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The Beauty of Yes

When you have a child with significant disabilities, you get used to hearing “no.”

From nationally recognized speech therapists who say, “Sorry, my cutting-edge techniques won’t work for your son,” after you have schlepped the family halfway across the country to work with them, to Jewish educators who will open their classrooms to some “higher-functioning” students with special needs but not to those who need one-to-one assistance. Not to mention navigating the world of special education in the public school system in which you need to become an expert on the governing federal laws in order to get the services to which your child is entitled.

Such was the case with Birthright. Although I have worked on and off as a Jewish community professional for many years, I never imagined that our son, Danny, now 23, would be able to go on Birthright — the program providing free Israel trips to adults between 18 and 26 — in spite of the fact that he would be the perfect candidate in many ways.

He grew up watching kids’ musical videos in Hebrew, understands a lot of Hebrew, attends Shabbat services weekly at a Conservative synagogue and has visited Israel with our family. He loves Israeli dances and enjoys flying on planes.  He has probably watched the documentary “Hava Nagila” more than anyone else in the world, and his older sister spent a Masa-sponsored gap year in Israel, speaks Hebrew fluently and has staffed two Birthright trips.

In my former position at The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles, I sat in on many meetings with Birthright staff members and always enjoyed hearing all of their post-trip stories and adventures. But I couldn’t imagine a Birthright trip that would be able to accommodate Danny, who has limited mobility, not to mention a complicated medication regimen. The 10-day Birthright trips are known for their fast-paced, grueling schedules, including intensive physical activities and moving from hotel to hotel.

How could Danny ever participate in a trip like that?

Then in September, I received an email from the national Conservative-affiliated Camp Ramah Tikvah network. It was announcing the first-ever Birthright Israel: Amazing Israel-Ramah Tikvah trip for young adults ages 18-29 with disabilities. Ramah has organized previous Israel trips for Tikvah program participants and alumni, but this would be the first one being offered in collaboration with the international Birthright program, which has brought more than 600,000 young Jews to Israel since 1999.

The trip starts on Dec. 18 and will include classic Birthright Israel activities such as visiting Masada (by cable car) and Yad Vashem and spending Shabbat in Jerusalem, while also adding programming geared specifically for these participants, such as meeting Israeli soldiers with special needs.

Thanks to Elana Naftalin-Kelman, Tikvah director at Camp Ramah in California in Ojai, Danny has been an overnight summer camper there for the past nine years, always accompanied by a personal aide to help him with such everyday activities as dressing, eating and showering. Danny loves his time at camp, and we also love our “time off” from family caregiving. Last summer, Danny was able to gain vocational experience doing his favorite activity — being a DJ at the side of the pool, which also is his favorite place in camp.

I never imagined that our son, Danny, would be able to go on Birthright.

Elana helped me connect with Howard Blas, National Ramah Tikvah Network director, who is coordinating and leading the trip in partnership with Amazing Israel, the Birthright tour provider. Howard has led many trips to Israel with young adults with disabilities and fully understands the need to adjust the trip’s pace and intensity.

During our Skype call with him, Howard was very welcoming and open to the idea of having our personal aide from camp accompany Danny on this trip. He told us, “While we will all learn a lot from the explanations of our very experienced tour educator, Doron, each person will experience Israel differently. The trip takes each participant’s unique needs and learning style into consideration. We will experience Israel through all of our senses — riding a jeep in the Golan Heights, floating in the Dead Sea, planting trees, making chocolate and T-shirts, touching the Kotel and lots of singing, dancing and eating delicious Israeli foods!”

The word “yes” has never sounded so good.

Michelle K. Wolf is a special needs parent activist and nonprofit professional. She is the founding executive director of the Jewish Los Angeles Special Needs Trust. Visit her Jews and Special Needs blog at

‘Minister’ puts the (English) accent on politics, American style

Jonathan Lynn wants to know what an egg cream is. Sitting in Jerry’s Deli in Westwood on an absurdly hot day in early May, he’s less interested in talking about his show “Yes, Prime Minister” at this moment than he is about finding out what ingredients go into the classic New York drink. There’s something slightly comical about a 70-year-old Jew, albeit a Brit, who’s never encountered an egg cream, but then again, perhaps they never made it across the pond, something that can no longer be said about “Yes, Prime Minister,” which will make its American stage debut on June 4 at the Geffen Playhouse in Westwood.

While American audiences are probably most familiar with Lynn’s film directorial efforts, such as “Clue,” “The Whole Nine Yards” and the comedy classic “My Cousin Vinny,” British audiences know him well for his “Yes Minister” series, which was a massive hit on television and radio in the UK and in most of the English-speaking world, for that matter. “Yes Minister,” which followed the careers of politician Jim Hacker and civil servants Sir Humphrey Appleby and Bernard Woolley, and satirized the workings of government, won multiple BAFTA awards and various other honors. Now, more than 30 years after Lynn and Antony Jay created the series, it’s finally been adapted for the stage.

