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November 17, 2021

Pico Kosher Restaurant Burglarized

The kosher restaurant Holy Grill in the Pico-Robertson area was burglarized on November 15.

According to the Los Angeles Police Department, the suspect, a Black male in his 30s, took a bag and some other items––including cash––after entering through the rear entrance. Ella Nahmias, whose husband is the owner of Holy Grill, told the Journal that the stolen goods were estimated to be $30,000 in losses for the restaurant and included laptops, IDs and passports. She also said that the suspect allegedly attempted to burglarize the next-door bagel shop before targeting Holy Grill.

“I’m still trying to pull myself together,” Nahmias said, calling the scene a “little intense.”

The burglary is believed to be random.

The investigation is ongoing.

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UK Labour Party Leader Says “Party Does Not and Will Not Support BDS”

UK Labour Party Leader Keir Starmer said in a November 16 speech that the party does not support the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement and will work to “root out anti-Zionist antisemitism.”

Speaking at a Labour Friends of Israel (LFI) conference, Starmer acknowledged that “antisemitism is a stain on our party”––referencing the party’s antisemitism controversy under Jeremy Corbyn’s leadership––and touted the fact that the party has adopted a new “independent complaint process” and has barred groups that “deny or excuse antisemitism.” “I am confident that this shameful chapter in our party’s history is coming to a close,” he said.

Starmer also pointed out that the Labour Party supported the establishment of a Jewish state even before the Balfour Declaration in 1917. “Anti-Zionist antisemitism is the antithesis of the Labour tradition,” he said. “It denies the Jewish people alone a right to self-determination, it equates Zionism with racism, focuses obsessively on the world’s sole Jewish state, and holds it to standards to which no other country is subjected, and it seeks to paint the actions of Israel as akin to the crimes of those who sought to annihilate European Jewry in the Shoah.”

Starmer vowed that the party will be “clear-sighted” about the “violence and terrorism” perpetuated by Hamas and Hezbollah (Corbyn once referred to the terror groups as “friends”) and that “the Labour party does not and will not support BDS.” “Its principles are wrong – targeting alone the world’s sole Jewish state. We fully oppose and condemn illegal settlements, annexation and the eviction of Palestinians in the Occupied Palestinian territories. We believe that international law should be adhered to. But a policy of BDS would be counterproductive.” He argued that supporting the BDS movement “would cause huge damage to the relationship between Israel and the United Kingdom, when we should be working together to tackle the great challenges of our time.” He concluded his speech by saying that “under my leadership… every Jew will count.”

Jewish groups praised Starmer’s speech.

“The unequivocal rejection of antizionism and the BDS movement by the Labour leadership has long been fought for by Labour Against Antisemitism,” Labour Against Antisemitism (LAAS) said in a statement. “This speech must be accompanied by a genuine clampdown by Keir Starmer on Labour MPs displaying support for BDS and participating in events when antizionism antisemitism is rampant.”

The American Jewish Committee thanked Starmer in a tweet “for apologizing once again for the pain caused by @UKLabour to the British Jewish community and your strong denunciation of all forms of antisemitism, including anti-Zionism.”

StandWithUs also tweeted that Starmer’s speech was “strong” in stating that “anti-Zionism is incompatible with progressive values.”

Sussex Friends of Israel asked in a tweet why Starmer didn’t articulate his viewpoint against BDS during the Labour conference in September and “speak against the motion that supported BDS.”  The party had passed a motion during the conference calling Israel an apartheid state that should be sanctioned, according to The Jerusalem Post.

 

British journalist Nicole Lampert tweeted that Starmer’s speech suggests that “he finally gets it. Now he needs to tell the rest of his party.”

Rivkah Brown, another British journalist, tweeted that Starmer is an antisemite. “In his not-so-subtle conflation of anti-Zionism and antisemitism, he implies that all Jews want a nation-state, and those of us who don’t must hate ourselves,” she wrote. “Keir Starmer, not anti-Zionism, is denying Jews our right to self-determination. He is denying me my right to determine my politics independent of communal groupthink. He is mandating that I must love the state of Israel established in my name or be booted out of his party.”

David Collier, who is also a British journalist, and Sussex Friends of Israel countered Brown in replies to her tweet. “Rivkah’s post isn’t just attention-seeking drivel – it undermines the serious fight we have battling back against very real – and rising – antisemitism,” Collier wrote. “How many of ‘you’ are there Rivkah? The number compared to those that do want a safe and prosperous Jewish state is pathetically small,” Sussex Friends of Israel tweeted. “Get a grip, it’s ‘Jews’ like you that add succour to the hate mob.”

Quotes from Starmer’s speech via Jewish News transcript.

