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December 9, 2022

The Angel – Comments on Torah Portion Va-Yishlach

 

The Angel – Comments on Torah Portion Va-Yishlach

 

In our Torah portion, Va-Yishlach, we have one of the most dramatic and vivid scenes in the Bible – Jacob wrestling with an angel. Except, in our Torah portion, it is never written that Jacob wrestled with an angel. The image that Jacob wrestled with an angel comes from Hosea 12:5, not the narrative contained in Genesis 32. Here is what it says in Hosea:

 

“He struggled with an angel and (Jacob) prevailed over him; he (the angel) cried and implored of him (Jacob). He (Jacob) found him (the Angel) at Beit El, and he (Jacob) spoke with him (the Angel) there.”

 

It is clear that Hosea knew of the story in Genesis.

 

What does it say in our Torah portion about Jacob in the wrestling match?

 

First, the set up. Jacob has been gone from Canaan for 20 years. He left Canaan in fear, after tricking his father Isaac in order to appropriate the birthright from his brother Esau. After being cheated out of the birthright blessing, Esau announced his intention to kill Jacob once Isaac passed away.

 

Jacob was stuck. None of this was his idea. It was Jacob’s mother, Rebecca, who had instigated this plan. She did so at the behest of God. Certainly, Jacob had the blessing of his mother. Eventually, Jacob received the birthright blessing from his father, Isaac. Affirming Rebecca’s plan, God blessed Jacob in the dream of the ladder connecting heaven and earth. The blessings of Rebecca, Isaac, and God aside, Jacob fears that Esau still resents him and will fulfill his intention to kill him on sight, announced 20 years earlier. Resentment sometimes only deepens with time.

 

Those 20 years pass and Jacob returns to Canaan. He arrives at the border of Canaan ready for a fight but hoping for a truce. He ferries his family across the river Yabok, but suddenly finds himself alone. The story picks up here – it is worth citing fully:

 

Jacob was left, alone. An “ish” (unidentified person) wrestled with him until the dawn arose. And he saw that he could not overcome him, and he struck the socket of his thigh, and the socket of Jacob’s thigh was strained from his wrestling with him. And he said, “Let me go, for dawn has broken!” And he said, “I won’t let you go unless you bless me.”

And he said, “What is your name?” He replied, “Jacob.” And he said, “Jacob will no longer be your name, but rather Yis’ra’el, “ki sarita im Elohim ve’im anashim, va-tuchal” – “for you have striven with beings divine and mortal, and you have prevailed.”

And Jacob asked, saying, “Please, tell me your name!”  And he said, “Why would you ask for my name? And he blessed him there.”

And Jacob called the name of that place, “Peni-el” (The Face of God), for I have seen God face to face, and my soul has been saved. And the sun rose upon him as he passed Penu-el, and he was limping on his hip.

Who was the “ish,” “a man,” the unidentified person? In my reading of this text, the person with whom Jacob wrestled with was his brother Esau, not an angel. Why would Esau attack him in the middle of the night, wrestle with Jacob, lose the match, and then bless Jacob with a new name?

 

In my mind, Esau knew that Jacob had the blessing of his mother, his father, and of God, but not of his brother, whom Jacob had wronged. Jacob had gained the blessing of the birthright through trickery. Esau now gives Jacob the gift of fighting for the blessing, fair and square, hand to hand combat. No masking, no trickery. Straight up. “You want this blessing – you’ll have to fight for it.” Esau gives Jacob a chance to redeem himself.

 

Jacob prevails over Esau, and Esau changes Jacob’s name. Esau says that Jacob is no longer the Usurper (the meaning of the name Jacob). Esau grants his brother the name Yis’ra’el – “the one who struggles with beings divine and mortal” and who prevails.

 

Only Esau could change Jacob’s name. In doing so, Esau helps Jacob escape his stained identity, his shame wound. Esau facilitates Jacob’s birth into a new being. Esau blesses Jacob with the blessing that Jacob needed most, and only Esau could grant that blessing. In changing Jacob’s name, Esau is also saying that Jacob has changed his nature. Jacob’s nature was no longer the trickster, he was now The God-wrestler.

