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The Divine Ink of Forever – A Poem for Haftarah Eikev by Rick Lupert
The Divine Ink of Forever – A Poem for Haftarah Eikev by Rick Lupert
Individual choice challenges communal commitments
The principal authority for contemporary American Jews, in the absence of compelling religious norms and communal loyalties, has become the sovereign self. Each person now performs the labor of fashioning his or her own self, pulling together elements from the various Jewish and non-Jewish repertoires available rather than stepping into an \”inescapable framework\” of identity — familial, communal, traditional — given at birth. Decisions about ritual observance and involvement in Jewish institutions are made and made again, considered and reconsidered, year by year, and even week by week. American Jews speak of their lives, and of their Jewish beliefs and commitments, as a journey of ongoing questioning and development. They avoid the language of arrival. There are no final answers, no irrevocable commitments.
Marry first, date later
During a Shabbat dinner, I blurted out the idea that maybe we ought to \”marry first and date later.\” Not literally, of course, but in terms of how we approach both dating and marriage.
Happiness — maybe it’s not ‘out there’
I had been on more than 200 first dates in Los Angeles.
I\’d learned exactly what I was not looking for.
Premarital counseling gets short shrift in Jewish L.A.
Premarital counseling can be a time for honest reflection and sharing, but frequently the lines of communication can get buried under layers of tulle and wedding cake.
Semper Fiber
Too-frequent weigh-ins can sabotage any diet efforts, because a woman\’s weight is a mysterious, jumpy, undependable thing that does not follow any known laws of nature. Over-weighing would lead to stress. Stress would slow down my metabolism, which was already prone to sleeping in late.
Noah Bleich: A Man of Many Hats
An observant Jew, Bleich provides a Jewish rationale for his commitment. While Judaism teaches that each individual is unique and special, it also emphasizes community, he says.
Saying ‘shalom’ to Santa Claus
Occasionally, as I light a candle on the menorah on a dark December night, I think about my former Christmas dishes and the woman who bought them. I imagine that she lovingly sets them on her table, as she prepares her Christmas dinner, and I smile.