Bullock’s estranged husband shown posing as Hitler


Sandra Bullock’s estranged husband is seen in a US Weekly photo posing as Adolf Hitler, wearing a German soldier’s cap and giving a Heil Hitler salute.

The 2004 photo of Jesse James was taken before his marriage to Bullock and released this week amid the couple’s marital problems, which caused James to check into a rehabilitation clinic.

James’ attorney, Joe Yanny, told CNN that the Nazi hat was a gag gift from James’ Jewish godfather. James also lived for a month on a kibbutz in Israel, Yanny told CNN.

Obituaries


Michael Avganim died Jan. 27 at 61. He is survived by his daughters, Dorit and Corinne; mother, Margalit; and sister, Haya. Sholom Chapels

Bernard Barens died Feb. 2 at 96. He is survived by his son, Arthur; four grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Ellen Kaufman. Malinow and Silverman

Beverley Becker died Jan. 13 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Claire Bowman; son, Steven; sister, Selma Steinberg; six grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Nora Cohen Breckler died Jan. 30 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Peter and Andrew; and granddaughters, Emma and Charlotte. Hillside

Anne Caplan died Feb. 2 at 87. She is survived by her four nephews; three nieces; and sister-in-law, Ruby (George) Kuntz. Mount Sinai

Joseph Aaron Cohen died Feb. 5 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and sons, Aaron and Vidal. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Copper died Jan. 31 at 92. She is survived by her son Leon (Bobette); daughter, Fern (Michael) Chorna; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Alex Cramer died Feb. 4 at 97. He is survived by his son, Irl (Dina). Sholom Chapels

Harold Dresser died Feb. 2 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Norine; son, Mark (Carole Del Signore); daughters, Andrea (Barry) Fisher and Amy (Julio) Trejo; four grandchildren; and brother-in-law, Mickey Shapiro. Mount Sinai

Herman Friedberg died Feb. 5 at 98. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; sons, James (Susan) and Thomas (Sarah); two grandchildren; brother, Bernard (Arlene) Richards; and sisters, Miriam (Paul) Shulman and Flora (Moe) Schwartz. Mount Sinai

Rose Friedland died Jan. 31. She is survived by her nephew, Dieter (Sarah) Goldschmidt; and great-nieces, Lisa and Lori. Hillside

Fay Gak died Feb. 5 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Miriam (Jack) Grund; son, Carl (Carol); three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Dr. Fred Geller died Jan. 31, at 80. He is survived by his wife, Lyla; daughters, Bonnie (David) Aylesworth and Valerie; grandchild, Adam Aylesworth; and sister, Jacqueline Pearlson. Hillside

Hannah Gertz died Feb. 3 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Sherwin (Penny) and Bob; daughters, Sherry and Paula; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Lee Glanzer died Jan. 20 at 101. He is survived by his daughters; Rosalie Zemansky and Joan Rosenstein; three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Fredrick Raymond Glassman died Feb. 3 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Carol; daughter, Robin (David) Harris; son, Ramond; stepson, Gabriel Romero; two granddaughters; two great grandchildren; and brothers, Sheldon (Jerry), Charles (Linda) and Ray (Sharon). Malinow and Silverman

Arlene Grubman died Feb. 3 at 84. She is survived by her daughters, Judith Whitmore and Patricia; son, William; six grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Fern Siegel. Malinow and Silverman

Sylvia Goldstein died Jan. 31 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Harlene Schwartz; and sister Frieda Ellis. Hillside.

Nora Hecker died Feb. 4 at 97. She is survived by her son, Fred. Malinow and Silverman

Rhoda Heirshberg died Feb. 4 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Ben; sons, Art and Stan (Diane); daughter, Gayle (Richard Mah); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Elizabeth Izenstark died Jan. 29 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Joseph; daughter, Susan Rosenthal; one grandchild; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Ida Jarrett died Feb. 4 at 106. She is survived by her nieces, Mona (Arnold) Root and Audrey Croft. Malinow and Silverman

William Klein died Jan. 26 at 82. He is survived by his son, Leonard; daughter Beverly; two grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Abram Kleinman died Jan. 30 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Margarita; son Mark (Tanya); and grandson, Ethan. Hillside

Marion Koran died Feb. 2 at 93. She is survived by her sister, Vivian Katzin; and nieces, Roberta Bronstein and Geri (David) Small. Mount Sinai

Edna Kotick died Jan. 31 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Harry; daughters, Judy (Bob) Heimlich and Bonnie; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Joseph Linsman Feb. 4 at 97. He is survived by his daughter, Connie Gale; son, William; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Joseph Litvak died Jan. 31, at 92. He is survived by his son, Michael (Georgia); two grandchildren; and two grea- grandchildren. Hillside

Bernard Mack died Jan. 31 at 92. He is survived by his children, Pamela and Alan; two grandchildren; and brother, Lou. Mount Sinai

Rebecca Masliah died Jan. 30 at 93. She is survived by her husband, Albert; son, Errol; daughter, Esther; grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Sholom Chapels

Carolyn Meltzer died Feb. 4 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Terri Menter and Linda (Benjamin) Rubinstein; son, Dr. Larry (Joan); nine grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Lillian Mattis-Russin died Feb. 2 at 84. She is survived by her son, Ronald Palmieri; three grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Jack Mattis; Groman

Pauline Ofman died Jan. 31 at 99. She is survived by her son, Dr. William (Sheila); daughter, Dr. Anna (Thad) Berger; five grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marly Rauchway died Feb. 2 at 91. She is survived by her children, Susan (Harold) Fetterman, Enid (Erlend) Graf, Michael (Audrey) and Amy; six grandchildren; and three great grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Dr. Robert Rosen died Jan. 31 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; daughters, Deborah (Reno) Goodale, Rebecca and Stephanie; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jane Rosenfeld died Jan. 31 at 59. She is survived by her mother, Paula; brothers, Gary (Alice) and John (Frances); and sister, Ellen (Jeffrey) Arrow. Malinow and Silverman

Benjamin Saget died Jan. 30 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Rosalyn; son, Bob; four grandchildren; and sister, Thelma (Jonah) Shorr. Mount Sinai

Regina Sarko died Feb. 4 at 83. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Marie Sautman died Feb. 3, at 83. She is survived by her husband, Irving; children, Susan, Barry, Steven and Michael (Jullie); and six grandchildren. Hillside

Rainbow-haired couturier takes fashion fun seriously


Her natural hair color is brown, but Nony Tochterman hasn’t shown her roots in about 20 years. These days it’s a bubblegum pink, and in the past she’s tressed herself in Skittles hues, including green, blonde, orange, purple, fuchsia and lavender.
Color, after all, is a lot of what the 40-year-old fashion designer is about. Her line is called House of Petro Zillia. Named after the Hebrew word for parsley, it is a perfect moniker for her design aesthetic, which takes fun seriously.

“I’m a colorful person,” Tochterman said. “I like color; I like texture; I like mixing things together. I think my customer is a sophisticated, ageless, confident woman.”

Such women have found Tochterman’s clothing in upscale boutiques since the company’s inception in 1996, but Tochterman says a store of her own “has been in my head for years.” This month, she and her husband and business partner, Yosi Drori, celebrate the grand opening of a flagship store in the trendy strip of West Third Street, between La Cienega Boulevard and Fairfax Avenue.

“The store is not just about my clothes,” Tochterman said, “but about everything that I love — furniture, knickknacks.”
Tochterman is known in the industry for her whimsical feminine pieces, bold designs and unexpected color combinations, as well as a penchant for knits and vintage-inspired looks. The fashion of Petro Zillia is eclectic. It encompasses a retro sky blue cashmere sweater, with a rainbow and hearts on the front, but also a subtler, but still quirky navy silk wrap dress trimmed with pompoms, and a serious gray tweed flare skirt.

Her new store’s interior reflects this point of view. Shoppers enter into an open space subtly divided into three sections.
Up front, the feel is midcentury, with walls decked in mod orange and green wallpaper. Through the center, the mood changes to neoromantic. Tripartite walls are painted crackle pink on top, lime green in a center ribbon trimmed with gold-gilt molding and papered in a blue floral on the bottom. From the ceiling hangs a sizable chandelier that Tochterman says her husband found at “like a JCC donation center or something.” (Drori is responsible for most of the interior design.) In the back is a shift to ’70s psychedelic, complete with facing lime green loveseats: one tweed, one plastic.

Tochterman and Drori hope to make the location a hangout, in addition to a shopping destination. There are plans for a garden in the back under a big magnolia tree left by the previous tenant, the Shambhala Meditation Center. Next door to the store is a space the couple is converting into Tochterman’s design studio — one arena that has never felt foreign to her.
Tochterman grew up in Tel Aviv with a fashion pedigree. Her mother had a chic boutique, and Tochterman said, “I used to go to her studio, and she allowed me to work on the overlock machine.” By the time she was 7, Tochterman had learned how to knit, sew and cut fabric, and she eventually sold some of her pieces in her mom’s store.

At 14, Tochterman moved to Los Angeles with her parents and siblings, but she had trouble adjusting and moved back to Israel after a year and a half, living with her grandmother while she finished school there.

She returned to Los Angeles after she graduated. Soon after, she moved to New York to work in the fashion industry. Capitalizing on a huge late ’80s trend by making clip-on button covers, Tochterman founded a successful accessories line, Nony New York, with Drori in 1986.

They made the most of it while it lasted, but the trend was dead by 1995, and they closed the business. They traveled, had a brief stint as owners of a Caribbean hotel on Saint Martin and eventually found themselves back in Los Angeles with their infant son, Etai, living with Tochterman’s parents.