 

Only Esau could grant that moment, that moment of external validation of an inner change. A conversion experience, if you will. Not to a new religion, but the birth of a new self. At that moment, Jacob saw God face to face, the God who is present at a moment of radical transformation. God’s presence was channeled through the gracious, forgiving, and wise actions of Esau.

 

“What is your name?” Jacob asked, just as Jacob’s father Isaac had wondered who it was that was seeking his blessing, 20 years earlier. Perhaps, Jacob thought, his opponent was hiding his identity, just as Jacob had done to his father. Was Jacob again receiving a blessing in a moment of masking?

 

Esau says, “Why would you ask my name?” He is really Esau – the brother whom he had wronged, and who has now forgiven him.

 

Who was Esau? Esau was the brother rejected by God, as Cain had been rejected by God. In rage, Cain killed his brother Abel, proclaiming he was not the guardian of his brother. Esau, however, does not kill his brother, the one favored by God, in essence saying, “I am, indeed, my brother’s keeper.” Esau, however, goes much further than overcoming his anger and not killing his brother.

 

Esau re-entered Jacob’s life at a turning point. In my reading of this text, Jacob had been fearing this moment for 20 years. Jacob had been having nightmares about this confrontation the whole time. Jacob is wracked by guilt and shame. Yes, his mother, father, and God had approved of Jacob’s getting the birthright through trickery, but Jacob bore the moral burden. Only Esau could lift it.

 

Esau lifted that burden. The wrestling between the brothers that began in the womb has finally ceased. Jacob was no longer grasping at his brother’s heel. Jacob has prevailed – over the God who had Jacob become a usurper and a cheat, and over his brother, fair and square. Jacob has been redeemed. “I’ve seen God face to face, and my soul has been saved.” Esau, in a moment into which the divine presence has been evoked, has saved Jacob’s soul. (In my reading, Esau threw the fight, once Jacob had proven that he was willing to fight for the blessing.)

 

I see I have made a mistake. I now believe that Esau, the singular agent of another’s redemption, actually was an angel, a human being on a mission from God.

 

In my reading, Esau’s identity had also changed. He was no longer the hunter. Esau was now the man of the tents, studying God’s way.

 

Each of us is Jacob, yearning for transformation. Each of can be Esau, leading a person to a moment of transformation. Each of us can be Rebecca, guiding another person toward overcoming anger, resentment, and grudges, and allow new life to be born.

 

As I have said many times, his teacher, the agent of his transformation, was Rebecca, now a professor at the Beit Midrash of Shem and Eber (specializing in Leviticus 19:17-18). And as I have said many times, the teaching that transformed Esau is recorded in the yet to be written Midrash of Rebecca, which I hope to write, if an angel gives me the blessing to do so.

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The Jewish Journal Hanukkah Gift Guide 2022

Hanukkah is the time of year when you can show your family and friends your love and appreciation with gifts. No matter whom you’re shopping for this year, you’re sure to find the perfect gift for them here. Check out these products for Hanukkah 2022. 

Manischewitz Crypto Gelt

Yes, this is real: Manischewitz is selling Crypto Gelt AKA “Hanukkah Coins for the New Ages.” Crypto isn’t actually physical, but Crypto Gelt is – and it’s delicious! In fact, with the way crypto has been going lately, these coins may just become more valuable than Bitcoin. 

Find Crypto Gelt at your local kosher market. 

Book: “Your Goal Guide: A Roadmap for Setting, Planning and Achieving Your Goals”

Did you know that the Journal’s own Debra Eckerling wrote a book that’ll be sure to get you motivated? You can start off 2023 accomplishing your goals using the D*E*B METHOD®, the author’s system for goal setting simplified. DEB stands for “Determine Your Mission, Explore Your Options and Brainstorm Your Path.” Do yourself a favor and get Deb’s book ASAP. 

Order the book on Amazon. 

Dog Harnesses

Do you have a special doggy best friend at home? Then get him a Mina + Pup dog harness this Hanukkah. Featuring cute and colorful designs, these harnesses come with matching accessories like leashes, bandanas and collars.

