by her daughters, Susie (Bill) Hutton and Elizabeth (Anthony) Mar; son, Jerry Corcoran; six grandchildren; and brother, Al (Ann) Miller. Mount Sinai

Marilynn Frank died Oct. 18 at 61. She is survived by her daughter, Lisa; son, Robert (Angela) Ginsburg; stepchildren, Jodi, Sue and Billy (Antoinette Abbott); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marilyn Freeman died Oct. 14 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Paul; daughters, Louise (David Goldstein) and Sandy (Bob) Hart; three grandchildren; and great-grandchild, Daniel Hart. Mount Sinai

JEROME SHELDON GOTTLER died Oct. 11 at 89. He is survived by his son Anthony Capper. Hillside

Annette Harris died Oct. 20 at 81. She is survived by her daughters, Donna O’Donnell and Susan Strinden; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Jorge Abel Herzer died Oct. 20 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Victoria; daughter, Emanuela; sons, Bernardo and Julio. Malinow and Silverman

Miriam Hoffman died Oct. 15 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Richard; son, Perry (Sandra); daughter, Barbara (Robert) Duben; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jerome Leonard Jacobson died Oct. 18 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Ethel; daughter, Yvette (Don) McClung; son, Lewis (Anne); and three granddaughters. Mount Sinai

POLA KELLERMAN died Oct. 11 at 93. She is survived by her daughters Marta (Fred) Samulon, Harriet Ratner and Patricia Friedman; six grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Mildred Kraus died Oct. 13 at 81. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

DR. SIDNEY LANE died Oct. 12 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; sons, Michael, Robert and Philip; and two grandchildren. Hillside

Doreen June Landau died Oct. 17 at 81. She is survived by her sister, Barbara Ruth Rose. Groman

Louis Lawson died Oct. 20 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; daughters, Sherry and Michelle; son, Graig (Terry); and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Shirley Lein died Oct. 17 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Yale (Jean) Weiser, Isaac (Margaret) and Murray (Vickie); daughter, Jean; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

EVELYN LEVINE died Oct. 20 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Bernard; son Jay; daughter, Tobi (Marty Bogoratt); and two grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Blake Lewis died Oct. 20 at 16. He is survived by his parents, Jamie and Andrea; sister, Hannah; and brother Jared. Malinow and Silverman

Bessie Nathan died Oct 20 at 78. She is survived by her brothers, Morris and Ralph. Chevra Kadisha

Mary Nahmias Nelson died Oct. 20 at 80. She is survived by her son, Albert; daughters, Gentille Koosed, Sara Blatt, Zoe Miner, Esther Emison and Betty Day; 14 grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Moshe Netanel died Oct 13 at 69. He is survived by his sister, Maggie Feinstein; and cousin, Nathan. Chevra Kadisha

Susan Toby Ozeran died Oct. 20 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Robert; daughter, Victoria; sons, Dr. Steven (Stephanie), Dr. Larry (Carrie) and Dr. J. Danny (Janelle); seven grandchildren; sister, Baba (Alan) Rosin; and brother, William (Lorene) Hartmann. Malinow and Silverman

Leona Padorr died Oct. 21 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Janet (Dr. Stanton) Canter; son, Stanley (Revelle) Cowen; four grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren; and brothers, Albert (Abby) and Ronald Agins. Malinow and Silverman

Melvin Parnes died Oct. 18 at 83. He is He is survived by his wife, Maryon; daughter, Elise; son, Bart; two grandchildren; and brother, Herbert (Carol). Mount Sinai

Joseph Press died Oct. 18 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Larry (Marcela) and Jim (Linda); six grandchildren; great-grandchildren, Moshe and Jacob; sister, Daisy Nemzer; and brother, Louis (Thelma). Mount Sinai

JULES ROCKLIN died Oct. 15 at 85. he is survived by his sons, Burt and Neal. Hillside

HELGA RODMAN died Oct. 19 at 89. She is survived by her sister, Inge (Steve); sister-in-law, Eve; nieces; nephews; and friends. Hillside

Richard Ruston died Oct. 16 at 65. He is survived by his daughters, Bonnie Buchanan and Delaney; two grandchildren; and sister, Lesley Devine. Groman

Rhonda Schachtel died Oct. 19, at 45. She is survived by her husband, Jack;daughter, Michelle; sons, Marc and Marshall; parents, Edward and Elca;brothers, Stephen (Johanne), Jacob and Nicholas Shinder; and parents-in-law,Harry and Linda. Mount Sinai

Shalom Melekh Shalom died Oct. 17 at 81. He is survived by his son, Dr. Fred. Malinow and Silverman

Anne Silver died Oct. 20 at 54. She is survived by her brother, Robert (Melen) Burton; and fiancee, Joel Warren. Mount Sinai

Naomi Singer died Oct. 17 at 84. She is survived by her sons, Bruce and Henry; daughter, Bette Andrews; one grandchild; and four great-grandchildren; brother, Donald Heller; and sister, Ruby Fangmyer. Groman

James Aaron Smith died Oct. 19 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Ethel; son, Barry (Lori); daughter, Susan (Lynda Lyons); six grandchildren; brother, Herold. Mount Sinai

Edith Solomon died Oct. 16 at 78. She is survived by her sons, Martin and Phil; daughter, Barbara Gordon; and four grandchildren. Groman

BERNICE STERNFELD died Oct. 14 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Allan (Barbara) and Earl (Janet); five grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; sister Claire Hyzen; and adopted son, Emanuel Friedman. Hillside

Gertrude Jacobs Streit died Oct. 20 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Vernon; sons, Ronald (Joan) and Craig; daughters, Marlene (Edward) Glick; and two grandchildren. Groman

Stuart Brian Struhl died Oct. 20 at 62. He is survived by his son, Greg; daughter, Rhonda; mother, Shirley; brothers, Jon and Eric; and sister, Michelle Mascarenas. Groman

Jack Weitzman died Oct. 20, at 95. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; son, Michael (Jodi); and grandsons, Errol and Andrew Silverstein. Mount Sinai

Malcolm Winer died Oct. 17 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Laura; daughters, Leslie Winer and Jennifer (Rafi) Gordon; one grandchild; and brother, Howard (Charlotte). Malinow and Silverman

Rose Wolkin died Oct. 19 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Cynthia Robinson and Florence Lefkowitz; and five grandchildren. Groman

Obituaries


George Allen Smith,
Philanthropist and Founder of George Smith Partners, Inc.,
Dies at 70

George Allen Smith, a leader in Southern California’s real estate finance industry, died Nov. 3 at 70. A graduate of the Harvard Business School, Smith, whose career in the industry spanned four decades, founded George Smith Partners Real Estate, a commercial mortgage brokerage firm, in 1992.

Smith and his wife, Pam, championed many institutions, including The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles and the Museum of Contemporary Art. His chief philanthropic endeavor was the founding of the Ataxia Telangiectasia Research Foundation (A-TMRF), an organization devoted to funding research into a rare neurological disease affecting his daughter, Rebecca. Since its inception in 1984, the A-TMRF granted more than $10 million in research funding worldwide, including the endowment of the Rebecca Smith Chair in A-T Research at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA.

“George approached every challenge with a level of confidence that was inspiring and contagious,” said Dr. Richard Gatti, who holds the Rebecca Smith Distinguished Professorship at UCLA.

To raise funds for the A-TMRF, Smith initiated the annual George Smith Partners Real Estate Luncheon, an event which now attracts more than 1,500 industry professionals. At this year’s event, Smith was presented with an honorary doctorate from Tel Aviv University.

Smith is survived by his wife, Pam; sons, James and Matthew; daughters, Jill Oaks and Rebecca; grandchildren, Samantha and Hannah; and sister, Eleanor (Gerald) Sorkin.

Donations can be made to the A-TMRF c/o Haskell and Davis, 16000 Ventura Blvd., Suite 806, Encino, CA 91436. — Nancy Sokoler Steiner, Contributing Writer

Samuel Baradaran died Oct. 12 at 65. He is survived by his daughter, Shaleen; and cousin, Michael Amin. Groman

ROUHOLLAH BARKHORDARIAN died Oct. 12 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Rose; six children; 16 grandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Annette Berman died Sept. 17 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Jackie (Andy) Stern and Lynn; granddaughters, Traci Tannler and Molly (David) Schlussel; great-grandchildren, Zackary Tannler and Vivienne Schlussel; and brother, Sy (Lennet) Ogulnick. Mount Sinai

RAYMOND BLACKMAN died Oct. 11 at 81. He is survived by his brother, Al. Sholom Chapels.

HYMAN BARNETT BOOKMAN died Sept. 28 at 95. He is survived by his son, Jack; two grandchildren; and brother, Albert. Hillside

HARRY BRODSKY died Oct. 12 at 95. He is survived by his daughter, Iris (Mickey) Weiss; three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

MELINDA EVELYN BRUN died Sept. 30 at 63. She is survived by her husband, William; daughter, Chandra; and nephew, Erik Laykin. Hillside

RAYE REENA CARLIN died Oct. 8 at 87. She is survived by her son, Martin (Caroline); daughter, Maxine; grandchildren, Laura and Mitchell; and great-grandson, Daniel. Hillside

SARAH GARFINKEL died Sept. 28 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Sandy (Ron) Shenkman; and granddaughter, Stephanie Shenkman. Hillside

MARIAN LAURANS GETZOFF died Sept. 29 at 88. She is survived by sons, Peter and Stephen; daughter, Barbara Huff; daughter-in-law, Kay; seven grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; sister, Eleanor Feller; and brother, Raymond Laurans. Hillside

NANCY LYNN GOFF died Oct. 10 at 50. She is survived by her mother, Cecile; and sister, Julie (Dr. Ben) Simon. Sholom Chapels.

JANICE HAMLIN died Oct. 2 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Morris; sons, Richard (Delia) and Robert; and four grandchildren. Hillside

HYMIE HERSOWITZ died Oct. 11 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Eva; and son, Selwyn. Sholom Chapels.

Estrea Rozanes Kapuya-Berro died Oct. 12 at 93. She is survived by her son, Eliezer (Venus) Kapuya; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Ralph Kaye died Oct. 11 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Helen; sons, Irv and Marc (Renée); daughter, Debbie; five grandchildren; and brothers, Eugene and Norman. Sholom Chapels.