Petro Zillia was born soon after — an accessories line that quickly morphed into a full ready-to-wear collection. Some 10 years later, her designs have been featured in Vogue and W Magazine and worn by trendsetters like Jennifer Lopez, Cameron Diaz and Madonna.

Tochterman and Drori continue to work together on the business and personal life they share. The birth of Etai was followed four years later by a girl, Romie. The kids are now 11 and 7 years old, and in February the couple will celebrate their 20th anniversary.

Tochterman’s open personality translates into her life as well as her work. In her identity, she feels herself more American than Israeli. But she’s still “Eema” to the kids, and Drori is “Abba.”

Religion, too, is a relaxed thing. They celebrate Jewish holidays with the extended family but do not observe much at home. In terms of religious school, Tochterman and Drori have not made it a priority. The kids attend a secular private school in Santa Monica, where they live.

One could say her diverse fashion sense applies to her worldview, as well.

“The way we see it, we want to raise good people, religion blind, color blind, sexual-orientation blind — citizens of the world,” Tochterman said. “I like looking at the spectrum of their friends. Indian, Jewish, Italian — it represents the world better.”

It’s Pat — South African queen of kosher cuisine


Smoked duck with papaya salsa. Wild mushroom turnovers. Chicken roulade with sun-dried tomatoes and spinach. Sushi.
Hungry yet? Good.

You keep kosher? Not a problem.

These are just a few of the elegantly presented gourmet dishes created by Pat Fine, of Pat’s Restaurant and Pat’s Catering.
In the nearly three decades since Fine started serving up her dishes in the Southland, the kosher dining landscape has changed dramatically. As David Kamp chronicles in his book, “The United States of Arugula: How We Became a Gourmet Nation,” Americans of all stripes have been tutored in fine dining by a string of successful chefs, food critics, cookbook writers and restaurateurs over the last 30 years. This phenomenon has raised the bar for kosher cooking as well, creating demand for chic kosher dining.

Fine has been — and remains — a kosher cuisine pioneer in Los Angeles. Perhaps Rabbi Meyer May, executive director of the Simon Wiesenthal Center and frequent Pat’s customer, sums it up best: “She’s the queen of kosher catering, absolutely top of the line.”

Raised in Johannesburg, South Africa, Fine was one of four daughters. Her mother had very little interest in cooking, so Fine and her sisters were given free reign in the kitchen. Her father, a man who loved to eat, proved an enthusiastic recipient of his daughters’ culinary adventures.

Although had she expressed a desire to become a professional cook, Fine is convinced that her mother “would have freaked.” Cooking was thought of as “such an ordinary job, one that simply wasn’t OK for nice Jewish girls,” Fine said.
As a concession to her parents, Fine went on to university to train and work as a pharmacist.

“I was misguided,” she said. “Someone should have said to me ‘Why don’t you go to chefs school?’ I would have loved to go to Cordon Bleu or somewhere like that. But I didn’t, and I regret that.”

Continuing to live and work in Johannesburg, Fine met her husband, Errol. They married in 1970 and soon started their own family. While Fine’s parents were traditional Jews — they lit candles on Friday nights and celebrated the holidays — her in-laws were more observant.

“They kept kosher, so of course when I married I began to [keep kosher] as well,” Fine said.

As massive riots broke out in Soweto near Johannesburg in 1976, the Fines left South Africa with their three sons to start anew in California.

“I had never left the country until we emigrated; I didn’t even have a passport,” Fine said.

The Fines settled in Los Angeles, where Errol was the financial controller for a chain of men’s clothing stores. Pat was busy at home with their children, but still loved learning about food and creating new recipes, so she spent a lot of time “reading and experimenting on my own.”

Over time, more and more of Fine’s friends asked her to prepare food for celebrations and events.

“I was cooking out of my house. I was doing everything myself — the shopping, cooking, delivery, serving. It became too much,” she said.

Since large trucks were prohibited from frequenting her residential neighborhood, Fine would sometimes send deliveries to her children’s school and then transport items with her own car.

Fine expanded her catering with the purchase of a deli on Pico Boulevard in 1982, which she named Elite Cuisine. She soon opened a second Elite Cuisine deli on Beverly Boulevard near Hancock Park. (Although Fine has since sold both delis, the new owner of the Hancock Park location has kept the name.)

As Fine remembers, “When we started out, there were just places like Nosh and Rye. There was nothing else — just some falafel places, kosher hot dogs, deli food. I would tell people that we’ve got pasta salad and they’d say ‘macaroni salad?’ because that was all they knew.”

When she sold the last of her delis about 15 years ago, Fine consolidated her business, opened the fleishig (meat) Pat’s Restaurant on Pico Boulevard near Doheny Drive and expanded the catering operations. Around the same time, Fine said, she offered her accountant husband a job.

With Errol Fine running the business side — from managing 50 employees to handling details for events as far away as in San Francisco — Pat Fine is free to spend her time focused on food.

“He has a lot of charisma, so he meets with people. I prefer to be in the kitchen,” she said.

“It’s a very good partnership,” she added.

As kosher cooking has become increasingly sophisticated and customer’s palettes have become more refined, Fine said she endeavors to stay ahead of the curve. Inspired by her customers’ knowledge and by other creative chefs, Fine said, “Whatever they’re doing out there, say at Spago’s, we’re doing, but kosher.”

Despite her ongoing love for fine food, one shouldn’t expect an invitation for a home-cooked meal at the Fine residence any time soon. At the end of the workday, her home kitchen is the last place Pat Fine wants to be.

She warned, “If you ask me to make coffee at home it’s a big deal — you’re on your own. The most you’ll get in my house is a bagel and cottage cheese.”

Obituaries


Mildred Ball died Sept. 23 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Joseph and David. Malinow and Silverman

Albert Benaltabet died Sept. 28 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Allegra; daughters, Lynn (Don) Sonderling and Michele Smith; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, Samuel; Malinow and Silverman

Albina Bennett died Oct. 1, at 83. She is survived by her son, Dr. Martin; and daughter, Marilyn (Larry Mott). Mount Sinai

Edythe Bennett died Sept. 22 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Benjamin; daughter, Nina Cantley; and three grandchildren. Groman

Ann Boodnick died Sept. 24 at 94. She is survived by her son, Jerome (Aliza) Ben-Ner; daughter, Margartet (Norman) Arinsberg; five grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Groman

Sheldon Cohen died Sept. 22 at 60. He is survived by his father, William; and social worker, Ivette Rodriguez. Groman

Selma Comsky died Aug. 24 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Michelle Margolis, Jan and Andrea; sons-in-law, Jack Cousin, and Mark Margolis; and two grandchildren.

Sarah Decovnick died Sept. 22 at 100. She is survived by her sons, Stanley and Harvey; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Anthony Peter Merrill Dent died in July at 61. He is survied by his friends.

Gil Donchin died Sept. 26 at 42. He is survived by his parents, Emanual and Rina. Malinow and Silverman

Jean Dreisen died Oct. 3 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Janet and Betsy; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Selma Ruth Cohn Erso died Sept. 28 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Henry; son, Harold Rice-Erso; daughter, Robin (Michael) McIntyre; five grandchildren; and sister, Marcia Spiegel. Mount Sinai

Edward Ezra Feinstein died Sept. 23 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Li Jiang; and nephew, Dr. Eben. Malinow and Silverman

Anna Fox died Sept. 30 at 93. She is survived by her daughters, Helen MacKinnon and Marilyn Cooke; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Minnie Garr died Sept. 27 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Norman and Rabbi Ronald (Minda); three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; sisters, Fay Levy and Tamar (Dr. Gerald) Freeman; and brother, Nathan Frankel. Mount Sinai

Hanne Gilinsky died Oct. 1 at 73. She is survived by daughter, Margaret (Thomas) Noble; in-laws, Barbara and Jerry Werlin and Richard and Hetty Gilinsky; nieces; and nephews. Hillside

Elsie Goldstein died Sept. 29 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Maurice and Gerald (Naomi); and eight grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Harris Goldstein died Oct. 5 at 64. He is survived by his wife, Andrea; sons, Matt and Dave; two grandchildren; parents, Harold and Adeline; and brothers, Joel and Gary. Mount Sinai

Frances Shirley Kass died Oct. 3 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Reuben; daughters, Ilene Blok and Anne Bowman; and four grandchildren. Groman

Myer Keleman died Oct. 4 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Helen; daughter, Dorene (Steven) Shapiro; son, Steven (Laurie); four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Sylvia Keys died Sept. 27 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Stan (Dorothy), Paul (Carmen) and Harvey (Mickey); six grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren.

Alvin Klugman died Oct. 2 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Marjorie; daughter, Peggy (John) Cronin; grandsons, Paul and Bryan Cronin; and sister, Faye Hershman. Hillside

Sally Kraft died Sept. 28 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Sheila (Dr. Elliot) Leifer; three grandchildren; and five great grandchildren. Groman

Sol Lederman died Oct. 4 at 84. He is survived by his daughters, Jill Fine, Patti Rose and Sue Minkoff; four grandchildren; and sister, Rose Silverstein. Groman

Bernard Lifson died Oct. 3 at 94. He is survived by his son, Allan; daughter, Barbara (Mendel) Kahan; and grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Dr. Irving Madoff died Oct. 2 at 96. He is survived by his wife, Frances; daughters, Cindy (Bertrand) Marcano and Jane; grandsons, Stewart and Scott Marcano; and great-granddaughter, Hannah. Hillside

Benjamin Gale Mannis died Sept. 25 at 94. He is survived by his daughter, Lynn Hill. Malinow and Silverman

Steven Jules Markman died Sept. 30 at 59. He is survived by his mother, Esther Kevenson; son, Joseph; sister, Barbara (Bert) Pronin; and brother, Larry. Malinow and Silverman

M. Stanley Muskat died Oct. 3 at 96. He is survived by his daughters, Joyce and Carol; and nephew, Harvey Kates. Malinow and Silverman

Joseph Nathenson died Oct. 4 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; son, Larry; daughter, Jill (Thomas) Bassett; one grandchild; and sister, Shirley (Ken) Bassett. Mount Sinai

Denise Rachel Oschin died Oct. 1 at 52. She is survived by her daughter, Ritta Sophia Papadopoulos; stepmother, Aggi; sister, Renie. Groman

Edythe Pauline Ouslander died Sept. 28 at 91. She is survived by her son, Arnold; and one grandchild. Groman

Constance Passamaneck died Oct. 5 at 69. She is survived by her husband, Steven; daughter, Julia (William) Jensen; stepchildren, Evi (Scott) Graham and Daniel (Kelly); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Howard Pearlman died Oct. 4. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; son, Larry, (Janelle); daughter, Judy; three grandchildren; great-granddaughter, Georgia; and sister, Bernice; Hillside

Leslie Preston died Sept. 29 at 63. He is survived by his brother, Monty (Polly); and nephew, Darren. Mount Sinai

Maurice Rabin died Oct. 1 at 83. He is survived by his nieces, Wendy (John) Kelsey, and Maxine Blaurock; and nephew, Michael Pantel.

