May 23, 2019

How to Help Your Friends, the New Parents

“You forget that they have no neck muscles, that they can’t see beyond a couple of feet, that someone who is now the size of a summer squash may one day pivot and stuff a basketball over your head. You’ve already forgotten the sleepless nights that you had, the marital strife, your uneasy acquaintance with baby poop.

You wanted grandkids. Now you’ve got identical twins — boys, born small and early and needy, but healthy enough when they’re finally released from the preemie ward that you start asking the questions you should have asked earlier.

Like: Why is the United States the only developed nation in the world without mandated paid leave for new parents?

Like: Why is child care so expensive in this country? The fertility rate has fallen to the lowest level since the United States began tracking births more than a century ago. One big reason is the enormous financial burden placed on working parents.”

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