BOB LEVY, JR. died Oct. 8 at 95. He is survived by his son, Bob. Hillside

CLARA LEWIN died Sept. 27 at 90. She is survived by her nephew, Gabor Szekeres. Hillside

Joyce Loraine Lynch died Oct. 10 at 67. She is survived by her daughters, Catherine and Michele. Malinow and Silverman

Leon Markus died Oct. 13 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Charlotte; sons, Jeffrey and Michael; daughter, Judith Knobel; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Karl Meyer died Oct. 11 at 81. He is survived by his children, Steven (Randi) and Michael (Heather). Mount Sinai

WILLIAM NEWMAN died Sept. 29 at 79. He is suvived by his wife, Sheila; son, Ian (Karen); daughters, Dana (Tim) and Mara (Paul); and six grandchildren. Hillside

Shoshana Noily died Oct. 13 at 97. She is sirvived by her sons, Josh and Samuel; daughters-in-law; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren.

MARVIN DAVID RATNER died Sept. 29 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Mildred; sons, Rabbi Robert (Susan) and Andrew (Kathi); brother, Stanley; eight grandchildren; and great-grandson, Yael. Hillside

BEATRICE PEARL RIEMER died Oct. 3 at 86. She is survived by her children, Rick, Ken and Terry; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Sylvia Ringelheim died Oct. 14 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Sherrill Lewis and Arlene Parker; and one grandchild. Groman

MARLENE ROBINSON died Oct. 10 at 73. She is survived by her daughter, Marlene (Richard) Arnold. Sholom Chapels.

Morris Romerstein died Oct. 11 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Anne (Charles) Grob; son, Samuel; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

DOROTHY ROSENTHAL died Oct. 10 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Michele (Sam); two granddaughters; brother, Bernie (Marcia); three nieces; and eight great-nieces and great-nephews.

Bernard Saffe died Oct. 13 at 81. He is survived by his son, Gary; daughters, Sari Garger and Rickie Louis; and three grandchildren. Groman

LORAINE ROSETTA SCHWARTZ died Oct. 11 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Carole Jablon; and granddaughters, Tess and Jordon Jablon. Hillside

MONETT SCHWARTZ died Oct. 3 at 83. She is survived by her son, Paul (Sheila); daughter, Susan (Steven) Bromberg; seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Martha Sego died Oct. 13 at 96. She is survived by her son, Peter; and one grandchild. Groman

Art Shaimes died Oct. 12 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Meredith; daughters, Cathy (Robert) Manzi and Lori (Rich) Hammer; son, Martin (Jeanette); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Elias Solz died Oct. 13 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; daughter, Heidi (Roger) Kerr; son, William (Susan) Solz; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Esther Mazo Sosner died Oct. 14 at 97. She is survived by her sons, Bernard (Phyllis), Harold (Gail) and Howard (Elaine); seven grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; and sister, Beatrice Cord. Mount Sinai

FREYDA PENNER SPATZ died Sept. 30 at 87. She is survived by her daughers, Julie DaVanzo (Frank), Barbara and Andrea (Bob Wunderlich); and four grandchildren. Hillside

Harry Weiner died Oct. 11 at 89. He is survived by his sons, Ken and Norm; daughter, Charlene Garcia; nine grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

CHARLOTTE MARIE COFFMAN WEISS died Sept. 28 at 88. She is survived by her sons sons, Rabbi Ken (Sue) and Dr. Mark (Marilyn); eight grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sister, Mildred Foreman. Hillside

MORRIS WINKLER died Oct. 8 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Mitzi; and son, Jaime. Hillside

 

Obituaries


Julie Carol Andelman died Sept. 22 at 56. She is survived by her brother, Dr. Ross (Hannah Dresner); sisters, Lani Dossett and Alice; and nephew, Daniel Dossett. Mount Sinai

Shirley Axelrod died Sept. 21 at 87. She is survived by her son, Richard (Rae); daughter, Barbara (Andrew Bajor) Tushnet; five grandchildren; and two great- grandchildren. Mount Sinai

PEGGY BERK died Sept. 20 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Jan Sonken; and sister, Selma Asher. Hillside

DR. VICTOR BIRNBERG died Sept. 22 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; son, Fred; daughter, Peggy; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Evelyn Brendzal died Sept. 24 at 89. She is survived by her son, Larry (Kathy); daughter, Iris Brown; five grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Harvey (Ilene) Schwartz. Mount Sinai

Gertrude Brown, died Sept. 19 at 88. She is survived by her son, Jack; daughters, Pat (Elliot) Schutzer, Helaine Ruth and Stephanie Goldie; four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Groman

Romaine Cinamon died Sept. 23 at 95. She is survived by her niece, Noreen Schreiber. Malinow and Silverman

Naomi Blum Cohen died Sept. 20 at 96. She is survived by her son, Burt (Suzanne Sedlewicz) Blum; daughter, Sharon Levin; two grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Miriam Bird. Malinow and Silverman

Harvey Cranow died Sept. 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; son, Steven (Nikki); grandchildren, Aaron and Benjamin; and sister, Hamla (Tzur) Levitt. Mount Sinai

Philip Delman died Sept. 23 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Owen and Ivan; brother, Robert; and two grandchildren. Groman

Ruth Ehrlich died Sept. 24 at 84. She is survived by her son, Karl; and grandchildren, Justin and Paula. Mount Sinai

Erna Elias died Sept. 25 at 80. She is survived by her sons, Alex and Robert (Robin); and grandsons, Michael and Steven. Mount Sinai

LAURA FELDMAN died Sept. 24 at 82. She is survived by her nieces, Shari and Susan Silver; and nephew, Steve Silver. Hillside

Joyce Finestone died Sept. 20 at 82. She is survived by her son, Steve (Doris); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

SALLY FLEG died Sept. 21 in Los Angeles at 97. She is survived by her daughters, Julie, Stephanie and Marian; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Herbert Gale died Sept. 23 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Sydelle; daughter, Rhonda; son, Paul (Rochelle); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Bella Gans died Sept. 22 at 89. She is survived by her niece, Fanya Soll. Malinow and Silverman

Magda Ganz died Sept. 20 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Dr. William; sons, Dr. Tomas (Dr. Patricia) and Dr. Peter (Miriam); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Yelena Genkin died Sept. 25 at 41. She is survived by her husband, Felix; son, Allen; daughter, Ester; parents, Natan and Muysia Primak; and brother, Leon (Lyudmila) Primak. Mount Sinai

Daniel Glickman died Sept. 20 at 28. He is survived by his father, Kenneth. Malinow and Silverman

Bertha Goodman died Sept. 19 at 89. She is survived by her son, Daniel; three grandchildren; and sister, Bessie Stein. Mount Sinai

Dr. Abraham HarolD Gottesman died Sept. 20. He is survived by his wife, Julia; daughters, Nancy Evens and Ann; son, Dr. Robert (Susan); and companion, Aviva Ellis-Namir. Mount Sinai

Zina Grosleib died Sept. 25 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Lillia Singer and Marina Berger; four grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

ARLENE NORTMAN JONES died Sept. 22 at 64. She is survived by her husband, Joseph; two grandchildren; and brother, Stanley. Hillside

DONALD KING died Sept. 20 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Sandra; daughters, Jennifer (Steve) Moore and Suzanne (Jonathan) Scharfstein; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Lillian Klapper died Sept. 25 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Rosenman; son, Howard (Diane); four grandchildren; and sister, Ethel Kreutzer. Mount Sinai

ESTHER LESSINGER KLEIN died Sept. 19 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Joel (Nikki) and Robert (Maggie); grandchildren, Meredith and Daniel; and brother, Jack Lessinger. Hillside

Rita Kuperberg died Sept. 22 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Sidney; sons, Joel and Daniel; daughters, Debra Kuperberg-Kruger, Marsha Kuperberg-Hernandez and Judith Kuperberg-Bock; and 10 grandchildren. Groman

KURT LANDAUER died Sept. 20 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Eve; daughter, Lynn (Miguel) Kahan; three grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren. Hillside

Samuel Lasser died Sept. 20 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Anne; sons, Andrew, Stephen (Martha) and Robert (Sylvia); grandson, Mitchel; and sister, Ida (Leon) Jacobs. Mount Sinai

Leah Levine died Sept. 23 at 85. She is survived by her daughters, Carol (David) Dang and Sue (Russ) Robin; sons, Michael (Carole) and Bob (Roberta); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Immanuel Lewin died Sept. 20 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Margo; and son, Ralph James Lewin Rosenberg. Malinow and Silverman

Harvey Lippman died Sept. 23 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Renee; daughters, Karin (Shawn) Salter and Heather (Darren) Shack; four grandchildren; and sister, Barbara (Ken) Seltzer.

Clara Paige died Sept. 23 at 94. She is survived by her daughters, Joann Ruden and Debra (Merrill) Schultz; and brother, Dr. Marcus (Babette) Horenstein. Malinow and Silverman

Marvin Papurt died Sept. 22 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Anne; sons, Dennis Winkler and Alan; daughter, Phylis Jacobs; and six grandchildren. Groman

Eli Passy died Sept. 19 at 79. He is survived by his daughter, Karen Valladeres; son, Stephen; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Barry Lynn Pfeiffer died Sept. 19 at 66. He is survived by his sister, Carl Mc Williams. Groman

ISADORE POLONSKY died Sept. 20 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia. Hillside

Benjamin Popiel died Sept. 20 at 91. He is survived by his sons, Alan (Marilyn) and Marvin (Jean); daughter, Roseana (Mark) Rosenberg; six grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Lester (Idie). Groman

Victor William Potts died Sept. 25 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Carole; and brother, Sam. Groman

ROBERT LYLE RICH died Sept. 22 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Velda; sons, Steve (Maria), Ben and David; 10 grandchildren; and brother, Arnold. Hillside

Gladys Robbins died Sept. 19 at 94. She is survived by her son, Alan; and two grandchildren. Groman

Benjamin Ruthman died Sept. 22 at 84. He is survuved by his friends. Groman

Molly Shapiro died Sept. 24 at 92. She is survived by her nieces; nephews; great-nieces; great-nephews; great-great-nieces; and great-great-nephews. Mount Sinai

Leah Shenkman died Sept. 24 at 91. She is survived by her son, Ronald (Sandra); granddaughter, Stephanie; and brother, Harry (Lillian) Burgeman. Mount Sinai

June Ellen Sherman died Sept. 19 at 42. She is survived by her parents Sheldon and Rina; brothers, and Robert (Kala) and Harry (Susan Laks). Groman

Sylvia Siegle died Sept. 22 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Dr. Stephen Siegel and David; daughter, Shelly Land; sister, Florence Harmetz. Groman

Seymour Travis died Sept. 21 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice; daughter, Karen; sons, Paul and Mark (Annabelle); and grandson, Jason. Mount Sinai

Gertrude Weiner died Sept. 20 at 93. She is survived by her sons, Ted and Sherwin; five grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Bernice Mogil. Groman

JOSEPH WOLF died Sept. 23 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Marilyn; daughter, Karen; son, David (Susan); grandsons, Brandon and Adam; and sister, Jean (William) Schulman. Hillside

 

More Love and Lust From the Bible


“The Song of Hannah” by Eva Etzioni-Halevy (Plume, $14).