Walter Roth died Sept. 29 at 85. He is survived by his sons, Albert and Edward; and former wife, Henny. Sholom Chapels

Arthur Rothenberg died Oct. 2 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Maxine; sons, Richard, Howard and Phillip; daughter, JoAnn Mercer; six grandchildren; and three great- grandchildren. Hillside

Davis Sarkin died Oct. 3 at 80. He is survived by his sons, Allan (Lisa) and Ralph; daughter, Robin Haines; six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Rabbi Richard Ira Schachet died Sept. 20 at 70. He is survived by his daughter, Tamara (Wally) Schachet-Briskin; stepchildren; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Obituaries


Gladys Bloom died Aug. 27 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Penelope Rosenberg and Lois Tunick; six grandchildren; three stepgrandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Groman
 

I Was Kid Free and Guilt Free! For A Week!


My children were unexpectedly away for a week this summer, and I didn’t miss them a bit. Apparently, that’s grounds for expulsion from the Good Mommy Club.

My husband, 8-year-old son, 14-year-old daughter and I were on our way back to Los Angeles from a trip to Squaw Valley, and we’d stopped in the Bay Area to stay with family friends overnight. As we were packing the car the next morning and getting set for the long ride home, our hosts suddenly invited our two children to stay for the week.

“Don’t be ridiculous,” I said. “That’s way too much work for you.”
But they insisted that it was the perfect week for such spontaneity. Their own two kids, who are very close with ours, had nothing to do: no school, no camp, no anything.

“Let them all be together and have one last summer fling,” the mom said.
After a bit more requisite protesting on our part, my husband and I fished our children’s bags out of the trunk, went online to buy a pair of one-way airplane tickets for the following Saturday and found ourselves headed back to Los Angeles in a most unfamiliar position: just the two of us, alone.

At first, we felt more strange than giddy.

“Miss them yet?” my husband said after we had been rolling for, oh, three or four miles. But about halfway down I-5, it started to sink in: We realized that we’d been talking for hours and that no one had interrupted us to ask that we turn up the music (if it was theirs) or turn down the music (if it was ours). Or to tell us he was hungry. Or she was thirsty. Or had to go to the bathroom. Or to ask us when we would be arriving home — over and over and over again.

The next day I wasn’t even unpacked before I boasted to a friend — a bit smugly I admit — that we were child-free. She answered back: “You must miss them, though.”

“No,” I replied, “I don’t miss them at all.”

“Oh,” she said. “Wait a few days. You will.”

But I didn’t. Not then, not in a few days and not even on my last day of freedom. Frankly, I enjoyed every moment of it.

My husband and I dined out all but one night — and without the slightest consideration that my daughter doesn’t like Thai food or that my son won’t try Indian. We ate late, lingered over our last sips of wine and took long evening walks.

I slept in for a solid week, drank coffee and read my morning newspapers uninterrupted. When I sat down at my desk to work, my computer was not set on RuneScape, my son’s favorite online game. And my scissors, pencils and pens, pencil sharpener, dictionary, notepads and Scotch tape were exactly where I had left them the last time I used them. Miracle of miracles!

When I went to take a shower, no wet towels littered the floor, and I didn’t have to step over my daughter’s housecoat, blue jeans or discarded shoes to get there.

And every time I looked in the refrigerator or freezer for some juice, a piece of fruit, a bowl of ice cream, whatever, it was there because the hordes of teenagers that usually hang out at my house had not emptied it out five minutes after I’d returned from a $200 grocery store run.

I spent no time on the phone arranging carpools for my daughter or schlepping her to sleepovers, the mall or movies. My son did not noodge me for countless play dates, complain of being bored or pester me to buy him comic books or a Game Boy for his next birthday (still six months away). It was heaven.

I bragged to just about everyone I ran into that we were without our children for the week. Almost all of them asked if I missed them and almost all of them seemed surprised — some even slightly horrified — when I said no.

My husband asked me several times, as well, if I missed the kids, though he seemed more amused than shocked by my response: “Not even a little.”

Now, before you get your knickers in twist, know this: I love my kids deeply. And I was thrilled to see their sweet faces when they arrived home. But for goodness sake, they were gone for a blink. Next summer, I think I’ll try to convince them to go away for two weeks. Or maybe even three.

By then, after 51 weeks of togetherness, my Good Mommy credentials should be reinstated, my membership in the club renewed.


Randye Hoder is a Los Angeles-based freelance writer. Her work has appeared in the Los Angeles Times, Los Angeles magazine, The Wall Street Journal and others.

Rising Singing Star Pitches New Sound


Many young girls dream of a life on the stage, but few could have envisioned the career now enjoyed by Hila Plitmann, a Jerusalem-born soprano who these days makes her home in Studio City. Plitmann, 32, is not famous in the way that, say, sopranos like Renée Fleming, Deborah Voigt and Anna Netrebko are. She is not a star. But she is making a name for herself, and not by singing music by Puccini, Mozart, Strauss and Wagner.

Instead, Plitmann is building a career based largely on new music by composers like David Del Tredici, John Corigliano, Roger Reynolds and Esa-Pekka Salonen, the latter the longtime music director of the Los Angeles Philharmonic and something of a Plitmann champion. Indeed, Plitmann was one of two featured soloists in the premiere of Salonen’s “Wing on Wing,” written for the opening of the Walt Disney Concert Hall in 2003 and dedicated to its architect, Frank Gehry.

That work — for orchestra, two sopranos and Gehry’s voice sampled on tape — has become something of a calling card for the soprano, who most recently sang it at Disney Hall on May 31. That concert came on the heels of another at Disney Hall on May 9, in which she participated in premieres of Unsuk Chin’s vibrant “Cantatrix Sopranica” and Reynolds’ sprawling, multidimensional “Illusion,” two works commissioned by the Los Angeles Philharmonic New Music Group.

On June 7, she’ll appear in a less likely space, at Valley Beth Shalom synagogue in Encino, joining two other singers — mezzo-soprano Alma Mora Ponce and tenor Mark Saltzman, cantor at Congregation Kol Ami synagogue — for a performance of Dmitri Shostakovich’s “From Jewish Folk Poetry” and a selection of Yiddish songs. (The trio gave the same program at the Jewish Community Center in La Jolla on May 24.) She’s doing this in part, out of friendship for Neal Brostoff, who is producing the concert and accompanying the singers.

Though Shostakovich, who died in 1975, used Russian translations of the poems for his song cycle, musicologist Joachim Braun restored the original Yiddish texts in the 1980s. And it’s that version Plitmann and her colleagues are singing.

“From Jewish Folk Poetry” doesn’t require Plitmann to enter the vocal stratosphere, but her ability to do so has served her well and marked her for distinction. A coloratura soprano with a silvery tone who seems utterly at ease projecting high notes, Plitmann says, “I was always a screamer.”

She describes her father, an academic, as having “a beautiful voice” and her mother as a classical music enthusiast, but neither was more than a hobbyist. Both remain in Israel, as do the singer’s sister and brother.

Early on, Plitmann was an ambivalent pianist, and though she sang in a youth choir, she gave it up for athletics, particularly gymnastics, dancing and running — something her needle-thin dancer’s body still attests to. But she missed singing and soon found herself taking private lessons and enrolling in a music high school.

Unable to find the advanced vocal training she needed in Israel, Plitmann, at her teacher’s urging, enrolled in New York’s Juilliard School, where she earned bachelor’s and master’s degrees. But talented singer or not, she still had an obligation to the Israel Defense Forces.

“I did my basic training for the Israeli army in the summers, during my second and third years at Juilliard,” she says. “I learned how to shoot Uzis and run around in the dirt. It was very bizarre.”

Juilliard is also where she met her husband, Eric Whitacre, a composer.

“He wouldn’t leave me alone, so I married him,” she says. They now have an 8-month-old son, Esh.

Whitacre is composing an opera for his wife. Titled, “Paradise Lost,” and described as “opera electronica” on Whitacre’s Web site, the work is an amalgam of styles, including, techno, rave and ambient. Plitmann likens the music to that of Bjork and the Postal Service (the band, not the letter carriers).

Often, classical artists come to appreciate the rigors of modern music once they mature, but not Plitmann. Her interest in the new dates back to her childhood. That youth chorus her mother sent her to emphasized contemporary Israeli music. At 14, she appeared in her first opera, singing the role of Flora, the bewitched little girl at the center of Benjamin Britten’s “The Turn of the Screw.” And while still in high school, she sang Leonard Bernstein’s “Chichester Psalms” with the Israel Philharmonic.