Natalie Kahn, a 15-year-old from Calabasas, created her brand in honor of her uncle Michael, who passed away at 34 years of age in 2020. “He was my biggest fan and supporter and a huge animal lover. In fact, the name of my company, Mina, is a combination of his name, [MI]chael, and mine, [NA]talie,” she said. “My designs are original, vibrant and fun. I am most proud of the way my pet accessories make people and their fur babies feel.”

You can purchase the harnesses and accessories on MinaandPup.com. Enter code Journal15 at checkout and you’ll save 15% on your purchase.

Handpoured Soy Candles

Another enterprising teen is Lielle Abrahami, a local 13-year-old who started making candles when her school shut down for COVID. “She always enjoyed snuggling up next to a cozy candle and a good book for hours on end,” said Nicole Abrahami, Lielle’s mother. “It wasn’t long that she decided to turn her passion and hobby into a small business.”

Lielle created Lula Candle Co., and she sells eco-friendly soy candles in scents like fresh linen, mint chocolate chip, coffee and cream or vanilla lavender. Light your candle, sit back, relax and enjoy your delicious-smelling Hanukkah. 

Find Lula Candle Co. on Instagram. 

Hamsa Prints and Accessories

Ward off the evil eye with local artist Tammy Machmali’s gorgeous handmade hamsa prints and accessories. You can find hamsas in a variety of colors and on different gifts including folded note cards, jewelry boxes and ceramic ornaments. Add some beauty to your home and bring positivity into it at the same time. 

Shop on TammyMachmali.com. 

Euro Cuisine’s Crepe Maker

OK, so we know that crepes aren’t traditionally a Hanukkah food, but they’re just so delicious! Get the Euro Cuisine Crepe Maker and add lots of oil to your crepes to celebrate the Festival of Lights. Along with crepes, you can prepare delicious blintzes, omelets and pancakes in just minutes. This handy little machine comes with a three-piece accessory kit, which includes a batter spreader, crepe turner and ladle.

Purchase on EuroCuisine.net or Amazon. 

Deuteronomy Press Monograph and Art Prints

Deuteronomy Press, an independent publisher of Jewish books, has created “An Introduction to Sabbath Agriculture,” a monograph that serves as an ode to this Shmita (Shabbat Ha’Aretz) year and to the Shabbat cycles ahead. The publisher also sells stunning art prints that feature Jewish themes like the Giving of the Torah on Har Sinai and the binding of Isaac.

Purchase on Deuteronomy.com. 

Serum Doctor Foot Serum

Are you always shelling out money for pedicures? Do you have dry or cracked skin on your feet? Then try the Serum Doctor Foot Serum, a natural, botanically derived serum that swiftly absorbs to hydrate dry and cracked skin.

“There is nothing like it on the market,” said Dr. Jasmine Yadegari, who co-created the product with her cousin Candice Beroukhim. “Every foot treatment is messy and laborious. Our serum absorbs deep within the skin’s layers to hydrate and exfoliate and dries quickly without any messy residue.”

She continued, “It’s like a pedicure in a bottle.” 

Purchase on SerumDoctor.com. 

MiriamsKiln Pottery

Check out the gorgeous wheel thrown pottery on MiriamsKiln, created by local artist Miriam Loory Krombach. Pick from ceramic vases to decorative bowls, utensil crocks, coffee cups and much more. An added bonus? Krombach’s kilns are solar-powered and eco-friendly. 

Purchase on Etsy.com/shop/MiriamsKiln. 

Jeff’s Gourmet House Sauces

Get a bottle (or four) of Jeff’s Gourmet delicious kosher house sauces to add to your burgers, dress your salads or marinade your favorite meat (from Jeff’s of course). The pack of four sauces, usually sold individually for $7.99 each, will have a special price of $26 for the bunch through the end of December. Here’s a note from Jeff’s: “We receive daily feedback from customers that someone in their family can’t live without our house sauces. Now they don’t have to! In their honor, we’ve created this special gift pack available through December only. We also offer gift cards year-round in the store and on our website! Happy Hanukkah!”