Biblical fiction is enjoying a renaissance. Some say it began in 1998, with Anita Diamant’s “The Red Tent” — a fictionalized account from Jacob’s daughter, Dinah, of daily life with her aunt Rachel and mother Leah. For the last few years, writers have started mining the Bible for similar stories — that they could rewrite into a Harlequin-type romance, replete with heaving bosoms and burning loins. The stories of Queen Esther and matriarchs Sarah and Rebecca, to name a few, have been rewritten in this manner.

The latest addition is “The Song of Hannah,” Eva Etzioni-Halevy’s debut novel about the mother of Samuel the prophet, the man who anointed both King Saul and King David. Hannah earned her own place in Jewish history through the power of her prayer. Bereft at not conceiving children, Hannah went to God’s tabernacle in Shiloh and prayed for a son, promising God that if He would grant her a son, she would give him up to serve God for all the days of his life.

The presence of Hannah and her husband, Elkanah, in the biblical text is brief — the account is written in 28 sentences in Chapter 1 of Samuel I, while her famous “song of joy” is 10 sentences in Chapter 2.

“The Song of Hannah” as imagined by Etzioni-Halevy, tells the story of two women — Hannah and Peninah, Elkanah’s other wife — and its chapters alternate between their two voices. It is essentially the tale of two young women who find themselves wedded to a faithless husband, in a community where women have few rights. Although both women are scribes, their status depends on Elkanah, who is portrayed as a cruel, polygamous beast and expects servile obedience, while he sleeps with and impregnates his many maids. The only reason he marries Peninah (in the novel) is because he has impregnated her out of wedlock. And at their wedding, he spies out Hannah and starts wooing her. Soon after he marries Peninah — once she is pregnant with their child — he tells her that there will soon be three in the family, and no, he is not referring to the fetus she carries. He means Hannah, who is Peninah’s childhood friend.

He marries Hannah, giving her a far more beautiful bedroom than Peninah, and his relationship with his wives, and their relationship with each other, is forever tinged with jealousy and some bitterness. Peninah satisfies Elkanah’s lust, but he loves Hannah. Yet his love for her doesn’t stop him from sleeping with the maids (whom he admits mean nothing to him) or from spending most nights of the week in Peninah’s room.

The book has some feminist points: As many characters point out — it’s unfair that ancient Israel was a polygamous society but not a polyandrous one. Of course, what the author does not say is that had that society been polyandrous, a person’s paternity could never have been established.

But Elkanah is not the only character who needs to repent. The book is full of sex — and purple prose. Perhaps the best pick-up line is by a priest to Hannah: “Come with me and I will show you how beneficial my priestly blessing, my triple priestly blessing, can be.”

Peninah takes a lover of her own, and Hannah helps her keep the secret from Elkanah. Meanwhile, Hannah’s son, the prophet Samuel, grows up and marries a woman whom he impregnated before their wedding, and then falls in love with Peninah. In this ancient Israel, all the men, it seems, lust after women who are not their wives, while the idol trade does good business among the sinning multitudes.

Etzioni-Halevy, a professor emeritus of political sociology at Bar Ilan University in Tel Aviv, admits that there is no evidence in the Torah for Samuel’s attraction to Peninah (nor is there evidence of him getting his wife pregnant before he married her), and the description of Elkanah as an imperious, lustful cad is at odds with the Elkanah of Samuel I. Traditional commentators note that Hannah was Elkanah’s first wife, not his second, and it was only at Hannah’s urging — because she saw that she was barren, that Elkanah took a second wife. Elkanah was, according to tradition, kind to Hannah and a God-fearing man, who bought his children to God’s tabernacle in Shiloh because he wanted to instill in them fear of God.

“The Song of Hannah” might inspire readers to study the source, but as biblically inspired material, such books can come across as either religiously superficial or so filled with melodramatic guesswork that their value as something more than light entertainment is open to question. Taken seriously, it’s a fairly dispiriting look at the origins of Judaism — presenting our forefathers and mothers as adulterers and worse. Perhaps the next wave of biblical fiction will have something deeper and better to offer.

Eva Etzioni-Halevy will be appearing Sept. 20, at 7:30 p.m. at the Jewish Community Library, 6505 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles. Free, but reservations required at (323) 761-8644 or resource@jclla.org.

 

A Father’s Drive to Save His Daughter


George Smith hates to lose. A Harvard Business School graduate, Smith founded one of Southern California’s largest, most prominent real estate investment banking firms and will receive an honorary doctorate from Tel Aviv University next week. Still, he smarts a little from a grievance endured at Hamilton High more than 50 years ago.

“I graduated second in my class to a home economics major,” said the 70-year-old real estate guru and father of four. “She had one B in three years and I had two. My physics teacher graded me at a different level than anyone else because she knew I was going on to Cal Tech.”

He holds no grudge. And this small injustice would help to fuel rather than blunt his drive to succeed, which has served Smith well in building a firm that exceeded $2 billion in commercial financing last year. He never imagined that he’d also apply this indomitable will another way: in a fight to save his daughter’s life.

Becca Smith was 5 years old in 1983 when she was diagnosed with Ataxia Telangiectasia (A-T), a rare, progressively degenerative neurological disease for which there is no cure. Children with A-T have difficulty walking and with balance, and are more susceptible to infection and certain cancers. Smith and his wife, Pam, were told that Becca was unlikely to reach her 20th birthday.

Although devastated, Smith reacted in typical fashion: “I felt that if I could raise money and pick the right researchers, I would be able to make a difference — maybe prolong Becca’s life and perhaps find a cure for the disorder.”

In this pre-Internet era, the Smiths spent a year seeking scientists involved in A-T research, only to be told that A-T was “an orphan disease” that had no funding.

Then, in their own backyard, they discovered Dr. Richard Gatti, who was studying A-T in a makeshift lab at UCLA. Smith provided Gatti with an annual stipend. Several months later, Smith made a similar arrangement with Dr. Yossi Shiloh, a young Israeli researcher at Tel Aviv University.

In 1988, Gatti’s UCLA lab narrowed the location of the gene responsible for A-T to a specific region of one chromosome. Seven years later, Shiloh’s Tel Aviv lab identified the exact gene.

To help with the financial burden of their pledges, the Smiths established the Ataxia Telangiectasia Medical Research Foundation (A-TMRF). Pam initiated an annual fundraising luncheon attended by friends from the Project Council at the Museum of Contemporary Art. George started a real estate luncheon that now attracts more than 1,500 annually.

On Sept. 21, Smith will hold the 11th annual George Smith Partners Real Estate Luncheon at the Westin Century Plaza Hotel, where Itamar Rabinovich, former Israeli ambassador to the United States and president of Tel Aviv University, will present Smith with an honorary doctorate.

Smith estimates that the nonprofit he started has supported more than $10 million in research worldwide. In October of last year, the Smiths endowed the Rebecca Smith Chair in A-T Research at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA.

“My lab’s first grant support was from the A-TMRF,” said Shiloh, who has earned worldwide recognition for his A-T research. “It has been the major and most stable source of support of our work.”

Shiloh now refers to the A-T gene as “a sentry at the gate of genome stability,” because the protein it produces essentially sounds the alarm to report damage to cellular DNA, particularly broken DNA.

A-T patients produce little or none of this protein, which explains why their symptoms affect so many systems in the body.

Ironically, this “orphan disease” is now proving to have impact well beyond children affected by A-T. Research may provide insights into other neuro-degenerative (brain and nerve function) diseases, deficiencies of the immune system, cancer and aging. One in 100 people carry a defective copy of the A-T gene, which may also be associated with higher risk of breast cancer.

At UCLA, Gatti’s work currently focuses on potential treatments.

“The Rebecca Smith Chair for A-T has come at a time when we can — for the first time — envision a therapeutic approach that is achievable,” Gatti said. “I project that in three to five years, we will have clinical trials.”

Becca, now 27, is completing her associate of arts degree at Moorpark College. Although she has difficulty walking and has slurred speech, she has not been plagued with the infections typical of so many A-T patients.

Smith’s own health has sorely tested his resilience over the last five years. He has endured kidney disease, the implantation of four stents in his heart and treatment for bone-marrow cancer. He now undergoes dialysis three times weekly.

“I’m feeling really good now,” he said. “My life is back to normal. I just have an inconvenience,” he said, referring to the 12 hours a week of dialysis, during which he returns calls and e-mails.

Smith said his daughter’s illness changed the priorities in his life: “I tell people, ‘Be involved in something. The more you give, the more you get from it.'”

For information about the Sept. 21 George Smith Partners’ Real Estate Luncheon, call (310) 557-8336 or visit www.gsparthers.com/at.