Plitmann describes her specialization in new music as “an accident that turned into a choice,” noting that she likes “the challenge of learning something difficult, whatever the era,” yet singling out modern works for their “many dramatic elements.”

She says that audiences can’t be forced to love new music but insists that committed performances from artists like her can help sway them to be more open-minded.

“I find there’s more in contemporary music that can be used expressively than both musicians and audiences realize,” she says. “People think contemporary music is cold and intellectual, but that’s not always true.”

Plitmann is certainly no snob when it comes to music. Her personal interests extend to various forms of pop music, and even professionally, she makes choices that some might consider too populist. Her limited discography will soon include a song cycle to Bob Dylan texts called “Mr. Tambourine Man” by Corigliano, who won an Oscar for his score to the film, “The Red Violin.” And though she isn’t exactly getting star billing, Plitmann is the vocal soloist on Hans Zimmer’s soundtrack to “The Da Vinci Code.”

She got the job through a close friend of her husband’s and made the recording in London, an experience she calls “amazing.” The lyrics, she says, are meant to mimic Latin, though no actual language is being sung. The soprano admits that the score is “not the most complex music,” yet it has another virtue: it sounds good.

“I love singing beautiful music,” Plitmann says.

The “Shostakovich at 100 Concert” will be held at 8 p.m. on June 7 at Valley Beth Shalom, 15739 Ventura Blvd., Encino. For information, call (818) 788-6000 or visit

Obituaries


Leonore Arvidson died April 26 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Enid; son, Dean; grandson, Ben; sisters, Bea (Max) Perlberg and Char Goldberg; and brother, Stan Charnofsky. Mount Sinai

HERMAN BRAGER died April 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Betty; son, Steven; daughter, Rhonda; one grandchild; and sister, Estelle Singer. Hillside

Rodman Rubin Cohen died April 27 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Rose; sons, Jeffrey (Judie), Paul (Kathy) and Mark (Maribel); daughter Joan (Steven) Soltz; 12 grandchildren; and brother, Herman (Terry). Mount Sinai

SONDRA SHAMES-COHEN died April 27 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Morton Cohen; children Mickey (Steven) Lewis and Brad (Julie) Shames; 11 grandchildren; and one great-granddaughter. Hillside

Nettie Condon died April 26 at 91. She is survived by her sons, John (Cyd) and Frank; and granddaughter, Chloe. Mount Sinai

SUSAN COOPER died April 29 at 62. She is survived by her husband, Steven; son, Todd (Alexandra); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Morris Farkas died April 26 at 93. He is survived by his son, Morris. Groman

Jerry Freeman died April 30. He is survived by his wife, Aviva; daughters, Leslie Aaronson and Nili Ovsiwitz; one grandchild; and sister, Judith Kahn. Groman

MAX GEFFNER died April 26 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Valerie; sons, Sandy (Ellen) and Bob (Ellen); daughters Nola (George) Geffner-Mihlsten ; stepson, Steve; and eight grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Zena Gold died April 30 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Judith (David) Rosenthal and Maxine (Lloyd) Kouri; grandchildren, Greg (Barbara) Rosenthal and Tina Kouri; and sister, Ina Gruman. Mount Sinai

Mae Goldberg died April 8 at 98. She is survived by her son, Maurice; daughter, Marcia Gomberg; six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Bertha Goldstein died April 24 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Julian; son, Steve (Judy); daughter, Ellen (Stephen) Goldstein-Tersigni; three grandchildren; brother, Irving (Arlene) Shapiro. Mount Sinai

DOROTHY SARA HOFFS died April 22 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Dr. Josh (Tamar) and Dr. Malcolm (Ellen); six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren. Hillside

JACK JOSEPH JACOBSON died April 26 at 93. He is survievd by his wife, Libbie; children, Annee Tara (Tom Rumpf) and Tom Jacobson; grandchildren Ethan Jacobson and Leah (Jake) Schug; and great-grandchild, Alexander Joaquin Schug. Hillside

Arnold Kaplan died April 28 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Sheila; children, Alison (Jan) Kelleter, Howard and Lorn; two grandchildren; and mother, Mildred. Mount Sinai

Charlene Karwoski died May 2 at 74. She is survived by her daughters, Marcy Brenner and Rose Arellanes; sons, Sanford (Lena) Brenner, Frank (Kim), Vince (Mary) and William Arellanes; 10 grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and brother, Howard (Bea) Block. Mount Sinai

Morris Katz died April 24 at 92. He is survived by his sons, Martin and Carl; brother, Nathan; and sister, Gertrude Linder. Mount Sinai

Dr. Gregorio Kazenelson died April 24 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; and daughter, Debra (Jeff) Dean. Malinow and Silverman

Rose Kravitz died April 30 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Sheldon (Denise) and Herbert (Eleanor); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MATTHEW CAMERON LEWIS died April 26 at 18. He is survived by his parents, Adena Berger and Robert; grandparents, Sheldon and Venita Berger; and sisters, Rachel, Lilly and Olivia. Hillside

EMANUEL LIGHT died April 24 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Celia; sons, Jeffrey (Francine), Donald (Jane) and Dennis; four grandchildren; and two great-granddaughters. Hillside

Carol Love died April 25 at 56. She is survived by her sons, Bellaamy Mitchell, and John Brink; daughter Maydee Mitchell; and three grandchildren. Groman

Evelyn Magid died April 29 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Bonnie (Barrett) Bearson; son, Jerry; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

RICHARD NEAL NORTH died April 26 at 53. He is survived by his father, Milton; and cousin, Don Preston. Hillside

LISA BLOCH OLSHANSKY, died April 29. She is survived by her husband, Richard Olshansky; children, Amy Rose, Chaysen and Max; parents, Richard and Nancy Bloch; and brothers, Andrew and Jonathan Malinow and Silverman

Teresa Perchuk died May 1 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Felica Lopez and Silvia; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

MAC RAFF died April 29 at 86. He is survived by his son, Mitch; and sister, Sally Springer. Sholom Chapels

Nat Regenstreif died May 1 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Vivian; sons, Ron (Roxann) and Allan (Adele); three grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; and sisters, Irene (Martin) Travis and Marlene Semel.

Rebecca Rosen died April 29 at 91. She is survived by her son, Albert Rosen; daughter, Elissa Berzon; five grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Groman

Judy Rothstein died May 2 at 75. She is survived by her sons, Ron, Glen and Kenny; daughter, Gail Ream; two grandchildren; brother, Leonard Abraham. Groman

MARY ANN SACHERMAN died April 21 at 82. She is survived by her daughters, Lynne (Dennis) Fliegelman and Lynda (Michael) Rubenstein; grandchildren, Natalie and Alex; and sister, Sally Cole. Hillside

EDWARD SARROW died April 24 at 82. He is survived by his companion, Phyllis Ames; son, Ron; three grandchildren; brother, Arnie.

Marion Schneider died April 24 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Martin; children, Ronald (Terry), Avery (Barbara) and Wendy; granddaughter, Juliette; and brother, David (Gina) Tepper. Mount Sinai

ALAN SCHULTZ died April 21 at 61. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; sons, Randy (Jill) and Rob; mother, Bella; brother, Steven; sisters, Gail and Joy; and friend, Elaine Saller. Hillside

John Bruce Sills died May 1 at 62. He is survived by his wife, Patricia; mother, Edythe Fahringer; and brothers, Steven and Mickey. Groman

Henry Silver died April 27 at 94. He is survived by his nieces, Miriam (Asher) Harel and Jean Priver. Mount Sinai

Howard Sookman died April 30, at 80. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; daughters, Barbara (Cantor Edwin) Gerber and Sheryl; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

SHERRI LEE STONE died May 1 at 59. She is survived by her husband, Michael; children Aaron (Lisa) and Joshua; mother, Rebecca Orinstein; sisters Carol (Jon) Swinnerton and Harriet Orinstein; parents-in-law, Oscar and Shirley; brothers in-law, Bruce (Susan) and Hal (Lynda Stone); and eight nieces and nephews. Hillside

Adele Strauss died April 28 at 93. She is survived by sons, Dr. Ronald (Susie) and Stephen; granddaughter, Valerie; and niece, Helen Kurtz . Mount Sinai

Shirley Venger died April 27 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Paula (Ed) Albert; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

RANDY LEE WEIL died April 25 at 52. She is survived by her mother, Ruth; sister, Sharon (John) Aaron; and friend, Rabbi Judith Halevy. Hillside

SPENCER JAY WILLENS died May 1 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; children Douglas, Donald, Michael, Damon and Stacey; six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Gazella Yaffe died April 24 at 89. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughter, Barbara Feinberg; and two grandchildren. Groman

Obituaries


MIRIAM MOLAY ALBIN died April 10 at 89. She is survived by her son, Dr. David; daughter, Judy (Dan) Platus; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

Hanriet Shalom Barlava died March 31 at 80. She is survived by her son, Ezatollah; and brother, Jacques. Chevra Kadisha

Arthur Beer died April 8 at 87. He is survived by his son, Edward; daughter, Linda Fisher; three grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

MARVIN NELSON BIRKEN died April 10 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Mickey; children, Jim (Lois Courtney), Maxine (Richard) Eisenberg and Leonard; step-children, Carrie (Bob) Grodin-Vehling, Donna (Richard) Trubo and Marty (Elaine) Grodin; 12 grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Hillside

Betty Bledy died April 9 at 77. She is survived by her sons, Leslie and Mark; and four grandchildren. Groman

David Boder died April 9 at 83. He is survived by his son, Steve; daughter, Adrienne Azouz; and two grandchildren. Groman