Purchase at Jeff’s Gourmet Sausage Factory, 8930 W Pico Blvd.

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Adventurer’s Prayer

Holy Bountiful One, 

You give us life as a gift, to safeguard and to relish.

If we only guard, we will never truly taste.

If we rashly live, we will create injury and chaos in our wake,
harming ourselves and those we love. 

Gift us with the wisdom, as we sail life’s seas,
to tack between these two touchpoints,
as the only way to advance:

To cherish and guard life, but not too much.
To live with passion, but not recklessly.

As we catch the wind and ride the waves,
help us hold just enough passion, just enough foresight
to live long
and to live well.

AMEN.


Rabbi Dr. Bradley Shavit Artson (www.bradartson.com), a Contributing Writer for the Jewish Journal of Greater Los Angeles, holds the Abner and Roslyn Goldstine Dean’s Chair of the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies and is Vice President of American Jewish University in Los Angeles. He is also dean of the Zacharias Frankel College in Potsdam, Germany, ordaining Conservative rabbis for Europe. 

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Creative Hanukkah Treats to Celebrate the Holiday

Hanukkah is just around the corner. A good way to get kids excited about the holiday is with some fun food projects.

Jennifer Cohen, founder of Our Happy Tribe Jewish Family Blog, loves to celebrate Hanukkah by creating happy memories with her family.

“When my girls were little, we had a tradition of having a special activity for each night of Hanukkah, ” Cohen told the Journal.  

The night they most looked forward to was donut night. In years past, they made traditional sufganiyot (jelly filled donuts). When Cohen was gifted with a donut baking pan, that became the inspiration of a new way to celebrate Hanukkah: a donut decorating party.

“This is such a fun way to celebrate for grownups and children alike,” Cohen said. “To have your own party, you’ll need donuts. Lots of donuts.”

Cohen likes to use cake mix with her donut baking pan. Each box makes about 24 donuts that need 12 minutes of baking in the oven. 

Bake the donuts ahead of time. Then, at the party, your guests can decorate the donuts with delicious toppings and homemade vanilla, chocolate and Hanukkah blue icing.

Note: You can always “practice” with your kids, leading up to the holiday.

“Icings are so easy to make, and extra sweet when you have littles helping you stir all the ingredients together,” she said.

DIY Donut Decorating Party: Icing Recipes

Mix together:
1 cup powdered sugar
3 Tbsp heavy cream
1 tsp pure vanilla extract

Homemade Chocolate Icing

Mix together:
3/4 cup powdered sugar
2 Tbsp cocoa powder
4 Tbsp warm heavy cream (It needs to be warm to give the chocolate glaze a beautiful shiny gloss)

Homemade Hanukkah Blue Icing

Stir some of the vanilla icing and blue natural food coloring until combined.


“Hanukkah celebrations wouldn’t be complete without dreidels,” Cohen said. “One of our favorite ways to celebrate is with a dreidel food craft.”

Cohen’s daughters named these treats “dreidel kisses,” because they’re made with a (chocolate) kiss.

“No matter how old my girls get, I love making these each year,” Cohen said. “They’re the very first “baking” activity we ever did together to celebrate Hanukkah.”

Photo by Jennifer Cohen

DIY Edible Dreidels (or Dreidel Kisses)

Ingredients:
Pretzel sticks
Marshmallows
Frosting (see recipes above)
Chocolate Kisses (unwrapped)
Sprinkles (optional)

  • First, poke the top of the marshmallow with the pretzel stick.
  • Then, place a little bit of frosting (glue) on the bottom of the marshmallow.
  • Next, attach your unwrapped chocolate kiss to the frosted bottom of the marshmallow.
  • Finally, for extra fun and sweetness, add some sprinkles by covering the sides of your
  • marshmallow in frosting and gently rolling it in a shallow bowl of sprinkles.

For more fun ways for families to celebrate Hanukkah, visit OurHappyTribe.net.

“I wish you a very happy Hanukkah filled with light, love, donuts and dreidel kisses,” Cohen said.


Hanukkah tends to be a time of sugar overload!