 

Obituaries


Gerald Albert died Aug. 26 at 76. He is survived by this wife, Estelle; son, Jeffrey; daughters, Marilee and Raquel; and two grandchildren. Groman

LARRY ALLEN died Aug. 15 at 48. He is survived by his wife, Traci; two sons; parents, Charlotte and Herb Beatus; parents-in-law, Eddie and Myrna; and sisters ,Tami Jones and Michele Wagner. Hillside

RUTH ALTMAN died Aug. 19 at 87. She is survived by her sisters, Beatrice Baron and Mary Berton; and nephew Ross Berton. Hillside

Hannah Dora Angress died Aug. 17 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Lillian (Luis) Macias; son, Robert (Gail); and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Zelda Barton died Aug. 22 at 84. She is survived by her nieces, Sharon Levine and Marsha Besheff. Groman

Ann Bernstein died Aug. 14 at 93. She is survived by her son, Howard; daughter, Marsha Hervey; and four grandchildren. Groman

Audrey Blanchard died Aug. 11 at 85. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Gertrude Bohm died Aug. 18 at 89. She is survived by her son, Fred Graff; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Sylvia Sussman. Groman

LILLIAN BOLKE died Aug. 17 at 97. She is survived by her sons, Donald and Edward; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Julius Cohen died Aug. 17 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Marjorie; daughters, Jeri Sue (Marty) Serota and Judith (Michael) Goldman; sons, Lawrence (Ginger) and Martin (Debbie); seven grandchildren; and sister, Jean Bonus. Malinow and Silverman

Mordechay Cohen died Aug. 17 at 94. He is survived by his daughters, Yardena Cohen, Erela Levin and Anat Finck; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Lucille Cooper died Aug. 12 at 84. She is survived by her daughter, Harriet. Malinow and Silverman

Janet Critchfield died Aug. 11 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Susan Milstien; son, Bill (Leslee); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jean Davidow died Aug. 11 at 89. She is survived by her husband, Solomon; and son, Robert. Malinow and Silverman

Martha Diamond died Aug. 16 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Adele (Robert) Levine and Jackie Rosen; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

BERNARD MONROE EISENSTEIN died Aug. 19 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Lenore; daughters, Helaine (Michael) Lieberman and Michele (Michael) Evans; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Edward Elkus died Aug. 12 at 72. He is survived by his brother, Philip; and sister, Florence. Mount Sinai

Ira Englander died Aug. 23 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Nancy; sons, Bradford, Mitchell and Craig; seven grandchildren; brothers, Wayne Englander and Ron Willens. Groman

Morris Fierson died Aug. 24 at 90. He is survived by his son, Walter (Carolyn). Malinow and Silverman

DR. DAVID FILS died Aug. 16 at 92. He is survived by his sons, Kenneth and Lawrence (Victoria); and four grandchildren. Hillside

Bess Finger-Zeitlin died Aug. 20 at 99. She is survived by her son, Sheldon Sills; daughters, Sherna (Howard) Hahn and Marsha (Bob) Allen; six grandchildren; and 15 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Gerald Fischer died Aug. 23 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; sons, Larry and Mike (Sandra); daughters, Janis (Ola) Nordquist and Sherry; five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Harry Fisher died Aug. 20 at 93. He is survived by his companion, Sylvia Coonen; sons, Marc (Dale) Norman and Lance; daughter, Gail (Jeffrey Wohlgethan) Fisher; three grandchildren; and sisters, Marion and Dorothy Pine. Mount Sinai

Ira Charles Fishman died Aug. 12 at 53. He is survived by his sons, Matthew (Noemi), Jason and Adam; daughter, Nicole; grandson, Jack; mother, Pearl; brothers, Joel (Lenore), Allen (Dale) and Marty (Cheryl); companion, Matthew Blum; and former spouse, Susan. Mount Sinai

Seymour Fogelson died Aug. 21 at 90. He is survived by his son, Andrew (Susan); two grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Lewi Fox died Aug. 22 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Rose; son, Jackie; daughters, Evelyn Reiser and Gladys; three grandchildren; and sister, Freida Schonbrun. Groman

Lee Freeman died Aug. 23 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; children, Daphna (Eric), Ari (Jackie), Dani (Trisha) and Elana; stepchildren, Stephanie and Jeremy Balkin; granddaughter, Alexia; mother, Eve; and brothers, Larry and Matthew (Rebecca). Mount Sinai

Berton Donald Goldbaum died Aug. 18 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Adrienne; sons, Edward (Jennifer) and Steven (Teri); and seven grandchildren Mount Sinai

Elma Goldberg died Aug. 20 at 93. She is survived by her husband, W. Earl; four grandchildren; seven great grandchildren; and sister, Bonnie Flier. Malinow and Silverman

Dorothy Goldstein died Aug. 23 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Marvin; sons, Michael (Pamela) and Jerry (Kimberly); daughters, Gloria (Richard) Ring and Sherrie Price; nine grandchildren; and sister, Adele Golding. Mount Sinai

Fred Goldstein died Aug. 16 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Kathy Robinson-Goldstein; daughter, Elana; sons, Marc, Josh and Jon; and five grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Pearl Goldstein died Aug. 14 at 83. She is survived by her daughters, Arlene (Alan) Weingart and Nancy (Gary) Driscoll; son, Mark (Ellyn) Goldstein; five grandchildren; and sister-in-law, Vera Glassberg. Mount Sinai

ROSE GOODMAN died Aug. 14 at 92. She is survived be her sons, Robert (Doris), Martin (Bobbe) and Larry (Patty); eight grandchildren; 10 great grandchildren; and sisters: Frances Buchsbaum and Florence Kaplowitz. Hillside

SHEILA GOTTLIEB died Aug. 12 at 65. She is survived by her husband, Bob; and daughter Amy. Sholom Chapels

Frank Jacob Greenfield died Aug. 20 at 81. He is survived by his sons, Barry and David (Orit); daughter, Linda (Laurence) Bear; three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and many other relatives. Sholom Chapels

Herbert Greenspan died Aug. 11 at 83. He is survived by his daughter, Dorothy; son, Frank; and granddaughter, Claire. Mount Sinai

Danny Inkelis died Aug. 26 at 94. He is survived by his son, Stan (Mary Beth); two grandchildren; and brother, Morris. Mount Sinai

Lillian Jacobson died Aug. 18 at 94. She is survived by her daughters, Eleda Matorin and Beverly Steinberg; six grandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Groman

Katherine Kadelburg Kadell died Aug. 20 at 90. She is survived by her son, Tony. Malinow and Silverman

Martin Kaplan died Aug. 21 at 91. He is survived by his daughter, Linda; and son Lawrence. Malinow and Silverman

BELLE KASHINSKY died Aug. 22 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Howard (Lisa) and Steven; daughters, Peggy (Mike) Pardue and Bonnie Grace; nine grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

JOSEPH KIFFERSTEIN died Aug. 13 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Judith; son, Alan; daughter, Victoria Rossellini; four grandchildren; sisters, Elaine Manson and Claire Wolf; and many relatives. Hillside

HERMAN CHARLES KLEIN died Aug. 17 at 80. He is survived by his son, Steve; two grandchildren; and sisters, Anne Handler and Jyl Riendeau. Hillside

Herman Kutchai died Aug. 13 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Robert (Robin) and Martin (Judith); daughter, Gloria (Joel Schwartz); and four grandchildren

EVA LEV died Aug. 11 at 78. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughter, Judy; and brother-in-law, Abe Schwartz. Sholom Chapels

Florence Lewin died Aug. 18 at 93. She is survived by her daughters, Belle (Ed) Landa and Marianne (Jeff) Kast; six grandchildren; and great-granddaughter, Olivia. Mount Sinai

RITA KURTZ LEWIS died Aug. 18 at 85. She is survived by her daughters Jolie (Tom) Greiff, Amy Lynne Girling and Arla; four grandchildren; and sister, Adle Robbins. Hillside

Lawrence Loden died Aug. 11 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Carole; son, Jay; daughter, Harriet Minke; and one grandchild. Groman

Rebecca Lofchie died Aug. 18 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Leo; son, Bruce; daughter, Linda (Kenneth) Selander; two grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; two great-great-grandchildren; and brother, Van Kennedy. Groman

Stanley Marcus died Aug. 20 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Karen; daughter, Leigh; son, David; and sister, Marilyn Distler. Malinow and Silverman

Rhoda Margolis died Aug. 16 at 72. She is survived by her daughter, Zanne (Jeff) Kibbee; sons, Allan and Bruce (Jodie); three grandchildren; brothers, Fred and Maurice (Harriett) Donenfeld; and sister, Ann Cohen. Mount Sinai

Judith Marks died Aug. 14 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Melvin; sons, John (Audrey) and Richard; three stepgrandchildren; and sister, Florence Plotkin. Malinow and Silverman

BARBARA ANN MARSH died Aug. 15 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Steve; son, David; daughter, Judy; and brother, Jerry Korengold. Hillside

Ronald Wesley McGranahan died Aug. 17 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Carol; sons, Michael (Denise) and Mark (Jean); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Norman Mehr died Aug. 13 at 89. he is survived by his daughter, Serlinda (Richard) Hadden; son, Charles (Janice); and nephew, Irvin (Rita) Benowitz. Mount Sinai

ALEXANDER MESZAROS died Aug. 23 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Liora; son, Amir; and daughter, Dr. Tamar (Dr. David) Silberstein. Sholom Chapels

ROBERT MORTON MEYER died Aug. 20 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Dusty; daughter, Nikki Maloney; one grandchild; and niece, Christine Janus. Hillside

Harry Moss died Aug. 24 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Frances; and sons, Mel (Janice) and Ron. Groman

Rose Noosbond died Aug. 19 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Denise (Philip) Green and Marla Burgess; son, Jeffrey (DeDe); four grandchildren; and sister, Pearl Weiss. Mount Sinai

Harold Novak died Aug. 23 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Klara; and sons, Michael and Shay. Groman

Arthur Nozick died Aug. 14 at 73. Malinow and Silverman

Richard Oberman died Aug. 12 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Sandra; daughter, Vicki (Steve) McIntosh; son, Jeff (Kim); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Sidney Olkes died Aug. 12 at 56. He is survived by his wife, Elyse; son, Ryan; daughter, Kacie; and brothers, Bob and Stuart (Susan). Mount Sinai

Sholom Ouaknine died Aug. 15 at 66. He is survived by his nephew, Asher; and cousins, Armon and Roni Vakneen. Chevra Kadisha

Lilyan Pell died Aug. 26 at 94. She is survived by her sister, Irene Bockoff; brother, Arnold (Margaret) Groveman; nephews, Daniel (Yeda) and Averill Strasser; and nieces, Naomi (Michael) Godfrey and Carol (Donald) Glaser. Mount Sinai

Ruth Pordy died Aug. 19 at 90. She is survived by her son, Bart (Harriet Scharf) Sokolow; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Martha Pollack died Aug. 15 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Judy; son, Ron (Deborah); five grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; brother, Jack (Karen) Rabin; and sister, Pearl Ann (Max) Marco. Mount Sinai