SYLVIA BRAHINSKY died April 5 at 97. She is survived by her daughter, Sunny Deutschman; son, David (Linda) Brahinsky; five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Evelyn Cooper died April 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Nathan; daughter, Barbara Azar; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Dr. William Copen died March 27 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; son, Dr. Stephen (Naghmeh); and one grandchild. Mount Sinai

Ashraf Farahi died April 3 at 91. She is survived by her son, Mousa; and daughter, Angela Faradin. Chevra Kadisha

Beatrice Feldman died April 9 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; sons, Steven and Robert; daughters, Freddi Ann Horowitz and Deborah; seven grandchildren; brothers, Murray, William and Albert Balopole; and sister, Sylvia Tetenbaum. Groman

MARILYN FELT died April 4 at 68. She is survived by her husband, George; daughter, Laura (Steven) Baker; and grandchildren, Jed and Lucie Baker. Hillside

Dorothy Finestone died April 15 at 92. She is survived by her sons, Alan and Bill; and six grandchildren. Groman

WALLACE FISCHMANN died April 5 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Madelyn; daughter, Dr. Laura Havstad; sons, Scott and Steve; seven grandchildren; and brother Harvey. Hillside

ARTHUR FRANCAVILLA died April 8 at 89. He is survived by his son, Michael (Gayle); daughter, Melodie; five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

DONNA GLICK died April 12 at 57. She is survived by her husband, Marshall; daughters, Marni and Heather; brother Marvin; sister-in-law, Laura; and three nieces.Hillside

LEON GOTTDANK died April 6 at 83. He is survived by his niece, Sandy Bogin. Hillside

Richard Groff died April 8 at 85. He is survived by his sons, Vaughn, Carl and David; daughters, Lorraine Brake and Paula Pearlman; seven grandchildren; brother, Ray; and relative Eddie Hendricks. Groman

Melvin Jay Guthman died April 7 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Laura; son, Mitchell; daughter, Dr. Julie; one grandchild; and sister, Ruthe Pearlman. Groman

Sol Hauptman died April 8 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Adeline; son, Leslie; daughter, Dale Schneider; brother, Jack; seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Ann Hausman died April 10 at 84. She is survived by her son, Donald; daughter, Sheryl; sister, Dorothy Zettler; and five grandchildren. Groman

Boris Ibragimov died April 15 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Julia; and daughter, Angela. Chevra Kadisha

Justine Sophie Jaffe died April 7 at 84. She is survived by her son, Robert; daughter, Lisa Richards; three grandchildren; brother, Lawrence Wild. Groman

David Lou Kass died April 13 at 74. He is survived by his daughter, Michelle Meyer. Chevra Kadisha

Franklin Lewis Kent died April 14 at 85. He is survived by his son, Thomas; and brother, Edward. Groman

LOUIS LEMBERGER died April 10 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and seven grandchildren. Hillside

BARBARA LEVENTHAL died April 8 at 49. She is survived by her sons, Chad and Aaron Penny; brothers, Robert, Marvin and Brian; and sister-in-law, Dorothy Leventhal. Hillside

Ina Allene Levine died April 7 at 72. She is survived by her sons, Jeffrey and Jon; daughters, Jodi Levine and Jill Butterbaugh; mother, Myra Dorshkind; nine grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

ROBERT LIVINGSTONE died April 6 at 81. He is survived by his son, Keith (Nancy); daughter, Patti (Todd Finkle); grandson Joseph Ritzo; and sister Sharon, (Ted) Asnis. Hillside

Ray Evelyn Lowenstein died April 15 at 99. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Davis; and grandson, Howard Davis. Chevra Kadisha

Maurice Mazer died April 14 at 86. He is survived by his nephews, Claudio Balter and Laurence Balter; and nieces, Amy Friedlander, Lily Holland and Lucy Kihm. Groman

Iraj Manshoory died April 7 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Berokha; and son, Mike. Chevra Kadisha

Yaghoub Mehdian died April 11 at 52. He is survived by his wife, Guillermina; and son, Shahnum Josh Mehdian. Chevra Kadisha

Annette Miretsky died April 16 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Nina (Simon Asheroff) and Pamela; son, Donald (Bonnie); grandchildren, Izaah and Noah; sister, Linda Prosk; and brother, Marty (Hillary) Kamenir. Mount Sinai

Herbert Martin Newman died April 6 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Livia; and sons, David and Sam. Chevra Kadisha

Anita Bernstein Phillips died April 15 at 75. She is survived by her sister, Rosalind (David) Spielsinger; cousin, Judith Hyman; nieces; nephews; and friend, Naomi Mark. Pinelawn, N.Y.

Larry Rabkin died April 15. He is survived by his wife, Eleanor; daughter, Leslie (Mark); sons, Richard (Gloria), Mark (Randi) and Michael (Chip); five grandchildren; and sister, Fruma. Malinow and Silverman

Bess Raskin died April 6 at 95. She is survived by her daughters, Jo Anne Brosnahan and Gloria Rosenthal; three grandchildren; and nine great-grandchildren. Groman

Margaret Rose died April 17 at 99. She is survived by her nieces, Jackie (Reuben) Alvy and Linda; nephews, David and Michael; great-nieces; and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

Maurice Rosenson died April 10 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Bella; sons Bernard and Charles; daughter, Sylvie Deutsch; and eight grandchildren. Groman

ANNE SAKS died April 8 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Yonetta (Leonard) Asin. Hillside

Allan Rothenberg died April 9 at 81. He is survived by wife, Harriet; son, David; daughters, Marsha Kendall and Carol; four grandchildren; and sister, Luba Small. Groman

Mildred Sheanin died April 16 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Carol (Philip) Cramer; son, Stephen (Jackie Applebaum); three grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Henrietta (Irv) Levine. Mount Sinai

Beverly Rita Solomon died April 16 at 74. She is survived by her daughter, Fran; son, Michael; and stepbrother, Joseph Weissbard. Mount Sinai

Irma Templer died April 8 at 106. She is survived by her niece, Joanna Grun. Groman

Sylvia Miller Tishk died April 14 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Todd, Garth and Rex Miller; 11 grandchildren; sister, Ida Kofsky; and niece, Joan Gesson-Jacobs. Groman

Sura Vainberg died April 9 at 78. She is survived by her son, Yaakov Grinblat; daughter, Marianna; and grandchildren, Diana and Michelle. Chevra Kadisha

Phyllis Wiesenberg died April 17 at 82. She is survived by her son, Mark; daughters, Randi Chazan and Wendy Weisenberg; and one grandchild. Groman

Houshang Yadgari died April 17 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Jilla; and son, Allen. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries


Ruth Adler died April 8 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Michelle (Gevik) Bachoian; son, Frank (Karen); five grandchildren; and sister, Bella Cohen. Mount Sinai

Elana Belinkoff died March 13 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Adar; daughters, Dalia (Ira), Alisa (Howard), Dena (Sol); seven grandchildren; and sister Rama Zamir. Hillside.

Betty Bledy died April 9 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Arthur; sons, Mark and Leslie; four grandchildren; and two great- grandchildren.

Blanche Bloom died April 11 at 87. She is survived by her son, Noel (Susan); daughter, Maggie; three grandchildren; brother, Hal (Pat) Alexander; and nephew, Rob (Lisa) Miller. Mount Sinai

Israel David Borenstein died April 8, at 84. He is survived by his sons, Larry (Laurie) and Jeff (Judy); daughter, Blanche (Mark) Kraveitz; six grandchildren; and sister, Anna Gutwillic. Mount Sinai

Harriett Cherney died April 3 at 87. She is survived by her brother, Victor Bochacki; and sisters, Annette Bafo and Majorie Adamski. Malinow and Silverman

Allan Davis died April 13 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Beryl; sons, Gary (Victoria) and Paul (Ginnie); five grandchildren; and brother, Cyril Davis. Mount Sinai

Betty Ducat died April 7 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Shirley Laderman. Malinow and Silverman

Shirley Mae Epps died April 4 at 81. She is survived by her daughter, Lorry (Mate) Greenblatt; son, Jack (Cynthia); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Emanuel Finkel died April 7 at 94. He is survived by his son, Ted; and daughter, Irene Landsberg. Malinow and Silverman

Rose Fisher died April 4 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Arnold and Robert (Ofra); daughter, Verna Erez; six grandchildren; and sister, Ida Chisvian. Mount Sinai

LARRY GOLD died April 4 at 52. He is survived by his wife, Cindy; children Andrew, Olivia, Ian and Madeline; mother, Beverly; siblings, Donna (Bruce) Rothstein, David Ross and Lisa; sister-in-law, Penny (Jerome) Madden; and three nephews. Hillside

Mae Goldberg died April 8 at 98. She is survived by her son, Maurice (Arline); daughter, Marcia (Jerome) Gomberg; six grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Florence Goldstein died April 3 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Elsie (Jack) Hunn. Malinow and Silverman

Henry Goldstein died April 4 at 94. He is survived by his daughter, Beverly Cohen. Malinow and Silverman

Jack Greenberg died April 14 at 98. He is survived by his son, Anthony. Malinow and Silverman

Clifford Harris died April 7 at 58. He is survived by his wife, Ellen; sons, Kevin (Joanna) and Scott (Sierra); daughter Meggan (Adam Miller); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Florence Kauffman died April 11 at 88. She is survived by her husband, Richmond; sons, Andrew and Richard; four grandchildren; and brother, George Hausman. Malinow and Silverman

Rosaline Klein died April 5 at 92. She is survived by her daughters, Roberta Thompson and Francine Denmeade; six grandchildren; 12 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren. Groman

Anne Ladon died April 3 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Carol Alpert; and granddaughter, Julie Alpert. Mount Sinai

Michelle Ann Leve died April 2 at 34. She is survived by her mother, Deborah. Malinow and Silverman