“People have been asking us to do a play based on the series … for many, many years, and we’d always said no,” Lynn said. “We’d said what we’d had to say.” They also lost both the stars of the show, Nigel Hawthorne and Paul Eddington, to illness. But, according to Lynn, as the 30th anniversary approached, “We thought, ‘Well, maybe it would be fun to examine whether things have changed or whether things are really fundamentally the same, but maybe cosmetically different.’ ”

Lynn and Jay got to work, and soon they’d hammered out a show that has played in London and as far away as Australia. It’s even been optioned for a production in Tel Aviv.  

Asked how a play about British politics can have such broad appeal, Lynn was quick to correct: “It’s about government, which is very different. Politics is what goes on in elections, what goes on in the House of Commons,” he said. “It’s not about politics in a partisan sense. It’s not possible from watching the shows or watching this play to tell which party Jim Hacker belongs to.”

Government, it seems, is a universal problem. Even the United States and England have a lot in common, according to Lynn. “The main difference is that we have an unwritten constitution, and we don’t have separation of powers built into our constitutional theory.” And indeed, in Britain, the prime minister is, by his or her very nature, a member of the party in control of the congress. “You were dumb enough to write the separation of powers into your constitution, and we see, as we look around Washington today, just what that has led to.”

Lynn doesn’t foresee Americans having a problem understanding the show, though. “We ran this in London. … A lot of Americans come and see the play, and we’ve never had anyone come and tell us they didn’t understand it.”

Lynn wasn’t particularly surprised to find that little in the nature of government seems to have changed in the 30 years between the premiere of the TV show and the play. “The biggest change in the way that government is run is that there are more ‘special advisers.’… There’s more outside influence.”

Politicians are also more in the line of fire. “The Freedom of Information Act has been passed, which is desperately dangerous to anyone who’s in power,” Lynn said. “If no one knows what you’re doing, no one knows what you’re doing wrong.”

For the Geffen production, which Lynn is also directing, he’s assembled a notable cast that includes Dakin Matthews, Tony Award winner Jefferson Mays and Michael McKean, with whom Lynn has reunited after many years. “They’re a really wonderful cast. I feel very fortunate. I’ve known Michael McKean on and off for a very long time. He was in my first film, ‘Clue.’ I knew he does a wonderful British accent, because I saw ‘Spinal Tap,’ ” Lynn said with a laugh.

Asked how he felt about unintentionally starting the board-game-as-movie movement that’s also brought the world such classics as “Battleship,” Lynn was amused but also a little sad. “I didn’t imagine it, and I feel very guilty.” 

Looking back at his long career, Lynn doesn’t have many regrets, though. “ ‘Vinny’ had a lot going for it. Although it was never sold this way, it was a satirical comedy about capital punishment. I’m very against capital punishment. It basically said these two kids would have been fried if they hadn’t had this argumentative, son-of-a-bitch lawyer,” Lynn said. “It was about class, which is something else that nobody ever talked about here. Vinny and Lisa are blue collar, and everyone else in the film was old money.”

But not all of his favorites became big hits. “One of my favorite films I’ve made here was ‘The Distinguished Gentleman,’ with Eddie Murphy, because that has proven prophetic, really. It’s about the power of the lobbyists and how they destroy democracy.” 

“The Distinguished Gentleman,” which was co-written by Jewish Journal columnist Marty Kaplan, didn’t perform well at the box office but did get a presidential stamp of approval. “When Bill Clinton went to see it as soon as it opened — he’d just been elected president — he came out and said, ‘That’s just what it’s like in Washington.’ And I immediately phoned the studio and said, ‘We must get that clip into the ads,’ and they said, ‘No, no, we can’t do that — that would be disrespectful to the president,’ ” Lynn said, still not buying the answer. “The true reason is that Disney has lots of lobbyists in Washington, and they didn’t want to upset Congress.” 

And despite politics reaching into film as much as government, Lynn sees little change in comedy in his more than 50 years in the business. “It’s impossible to sum up what comedy is in a few words. But it’s some form of telling the truth in a way that doesn’t require the audience’s empathy. That requires the audience’s objectivity.

“I think there’s more rude language than there used to be,” Lynn said. “But no, I don’t think comedy’s changed. The essentials remain the same. It’s about owning up, and it’s about recognition.”

And recognition is what Lynn thinks matters most in how a show transitions from one culture to another, and why he thinks “Yes, Prime Minister” will do well. 