RACHEL PTASZNIK died Aug. 13 at 85. She is survived by her son, Jake; daughter, Lucy Fainzilber; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Manuel Rabbani died Aug. 14 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Khanom; and son, Iraj. Chevra Kadisha

Gussie Ratner died Aug. 17 at 95. She is survived by her son, Irv (Tessa) Horwitz; daughter, Dolly Astor; seven grandchildren; and 18 great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Harriet Rawdin died Aug. 22 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Lita Singer; sons, Robert (Helen) and Dr. Martin (Myrna); 10 grandchildren; and 13 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

CLAIRE KRONE RESNICK died Aug. 15 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Jules and Steve; and two grandchildren. Hillside

Ray Rosen died Aug. 26 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Judith C. Wollman. Malinow and Silverman

Jack Jacob Rosen died Aug. 24 at 87. he is survived by his wife, Dorothy; children, Beverly Fleisher, Dale, Loren (Mary) and Sheldon (Rosie); eight grandchildren; sister, Jean; and brother, Douglas. Mount Sinai

Lillian Rosenberg died Aug. 18 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Jane Rosenberg Porter. Malinow and Silverman

BLANCA ROSENBLATT died Aug. 19 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Edward; son, Fernando; daughters Carol and Astrid; and seven grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Ethel Rousso died Aug. 24 at 88. She is survived by her son, Victor C.; daughter, Suzanne; and brother, Harold Harrison. Malinow and Silverman

Fatholah Sadighim died Aug. 11 at 57. He is survived by his brother, Roohollah; and cousin, Shawn Tabibian. Chevra Kadisha

Alvin Saltzman died Aug. 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Irene; sons, Mark (Marla), Joel (Esther) and Steven; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Beatrice Sarkin died Aug. 15 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Davis; sons, Allan and Ralph; daughter, Robin Haines; and six grandchildren. Groman

Stanley Sazzman died Aug. 18 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Raeleen; sons, Allen (Lori) and Marc (Rosemarie); and daughters, Laurie (Scott) Wallace and Sara. Groman

Louis Alan Schechter died Aug. 15 at 40. He is survived by his father, Morris; and brother, Todd. Malinow and Silverman

Thelma Shriftman died Aug. 14 at 82. She is survived by her son, Michael. Malinow and Silverman

EVELYN SILVER died Aug. 12 at 75. She is survived by her daughters, Sharon and Jodi; grandchildren, Philip and Emily Serebrenick; sisters, Ruth Gutkin and Hannah Steindel; 15 nieces and nephews; and her longtime companion, George Kaloian. Hillside

EVELYN SILVERMAN died Aug. 20 at 97. She is survived by her son, Marshall; daughter, Doralee Jacobson; two grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Jeffrey Skversky died Aug. 15 at 37. He is survived by his wife, Roberta. Malinow and Silverman

Helen Dorothy Slotnick died Aug. 15 at 97. She is survived by her son, David (Terri) Stanton; daughter, Judy (Michael) Quinn; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Mera Soltes died Aug. 22 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Alisa D’Alessandro Judith and Eva; two grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Fanny Spencer died Aug. 19 at 99. She is survived by her sons, Richard (Diana) and Howard. Mount Sinai

Sam Stein died Aug. 14 at 90. He is survived by his daughter, Nadine; and brother, Jack. Groman

ERWIN TARSKY died Aug. 16 at 98. He is survived by his son, Fred (Karin); daughter, Benita Young; two grandchildren; and brother-in-law, Morris Halford. Hillside

DR. STUART TURKEL died Aug. 25 at 76. He is survived by his son, John. Sholom Chapels

Morris Walman died Aug. 16 at 88. He is survived by his son, Mitchell (Michele); daughters, Tammy (Robert) Harrison and Linda (David); and seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

RUTH WEIL died Aug. 20 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Benita Cohen; son-in-law, Tylee James; three grandchildren; and two great grandchildren. Hillside

Mike Weinberg died Aug. 12 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Lili; daughters Anita (David) Heber and Ariella Weinberg Rutschman; and four grandchildren. Groman

Betty Weinberger died Aug. 26 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Ruth Barnett; two grandchildren and six great grandchildren. Groman

Max Weinstein died Aug. 19 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Charlotte; son, Jeffrey; daughter, Shelley Opos; two grandchildren; brother, Murray; and sister, Cecil Taub. Groman

Harold Weinstock died Aug. 23 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Gertrude; sons, Michael, Arthur and Barry; five grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; and sister, Ethel Ganberg. Groman

Samuel Weitzen died Aug. 18 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughters, Monica (Ronald) Richterm, Deborah (Peter) Martin and Rita; four grandchildren; brother, Louis; and sister, Rose (Fred) Weiss. Mount Sinai

Estelle Williams died Aug. 26 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Jack; sons, Mitchell, Kenneth and Gary; and three grandchildren. Groman

Jerry Wolff died Aug. 12 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Arlene; sons, Steven (Gayle) and Mark (Lisa); daughter, Ellen; and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jennie Youner died Aug. 17 at 97. She is survived by her granddaughter, Lynn Menlo. Chevra Kadish

 

Obituaries


Meyer Adler died Aug. 10 at 94. He is survived by his sons, Jeffrey and Arnold; daughter, Sharyn; two grandchildren; and sister, Goldie Wolinski. Groman

MIRIAM AUSTERLITZ died July 24 at 59. She is survived by her brother, Dr. Michael. Sholom Chapels

Ida Bender died Aug. 10 at 87. She is survived by her son, Les (Dianne); daughter, Elaine (Paul) Seidman; grandchildren, Rachel and Michael; and sister, Frieda Schiller. Chevra Kadisha

Joan Mary Blumenstein died Aug. 4 at 75. She is survived by her daughter, Anne (Lance) Mejia; son, Carl (Hannah Rebkin); four grandchildren; and brothers, Athol, Owen and Keith Lawrence. Malinow and Silverman

Saltanat Banayan died Aug. 3 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Habibollah Rokhsar; sons, Drs. Manucher, Massoud and Mehrdad Rokhsar; daughter, Jackline Mahanian; nine grandchildren; brother, Eskadar; and sisters, Akhtar Ghadoshi, Ashraf Bakhshi, Ezat Tehrani and and Malieh. Chevra Kadisha

Doreen Bonner died Aug. 9 at 77. She is survived by her sons, Ivan (Ruth), Charles (Leah) and Mark; daughter, Joy; brother, Arthur Levy; eight grandchildren; sister, Esther Saltz. Chevra Kadisha

Frieda Chesler died Aug. 5 at 99. She is survived by her son, Leonard (Linda); five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ESTHER MANTEL COHEN died Aug. 3 at 91. She is survived by her son, Larry (Paulette); daughters, Sharon (Robert) Wiviott and Faye (Gary) Waldman; 12 grandchildren; 20 great-grandchildren; and sisters, Edythe Merkow, Sara Mazur, Mary Davis, Millie (Milt) Kaplan and Roz Coleman. Hillside

Sidney Erlbaum died Aug. 8 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Edna; daughter, Tina (Rick) Eckstein; sons, David and Alan (Jane); eight grandchildren; and sister, Hildy Freiman. Mount Sinai

Philip Farber died Aug. 9 at 83. He is survived by his brother, Samuel; nephew, David (Joy); niece, Judy (Joe) Salamon; great-nephew, Brian; and great-niece, Nicole. Mount Sinai

Helen Feldman died June 26 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Keren (Fernando) Goldberg; son, Lane (Marie); grandsons, John and Evan; and sisters, Ruth (Dave) Pollock and Gertrude. Palm Springs Mortuary

Harold Finkel died Aug. 3 at 93. He is survived by his daughters, Arlene (Michael) Bernstein and Barbara (Stan) Trachtenberg; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Randall Cary Frank died Aug. 9 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Lisa; sons, Sean and Joshua; daughter, Juli; three grandchildren; and brother, Jay. Groman

Isabel Gilbert died Aug. 9 at 94. She is survived by her son, Charles. Malinow and Silverman

David Gordon Gill died Aug. 7 at 57. He is survived by his son, Jarrod; daughter, Roxanne; brother, Richard (Eve Newton-Gill); sister, Irene Yeger; three nieces; and two nephews. Chevra Kadisha

Vera Golbin died Aug. 9 at 83. She is survived by her daughters, Caryn (Dean) Hanna and Barbara; grandchildren, Dina and Sean; and brother, Jack (Sally) Pullman. Mount Sinai

Nettie Isenberg died Aug. 3 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Jerrold (Madeleine) and Sherwin (Rina); daughter, Roberta Maimes; nine grandchildren; nine great-grandchildren; and sister, Toby Kass. Chevra Kadisha

Philip Kalish died Aug. 9 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Mildred; sons, David and Richard; six grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

IRVING KATES died Aug. 8 at 80. He is survived by his sons David, Howard and Steven; daughters, Michele Schulman, Cheryl Remington and Linda Norton; 12 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Sarah Klapman died Aug. 5 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Karen Jackman and Jacqueline Bacharach; seven grandchildren; and 12 great-grandchildren. Groman

Sally Kurlander died Aug. 7 at 94. She is survived by her son, Donald Charein. Malinow and Silverman

TILLIE LANG died Aug. 9 at 98. She is survived by her sons, Melvin, Kenneth and Howard. Sholom Chapels

Bertha Leiner died Aug. 5 at 92. She is survived by her stepsons, Fred and Lewis. Groman

Anne Levine died Aug. 5 at 62. She is survived by her husband, Harvey; son, Marc; and daughter, Sarah. Groman

ALICE LEVY-STEWART died July 28 at 46. She is survived by her brother, Morris Levy. Sholom Chapels

Sandra Lynn Loen died Aug. 8 at 66. She is survived by her husband, Harold; son, Lloyd; stepdaughter, Linda; and sister-in-law, Jan Laquidara. Groman

Alex Miller died Aug. 9 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Henrietta; daughters, Joy (Robert) Stigile and Darlene; granddaughter, Sara Nygard; and sisters, Dolly (Irwin) Green, Gloria (Abe) Boyarsky and Irene (Jerry) Cohen. Mount Sinai