Marian Le Vine died April 6 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Marsha Krieger; son, Jerry (Carole); six grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Harold Milton Lewis died April 11 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; son, Steven; daughters, Lynn Alschuler and Babette Walter; sister, Jean Remar; 14 grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Sam Lereya died April 14 at 100. He is survived by his daughters, Rachel Aflalo and Zaava. Malinow and Silverman

Max Lipshultz died April 9, at 84. He is survived by his children, Diane (Tony) and Michael; two grandchildren; brother, Fred; and sisters, Sara Agata and Eva. Mount Sinai

Mindla Majdat died April 3 at 94. She is survived by her stepson, Percy (Natalie) Cooper. Mount Sinai

Louis Marder died April 9 at 84. She is survived by her son, Sheldon; and granddaughter, Jennifer. Mount Sinai

Monroe Miller died April 7 at 90. He is survived by his sons, Kenny (Martha) and Jeffrey (Rich); and daughter, Marsha. Mount Sinai

Linda Barbara Moffa died April 6 at 58. She is survived by her husband, Philip; daughters, Sharon (Dr. Andrew) Horodner and Dr. Allison; and one grandson. Malinow and Silverman

Yetta Newman died April 9 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Dale (Carolee) and Jeffrey (Lila); six grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; sister, Helen (Sam) Weingard; and brother, Marvin (May) Berman. Mount Sinai

Dorothy Nissenson died April 10 at 92. She is survived by her son, Bernie (Marcia) Labowitz; grandchildren, Paul Labowitz and Shannon (Michael) Coleman; great- grandchildren, Kyle and Rachel Coleman; and cousin, Fern. Mount Sinai

Yoram Pourtavosi died April 10 at 48. He is survived by his wife, Shadi; children, Cobby, Elliot and Kevin; mother, Nosrat; sisters, Mehri (Hooshang) Davdodpour and Minou (Yoel) Eshagian; brothers, Yahiah (Dina Asheghian) and Joseph (Sohila); and cousin, Abbey Tabariai. Mount Sinai

Molly Rael died April 6 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Irving; son, Michael; and sisters, Eileen Phinney and Frieda Uretz. Mount Sinai

Beatrice Weisstein Ridgley died April 4 at 91. She is survived by her husband, Paul; son, Larry; daughter, Renee’ (Linda) Perez; three grandchildren; and sister, Thelma Sundick. Malinow and Silverman

Gloria Rudolph died April 4 at 78. She is survived by her son, Randy. Malinow and Silverman

Judith Sandler died April 12 at 87. She is survived by her son, Barry (Naomi); and two grandsons. Malinow and Silverman

Stuart Seidner died April 12 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Roxane; son, Daniel; daughter, Erin; mother, Ruth; brother, Gary (Luciano); and sister, Sandra (Robert) Rosenstein. Mount Sinai

Esther Shapiro died April 4 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Susan; son, Alan (Pearl); four grandchildren; and four great- grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Betty Ann Silver died April 3 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Rosalind. Malinow and Silverman

Nancy Sollish died April 10 at 98. She is survived by her son, Melvin; daughter, Pauline; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren.

Philip Solomon died April 3 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Claire; son, Barry (Linda); four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

Leon Harold Specktor died April 5 at 83. He is survived by his daughter, Denyse; and brother, Dr. Marshall (Marlene) Spector. Malinow and Silverman

Martin Stiller died April 6 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; sons, Neil (Kimberly) and Gary (Vicki); three grandsons, David, Jonathan and Wesley; and sisters, Elaine (John) Bush, Beverly Setser and Leslie Steiner. Mount Sinai

David Tamarin died April 5 at 87. He is survived by his daughters, Adreen DuBow, Judy and Faith; three grandsons; two great-grandchildren; sister, Anna (Glen) Popperwell; and brother, Carl. Mount Sinai

Randolph David Thornton died April 6 at 50. He is survived by his wife, Kim; daughters, Sean and Michelle; mother, Elizabeth; sister, Cindy; and brother, Michael. Malinow and Silverman

Irving Willner died April 5 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; son, Paul (Lynn Clancy); daughter, Julia (Scott) Parker; granddaughter, Erin Alyssa; and sisters, Shirley (Sol) Matzkin and Phyllis (Jonas) Herskovitz. Mount Sinai

Margaret Zelson died April 7 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Carol Miller. Malinow and Silverman

 

Rabbi’s Focus on Family a Little Fuzzy


The first episode of Rabbi Shmuley Boteach’s “Shalom in the House,” which aired April 10 on the TLC network, was a fast-paced account of five days the rabbi spent with a family in Philadelphia. Beatrice Romero, a single mother raising three teenage daughters and a 7-year-old son, sent the rabbi a tape asking for his help in bringing some peace to her home.

We see segments of the family’s prior life, with the children beating each other up and the mother absent from the picture or ineffective in making them stop. We are told that Luis, the father, had an 18-month affair, and the couple’s 17-year marriage ended about two years ago. Luis admitted to the affair when confronted by his 16-year-old daughter.

To complicate matters, one of the other daughters has begun a secret sexual relationship with her boyfriend, despite being forbidden by her mother to date until she is 18.

Boteach enters the picture on a mission, although we are not sure from the outset what it is. He introduces himself as having counseled thousands of families and being the author of a best-selling book on family life. As he drives to Philadelphia, he tells us that his own parents divorced when he was 8. “I was devastated, and at that early age, vowed I will make a difference.”

He might have chosen to become a family therapist or a child-focused therapist. Instead, he is a rabbi with a deep desire to fix problems. He reminds us that he practices what he preaches, since he has eight children of his own.

If he were a therapist, he would begin his work with this family by taking a thorough account of their history. He would want to know about the mother’s own experiences as a child, her parenting style, the kind of discipline she uses, how effective it is, what kind of relationship she has with each of the children, what is special and unique about each child and what kind of marriage she had prior to her divorce, as well as the current custody arrangements and the current relationships between the children and their father.

Boteach does not ask these questions. He makes his diagnosis immediately. He decides that the main reason the children are assaulting each other is because of their parents’ divorce.

“Without dad, Luis, the Romero family is losing its way,” he says. His solution is equally straightforward: “Divorce is a tragedy, and if we can save them from going through this torture, we must,” he tells the parents.

His mission is now clear: Boteach is going to get the parents back together and help them work as a team to parent their children. No, not as in the traditional help a therapist might offer divorced parents, such as assistance in understanding that they need to find a way to communicate with each other, because their children still need them to be effective parents. Instead, he focuses on actually getting the two back together as husband and wife, so that they can both be there to parent their children.

How does Boteach try to achieve his goal?

He does not rely on the therapeutic process, in which the person in therapy comes to understand his or her own feelings, obstacles and baggage, thereby finding renewed energy and motivation to change behavior. Boteach’s approach consists of using persuasion, gentle pressure, guilt, rabbinic wisdom and his ability to coach a basketball game.

Rabbinic wisdom is dispensed freely. When Beatrice expresses her frustration at not knowing how to stop the children from arguing and fighting, Boteach tells her that her daughters, who should be giving off softness and nurturing energy, are instead behaving like boys in the locker room — something he claims they learned from her, because she has been distant and withdrawn from Luis.

When Luis expresses disappointment that his daughter is having sex with her boyfriend, Boteach comes down hard on him: “A girl at 16 needs a man to tell her she is special. Your daughter needs a father now, not a boyfriend. You need to be a father to her and a husband and protect your daughter. You need to tell her she is special.”

Apparently, Luis also needs to know that it’s not Beatrice’s job to lay down the law in the home.

“Luis,” he says, “it is your job to lay down the law. Don’t be weak. Do the right thing.”

Later, Boteach addresses the audience, telling us that most men who have affairs are not thinking.

“If Luis can be a man, a dedicated, monogamous, loving husband, maybe I can bring this family back together.” he says.

To bring everyone together, Boteach says he needs to do something really different. He does this by bringing the family onto a basketball court, and as a “good coach” — as he refers to himself — he makes the mother and father play on one team and the children on the other. His goal, he says in an aside to viewers, is to make the parents work together in hopes that they will stop bickering and begin enjoying each other’s company.

He tries the same tactic again later, upping the ante. The family is going to engage in another activity — cleaning out the basement. This time, the rabbi informs us, “divorce is only a necessity if you can’t fix the situation.”

Before the family meets, he has a t?te-?-t?te with Beatrice. In the conversation, he uses guilt to make her give him another chance, telling her Luis still loves her. He has a similar conversation with Luis, in which he tells him, “The secret to life is that you can do whatever you want. If you want her back, and are sincere, you can make it happen.”

Then, as the family cleans out the basement, with Luis intentionally made the leader of the project, “even though he does not live there,” Boteach pipes in suggestions through a remote walkie-talkie, suggesting to Luis to get a drink for his wife and telling Beatrice to thank him for it. The family activity is topped off with Boteach telling everyone how much they need to respect Luis for doing something so selfless.

Based on the shots of the family taken two months after the episode, everyone seems to be doing better.

So, what exactly happened?

I am not sure, but it seems that the rabbi’s conservative, traditional values were well received and echoed by the values of the family. We are not told what the family’s religious affiliation is, but the girls appeared to be dressed in parochial school uniforms. Capitalizing on their religious values, Boteach was able to sermonize to them about right and wrong, to hold up traditional roles for men and women as an ideal and to make the family members believe that they had made a mistake that could be corrected.

In the second episode, airing Monday, April 17, Boteach relies on the same rabbinical wisdom, pop psychology and common sense to fix the problem of the Maxwell family, who requested help disciplining their 3-year-old only son, Zackary. We see Zack running down the street toward the curb, throwing temper tantrums. We see the child refusing to listen to his mother, brush his teeth or sleep in his own bed.