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Duke Student Gov’t President Vetoes Creation of SSI Chapter After They Called Out Student in Social Media Post

Duke University Student Government President (DSG) Christina Wang vetoed the creation of a Students Supporting Israel (SSI) chapter after the chapter called out a student in a social media post.

The Duke Chronicle reported that Duke SSI had posted on their Instagram a tweet from a student stating that the student government’s initial recognition of the chapter meant that “my school promotes settler colonialism.” The SSI chapter said in the since-deleted post: “Please allow us to educate you on what ‘settler colonialism’ actually is and why Israel does not fall under this category whatsoever. These types of narratives are what we strive to combat and condemn, which is why Duke’s chapter of Students Supporting Israel has been officially established & is here to stay.” They also put the tweet in an Instagram story and wrote “Excuse me, what?” and “This is why @ssi_duke is necessary,” according to The Chronicle.

Wang said in a statement to student senators that with their Instagram post, the SSI chapter “singled out an individual student on their organization’s social media account in a way that was unacceptable for any student group and appeared antithetical to the group’s stated mission to be welcoming and inclusive to all Duke students, and educational in mission and purpose.” She added that she would have taken the same action against any other student group that behaved in such a manner.

The student that Duke SSI called out in their Instagram story told The Chronicle that Duke SSI’s actions were “completely unnecessary, unprofessional and undeniably targeted harassment” and that they made no attempt to contact her. The student called on the DSG to uphold Wang’s veto. “Who really benefits from clubs on campus that aim to combat and condemn opposing ideas on campus through student intimidation and harassment?”

On November 17, the student government will hold a meeting in which Wang’s veto will be debated among student senators. Wang’s veto can be overturned if two-third of the senators vote against her, according to The Chronicle.

The Chronicle posted a screenshot of a November 15 Instagram post from SSI Duke issuing an apology, stating that they made “a naïve mistake” as a new organization and that it was “inappropriate” to call out a student by name. “We apologize unreservedly if we put any student at risk.” As of this writing, the post no longer appears on their Instagram account. 

The national SSI organization is standing by their Duke chapter, arguing in a Medium post that the whole ordeal was “theater of the absurd” and that the chapter had apologized at the advice of a school advisor.  

“It is absurd that responding on social media directly to a person is considered harassment,” the SSI National post read. “Those who put their opinion in the public space, need to know they can get [a] public response. It is our view that shutting down a whole student club for a social media comment is what should be considered ‘undeniably targeted harassment’ of the pro-Israel activists, if anything.”

StandWithUs Co-Founder and CEO Roz Rothstein said in a statement to the Journal, “It is very concerning that the [DSG] president has chosen to veto recognition of Duke’s SSI chapter based on the misguided notion that calling out false and inflammatory anti-Israel rhetoric online is unethical. SSI had every right to respond to the polemics, and the student who posted her opinion about having an SSI group on campus should have expected a response to her antisemitic comment. Penalizing the SSI group for responding to an antisemitic comment represents a double standard. We call on Duke’s student government to reverse this poor decision.”

Stop Antisemitism asked in a tweet why the “vilification of Jewish clubs is allowed to happen.”

The university did not respond to the Journal’s request for comment.

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What HAPPENS in Vegas? EVERYTHING!

Are you wondering where can you drive a bulldozer? Land in the Grand Canyon by Helicopter? Climb a wall? Take a gondola ride and imagine you are in Venice?

In Vegas, if you can dream it, it can probably happen! During the IPW 2021 conference, I had some amazing adventures. See them below and at this video playlist!

BULLDOZER DRIVING at Dig This

I absolutely LOVED my experience at Dig This Las Vegas Sept 19, 2021! I drove a bulldozer AND an excavator! Do you want to Drive Heavy Machinery? This is the place to make your bucket list dream come true. My instructors, Mae and Dave, were AMAZING! They only supervise two people at a time but only one person is getting information at a time. It is very step-by-step and personalized. The machinery is climate controlled which was great! I highly recommend DIG THIS for your birthday, anniversary or any reason you are in Vegas. Next time I am going to CRUSH A CAR!

Land in the Grand Canyon with Papillon Helicopters

I went on the Papillon Grand Celebration tour! “Have you ever wondered what it would be like to land on the floor of the Grand Canyon? Our Papillon Grand Celebration tour is a Grand Canyon helicopter landing tour that includes breathtaking views of the Hoover Dam and Grand Canyon West and a 3,200-foot descent onto a private plateau of the Grand Canyon’s floor. After landing, you’ll even get to enjoy champagne and a light picnic overlooking the Colorado River. This Grand Canyon helicopter tour from Las Vegas is the crown jewel of our tour selection. Truly a sightseeing experience unlike any other!”