BARBARA NASH MISSMAN died July 29 at 64. She is survived by her sister, Bonnie Nash. Sholom Chapels

Dorothea Elizabeth Odenheimer died Aug. 6 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Frederick; son, Michael; and two grandchildren. Groman

Lillian Oreck died Aug. 10 at 90. She is survived by her son, Les (Phyllis); daughter, Sherry (Michael) Showacter; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ESTHER PFEFFERMAN died July 23 at 75. She is survived by her son, Sam; daughter, Ethel Perles; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Eleanor Helen Philips died Aug. 5 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; sons, Stephen (Caren), Rodger, Michael (Jan Rothchild); daughter, Renee (Murray) Hutchings; eight grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

RACHEL RICHARDS died Aug. 4 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Tom; parents, Simon and Sima Friedman; sister, Esther Friedman; and brother, Michael (Etti) Friedman. Sholom Chapels

Jerome Rocklin died Aug. 10 at 82. He is survived by his sister, Gloria London. Malinow and Silverman

ROBERT ROSE died Aug. 7 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Joyce; daughter, Susan (Chuck) Weisbart; sons, Steven (Mary) and David (Mary Anne); six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

LILLIAN ROSENZWEIG died Aug. 10 at 88. She is survived by her son, Gary (Mazine). Sholom Chapels

Shirley Sadofsky died Aug. 5 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Greg and Jay; and sister, Sara Flaum. Mount Sinai

CAROLYN RUTH SCHACHTMAN died Aug. 7 at 86. She is survived by her sons, William and Robert; daughter, Judith Schwartz; five grandchildren; and six great- grandchildren. Hillside

Charlotte Shapiro died Aug. 7, at 105. She is survived by her daughter-in-law, Leslie; and grandson, Miles. Mount Sinai

Gilda Berdine Shaevitz died Aug. 7 at 55. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; father, Julius; sister, Rhonda; and brothers, Howell, Joel and Harrison Karabel. Malinow and Silverman

Melvin Charles Shryer died Aug. 8 at 88 He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; daughter, Sandee (Gary) Glickman; sons, Jeff and Marc (Kimberly); four grandchildren; and sister, Helyn Lederman. Mount Sinai

Nate Silberberg died Aug. 5 at 69. He is survived by his son, Fred (Deborah); former wife, Euy; three grandchildren; and sisters, Alice (Leo) Granierer, Ruth Lester and Inge Rubin. Mount Sinai

FRIEDA SILBERMAN died July 28 at 90. She is survived by her son, Allen (Judy); daughter-in-law, Irma; three grandchildren; and sister, Bertie (Sam) Krieger. Sholom Chapels

Elizabeth Speiser died Aug. 7 at 79. She is survived by her daughter, Lisa (Paul) Hessell; son, Steve (Leslie); four grandchildren; sister, Olga (Julian) Reinheimer; and sister-in-law, Henny Daly. Mount Sinai

Annie Tessel died Aug. 3 at 86. She is survived by her son, Larry; daughters, Esther (Dave) Collins, Sharon Belson and Reba Tessel; three grandchildren; sister, Miriam Lewis; and nephew, Larry Fox. Groman

Zola Tisherman died Aug. 7 at 85 He is survived by his wife, Lillian; son, David; daughters, Phyllis (Tom) Foreman and Bari (Caleb) Edwards; grandson, Jonathan Foreman; and sister, Pauline Greenstein Mount Sinai

Olga Wittenberg died Aug. 8 at 93. She is survived by her son, Joseph; daughter, Judy Barnhardt; and one grandchild. Groman

Samyil Yudilovich died Aug. 10 at 60. He is survived by his wife, Lyudmila. Groman

ESTHER ZACKS died Aug. 9 at 86. She is survived by her son, Charles. Sholom Chapels

Bette Zinderman died Aug. 7 at 80. She is survived by her son, Mark (Carole); daughters, Danaand Jann; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries


Bernard M. Shapiro,
El Caballero Country Club Founder,
Dies at 89

Bernard M. Shapiro who founded the El Caballero Country Club in Tarzana in 1957, died Aug. 26. He was 89.

After playing golf at the Bel-Air Country Club in 1954, Shapiro wanted to join, but a friend told him he would not be welcome because he was Jewish, Shapiro told the Los Angeles Times in 1998.

With the help of a few friends, including supermarket owner Eugene Gelson, Shapiro built a member-owned country club that anyone was welcome to join.

Shapiro was born in Minneapolis to parents who had fled Eastern Europe. His Los Angeles company, Royal Seal, began in the 1930s as a vending machine business and expanded to processing nuts and manufacturing for national candymakers.

When he sold the company in 1947, he retired and became a philanthropist. He helped found the Boys and Girls Club of the San Fernando Valley and served on the board of many service organizations.

He is survived by sons, Melvin, Stanley and Gerald; daughter, Janice; and four grandchildren.

Memorial contributions may be made to the Boys & Girls Club of the San Fernando Valley, 11251 Glenoaks Blvd., Pacoima, CA 91331.

Esther Wapner Arbeitel died July 30 at 97. She is survived by her nephew, Judge Joseph (Mickey) Wapner; niece, Irene (Russell) Franklin; and many great-nieces and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

Morris Baram died July 30 at 96. She is survived by her daughters, Beverly Young and Charlotte Seigel; seven grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Groman

Rachel Berdischewsky died July 28 at 94. She is survived by her son, Myron (Lilith). Chevra Kadisha

Bernard Bergal died Aug. 2 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Caroline; son, Mark; daughter, Lisa; and sisters, Jeanette Braner and Mickie Stangler. Groman

Alfred Biller died Aug. 2 at 97. He is survived by his wife, Judith; son, Jim (Diane); daughters, Jacki (Roger Bjorklund) Coates and Brenda (Daniel) Hanin; and three grandchildren. Groman

Esther Block died Aug. 2 at 86. She is survived by her son, Mitchell. Malinow and Silverman

Arlene Blonsky died July 27 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Paul; sons, Larry (Barbara), Jerry (Sunny), David (Cheryl) and Barry (Siska); six grandchildren; and brother, Ronald (Annette) Aberhams. Mount Sinai

Jacob Churg died July 27 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Warren and Andrew; and two grandchildren. Groman

Solomon Cohen died July 27 at 86. He is survived by his brother, Isaac; sister, Esther Bension; and niece, Delecia Enenstein. Groman

DAVID SOLOMON CRYSTAL died Aug. 1 at 85. He is survived by his son, Lee; daughter, Robin Johnson; seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Bruce Deyong died July 31 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Paula. Malinow and Silverman

Leo Diamond died July 30 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Kathleen (Pedro) Vargas; and sister, Ruth Freund. Mount Sinai

Harold Dropkin died Aug. 1 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Mazie; son, Lester (Sara); daughter, Mara (Bruce) Kasper; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Jack Fargo died July 29 at 78. He is survived by his companion, Marilyn Weinshenk; sons, Gary (Angela) Herschel, Steven (Debbie) Weinshenk and Lance (Tye); and grandchildren, Daniel, Nicole, Justin, Sarah and Leah. Mount Sinai

GILDA FINK died July 28 at 76. She is survived by her daughter, Arlene (Stanley) Greengard; son, Nelson; four grandchildren; sisters, Marylan Marsh and Sara Bogard; and brother, David Treister. Hillside

Walter Firstman died Aug. 1 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Lee; sons, Curtis and Bruce; daughter, Barbara (Don) Kaplan; and six grandchildren. Groman

Benjamin Glass died July 29 at 91. He is survived by his son, Stanley; and two grandchildren; and brother, Sidney. Groman

Edith Hanauer died July 30 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra (Les) Bursten; son, Gary; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Philip Heine died July 31 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Rhoda; sons, Richard, Bruce and David; one grandchild; and brother, David. Malinow and Silverman

Malvina Hersh died July 29 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Rita Smith; two grandchildren; and sister, Pearl Gottesman. Groman

Jack Hirshleifer died July 26 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; sons, John (Linda) and David (Siew Hong); and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Esther Knoblowitz died July 27 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Bernard; and son, Martin. Chevra Kadisha

Nathan Kort died Aug. 2 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Diane; daughter, Stephanie (Tim) Trombley; son, Glen; step-daughter, Cindy (Patrick) Napolitano; seven grandchildren; and brother, Barney (Jean) Kort. Mount Sinai

Tsilia Laufer died July 30 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Eugene and Boris Bakalinsky; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Sol Meyerson died July 31 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Estelle; son, Steven (Annette); daughters, Jo Anne (Paul) Block and Deborah (Abraham) Raphael; four grandchildren; and sisters, Harriet Weisner and Florence Essman. Groman

Avrim Namak died July 27 at 64. He is survived by his wife, Judy; daughter, Shulamit; three stepchildren; mother, Gertrude; and sister, Dena Katz. Malinow and Silverman

MARY RACHLIN died July 29 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Carol (Marvin D.) Rowen; four grandchildren; 10 great- grandchildren; and brother, Melvin Weintraub. Hillside

Lisa Francine Rowen died July 29 at 46. She is survived by her husband, Eric; sons, Hunter and Austin; daughter, Jessica; brother, Brad (Gina) Lieberman; sister, Kiera (David)Allen; and mother, Laurayne Lieberman. Chevra Kadisha

Arnold Schnitzer died July 29 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and daughters, Leslie Jacobs, Stacy Kenyon, Wendy Willock and Anita McLaughlin. Malinow and Silverman

LAWRENCE SCHULNER died July 11 at 66. He is survived by his wife, Sharalynn; sons, Keith (Debbie) and Matthew; stepsons, David (Gigi) and Brian Shapiro; daughter, Shulamit (David) Widawsky; four grandchildren; and sister, Avis (Marshal) Cohen.