The parents, Greg and LynnSue have not slept alone together for most of the year, and Greg has a hobby of videotaping Zack’s every move and then posting the clips on a Web page, which gets hundreds of hits a day.

Boteach summarizes Zack’s problems as “a simple problem of discipline. Zack simply has too much control, and the parents need to sleep together in the same bed, without Zack there.”

So far, Boteach’s thoughts, though simplistic, and formed without much more information than what viewers have been given, seem to be on the right track.

To remedy the situation, he tells the parents that it is their job to set the rules, that 3-year-olds do not understand the concept of boundaries in an intelligent way and that children need their parents to set down the law. Having witnessed the parents struggling with Zack during bedtime, we can accept the notion that Zack feels he is the boss and needs some clear guidelines, with consistency and follow-through, all of which seems to be missing at the Maxwell home.

What becomes excruciatingly painful to watch are the couple’s attempt to keep Zack sleeping in his bed, having been told that it will only take two or three attempts over a couple of nights before Zack will comply.

I became furious watching Greg and LynnSue change Zack’s routines cold turkey, leaving him feeling helpless, lost and angry.

Boteach focuses only on fixing the problem, without regard to the complicated issues that come up for parents in setting limits, withstanding their children’s cries and being firm but gentle. He ignores the important process of helping parents set realistic expectations. When their new routine fails, he is taken aback by their displeasure with him.

The last telling and painful segment revolves around a video Greg shot of Zack having a temper tantrum. Zack was throwing around his trains and was given a warning to stop or lose the privilege of playing with them. Zack continues to throw the trains, and the parents gather up the whole set and put it away.

Greg takes out the camera to record Zack’s reaction. Zack becomes enraged, partly about losing his trains but also about being filmed, and he tells his father to stop. Greg ignores him.

When Boteach discusses this clip, he focuses on the problem of letting Zack express this much rage, which he believes needs to be “reigned in.” As a good Chasidic rabbi, he is following the dictum of “having anger is likened to serving idols.” By telling the parents that they simply need to find a way to control the temper tantrum, he not only loses their attention, but he also offers nothing to help the next time.

The rabbi shrugs off their disconnect, blaming the father for being insecure, fearful of being ordinary and resistant to his message. His parting words to the father are to forget about the camera and Web site, to focus on the family and the precious moments one has with them and not go after big bucks and fame. The father’s look has a mixture of frustration and thoughtfulness. Boteach is happy.

I was not.

As a religious Jew, Boteach’s sermons have a somewhat familiar, comfortable tinge. But, as a therapist, his mission and his methods grate on my professional ethics, my psyche and my nerves.

It is almost excruciatingly painful to see him in the first episode impose his own agenda on a family and through guilt, coerce them into making promises to him; telling them that he has the cure for all their ills, and finally committing one of the cardinal sins of working with children of divorce: asking the children in a suggestive way if they would like to have their parents back together.

It is equally enraging in the second episode to see Boteach “play therapist,” assuring the family he knows what he is doing and then watching them feel inadequate, let down and humiliated at their failure.

But, the most insightful piece for me, as a therapist, was to see how Boteach’s deep-seated painful feelings surrounding his own parents’ divorce remain with him — unprocessed and unconscious — and his deep-seated wish to have had someone walk into his home and do what every child of divorce dreams of: bring the parents back together, continue to live on in the present and be the driving force for one’s life work.

I also now can sleep better, knowing that therapists really do offer people something very different than clergy, co-workers, relatives, friends and colleagues.

Irine Schweitzer, a licensed clinical social worker, has a private practice in Sherman Oaks.

Is This Marriage Made in Heaven?


The night I met my husband was a warm evening in April and the smell of orange blossoms permeated the air. The date was “arranged” by mutual friends but I had lots of doubts about meeting their old college friend, a nice Jewish doctor from Los Angeles.

“If he’s such a great guy, why is he 31 years old and not married?” I asked myself as I pulled into the parking lot, totally missing the irony of my own unmarried situation.

I knew, even before the chips and salsa arrived, that my children would have his eyes. Deep, calm, caring eyes that had me convinced in less than a minute that I had come home to the place I had been traveling 27 years to find.

I didn’t know what it was called at the time but according to Jewish tradition, I had found my beshert, my true soul mate.

What is a soul mate? Is it a New Age concept that defines true love? Is it a catchy phrase used by romance novelists and publishers to sell books? Or does it mean something deeper and more essential, a spiritual bond between two people that is essential to fulfilling our heart’s destiny?

The Bible gives us a glimpse of the origins of a soul mate in Genesis 2:18 when God said: “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper corresponding to him.”

Loneliness is God’s first concern about us as human beings. There is a sense that we will not be happy alone; that we need to be connected to another human being to experience companionship, support and the struggles inherent in a relationship if we are to achieve personal fulfillment and reach our highest potential. Adam, the first man, may have been complete in his physical being but without someone to love, without a partner with whom to relate, he was spiritually and emotionally incomplete.

In the story of Isaac and Rebecca, we watch as Divine guidance directs the meeting of two people destined for one another when Abraham’s servant, Eleazar, prays to God for a sign. Eleazar barely finishes his entreaty when Rebecca appears and provides the exact sign that Eleazar had prayed for: She offers him and his camels water to drink. This is seen as more than a lucky coincidence; it is viewed as an act of Divine providence guiding Isaac to his true love.

The idea that heaven plays a part in the destiny of our hearts also appears in the Talmud, which describes a soul mate as someone who is chosen for us even before we are born. “Forty days before a child is born, a voice from heaven announces: ‘The daughter of this person is destined for so-and-so'”(Sotah 2a).

How does one find their soul mate? Jewish history provides us with several answers. Abraham’s servant, Eleazar, is our first example of a Jewish matchmaker, a man on a mission to find the right wife for Isaac. During the 12th century in Europe and Asia, it became customary to hire an intermediary, or shadchen, to find a suitable marriage partner. While this custom is no longer widely practiced, it is still followed in traditional Orthodox Jewish communities today.

Another answer has emerged from the world of technology. Jewish matchmaking in cyberspace is now a vibrant industry consisting of numerous Web sites offering successful matchmaking services for Jewish singles.

Not finding one’s soul mate does not mean that one will live a loveless life. There are many forms of love and many types of loving relationships that nourish the heart and elevate the soul. Although different from a soul mate, a soulful relationship is one born out of true knowledge, caring, respect and love for another person that imbues life with emotional and spiritual meaning and purpose. Soulful relationships can occur throughout our lives with friends, co-workers, respected teachers and family members, as well as in our efforts to know and love God. In all cases, it is through our search for love and the belief and faith that we will find it that we open ourselves up to finding soulful relationships, as well as our true beshert.

My husband and I will celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary this year. While some may view ours as a “marriage made in heaven,” we both know how hard we have struggled, worked, negotiated and compromised to make it a strong and loving relationship here on earth. When I look into his face and see the light reflected in the eyes that so closely resemble those of my children, I am reminded of a wonderful Jewish saying from the Chasidic rabbi, the Ba’al Shem Tov:

“From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls that are destined to be together find each other, their streams of light flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being.”

Amy Hirshberg Lederman is a nationally syndicated columnist, Jewish educator, public speaker and attorney. She can be reached at alederman@cox.net.

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My Jewish King Kong


It’s a sunny winter day and a friend and I fear for our lives as my husband, Ron Magid, screeches our oversized Chrysler east down Sunset Boulevard. We’re speeding toward the ArcLight Cinemas and a press screening of Peter Jackson’s “King Kong.”

The usually amiable Ron swears at traffic, and when we arrive an hour early, he leaves our pal, Freeman, and me in the dust.

“He’s running ahead, like a little kid,” Freeman muses as we breathlessly catch up, only to find the cinema’s massive glass doors locked.

It’s not surprising that my husband is the first in line at one of the earliest “Kong” press screenings. He’s loved the giant simian since he first watched the 1933 classic film on TV when he was 7. And not just because the giant ape kicked dinosaur a–, trashed Manhattan and chewed up both island natives and a native New Yorker.

“Kong in his own realm was king of the jungle, just like a little kid is king in his own imagination,” Ron recalls as we stand in the sunshine. But he was dethroned when he was captured, and tormented in the urban jungle of Manhattan. Ron relates because he was picked on in the urban jungle of school.

“I felt pigeonholed as a nerd who liked monsters and hated sports,” he says.

As a child, Ron didn’t understand that there also was something distinctly Jewish about his bond with monsters and Kong.

Jews have also been reviled and accused of unspeakable crimes, such as murdering babies for their blood. Ron reminds me that while Bela Lugosi’s Dracula does kill for blood, the vampire considers this predilection (and his immortality) a curse. “To be dead, to be truly dead — that would be glorious,” he says in the 1931 film.

In the here and now, it’s a revenge of the nerds for 44-year-old Ron, as for so many other film geeks who grew up to help shape popular culture. He’s considered a top journalist on special effects and genre movies; Premiere hired him to write about why the original Kong is still king.

Not that Ron has anything against the new film or its director Peter Jackson. A few years ago, he personally bonded with the noted director, a fellow “Kong” enthusiast, after a Writers Guild screening of Jackson’s epic “Lord of the Rings: Return of the King.” Jackson looked exhausted when viewers rushed him after the Q-and-A. But he brightened when my husband shook his hand, recalling how Ron and a friend had restored a 2 1/2-foot-long stegosaurus puppet from the original “Kong.” Jackson had later purchased the puppet for a rumored $250,000.

Back at the ArcLight for the press screening, we wait more than 20 minutes before the cinema’s doors finally swing open and we snag the best seats in the house. Before long, a regiment of movie journalists surround Ron, because he co-authored (with Phil Savenick) the documentaries that are included on Jackson’s restored DVD versions of 1933’s “Kong.”