Go on a Gondola Ride: Venice in Vegas at The Venetian Resort

My gondola ride reminded me of my time in Venice, Italy. I enjoyed the gondolier singing and the gorgeous colors at sunset. We picked an outdoor ride but you can also choose indoor! We floated beneath bridges and listened to the songs. If you cannot leave the country, you can feel like you are in Italy by going to Vegas.

Rock Climbing Wall at Canyon Ranch at The Venetian Resort

Ready for a 40 feet climbing wall? Thank you to Mike at Canyon Ranch at The Venetian Resort for my adrenaline filled experience. This is one of the largest if not THE LARGEST indoor climbing wall at a hotel. I LOVED IT!!

Flyover Las Vegas: Experience The Real Wild West.

Thank you to Flyover Las Vegas for a “immersive flight-ride experience” right on the strip of Las Vegas. I love 3D and 4D movies and this felt like another level up. There are no googles or 3D glasses. This seat feels like a ride at the theme park and moves so far over the edge—you cannot wear your flip flops! They might fall off onto someone’s head! There is a basket for your belongings so they do not topple! This ride has six degrees of motion.

Allegiant Stadium

Thank you Allegiant Stadium and IPW! I loved my tour Sept 19, 2021. I loved seeing the Al Davis Memorial Torch, the private suites and clubs including Champions Club, Twitch Lounge, Modelo Cantina Club, the Hall of Fame photos, trophies and of course the field.I cannot wait to see a concert and a game here!

In past Vegas trips, I have driven fast cars, cooked with famous chefs and donned chain mail to scuba dive at Shark Reef!

Christina Tosi from Milk Bar taught us to make cake truffles at The Cosmopolitan of Las Vegas March 2018.

My Five Star Luxury Dreams Came

Dream Racing

When you go to Las Vegas, you can make all your dreams come true. Have you always wanted an authentic driving experience on a race track at the Las Vegas Motor Speedway with luxury vehicles, professional instructors & simulators? I drove over 120mph in a Lamborghini Huracán GT with world famous driver Cédric Sbirrazzuoli as my instructor! I absolutely LOVED it! I cannot wait to go again! Thank you to the entire team at Dream Racing who made me feel so comfortable and ready to get behind the wheel! Thank you Cedric, Ashley, Steve and Enrico! “Dream Racing is the five-star driving experience at Las Vegas Motor Speedway and features the world’s largest and fastest selection of Supercars and the only one where you can get behind the wheel of a real Lamborghini, Ferrari, Porsche or Lotus Race Car. No matter which package you choose, we promise to deliver you a once in a lifetime exotic car racing experience. Don’t miss this unique opportunity to try your hand at racing these exotic cars.”

Shark Reef Aquarium at Mandalay Bay

Who gets to wear a full suit of chain mail and dive with sharks in the desert? I did it and if you are a certified diver you can too! This is a very unique and different experience at Mandalay Bay’s Shark Reef. Thank you to Jack, Theresa, Stacy, Trisha, The Life Support Team of the Aquarium, Mandalay Bay and MGM for this amazing adventure for my 50 things before I am 50 project! I LOVED IT! I sat on the bottom of the tank with many types of sharks swimming by and sang myself HAPPY BIRTHDAY! “Shark Reef aquarium is the home of over 2,000 animals including the saw fish, giant rays, endangered green sea turtles, piranha, jellyfish and the rare golden crocodile. This unique exhibit gives you the chance to dive with a higher concentration of exotic sharks than you’d ever find in the wild.”

Fantastic Activities in Las Vegas
Lisa Niver at Shark Reef Aquarium

I loved going behind the scenes at the Bellagio Fountains

I will be back in Las Vegas for the Scuba show DEMA in November. I wonder what I will do NEXT??

Vegas IPW 2021 articles:

Luxury Las Vegas: My Stay at The Venetian Resort

Thank you IPW 2021 Resorts World Las Vegas

What happens in Vegas? EVERYTHING

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Rabbis of LA | Rabbi Cantor Eva Robbins: Sparking the Divine Presence Within Others

As a late bloomer, Rabbi Cantor Eva Robbins really resonates with Psalm 92: it states that the righteous will flourish, bear fruit and stay vigorous and fresh in old age. 

It wasn’t until Eva had already worked as a secretary, an artist, an interior designer and a cantor — and raised three children — that she decided to also become a rabbi. In 2005, her husband, Rabbi Stephen Robbins, with whom she’d run Congregation N’vay Shalom, fell ill. Eva had to decide what to do. Would she hire someone to work with her? Or would she step forward?