“With all the abundance of candy, donuts and general party food, it can be a challenge to make sure our kids are having fun and eating well.” – Yael Friedman

“With all the abundance of candy, donuts and general party food, it can be a challenge to make sure our kids are having fun and eating well,” culinary and nutrition educator Yael Friedman, founder of Kitch’N Giggles meal kits, told the Journal.

Friedman’s solution: an Edible Menorah.

“The menorahs we light at home have eightcandles for the nights of the holiday,” Friedman said. “This one has seven, like the menorah in the temple, because it’s easier to fit on a cucumber.”

Photo courtesy @kitch’n giggles

Edible Menorah

Ingredients:
1 large cucumber, peeled and sliced in
half lengthwise
1 banana, sliced into 1/4 in pieces
1 mango, cubed
15 blueberries
1 clementine, peeled and sectioned.
4 lollipop sticks (I recommend these because they won’t poke little fingers.)
Note: You can always substitute any other fruits or vegetables that you already have. Things that are soft like: grapes, melon or cherry tomatoes.

  1. Instructions:
  2. Lay the cucumber with the flat side facing down.
  3. Cut three of the lollipop sticks in half. These will be your candles. The other stick will be your shamash.
  4. Arrange the fruit however you like on the sticks. Make sure to leave about 1/2 in on the bottom and another on the top.
  5. Use a toothpick to poke seven holes in the cucumber. Then place one candle in each hole.
  6. Finally, poke a hole in the bottom of each clementine section and attach it as the flame to each candle.

“I love doing this edible menorah activity,” Friedman said. ”Not only does it get into the holiday spirit, but it’s also a nice break from all the sugar.”
Happy Hanukkah!

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Jewish Women’s Repertory Fundraiser, Israel Phil Gala, Israel Fest Sponsor Kickoff

The Jewish Women’s Repertory Company (JWRC) celebrated its founder Margy Horowitz and raised funds for JFS Hope with two nights of 21 musical theater songs. 

With over 200 women present in person at a private residence in Beverly Hills and a video link for at home viewing, JWRC raised over $15,000.  

Auditions for the next JWRC production will be held Dec. 12 and 13.

Founded in 2005 by Horowitz and Linda Freedman, JWRC offers Jewish women the opportunity to sing, dance and act before all-female audiences. A portion of the proceeds from JWRC productions benefit JFS Hope, a program of Jewish Family Service Los Angeles offering assistance and crisis services to support domestic violence survivors. 

Past JWRC productions have included “Annie Get Your Gun,” “Les Misérables,” “Into the Woods,” “Fiddler on the Roof” and “Beauty and the Beast.”

“Our goal is to have fun performing,” JWRC leadership says, “while raising money for worthwhile charities.”


From left: Soraya Nazarian, Ada and Jim Horwich and Shula Nazarian attend the Israel Philharmonic’s festive Los Angeles gala luncheon.
Photo by Luque Photography

American Friends of the Israel Philharmonic (AFIPO) recently convened a Los Angeles gala raising support and awareness for the Israel Philharmonic. 

The Nov. 4 pre-concert gala luncheon at the Los Angeles home of Soraya Nazarian was held before the Israel Philharmonic’s well-received Saturday night performance at the Soraya. 

From left: AFIPO board member and past President Helgard Field and AFIPO CEO Danielle Ames Spivak are among the attendees of the celebratory gathering.
Photo by Luque Photography

Attendees included Richard Ziman; Ada and James Horwich; Shula Nazarian; AFIPO Board President James Ackerman; AFIPO CEO Danielle Ames Spivak; Israel Philharmonic Music Director Lahav Shani; Consul General of Israel in Los Angeles Hillel Newman; and Helgard and Irwin Field. 

Helgard Field received the Lifetime Achievement Award for her ongoing leadership and philanthropy in support of the Israel Philharmonic, a leading orchestra in Israel globally recognized as a world-class ensemble.


