January 20, 2019

The Special Misogyny Reserved for Mothers

“I’m one of the lucky ones in radio. Nobody called my voice whiny (at least not that I heard). Nobody accused me of uptalk or vocal fry — all the insults people tend to hurl at women in broadcasting. No editor told me my ideas were unrelatable. Sure, I had pieces killed, but my editors always explained the reason, and the reason made sense to me.

If you’d asked me back then if I was a feminist, I might’ve shrugged and said, “I don’t know.” To be honest, I thought the word was a bit of an insult.

In 2010, my luck changed. That’s the year I became a mother.

My daughter arrived healthy, but I was injured so severely that I was unable to walk for two months. I spent eight solid weeks on an air mattress because I couldn’t handle the stairs to the bedroom. Here I was with a baby — one I’d wanted very much — but I felt completely unable to care for her. The worst part was, I barely had anybody to talk to about it. Most of my friends hadn’t had babies yet and I didn’t want to scare them.

This is, in part, what led me to start working on a podcast about parenting called “The Longest Shortest Time.” I’ve been making it for eight years now.”

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