“I took the risk and started stepping forward,” she said. “I filled in for the work for the synagogue.”

She took on her husband’s duties, and in 2009, she decided to become ordained through the Academy for Jewish Religion,   where she also became a cantor. In 2015, she completed her studies. 

Eva was always spiritually connected, but it wasn’t until later in life that she had the opportunity to truly express it. The child of Holocaust survivors, she was born in Sweden, raised in Toronto and went to a Conservadox shul growing up. 

“There was no mechitza, but it was male-focused,” she said. “Women couldn’t sing in the choir or be called up to the bimah. I couldn’t participate religiously, but my parents insisted I go Monday through Thursday to cheder at the synagogue for religious studies.”

Back in the ‘50s and ‘60s, when Eva was coming of age, she said that women became one of three things: a nurse, a teacher or a secretary. She chose to work as a secretary. Later on, she started her own business creating Jewish objects out of fabric, like chuppahs and   mezuzahs. She moved to Los Angeles and attended UCLA for interior design.

“My true gift and passions were singing and music, but it was squelched and suppressed by my Eastern Europe environment, my Judaism and my family,” she said. “I started singing in my late 20s and my husband supported that.”

Eva began leading services for N’vay Shalom, which doesn’t have a brick-and-mortar building but instead meets in different spaces and, during the pandemic, on Zoom three times a month. Along with serving her congregation, she teaches Torah to a group of women, writes, conducts life cycle events and holds meditation classes.

“I’ve been shocked at how powerful and spiritual our experiences have been online,” she said. 

Prior to starting N’vay Shalom with Eva, his wife of almost 49 years, Stephen led Temple Emanuel of Beverly Hills. Now that Eva is also a rabbi, she said it’s been “kind of a challenge” to find her own way.

“In my husband’s heyday, before he became ill, he was a vibrant presence in the community,” she said. “Words were much more challenging for me; the music was the easy part. I never thought I could write. He was so articulate. It was hard for me to follow in his footsteps and feel I could reach the level he had  emulated for me. Over these last few years, I’ve really discovered my own path and realized I can’t be someone else. I have to be me. I need to be me.”

Now, Eva has discovered her unique talent of helping people recognize their own spirituality and connect with the Almighty.

“God is here and we may not always know it, but we really are the living embodiment of God. The most important thing I can teach is that the divine presence is embedded within us.”

“God is here and we may not always know it, but we really are the living embodiment of God,” she said. “The most important thing I can teach is that the divine presence is embedded within us.”

Fast Takes With Eva Robbins

Jewish Journal: What Jewish song do you most like to sing? 

Eva Robbins: “L’dor V’dor.”

JJ: What do you do to relax?

ER: I sit by my fountain. I have one in the front and one in the back of my house. I like to be near water to hear the soothing sound.

JJ: What’s the key to a strong marriage?

ER: Being willing to do more than you expect, being willing to give more than you receive and being a good listener.

JJ: What’s your favorite Jewish food?

ER: It’s become hummus: my own homemade hummus with lots of garlic and olive oil and lemon juice, fresh out of my food processor.

JJ: How about your favorite thing to do in L.A.?

ER: I love going up to Griffith Park and being amongst the trees. 

JJ: What are you binging on TV right now?

ER: I binge on English detective stories on BritBox because they’re always set in the countryside near water. It’s kind of a Zen experience for me. 

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Can Synagogues Provide the Radical Disruption that the Jewish World Needs?

Jewish federations can’t do it. Jewish organizations can’t do it. Jewish foundations can’t do it. But the synagogues can. 

They can and must be the entities that take the lead to reconceptualize Jewish life and infrastructure, pulling us through the challenges and ravages of the pandemic that have impacted the organized Jewish world in North America. In return, federations, organizations and foundations can back synagogues’ new big visions and ideas. 

No matter how much Jewish leadership and even a new generation has dismissed the importance of synagogues, they are where amcha, the broadest base of the Jewish people, sit. They are the largest entity where Jewish communities are formed. Synagogues attract  thousands of people, year after year on the high holidays, putting more Jewish people in touch with the organized Jewish world than any organization. They service the needs of the Jewish people on a regular basis. Their rabbis are the ones who influence a wider swath of the Jewish people than anyone else. They are the institutions that provide the most access to Torah and tradition. More than any other institution, synagogues cultivate eventual leadership, donors and founders of Jewish causes. The vast majority of Jewish schools are synagogue-connected. B’nai mitzvot are synagogue-produced. Most Jewish camps are synagogue-affiliated. And Jewish families depend upon synagogue rabbis to officiate funerals of their loved ones.

