January 20, 2019

The "Sex Recession" Is Actually a Connection Recession

“There’s an important cover story with a terrible title in the upcoming edition of the Atlantic. In ” Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?” senior Atlantic editor Kate Julian explores the reasons why twenty- and thirty-somethings (aka millennials) aren’t having sex the way their 1960s parents did, a phenomenon that’s deemed particularly perplexing considering how sexually liberal our culture has become.

Despite the large number of people who believe sex between unmarried adults isn’t wrong, despite the fact that birth control can be obtained for free and the morning-after pill is readily available, “teenagers and young adults are having less sex,” writes Julian.

In her interviews with experts, as well as with the demographic in question, Julian explores the reasons why young people are having less sex and identifies a number of factors, including the rise of technology and widespread porn use.

Unfortunately, she spent far fewer paragraphs on the real issue: The modern generation was specifically taught to give up on love and to focus on themselves and their careers instead.

It’s not like this is a secret. The evidence is all around. Moreover, Julian’s subjects told her as much. “There’s immense pressure,” one man said, from parents and other authority figures “to focus on the self at the expense of relationships” — pressure, Julian concedes, other 20-somethings assured her extends through college. “You’re supposed to have so much before you can get into a relationship,” another woman told her.”

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