Manfred Schweda died July 31 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Lenora; daughters, Margaret Chroman and Sharon Neiyer; and four grandchildren. Groman

ROBERT MILTON SERIN died July 28 at 65. He is survived by his sons, William and Scott; and two grandchildren. Hillside

BETTY SHEPARD died July 28 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Maxine; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Herbert Singer died July 29 at 76. He is survived by his sons, Jeff (Kellie), Michael (Jennifer) and Stephen (Maureen); daughter, Debbie (Frank) Dimario; six grandchildren; and sister, Helene. Mount Sinai

Irwin Phillip Solomon died July 30 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Marcia; and daughters, Stacey and Shelby. Groman

Robert Turer died July 31 at 47. He is survived by his wife, Shellie; sons, Ethan and Shane; daughter, Nicole; parents, Mark and Betty; sisters-in-law, Debbie, Brenda (Phil), Sherrie, Toni (Dave) and Teri (Craig); and 10 nieces and nephews. Chevra Kadisha

Carol Underwood died July 29 at 55. She is survived by her daughters, Tewlyn (Jesse) Yoburn and Amanda (Kevin) Musselwhite; brothers, Michael (Natalie) and Stanley (Ella) Schwartz; and ex-husband, Phillip (Auyrina). Mount Sinai

Joan Vineberg died July 29 at 74. She is survived by her sister, Jackie Zuravel; brother, Marvin Ripes; and several nieces and nephews. Mount Sinai

Dr. Ernest Otto Weinman died July 31 at 82. He is surivived by his wife, Phyllis; and his brother, Hans. Groman

Lillian Weinstein died July 29 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Susan; and son, Robert (Alvina) Weinstein. Malinow and Silverman

Mohtaram Youssefzadeh died July 30 at 76. She is survived by her husband Asher Benyamin; and children, Lida Hanaie and Kamal Benyamin. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries


Cyril Amitin died July 26 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Renee; sons, Alan (MaryAnne) and Michael (Valery); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Mone Anathan Jr. died July 21 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Adele; daughter, Caryl Sunshine; and son, Mone Anathan III. Malinow and Silverman

DEANNA ATKINS died July 20 at 64. She is survived by her sister, Joanne Bryan; brother, Jack Cohn; nephew, Michael Lang; and niece, Kari Jelsma. Hillside

Esther Bergstein died July 21 at 102. She is survived by her niece, Judy Green. Groman

Nina Berman died July 21 at 97. She is survived by her daughters, Teraza (Norman) Weiss, Sheila and Marcia; four grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sister, Sara Greenberg. Mount Sinai

Lee Blair died July 22 at 85. She is survived by her son, David. Chevra Kadisha

Eva Bledstein died July 26 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Harry (Steffi) Blitzstein and Bernard; grandchildren, Joseph and Andrea Blitzstein; great-grandson, Andrew; and sister, Anne (Bernard) Krom. Mount Sinai

LEONA BLEIBERG died July 22 at 72. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Daniel; daughter, Laura Rogers; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Shirley Brown died July 24 at 79. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughter, Judith; three grandchildren; two grandchildren; and sister, Hilda. Groman

Sunnie Crasnick died July 24 at 100. She is survived by her sons, Gerald (Sylvia) and Donald; three grandchildren; and great- grandson, Daniel. Mount Sinai

ANTHONY DANNO died July 22 at 50. He is survived by his sister, Nancy; brother, James; and companion, Tony Yollin. Hillside

Mikhail Dranitsky died July 22 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Dora; sister, Reva Huberman; nephews, Norman (Dalia) and Bernie Huberman; nieces, Mimi (Albert) Assanti and Evette (Johnny) Knight; and nine great-nieces and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

MILDRED DRESNER died July 22 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Sol; son, Dr. Steve; daughters, Marcia Kabaker and Joanne; five grandchildren; sister, Elaine Michaelson; and brother, Sidney Auster. Hillside

Stuart Elkins died July 26 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Rochelle; daughter, Dori; sons, Glenn (Danielle) and Kieth (Jackie); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ursula Flink died July 25 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Vivienne Jimenez. Malinow and Silverman

Robert Gerry died July 23 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Catherine; son, Michael; and daughter, Patricia Gerry Wilson. Groman

HELEN RUSTY GILFORD died July 24 at 80. She is survived by her brother, Stanley (Marrisa). Hillside

Louise Gillin died July 23 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Philip and Andrew; brother, Stanley Herzoff; eight grandchildren; and 15 great-grandchildren. Groman

Mia Goldberg died July 22 at 84. She is survived by her sons, Mark (Pat) and Alan; daughters, Donna (John) Carter and Lynda Ehrlich; seven grandchildren; and five great- grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Burton Goodman died July 23 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Sonja; children, Karen (Eric) Forsberg, Keith (Patti O’Farrell), Kelly and Kenneth; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

David Gordon died July 25 at 88. He is survived by his nephew, Howard Scheckman. Groman

Henry Greenberger died July 21 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Florence; sons, Martin (Terry) and Sam (Christine); daughter, Ellen; three grandchildren; and sisters, Sara Flaum and Shirley Sadofsky. Chevra Kadisha

Evelyn Grossman died July 21 at 90. She is survived by her son, Gary; and three grandchildren. Groman

Rouhollah Issac Hakim died July 22 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Fahimdokht Barkohanai; and daughter, Jilla. Chevra Kadisha

HELENE HERZ died July 22 at 88. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughter, Joanne; three grandchildren; and two great grandchildren. Hillside

Jack Hurwitz died July 25 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Bette; daughter, Leslie (Robert) Bergman; three grandchildren; brother, Harvey (Peaches); sisters, Rhoda Schwarz and Arlyne (Milton) Ray; and several nieces and nephews. Mount Sinai

BERNICE KERT died July 23 at 81. She is survived by her son, Charles; daughters, Kathryn Kert Green and Elizabeth; and eight grandchildren. Hillside

BEN KRINITT died July 21 at 95. He is survived by his son, Phillip; daughter, Barbara (Andrew) Danny; stepsons, Rick, Dennis and Perry; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Kathleen Riback Kwasman died July 22 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; son, Matthew; daughter, Alyssa; mother, Beatrice Riback; brothers, Michael (Elizabeth) and David (Rose) Riback; and sister, Karen (David) Barnes. Mount Sinai

Tillie Lasker died July 23 at 91. She is survived by her son, Martin; daughter, Penny Sax; and four grandchildren. Groman

Sam Maltz died July 26 at 80. He is survived by his nieces, Jodye (Joel Kirshman) and Arnaa (Bill McCarthy) Alcon. Mount Sinai

Ruth Manns died July 21 at 94. She is survived by her nephew, Robert. Groman

Lewis Margulis died July 21 at 96. He is survived by his sons, Marc and Burton; and daughter, Rita Eklof. Malinow and Silverman

Leland Jack Metzger died July 22 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Sondra; sons, Jeffrey (Lisa) and Keith (Lori); daughters, Karen (John) Sheets and Kim (Jim) Gilfellin; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Eleanor Anita Modes died July 22 at 70. She is survived by her sons, Scott and Jeffrey (Saffron); brother, Paul Tayne; and seven grandchildren. Groman

Dorothy Oleesky died July 22 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Norm (Helene), Alan (Brenda), Robert (Carol) and Mark (Jackie); daughter, Barbara (Andre) Llanos; 12 grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ann Olen died July 24 at 96. She is survived by her daughters, Nancie Piccus and Joan Schloss; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Moreno Perez died July 26 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Esther; son, Mark; daughter, Judtih Hawes; and four grandchildren. Groman

Abrahim Rashtian died July 21 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Tiuran; and son, Tom. Chevra Kadisha

Rose Kaplan Romm died July 20 at 92. She is survived by her son, Richard; and daughter, Barbara (Morton) Barancik. Malinow and Silverman

Solomon Julius Saffian died July 21 at 68. He is survived by his son, Mark; and daughter, Lisa. Groman

Janet Semler died July 25 at 73. She is survived by her sons, Daniel Gutman and Gary; daughters, Lisa Larson and Maren; five grandchildren; and brother, Jerry Lushing. Groman

Carole Sindel died July 22 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Howard; son, David (Karen); daughter, Maura; and two grandchildren. Groman

Hyman Sisko died July 25 at 83. He is survived by his sons, Marty (Diane) and Howard (Geraldine); five grandchildren; great- grandson, Ethan; and sister, Anna (Irv) Pollin. Mount Sinai

EDITH MALKOFF SOCOL died July 26 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Albert; daughter, Susan Moon; eight grandchildren; and brothers, Mel (Mary Ann) and Irving Hoffman. Hillside

SIDNEY SOLOMON died July 26 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Alan; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Dulcy Rhea Steinlauf died July 21 at 80. She is survived by her son, Mitchell Lauford. Malinow and Silverman

Samuel Ross Tannenbaum died July 24 at 86. He is survived by his daughters, Jane and Barbara; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Anna Thorn died July 25 at 94. She is survived by her daughters, Sondra Stahler and Susan Appel; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Groman

Jean Weisman died July 22 at 95. She is survived by her nephew, Alan D. Weisman. Malinow and Silverman

Ethel Weintraub died July 20 at 66. She is survived by her husband, Alvin; sons, Ronald and Daniel (Virginia) Friedman; stepdaughters, Linda Firestone, Sondra (Thomas) Ditty and Diane; three grandchildren; and sister, Pearl Spiszman. Mount Sinai

Helen Wisotsky died July 26 at 86. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughters, Michele Perl and Judith Left; eight grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sister, Beverly Miller. Groman

Lulu Yellen died July 20 at 99. He is survived by his grandson, Jerry Jacobson. Groman

Obituaries


Irvin Atkins died July 14 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Ida Mae; and daughter, Marilyn Feiman. Groman

LILLIAN BADEN died July 14 at 90. She is survived by her son, Jerry; grandchild, Dylan; and many relatives. Hillside

Theodore Berg died Aug. 9 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sarah; daughters, Elayne, Sandi and Judy; grandchildren, Beth and Michael; and sister, Esther Gillman. Mount Sinai

ANNE BOVILL died July 13 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Davida; son, Martin (Pirjo); sister, Esther Morris; and many relatives. Hillside

Beryl Caron died July 19 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Helene; son, Daniel (Debra); daughters, Cherie Hickok, Kathy Mandell and Suzie Caron; and five grandchildren. Groman

Rose Cohen died July 18 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Shelley (Mike) Lubinsky and Sandra Gallob; six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren; and brother, Meyer (Margie) Jacobs. Malinow and Silverman

STANLEY COOPER died July 16 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; and daughter, Shelley. Hillside

Bessie Farash died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, Marty (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (Murray) Cohen; three grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Alexander Farkas died July 19 at 75. He is survived by his wife, R. Barbara; son, Steven (Susan); daughters, Marilyn (Scott) Pilcher and Ellen (Gary) Davidson; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

LOIS FRANKEL died July 19 at 75. She is survived by her brothers, Walter and Richard. Hillside

Abraham Froch died July 15 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Lois; daughter, Alieen (Gil) Borok; sons, Michael (Jill) and Larry (Cari); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Karl Gerwer died July 14 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Satoe; and sons, Scott and Eric. Groman

Bess Helen Gold died July 18 at 95. She is survived by her son, Peter. Chevra Kadisha

Sumner Granby died July 18 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Alan and Mark; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Gloria Glauber died July 18 at 77. She is survived by her daughter, Micki (Mark Flint) Hollien; son, Russ (Olivia); five grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren; brother, Sidney (Dolly) Goodman; and sister-in-law, Judy (Lou) Shaltzer. Mount Sinai

Bertha Hellman died July 16 at 96. She is survived by her son, Bryce (Hannah); daughter, Racelle Manes; eight grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Marilyn Bella Horowitz died July 16 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Irving; son, Alan; daughter, Sherry; and four grandchildren.