In recent years, there has been so much attention and funding lavished upon a new generation’s small Jewish startup ideas, that the community sometimes forgets that synagogues still make the most meaningful influence on the largest numbers of Jewish people. The majority of a new Jewish generation that wants to be connected to the Jewish world, send their children to schools, and begin a life-long organized Jewish family journey can be found in our synagogues.

If the synagogues don’t tackle our new harsh pandemic realities and determine their way forward to renewed vibrancy, the entire organized Jewish world will be seriously diminished. 

After so much pandemic devastation, if the synagogues don’t tackle our new harsh pandemic realities and determine their way forward to renewed vibrancy, the entire organized Jewish world will be seriously diminished. They carry this responsibility to the Jewish people. 

So in what spirit do rabbis and leadership prepare to take on this awesome challenge? 

The lesson is in the first few sentences of Braisheet, Genesis, words they read year after year, and probably know by heart. Here is a radical way to look at how these first words apply to the current reality. And right now, the Jewish world needs a radical disruption. 

The word “braisheet” is commonly translated to “In the beginning.” But braisheet comes from the Hebrew root “rosh” meaning head. The head represents the brain, the mind and thinking. If it is the first word of the Torah, then it is telling us that the brain, mind and thinking are held in utmost importance. 

The second word is “barah,” create. It is the first active word in the Torah. The Torah is telling us that creativity holds extreme power, because everything in the Torah follows it. So the Torah ties the brain, mind and thinking together with creativity. 

Then in the next sentence, all hell breaks loose. There is chosech, darkness, and tohu va’vohu, commonly translated as chaos. No one really knows what tohu va’vohu actually is. But if you say the words out loud over and over, they are anything but chaotic. They have a connecting rhythm; they fall over one another with a sense of purpose. The repeated sound of tohu va’vohu has an orderliness about it. Tohu va’vohou is anything but chaos. It is the material of creation, because out of it comes light/day, darkness/night, land, the heavens, vegetation, seasons, sun, moon, creatures, man and woman. 

The Torah is telling us that creativity is a holy process. Because the process creates ideas that move the world forward. 

People who attempt any form of creativity, recognize darkness and tohu va’vohu. All creative people enter into the tension of both, before they evolve their output. As a person in a creative profession and as a professor of team creativity, I know that the longer one stays in the tension, the more powerful and excellent the creative output.

Can rabbis and synagogue leadership sustain the tension required for an output of power and excellence? That is the biggest question the Jewish world now faces in order to save itself from the results of the pandemic. 

Can rabbis and synagogue leadership sustain the tension required for an output of power and excellence? That is the biggest question the Jewish world now faces in order to save itself from the results of the pandemic. 

What is that tension? 

It is the connection of recognizing and finding commonalities between disparate parts. In Braisheet, it begins in the first line of the creation of heaven and earth. Heaven and earth are the given disparate elements that collide, producing the initial darkness and tohu va’vohu. 

In the Jewish world, there are many disparate elements. We have disparate thinking. We have disparate understandings and approaches. We have disparate visions. We also have, unfortunately, disparate statuses and power bases between professionals, lay people and wealthy donors. 

Can we Jews jump into all of these disparate tensions, find the commonalities between them, remain in the tension to find the solutions, and then produce an output of excellence for the Jewish world? 

Can we break down the barriers of class and put people on equal footing so creative teams can function? Overseeing creative teams in business, nonprofits and academia, I know that when creative teams are out of balance by one person claiming more power, it paralyzes the creative process and great ideas don’t emerge. 

Jewish minds are able to do this outside the Jewish community—in business, medicine, science, literature, film, food, fashion and many other areas. Why can we do it in these instances, outside the Jewish world, but not within the Jewish world? 

It’s about intimidation. We turn the power for idea approval over to boards and wealthy people, who in many cases are only in these positions of approval by virtue of their wealth and power, not their knowledge. Few of them are equipped with the deep awareness and experience to make the best decisions for the synagogue or the Jewish people.  

This is why we have so much mediocrity. The organized Jewish world is a risk-averse culture. But in order to reach excellence we have to take risks. Many professionals, including rabbis,  don’t accept risk because they don’t want to suffer the wrath of lay people and donors. Many lay people and donors don’t accept risk because they don’t want to challenge the members of their wealth club who surround them, and with whom they want to be best pals.

The radical disruption we now need in order to survive and thrive through the devastation of the pandemic is the creation of big, bold, new ideas. Ideas change the world. They move it forward.

The radical disruption we now need in order to survive and thrive through the devastation of the pandemic is the creation of big, bold, new ideas. Ideas change the world. They move it forward. To achieve this, synagogues need to revise the way they work, establishing a creative team infrastructure between professionals, members, board members and donors—and revisit everything they do and how they do it.