From left: Israel Film Festival (IFF) Founder/Executive Director Meir Fenigstein; honoree Hanna Rubinstein; and Writer/Director Moshe Rosenthal attend the glitzy IFF Sponsor Kickoff in Beverly Hills.
Photo by Orly Halevy

The 36th Israel Film Festival (IFF) in Los Angeles saluted the Steve Tisch School of Film and Television at Tel Aviv University with the IFF Visionary Award and philanthropist Hanna Rubinstein with the IFF Humanitarian Award during its Sponsor Kick-Off.

The Nov. 30 event at the Writers Guild Theater was immediately followed by the Los Angeles premiere of the award-winning Israeli film, “Karaoke.” 

“Karaoke” director-writer Moshe Rosenthal took part in a post-screening Q&A about the film, a comedy about a married middle-class suburban couple in their 60s who are drawn to their new neighbor, a charismatic bachelor who has karaoke evenings at his apartment. 

“The Israel Film Festival was thrilled to recognize the artistic contributions that the Steve Tisch School of Film and Television at Tel Aviv University and its graduates have made for 50 years to establish Israeli cinema and television at the forefront of entertainment around the world,” IFF Founder Meir Fenigstein said.  “Our Festival sponsors and benefactors, including our distinguished honoree Hanna Rubinstein, deserve extra special recognition for their continued financial support and donations to bring the outstanding world of Israeli movies and TV shows to Los Angeles audiences.”

IFF is the largest showcase of Israeli cinema and television in North America. Its 36th annual festival will be held in Los Angeles from Nov. 8-19, 2023.

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Molly Resnick: From Celebrity Journalist to Chabad Influencer

When Molly Resnick was in her 30’s, she was quite successful in her field, journalism. As a producer for NBC News, she had interviewed the likes of Henry Kissinger, Menachem Begin, Mikhail Baryshnikov and Sean Connery. Born in Bulgaria and raised in Israel, she grew up in a secular family and came to America with dreams of making it big.

“In 1972, I left the land of milk and honey to go to the land of gold and money.” 

“In 1972, I left the land of milk and honey to go to the land of gold and money,” she said. 

Resnick worked her way up from PBS to NBC. She was living her dream, but soon, something was about to change.  

Right after “Saturday Night Fever” came out, she was set to interview the star of the movie, John Travolta. She wrote in her introduction to her interview that while Travolta was a fabulous dancer, not all of the critics thought he was a great actor. Travolta’s agent objected to the introduction and said that she couldn’t say that. She told him if he didn’t like it, they were welcome to leave. And they did.

“As they were leaving, I asked Travolta, ‘Don’t you have anything to say on the matter?’” she said. “He shrugged and didn’t say anything. That was the moment everything burst for me. He was this megastar and he couldn’t decide the fate of his own interview. I thought, ‘My goodness, who are we interviewing? There must be more to life than this.’”

Resnick took a leave of absence and traveled to Panama, Peru and Rio de Janeiro. In Rio, she met a Chabad-Lubavitch family that showed her how to light candles to bring in Shabbat.

“I met the daughter of the rabbi at candle lighting,” she said. “She impressed me tremendously. She was 10 years younger than me but so knowledgeable and intelligent and impressive. I couldn’t get enough of her.”

Suddenly, Resnick found herself questioning her existence and beliefs. She carried a copy of the U.S. Constitution in her pocket, but she said she didn’t know anything about her own constitution, the Torah. 

“I was totally ignorant when it came to Judaism,” she said. 

Resnick slowly learned more about Judaism through the Chabad-Lubavitch movement. She also met her husband, Dr. Lawrence Resnick, through Chabad; he happened to be the Rebbe’s doctor. 

Because of the close connection her husband had with the Rebbe, Resnick got to meet the Rebbe and have a personal meeting with him. 

“I was so used to meeting famous people, but when I met him, it was like nothing I’d ever experienced before,” she said. “It was really remarkable.”

As Resnick became more observant, got married and had children, she started to spend less and less time at work. In 1986, she left media altogether and founded an organization called Mothers Against Teaching Children to Kill and Hate (MATCKH) after a wave of Palestinian-Arab terrorism in the 1990s. She also started speaking about her story and Jewish topics such as marriage and modesty to Jewish communities around the world.

