Rabin’s Funeral


Given the atmosphere in the Middle East today, it is hard to believe that just seven years ago, on Nov. 6, 1995, a Jewish funeral took place where the deceased was surrounded and eulogized by Jews and Arabs. Yes, this week marks the seventh anniversary of Israeli Prime Minister Yitzchak Rabin’s funeral. Rabin was publicly eulogized (in this order) by Israeli President Ezer Weizman, King Hussein of Jordan, acting Prime Minister Shimon Peres and Egyptian President Hosni Mubarak. A Jew, followed by an Arab, followed by a Jew, followed by an Arab, all standing together at one graveside in Israel, eulogizing one Jewish leader. Children born that year in the Middle East probably have a hard time understanding how such an integrated funeral was really possible, given the Middle East they have witnessed since they were born.

Was Rabin’s funeral, which brought together Jews and Arabs for one brief moment, the first of its nature in the history of the Middle East?

At the end of this week’s Torah portion, Hayei Sarah, the Torah describes the death and burial of the first biblical patriarch, Abraham. A "father of a multitude of nations," Abraham, indeed, fathered two sons, Isaac and Ishmael, whose offspring were unfortunately destined to struggle with one another for thousands of years. Having one common father in Abraham, each son’s offspring were poised to become "great nations." The Jewish people trace their lineage through Isaac, for God told Abraham "it is through Isaac that offspring shall be continued for you." The Arabs, and later the Muslims, trace their heritage to Ishmael, of whom God said to Abraham, "I will make a nation of him, too, for he is your seed." Each son was destined to be a leader of his people.

After growing up together briefly, the two half brothers were separated: Isaac’s family going one way and Ishmael and his mother, Hagar, going in another direction. They were separated from one another for some 70 years. During that time, according to the Midrash, Isaac actually had gone to visit Hagar. We do not really know the purpose of the visit, but perhaps it was Isaac’s overture at reconciliation between the half brothers.

Then Abraham dies. "And Abraham was gathered to his kin. His sons Isaac and Ishmael buried him in the Cave of Machpelah." The Talmud describes Ishmael’s attendance at his father’s funeral as an act of teshuvah. To do teshuvah means to return. Ishmael returned to his father and to his half brother, Isaac. Was Ishmael’s teshuvah a response to his Isaac’s earlier visit to his home? We will never know.

All we know is that Isaac and Ishmael, Jew and Arab, stood together at their father’s graveside, tending to Abraham’s burial needs together, each probably having delivered moving eulogies for all of "Abraham’s kin" to hear at the funeral.

It is an unfortunate fact of history that the momentum of Isaac and Ishmael standing together at their father’s graveside was not carried into the future of their respective people’s history.

Similarly, it is unfortunate that when a funeral similar to Abraham’s took place just seven years ago, the momentum of that event was not carried forward equally by both sides beyond Rabin’s graveside.

Rosh Hashana 5761


The Torah reading for the first day of Rosh Hashana always strikesme as odd. For starters, the section focuses primarily on Hagar and Ishmael,characters that are ultimately marginal in Jewish historical terms. On topof that, the story that the section deals with is arguably the leastflattering episode in the lives of our forefather and foremother, Abrahamand Sara. It is the story of their expelling Hagar and Ishmael from theirhome to face a highly uncertain future in the wilderness. Why did our sagesselect this story to be read on this day?

A great variety of responses to this question have been offered, many ofwhich require that we shift our focus away from the Hagar-Ishmael expulsionepisode, and concentrate instead on the passage that opens the reading,namely God's remembering the promise of motherhood that He had made to Sara.(Divine remembering is, after all, one of Rosh Hashana's major themes.) I'dlike to join with the other school though, in suggesting that our sages wereactually intending for us to glean the message from the reading's centralepisode, and to leave for another time an analysis of Abraham and Sara'srole in this troubling narrative.

Picking up the central part of the story then as it approaches its climax,we find Hagar and Ishmael wandering in the desert, out of water. Ishmael istoo weak to continue walking. Hagar places him beneath a bush, and sits downsome distance away not wanting to behold her son's demise. An angel of Godthen appears to Hagar, informing her that she should not fear, for God hasheard her son's voice “in the place that he is.” What does this final phraseof the angel's utterance mean? To the sages, it sounded extraneous. It is inthe sages' consequent reinterpretation of that phrase that I believe theRosh Hashana message may lie.

Instead of reading the phrase as “in the place that he is,” the sages renderit “in accordance with his status at the present moment.” That is, althoughat a future time (as the Jews would be leaving Israel following thedestruction of the first Temple) Ishmael's descendants would act withcruelty toward God's nation, Ishmael himself would be judged at the presentjuncture in accordance with his present status. Since at the present time heis an innocent lad, free of sin, God would intervene on his behalf,providing a well in the desert from which he and his mother would drink. Thepresent moment is the relevant moment. It alone will determine the outcomeof the story.

Generally speaking, we rarely occupy ourselves with the present moment. Weare always either planning for the future, or reminiscing about the past.The present is merely the point in time at which we are engaging in one orthe other of those activities. We consider the present moment to essentiallybe a disposable unit of time, too insignificant to ponder. But from RoshHashana on through to Yom Kippur, we need to alter this perception.The Talmud teaches that Isaiah's words, “Seek God when He can be found” arereferring to these first 10 days of the New Year. According to thisteaching, we are now presented with 10 days — 14,400 minutes — that are likeno others during the year. These are minutes and days during which we arepromised by Isaiah that self-examination will be easier to accomplish, andthat the obstacles that ordinarily stand in the way of our ability toconnect with God will be removed. They are unique days and minutes, which wecan only capitalize on if we deeply enhance our appreciation of theoft-dismissed, oft-discounted present moment. The special opportunity isonly now.

This is the message of the first day's Torah reading. Sometimes the presentmoment really is like no other. There are times in life when neitheryesterday nor tomorrow can produce the same outcome as today can. There ismagic in the air these ten days. Forget the future for a while. The presentis calling.

Yosef Kanefsky is rabbi of B'nai David Judea in Los Angeles.