Then they need to revise the approval systems of these ideas, establishing a progressive and aware leadership who can be partners in this process. Over the years I have worked with a number of people within Jewish leadership who don’t read the publications of the Jewish world, don’t study Torah, have limited knowledge of Jewish history and current events and believe that because they have been on federation missions meeting important people, they have all the answers. This will no longer cut it. 

But the biggest question is do synagogues and Jewish people recognize and accept that they now need this radical disruption? Or will they hold on to so much of the way things have been that they eventually kill the whole enterprise?


Gary Wexler was recently honored by the National Library of Israel with the establishment of the Gary Wexler archive, a collection of twenty years of his marketing, advertising and communication work for the Jewish world, to be used for research, exhibit and speaking. 

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Hypocrisy Does Not Recognize Party Boundaries

One of the most frustrating challenges in the ongoing fight against anti-Semitism is that the hate comes from so many different directions. When Ilhan Omar, Rashida Tlaib and other far-left progressives allow their anti-Zionism to morph into anti-Semitism, Democratic Party leaders face deserved pressure to condemn and disavow their most unacceptable statements and actions. But of course anti-Semitism flows from the right too, in the form of the type of blood-and-soil nationalism that has found an increasingly comfortable home among ultra-conservative Republicans.

Sadly, the GOP’s leaders have been no better at disciplining their most extreme members than the Democrats. 

Sadly, the GOP’s leaders have been no better at disciplining their most extreme members than the Democrats. They were given a pair of gold-plated opportunities in the last several days to denounce two Republicans who displayed a repulsive intolerance toward the Jewish people and the Jewish faith. But at the time this column was filed, no leading Republican had publicly declared that such sentiments were unwelcome in their party.

First came Ohio GOP Senate candidate Mark Pukita, whose campaign has been running a radio advertisement that has targeted one of his primary opponents, former State Treasurer Josh Mandel. Mandel is Jewish, a fact which seems to greatly anger Pukita. In an ad targeted at religious conservative voters, an actor asked “Are we seriously supposed to believe the most Christian-values Senate candidate is Jewish? I am so sick of these phony caricatures.”

That commercial was enough to convince an organization called the Center for Christian Virtue to uninvite Pukita from a candidate forum they were hosting. But in a primary debate last week, in which Pukita was included, he was asked by the moderator to respond to charges that he is “antisemitic and intentionally divisive and inflammatory.”

Pukita’s response: “In terms of antisemitism, all I did in an ad was point out that Josh is going around saying he’s got the Bible in one hand and the constitution in the other. But he’s Jewish. Everybody should know that though, right?”

Pukita seems to believe either that the New Testament is the only acceptable version of the Bible, or that there is something inherently contradictory between the Torah and the U.S. Constitution. In either case, he never got around to denying that he was an anti-Semite.

One candidate on the debate stage, businessman Bernie Moreno, laudably pushed back against Pukita’s bigotry, saying “We’re better than that, guys.” But neither the Ohio Republican Party or the Republican National Committee has addressed the matter, nor have any of the state’s leading GOP elected officials.

A few days later, an equally abhorrent display of antisemitism took place at a rally in San Antonio, Texas, where former National Security Advisor Michael Flynn told his audience that the United States should allow only one single religion. 

“If we are going to have one nation under God, which we must, we have to have one religion,” said Flynn, a prominent advisor and surrogate for Donald Trump’s presidential campaigns. “One nation under God, and one religion under God.”

This belief, of course, directly contradicts the First Amendment and its guarantee of freedom of religion. It also suggests that some (most) religious faiths are unacceptable and should therefore be banned. Once again, there has been no criticism of Flynn’s intolerance from Republican leaders. (Although oddly, Mandel, the Jewish candidate who was targeted in Ohio, has endorsed Flynn’s comments.)

The loyal Democrats who read this column will be justifiably furious both at Pukita’s and Flynn’s statements, and at the shameful lack of reaction from the GOP. But of course those same Democrats will either overlook or minimize the outrages voiced regularly by Omar and Tlaib. And hypocrisy does not recognize party boundaries, for those Republicans who are infuriated by the refusal of Democratic leaders to call out their antisemites will find a way to excuse or ignore the equally embarrassing inaction from conservatives toward their own anti-Jewish bigots. 

There will always be hatred and prejudice in the world: antisemitism will never completely go away. But maybe the leaders of our two major political parties can make more of an effort to help us push back against it.


Dan Schnur is a Professor at the University of California – Berkeley, USC and Pepperdine. Join Dan for his weekly webinar “Politics in the Time of Coronavirus” (www/lawac.org) on Tuesdays at 5 PM.