“Learning about different things in the Torah really opened my eyes,” she said. “I literally fell in love with it. Even when I was kicking and screaming about things that seemed not to make sense, I said, ‘This is Godly and superhuman and true.’”

Resnick, who lost her husband in 2004 after 25 years of marriage, has three children: two sons and a daughter. Two of them are now Chabad shluchim (emissaries). Her son has nine children and her daughter has seven children, respectively.

“They are following the Lubavitch way,” she said. 

While life didn’t turn out how Resnick thought it would when she was younger, she’s grateful that she found Judaism, became observant and is able to share meaningful Jewish teachings with the world.

“When I learned about Judaism, there was a total turnaround in my worldview,” she said. “The minute you start learning it, you’ll find that it’s just so brilliant and inspiring.”

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The Courage of Ordinary People

For centuries, antisemites have libeled the Jews as cowards. During World War I, rumors circulated among the German public that the Jews had refused to fight on the front lines. In October 1916, the German Military High Command announced a judenzählung, a Jewish count, to examine these charges. (When it turned out that a remarkably high percentage of Jews had volunteered for combat duty, the report was shelved.) Jews went to great lengths to disprove the image of cowardice. Peter Gay, in “The Cultivation of Hatred,” writes about the duels popular among German university students in the late 19th century. The goal of the duel was to get injured, and the schmisse, the wound received while fighting, was considered to be a permanent record of one’s courage and honor. Gay explains that Jewish students, eager to disprove the antisemitic libel that they were cowards, were four times as likely as others to engage in these duels.

Jews have a complicated relationship with courage, and Jewish jokes often adopt the stereotype of the “cowardly Jew” as well. One joke tells of two Jews who are walking at night and come across two thugs in the street. One says to the other: “We’d better make a run for it. There are two of them, and we are alone.”

Another joke is told about Sid Luckman, the famed Jewish quarterback who played for the Chicago Bears. One day, Luckman invited his father to a game; his father, an immigrant who was ignorant of the rules of football, watched the game nervously. On one play, Luckman went back to pass, and the defensive line began to give chase. Luckman’s father jumped up and shouted: “Sid! It’s not worth it! Just give them the ball!”

This joke is particularly interesting. While it finds humor in the immigrant father’s cluelessness, it contains a cynical edge, an unwillingness to embrace popular attitudes toward courage. Does it really make sense that a person would be willing to get crushed by a pack of hulking giants rather than hand them a small piece of pigskin? Does it really make sense to have your face sliced up in a duel, just to prove how brave you are?

The unusual perspective Jews have on courage begins in this week’s Torah reading. In a single night, Jacob is transformed—or so it seems. On the way to visit his brother Esau, an angel attacks and wrestles with him; Jacob eventually defeats his supernatural foe. As the morning arrives, the angel tells him, “Your name will no longer be Jacob, but Israel, because you have struggled with God and with humans and have overcome.”

This new name declares that Jacob is a new man, a courageous hero rather than a crafty coward. Jacob had always lived in the shadows, afraid of confrontation. He is born grasping at Esau’s heel; he is even named for the heel, which is a constant reminder that he came second. Now he is powerful, confronting his attacker and fighting him off. Afterward, like a cinematic hero, Jacob limps away into the sunrise, soldiering on to his next engagement. He is Jacob no more.

Several commentaries highlight this transformation. Seforno explains that the gid hanasheh,  (the sciatic nerve), which is where Jacob was injured, is forbidden as a gesture of indifference. The injury meant nothing to Jacob, who just shrugged it off and moved on. We symbolically recreate this moment of resilience by ignoring the sciatic nerve and refusing to eat it. The Sefat Emet and Shem Mishmuel interpret the name Israel (Yisrael) as an anagram for “I am the head” (li rosh). Jacob, who until now has a name that declares he is at the very bottom, at the heel, is now Israel, at the very head of humanity.