Michael Bernard Horowitz died July 18 at 59. He is survived by his wife, Diane Ganley; stepson, Tom Ganley; sister, Margie Bonar; and brother, Thomas. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Horowitz died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Judith; one grandchild; two great-grandchildren; sisters, Frances Aoltz, Belle Schneider and Sylvia Hallman; . Groman

ESTHER HOUGH died July 16 at 53. She is survived by her brother, Randal Grant Powers; and sister-in-law, Shendl Diamond. Hillside

TERRY JACKSON died July 17 at 91. She is survived by her son, Michael (Alana); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Fred Kelly died July 12 at 76. He is survived by his son, Robert (Debbie); daughter, Helaine (Andy) Rogers; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Kranz died July 15 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Madelon; son, Bryan; daughter, Tamara (Eran) Bikovsky; one grandchild; and mother, Irene. Malinow and Silverman

CHARLOTTE LAKSBERGER died July 17 at 97. She is survived by her son, George (Robin) Lakes; daughter, Annette (Ron) Massman; six grandchildren; and 13 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Eve Lester died July 19 at 82. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Larry Gay; daughters, Julie Moores and Susan Meyers; eight grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

CAROL MARJORIE LEVIN died July 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Marty; sons, Steve (Pam) and Robert (Julie); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Michael Levine died July 17 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Yehua Zhu-Levine. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Levine died July 12 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Steven (Elizabeth) and Mitchell (Sharon); and by five grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Thelma Jo Lewis died July 19 at 85. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Kay Gertrude Lipton died July 18 at 83. She is survived by her sons, David and Jay; and one grandchild. Groman

SHARON WEISS HARRIS LUSSIER died July 18 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Paul; son, Larry Harris; daughter, Jill Cordova; four grandchildren; and one great grandchild. Hillside

Shirley Manoil died July 17 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Melinda; son, Robert; three grandchildren; and three great grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Vera Miller died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Solomon; son, Stephen (Celia); daughter, Sharon (Brian) Olson-Ahern; and four grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Fahimeh Nathan died July 12 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Manoucher; sons, Ramin and Elly; daughter, Noushin (Morris) Farajola; two grandchildren; sisters, Frough (Sion) Shooshani, Mangeh (Manoucher) Gohre, Gili (Firous) Tabiri and Mino (Mandour); and brother, Iraj (Faraba) Raouf. Mount Sinai

Rhoda Neiman died July 14 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Harold; daughters, Jillana and Paula; brothers, Harry, Mark and Bernard Wisner; and sister, Brandi Wisner. Chevra Kadisha

Joe Orloff died July 13 at 96. He is survived by his wife, Ruetta; daughters, Tami (Robert) Finkbeiner, Penny and Rikki; son, Michael (Karen); seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Klara Sapirshteyn died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, James. Malinow and Silverman

Gertrude Jane Schwab died July 16 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Howard (Michelle) and Richard (Colleen); daughter, Helen; and four grandchildren. Groman

Julius Selinger died July 12 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Elinor; daughter, Anita Anderson; sons, Henry and Gary; six grandchildren; brother, Frank. Malinow and Silverman

Hertzel Shirazi died July 13 at 49. He is survived by his wife, Mitra; brother, Mike; and brother-in-law, Abe Manzour. Chevra Kadisha

Julie Ann Siem died July 19 at 44. She is survived by her daughter, Elisha; son, Jordan; and parents, Donald and Lois Arnstein. Mount Sinai

Dan Silberberg died July 19 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughters, Jennifer and Nicole; brother, Naftali; sisters, Inga Rubin, Ruth Lester and Alice (Leo) Granierer. Mount Sinai

ETHEL SOLOMON died July 17 at 94. She is survived by her friends. Hillside

J. Dorian Sonnenschein died July 17 at 56. He is survived by his brother, Marco; and sister, Miriam (Max) Feit. Malinow and Silverman

Sidney Stonehill died July 14 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Joan; son, Anthony; and daughter, Dena Stonehill Penney. Groman

Theresa Remes Suffin died July 15 at 86. She is survived by her son, Steve (Leah); and daughter, Fay Shinder. Chevra Kadisha

Morton Wolk died July 12 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Rolinda Suttle; granddaughter, Tessa Suttle; and significant other, Annette Naftal. Mount Sinai

Mitchell Wortsman died July 19 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Edith; daughter, Melissa Applebaum; and brother, Abner. Groman

Yahya Jonathan Yasharpour died July 17 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Louise; son, Sami; and daughter Yasamin. Chevra Kadisha

Marcus Gershun Zilber died July 17 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Anna; daughters, Sima Epshteyn and Masha Serebryany; and grandchild, Inna. Chevra Kadisha

A Mother’s Wish for Her Daughter’s Day


Aaaah, to be a Jewish parent 1,000 years ago. Sure you had to worry about anti-Semites trying to exterminate your people, dying from the flu and wild animals eating your children for lunch, but what a breeze to plan your child’s bar mitzvah. No invitations to send, no DJs to hire, no out-of-towners to house. And, best of all, no agonizing over The Speech.

I’m not talking about your child’s discussion of her Torah portion. After all, your Uncle Harry and Aunt Rose from Florida do not expect a 13-year-old to shed new light on a religious text that has been analyzed by theologians for 2,000 years. I’m talking about your speech to your child — where you have 60 seconds to sum up your feelings about a moment that was 13 years in the making. What makes that speech — The Speech — particularly difficult is that the subject is adulthood, but your 21st-century child is light years from becoming an adult.

Things were different 1,000 years ago. People could legitimately be characterized as “children” or “adults” and age 13 was a logical dividing point: marriages would follow a bar mitzvah by a year or two and life expectancy was relatively short. Today, despite our tradition that sets the 13th year as the start of adulthood, 13 is not the end of childhood or the beginning of adulthood. Instead, it is the start of a new stage — teenager. Neither an adult nor child, a teenager is like Dr. Doolittle’s Push-Me, Pull-You: Sometimes he seems to be pushing toward adulthood, and at other times he is pulling back toward childhood.

Because parents are speaking to a new teenager about an adulthood that is still far away, The Speech is difficult to write. A parent in 1005 C.E. had it easy: “Son, mazal tov on your bar mitzvah. May you marry one of your cousins next year, have a dozen children and take good care of our goatherd. Amen.” What we should say in 2005 is not as clear.

I have given The Speech a lot of thought lately. Not because I am faced with writing one in the short term (my daughter’s bat mitzvah is in October 2007), but because several friends are choreographing bar mitzvahs this year. When they are not agonizing over invitations and caterers, they are stressing out over The Speech.

One friend called to lament that her rabbi suggested that she write a speech that spoke to her “hopes and dreams” for her child.

“What should I say?” she implored.

I suggested some sappy boilerplate that would satisfy her rabbi, the congregants and her child. But after I hung up the telephone, I realized that the clichés I suggested, the ones that we routinely recite to our teenagers at their bar and bat mitzvahs, really don’t represent the anxiety over the teenage years that rests deep inside our parenting souls.

Of course, I won’t embarrass my daughter at her bat mitzvah by sharing the stress that I will surely feel as I watch the sun set on her childhood. I will undoubtedly tell her that my hope for her is that she retain the special spark she demonstrated from the moment of her birth through her 13th year. But, just between you and me, here is The Speech I would like to give to my daughter on Oct. 13, 2007.

The Speech

“When a ‘friend’ offers you your first hit of marijuana, I hope you say: ‘No, thank you. I am not mature enough to try a drug. I plan on trying it just once during my senior year in college after it has been screened by a reputable lab not to contain any dangerous substances.’ But if either curiosity or peer pressure overtakes you and you are inclined to say ‘yes,’ I hope that you are at your friend’s house, and her incredibly responsible parents are upstairs watching TV (very quietly), and you start coughing so hard that the parent’s race downstairs to make sure you are OK. (And you are so mortified at being caught that you never experiment with drugs again.)

“I hope that you don’t attend parties in homes where the person responsible for making the mortgage payments and paying the water bill is in Hawaii.

“I hope you learn early on that the angst endemic to the teenager years is temporary and that your life is full of possibility.

“I hope that you never go through that phase where you are embarrassed to be seen with your parents.

“I hope that you always want me to tuck you in.

“I hope that you never get in a car with someone who has been drinking, doing drugs or has had their driver’s license for less than 10 years.

“I hope that you continue to think tongue piercings are gross, smoking is stupid and Britney Spears doesn’t know how to dress.

“I hope that your middle school girlfriends unanimously decide that back-stabbing each other is cruel, and treat each other like actual friends.

“I hope that you don’t have a boyfriend until you are at least 16, and that he doesn’t have anytime to fool around with you because he is too busy studying (because he wants to get into Harvard), practicing the piano and running in marathons to raise money for worthwhile charities. And when you break up after the prom — because you listened to my advice that you should go to college emotionally free to date other people — I hope that it is you who did the breaking up because I don’t want you to suffer the excruciating pain caused when someone you love dumps you.

“I hope that you are always healthy, are the only teenage girl on the planet to love every inch of her body, and count spinach and oranges among your favorite foods.”

“I hope that everyone who meets you throughout your life loves and respects you as much as I do.

“Amen.”

Wendy Jaffe is a freelance writer. She can be reached at wjaffewrite@aol.com