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Jewish World Needs a Creative Infusion

There’s a reason so many people are afraid to stick their necks out with creative ideas. You’ll find the reason if you look up “stick your neck out” in the dictionary: “Take a risk; expose oneself to criticism.”

Why would anyone expose themselves to criticism?

I can’t tell you how often I’ve seen this subtle fear at work in meetings or strategy sessions. People are very comfortable reiterating problems, using lots of jargon or criticizing someone else’s ideas. But sharing an idea of their own? Why risk getting one’s head chopped off?

Here’s one good reason: Because the Jewish world right now is in desperate need of a creative infusion.

Our community has been dealing with familiar problems for decades, until the COVID pandemic accelerated a lethal problem: Millions of Jews are now happy just staying home, living the online life.

But, you say, if they’re bonding with their kids, learning how to make zucchini muffins, listening to fabulous Jewish lectures and participating in stimulating Jewish events, what’s wrong with that?

Besides the fact that it’s shattering revenue models and keeping us physically apart? I don’t know. You tell me.

After all, I’m one of the Jews I’m talking about. My online life is extraordinary, whether I’m doing a keynote speaker gig in Australia from my bedroom, watching the newest episode of “Succession” or FaceTiming with my child in Israel.

It’s so extraordinary, so comfortable, so safe and convenient, I have to make a major effort to re-engage with the real world.

But here’s the amazing part: Every time I do it, I never regret it. It reminds me that in-person connection and intimacy is both indispensable and irreplaceable.

Which brings me to sticking our necks out. Jewish structures across America, whether synagogues or museums or community centers, have seen sharp declines in attendance. I wrote about this development in our cover story two weeks ago, and got responses from across the Jewish world.

The basic message was: You’re right, but what can we do?

Well, for one thing, we can push ourselves to be more creative. Every Jewish center—religious or otherwise—interested in boosting attendance ought to have brainstorming sessions where no one will be afraid to stick their necks out.

The silver lining of this crisis is that it is forcing us to bring our creative A game… So, if you have some good ideas, please stick your necks out and send them along. We want to publish ideas; we’ll let you criticize them.

My friend Howard Zack, who is part of the leadership team at a Conservative congregation in Palo Alto, did just that. The key question that kicked off their brainstorming was: What can we offer that Zoom can never offer?

They’re already running with one of the ideas—the Ultimate Kiddush, which Howard wrote about in last week’s Journal.

Rabbanit Alissa Thomas-Newborn also shared her ideas about the synagogue becoming a “second home.” Over Shabbat I heard about a great in-person event organized by Temple Israel of Hollywood. The silver lining of this crisis is that it is forcing us to bring our creative A game, because we have no choice.

Speaking of A game, longtime communal expert Gary Wexler has a must-read in this week’s paper titled, “Can Synagogues Provide the Radical Disruption that the Jewish World Needs?” Wexler argues that synagogues “can and must be the entities that take the lead to re-conceptualize Jewish life and infrastructure, pulling us through the challenges and ravages of the pandemic.”

To meet that challenge, Wexler argues, the organized Jewish world must shed its risk-averse culture: “The radical disruption we now need in order to survive and thrive through the devastation of the pandemic is the creation of big, bold, new ideas. Ideas change the world. They move it forward.”

Since our cover story came out, I’ve been receiving more and more ideas around the challenge of the day: How do we inject enough real experiences into our communal lives to keep us sane, alive, and connected to one another in more authentic ways?

Since our cover story came out, I’ve been receiving more and more ideas on the challenge of the day: How do we inject enough real experiences into our communal lives to keep us sane, alive, and connected to one another in more authentic ways?

I sense that we’re past the point of complaining or even arguing about the problem. The beguiling power of the digital world to keep Jews away from physical spaces is no longer in question—it’s our new reality.

To address that reality, we’ll have to reimagine a Jewish communal life where in-person activity can still flourish. I can even imagine the Jewish Federation handing out In-Person Innovation prizes.

So, if you have some good ideas, please stick your necks out and send them along. We want to publish ideas; we’ll let you criticize them.

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The Loneliness of an Overachiever

This is a tale of two Shabbats.

It was the best of meals, it was the worst of meals. A decade ago, I attended a Shabbat dinner hosted by a woman who was an amazing cook. I joined a dozen guests around the table and almost passed out at the sight of all the tender, delectable meat dishes, candied fruit and nuts, gorgeous salads and warm puff pastries, oozing with meat and potatoes — and those were just the appetizers. But something strange happened that night. No one paid our host a compliment about the food except me (and I complimented her after an hour of non-stop eating). And her husband had the gall to whisper in her ear that she still hadn’t quite perfected his mother’s brisket recipe. 