But what remains a puzzle is this: If Jacob is now a new man, a man of courage, why does he appear so timid and weak in the confrontations that follow? The next morning, when Jacob sees Esau, he is obedient and flattering, constantly calling his brother “my master.” Later, when it comes time to confront Shechem over the rape and capture of his daughter Dinah, Jacob does nothing. When his sons destroy the city of Shechem, Jacob objects by saying: “You have … made me obnoxious among the inhabitants of the land … and since I am few in number, they will gather themselves together against me and kill me. I shall be destroyed, my household and I.” Not only does Jacob not join the battle, but he also objects to his sons’ attack, seeing it as too dangerous. Jacob seems no more courageous after the wrestling match than he did before; he does not sound like an “Israel,” a proud warrior, at all.

In part, this question is the product of a myth, that of the classical hero. Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik points out in his essay “Catharsis” that the classical view of heroism sees courage as an end in itself. He explains that “the hero … was a grandiose figure with whom, in order to satisfy his endless vanity, classical man identified himself … The hero is an actor who performs in order to impress an appreciative audience. The crowd cheers, the chronicler records, countless generations afterward admire, bards and minstrels sing of the hero.” Courage is a display, a public exhibition of one’s power and strength. Public adulation makes the hero’s actions worthwhile.

Soloveitchik explains that Judaism holds a very different perspective on courage. A true hero will at times withdraw and step away from victory. As the Mishnah in Pirkei Avot teaches, “Who is strong? One who overpowers his inclinations.” Heroism demands self-discipline and self-defeat as well; and at times, heroism is actually humbling.

That is why after overpowering the angel, Jacob doesn’t glory in his newly discovered courage. Instead, he does everything to reconcile with his brother. Yes, Jacob may be groveling, but it was necessary to do so, in order to repair his relationship with Esau. Jacob castigates his sons for their recklessness, and will later criticize them for their bloodthirstiness in their battle with Shechem. Heroism in the pursuit of honor is worthless if it is irrational and immoral. Judaism rejects courage as an end in itself; what matters is not glory, but goodness.

Heroism in the pursuit of honor is worthless if it is irrational and immoral. Judaism rejects courage as an end in itself; what matters is not glory, but goodness.

Another aspect of the myth of the courageous hero is that heroism is a special endowment, the preserve of an extraordinary elite who are preternaturally fearless. Judaism rejects this, and asserts even ordinary people can become heroes. Courage is born when an ordinary person, fearful and trembling, steps forward to ensure their destiny.

This is precisely what happens with Jacob. He wakes up in the middle of the night and moves all he has across a river; it is then that the angel comes and wrestles with him. But why did God send an angel to wrestle with Jacob? The Rashbam offers a fascinating explanation. He says that Jacob had decided to flee; he didn’t want to confront his brother Esau, who was arriving with 400 men, and seemingly quite angry at him. As Jacob flees, God sends an angel to stop him, and the angel wrestles with Jacob simply to ensure that Jacob doesn’t run away.

It is only after the wrestling match begins that Jacob gathers the inner strength to fight. Yet that belated bravery is enough to make him worthy of a new name, Israel.

The lesson is that you don’t need to be fearless to be a hero. What is important is to rise to the occasion when the situation demands it. Jacob teaches us about the courage of the ordinary man, of the lengths to which good people will go to ensure that goodness continues. Perhaps no one will make a movie about these small acts of courage, but it is precisely this type of courage that has allowed the Jews to survive and thrive.

My mother, who was a survivor of Auschwitz, would often point out to me that she never imagined she would find the strength to grapple with the horrors of the Nazi killing machine. She had grown up spoiled and sheltered; nothing about her or her upbringing would have predicted that she would respond courageously. Yet somehow she found the fortitude to continue onward.

At the end of the war, my mother and her two sisters were forced onto a death march. Halfway through the march, her younger sister was starting to collapse, and it was clear that she wouldn’t survive. So when the guards turned their backs, the three sisters escaped, racing away from the German soldiers and their attack dogs.

When I tell my children my mother’s story I always emphasize this point: My mother never imagined she would be courageous. But when the time came, she rose to the occasion.

This is precisely the Jewish legacy of courage: a history of ordinary people doing what they must to pursue their destiny.


Rabbi Chaim Steinmetz is the Senior Rabbi of Congregation Kehilath Jeshurun in New York.

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