“The audience doesn’t recognize the behavior in the same way. Some comedies travel better than others,” he said. “Neil Simon has never really had a hit in England. … There aren’t enough Jews in England.”

“Yes, Prime Minister” plays June 4 through  July 14 in the Gil Cates Theater at the Geffen Playhouse.

U.S. rips Hamas for blocking teens’ scholarships

The Obama administration slammed Hamas for keeping Gaza high school students from traveling to the United States on a scholarship program.

“You have Hamas denying these students a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to have an educational and cultural experience outside of Gaza,” Victoria Nuland, the State Department spokeswoman, told reporters Tuesday. “So we join the students, their parents, human rights organization, and many others in calling for the YES students who wish to leave Gaza for this opportunity to be allowed to go.”

YES refers to the Youth Exchange Study program; seven Gaza students were due to attend. Hamas banned the students from participating for “social and cultural” reasons.

Israel’s refusal to allow security clearance for three Gaza Fulbright scholars in 2008 prompted international outrage and led Israel to reconsider.

U.S. Studios Court Israeli Programmers

Danna Stern, head of acquisitions at YES, Israel’s only television satellite company, was surprised to see that Mark Burnett, reality TV guru and producer of hit shows like “Survivor” and “The Apprentice,” had only one framed press clipping in his office: a feature on him that had appeared in Ha’aretz, an Israeli daily.

Stern and her associates get wined and dined every year by television network executives at a weeklong Los Angeles screening of shows in May, during which 2,000 television executives from all over the world sit all day in front of studio screens to view the new fall season pilots for sale.

Hollywood exports are a big business, and U.S. studios sometimes rake in more from international licensing than domestic. Even though Israeli acquisitions account for only 2 percent of overseas television exports, Stern thinks Israel gets special attention.

“They’re always interested way beyond our share in the market — and the same goes for the talent,” she said. “Because we’re a very recognizable country, they’re very accessible to us.”

In addition, she added, most of the marketing people and executives are Jewish, and are “always interested in Israel.”

Stern has mingled with Geena Davis, Teri Hatcher and Jennifer Garner, who take the time to meet with the foreign visitors at studio parties.

“The stars are really interested in hearing what works well,” she said. “They always promise to come [to Israel], but they never do.”

Last month, YES held its first-ever press screening at Israel’s largest cinema complex, Cinema City, in Herzilya, modeling it after the Los Angeles screening, to show-off its newest acquisitions. Among them are: “Prison Break,” “Grey’s Anatomy,” “My Name Is Earl,” “Commander in Chief,” “The War at Home,” “Supernatural Invasion” and “How I Met Your Mother.” YES directors believed that the number and quality of acquisitions justified its screening, in which dozens of Israeli reporters got to watch U.S. television for an entire day.

While the new shows will be broadcast early next year, the turnaround time between a show’s U.S. premiere and its Israeli premiere is much shorter than in the past.

YES was founded about five years ago, increasing competition in the Israeli television market. Before that, only one cable company and two Israeli networks, Channel 2 and IBA, vied for U.S. and European shows. Now, YES competes with a whole slew of television outlets: a new Israeli network (Channel 10) and locally run niche channels for lifestyle, music, action, children, comedy, parenting, sports, documentaries and even Judaism.

Prior to this television growth spurt, visitors or immigrants to Israel were hard pressed to find their favorite U.S. TV show on Israeli channels, and if they did, they were stuck with shows from a season or two earlier. “Seinfeld” first aired only after the third season premiered in the United States.

“Everyone is trying to shorten the time because of piracy — people are already downloading shows the next day, so we can’t afford to wait as we usually did,” Stern said

The YES executive said that the current delay of a few months still has advantages. Israel does not air reruns, and a U.S. buzz around a show has enough time to echo in Israel.

YES has been the leader in importing U.S., as well as British, TV shows, including “The West Wing,” “Weeds,” “Entourage,” “The Sopranos,” “The Comeback,” “Arrested Development,” “The O.C.,” “Hope and Faith,” “Scrubs” and more. Last year’s acquisition, “Desperate Housewives,” is the biggest hit. Other shows, like “Nip/Tuck,” “Everybody Hates Chris” and “Lost,” were picked up by other Israeli networks.

Sometimes Israeli buyers view new shows via broadband, but May is the time the big sales occur, when Stern and her associates choose among 30-40 programs. She noted that shows with religious themes, like “7th Heaven” and “Joan of Arcadia,” don’t do well in Israel.

“I think Israelis are a little more sophisticated than the average American viewer,” she said. “They tend to like things with an edge.”

Orit Arfa is a writer living in Tel Aviv. She can be reached at