It was almost as if the guests were used to being served amazing food at this home. And none of them helped clean up afterward. 

The following week, I attended a Shabbat lunch at the home of another couple. Before arriving, I ate a salami sandwich and a bag of chips. I loved being in the company of this lovely family, but having attended meals at their home before, I knew the wife was a well-intentioned, but terrible cook. 

In fact, as I stared at the pale poultry that seemed to float miserably in a “sauce” composed of water and a vegetable I found unrecognizable, I wished I’d eaten a second salami sandwich on the walk over. Fortunately, the host opened a pre-made bag of iceberg lettuce and placed a bottle of salad dressing next to it. 

“This salad is so good!” cried her husband, possibly oblivious to the fact that his wife had, in fact, opened a bag. Another guest smiled and said, “Can I have this chicken recipe?” Most of the guests helped clean up and some even washed dishes. 

What was going on here? Perhaps the husband in the second story understood more about how to maintain shalom bayit, or peace in the home, than the first. Perhaps the guests in the second home were more polite and less entitled. But I suspected something else: the woman in the first story was a classic overachiever. 

You know the kind: the ones who give 150%, and who make Mary Poppins look like Joan Crawford. The ones who seem to whip up a five-course meal as if by magic, and who, come Purim, create mishloach manot baskets consistent with the theme of their kids’ costumes. 

I know these people. I am one of them. And if you also consider yourself an overachiever, I have one question: It’s lonely, isn’t it?

The more you do, the more capable you seem to everyone around you. And the more you seem to have it all together, the less support you receive. It makes perfect sense. Why would someone who seems like Superman or Superwoman need help?

The more you do, the more capable you seem to everyone around you. And the more you seem to have it all together, the less support you receive. It makes perfect sense. Why would someone who seems like Superman or Superwoman need help?

“There’s an old colloquial saying: ‘If you want something done, give it to a busy person,’” said Dr. Rami Sadeghi, a Beverly Hills-based clinical psychologist, told the Journal. “Normally you’d figure that the busy person is the last person you want to ask. But you make your request to a busy person because that’s the person that gets things done.”

Overachievers might get the job done, but in my experience, they don’t share others’ perceptions of themselves. First, many don’t see themselves as superhuman by choice, believing they must work twice as hard to compensate for someone or something. And whereas others see a superhuman, they know they’re struggling and need support. 

“The loneliness,” said Sadeghi, “is not just because so much stuff ends up on the overachiever’s lap, but because we feel connected to others when we feel they ‘know’ us. But if they think we’re superman/woman, they have a totally different understanding of who we really are. They’re perceiving person A, whereas we know we’re not person A.”

Not feeling seen or truly known can hurt. Ironically, overachievers don’t want to be seen as superhuman, but “overachievers want to be seen, period,” said Sadeghi. “First and foremost, to be seen, they stand out. They’re special, but they’ll earn their special-seen status. What we crave and need in life more than anything else is to be known by others. Really, what we’re aching and needing and reaching for is the connection that comes with being known.”

I suspect that in the case of the first Shabbat host, others saw a Superwoman who would never fumble. And some guests might have assumed that if they helped her, they might be in the way. In the second woman, however, they saw someone who didn’t have it all together, and who didn’t seem particularly fueled by appearing exceptional. 

Is there a difference between being healthily driven and being an overachiever?

“The distinguishing factor between a driven person and an overachiever is fuel versus inspiration,” said Dr. Morgan Hakimi, Chair of Psychology at Touro College Los Angeles.

“The overachiever’s labor is not inspiration; rather a subjection to intense internal and psychological pressures, as well as emotional burdens.”

It took many years, but I’ve learned not to blame anyone for my overachieving gene, for the times I perceive I’m lacking support. But I have repeatedly found that those who believe I am Superwoman are surprised to learn how much I struggle. Amazingly, there is treatment for chronic overachievement:

“The healing process begins by pausing to address the psychological wounds that made hard work the only defense against intolerable trauma,” said Hakimi. “Self-compassion allows for transformation from loss, sadness and humiliation to grasping how the present so-called successful self has been shaped by responding to grave wounds of the past.”

I have to think long and hard about why I’m such a frustrated overachiever, but I draw inspiration from those two Shabbat meals a decade ago. Ideally, I’m striving to find a metaphoric balance between the overwhelmed efforts of the first host and the underwhelming offerings of the second.

In the meantime, because I so want be known by others, I will continue to try to overachieve with the meal I serve you every week.


Tabby Refael is a Los Angeles-based writer, speaker, and civic action activist. Follow her on Twitter @RefaelTabby

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