“I just geeked out,” Chris Gore, the founder and former editor of Film Threat magazine, gushes about the documentary featurettes. “I thought I knew everything about ‘King Kong,’ because I’ve been reading about it since I was a kid, but I was wrong.”

Clearly in his element, Ron promptly regales this mini-throng with tales about the original movie. He recounts how the 1933 film’s producer and director were themselves intrepid explorers who shot documentaries in distant lands. A fellow explorer inspired them to make the giant ape flick when he captured a Komodo dragon and brought it back, Kong-style, to New York, where it languished and died in captivity in the Bronx Zoo.

The original Kong may appear to be an uberbeast, but he was in reality an 18-inch-tall stop-motion puppet — a fact the studio kept secret to ensure viewers were properly terrified.

Despite special effects that are crude by today’s standards, the original Kong arguably reigns supreme because of his “performance,” which renders him an iconic tragic hero. Animator Willis O’Brien was somehow able to channel his personal angst into the character. His unstable wife — who had attempted suicide twice in the 1920s — suffered from cancer and tuberculosis as well as ongoing mental illness during the production. (Soon after the release of “Kong,” she fatally shot the couple’s two children at her Westwood apartment.)

At this point, the ArcLight conversation turns to movie child murderers, such as Peter Lorre’s creepy character in 1930s “M,” as everyone munches oversized buckets of popcorn.

“Ron finds monsters like Kong comforting because the real-life ones are far worse,” says Freeman, offering some freelance psychotherapy between bites.

But he’s on to something. Ron was shaken, as a child, to learn of the pogroms endured by his Polish and Latvian grandmothers; one had witnessed her mother being pushed down the stairs. And he happened to learn about the Holocaust, at Sinai Temple’s religious school, around the time he first saw “Kong” at age 7.

“I had a bit of a persecution complex to begin with and then I found out that being Jewish would make me even more of a target,” he says. Just as Jewish artists created Superman during the Shoah, Ron wished for a Kong-like superhero to stomp out anti-Semites (as well as the schoolyard bullies).

Kong, like many classic monsters, was “unloved and misunderstood,” Ron adds. His blue eyes tear up as he describes Frankenstein’s monster as “an abused child.”

Frankenstein was the first model kit he built, at age 5; two years later came Kong, who was bigger, more intricate and expensive ($1.49 instead of $.99 at a hobby shop on Pico Boulevard). After completing the figure, he scoured the TV Guide for a screening of the film, which helped spur him to meticulously research monster movies and moviemaking. He’d pull a book from under his covers at bedtime, and read with the help of light filtering into his dark bedroom from the hall. At the same time he was parlaying his allowance into what would become a prodigious collection of horror and science fiction memorabilia.

His therapy was his obsession; his obsession became his outlet; his outlet became his professional art and craft. How Jewish is that?

Ron is happy that the new “Kong” is getting Oscar consideration. And he drinks up the good notices for the DVDs of the 1933 version.

Nothing, though, will change him from the boy who loved to collect monsters.

Freeman, a movie poster and prop dealer, wants to know how Ron got his “Kong” props: spears, drums and shields as well as fellow simians from “Planet of the Apes” (Zira and Cornelius figures stand in our bedroom).

Ron replies that he bought them for bupkis two decades ago from propmasters at Culver Studios, who were about to throw them in the trash. Ron will never part with them, nor the luridly colorful press-book cover of 1933’s Kong rampaging across Manhattan, which dominates our dining room.

Ron is sure he’ll like the Jackson film, but for him, nothing will dethrone the original.

“The hat trick of that movie is that the filmmakers don’t do the clichéd things to make the character beloved to the audience,” he says as the theater lights dim. “He rages, has no regard for humanity, and every character despises him, even Fay Wray. The only people who love the original Kong are the audience members.”

And Ron perhaps most of all.

The 1933 “King Kong Two-Disc Special Edition” DVD and the “Collector’s Edition” are available in stores.

 

Obituaries


Cecile Abers died Nov. 26 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Emanuel; daughter, Laurie; one grandchild; and sister, Beverly Sloane. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Balman died Nov. 22 at 89. She is survived by her cousin, Harvey Pollak; and friend, Lyudmila Siderman. Mount Sinai

Margaret Berkowitz died Nov. 27 at 99. She is survived by her daughter, Sally Blecher; four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild; and sister, Bernice Getzug. Groman

David Blaustein died Nov. 25 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Belle; daughter, Lenore (Steve) Newman; son, Paul (Nancy); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ruth Leah Brackman died Nov. 27 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Beverly Diaz; and son, Dr. Harold. Malinow and Silverman

SARAH BRENESSEL died Nov. 28 at 89. She is survived by nieces Joyce (Jon) Hewitt, Karen Peterson and Betty (Mike) Pongracz; nephews, Steven (Diane), Darrell (Chris) Cozen, Glenn (Debra) Cozen; and “adopted son” Rob Hearsch. Hillside

Aziz Cohanshad died Nov 27 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Ashraf Rabizadeh; son, Mehrdad; daughter, Rebecca; and nephew, David. Chevra Kadisha

Dorothy Danoff died Nov. 27 at 87. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughter, Robin (Walter) Adler; and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Warren Delson died Nov. 25 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Olga. Malinow and Silverman

Lorraine Feldman died Nov. 23 at 70. She is survived by her husband, Martin; daughters, Barbara MacDonald and Melody Feldman; and sister, Irene Van Deusen. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Feuerstein died Nov. 22 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Arnold; daughter, Roberta; son, Elliot (Diane); four grandchildren; sister, Edith (Herbert) Turk; and brother, Eli Reinhard. Malinow and Silverman

Jean Fink died Nov. 24 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Joseph; daughter, Joanne; and sons, Jonathan and Jeffrey. Malinow and Silverman

Marion Brown Finnley died Nov. 22 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Lee (Ed) Madick and Annette (George) Sykulski; son, Marvin (Hannah); and eight grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Sara Frankel died Nov. 23 at 75. She is survived by her sons, Jordan, Steven and David; seven grandchildren; brother, Arnold Rubin; sister, Yetta Barack. Groman

Harry Friedman died Nov. 22 at 93. He is survived by his, wife, Mary; son, Bruce (Monique); daughter, Susan Klein; four grandchildren; one great-granddaughter; and sister, Bessie Anglein. Mount Sinai

HARRY FULTERMAN died Nov. 23 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Leah Kaplan; son, Martin; three grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and friends Ida Nagin and Luis Manapat. Hillside

GISELLE GANZ died Nov. 21 at 82. She is survived by her son, Sheldon; daughters, Judith (Eli) Pelman and Karine Grunfeld; six grandchildren; brother, Alan Rogier; and sisters, Judith Rosenberg and Ramola Robins. Sholom Chapels.

Harry Greenberg died Nov. 27 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Ida; daughter, Trena (Ronald) Thompson; son, Jack (Elsie); four grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; sisters, Pearl Zeiler, and Rosie Sinclair; and brother, Morty. Mount Sinai

Lee Elizabeth Herzikoff died Nov. 22 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Marci Cohen; and son, Jim. Malinow and Silverman

Daniel David Isenberg died Nov. 21 at 47. He is survived by his mother, Molly; daughter, Elizabeth; son, Michael; brothers, Eric and Philip; and sister, Karen Fiske. Malinow and Silverman

Pola Diament Goldfeld died Nov. 26 at 78. She is survived by her daughters, Brenda Nemeth and Dr. Anne; granddaughters, Hayley and Hope; nephews, Dr. Henry (Leslie) and Dr. Buddy (Jacque Jones) Ullman; niece, Laura Ullman (Mark Epstein); and brother-in-law, Isaac Ullman. Mount Sinai

Albert Greene died Nov. 28 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; sons, Dr Bill (Marilyn), John (Marie) and Bob (Trisha); stepdaughter, Ellen (Wilbur) Faulk; six grandchildren; and sister, Shirley Brill. Mount Sinai

Irma Greenfield died Nov. 23 at 87. She is survived by her niece, Cara (George) Gordon. Malinow and Silverman

Leonard Hale died Nov. 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; son, Joseph; daughter, Ellen Wood; and five grandchildren. Groman

Miriam Katz died Nov. 25 at 88. She is survived by her son, Arthur Geilman; daughter, Judy Goldstein; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren; sister, Marjorie Cohen. Groman

Barbara Kubert died Nov. 25 at 68. She is survived by daughter, Heather (William) Thomas; son, David (Pagona); mother, Lucy Margolis; and brother, Ray (Carol) Kirschbaum. Mount Sinai

Fortunee Alcahe Lahana died Nov. 27 at 90. She is survived by her daughters, Jeanette Resnik, Lina Dyen and Sarah Helfing; sons, Jim and Dr. Daniel; 14 grandchildren and 13 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Estelle Lit died Nov. 25 at 84. She is survived by her daughter, Bonnie (Terry) Ramey; son, Jeff Franco; three grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sister, Annabelle (Arthur) Sandler. Mount Sinai

Diane Miller died Nov. 24 at 86. She is survived by her sister, Shirley Hellman; nephews, Cary (Linda) and Avery (Nancy) Hellman; niece, Beverly (Marty) Zisner; one great-nephew; and two great-nieces. Mount Sinai

MILTON MILLMAN died Nov. 23 at 87. He is survived by his son, Michael (Marie); daughter, Lisa (Gene) Worton; and grandsons, Jeffrey and Brian. Hillside

RICHARD MOUALIM died Nov. 27 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Marcia; son, Jeffrey; and sister, Kate (Sam) Crofts. Hillside

Mildred Peskowitz died Nov. 23 at 90. She is survived by her son, Barry Charles; daughter, Ruthlee Becker; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Eva Pepper died Nov. 27 at 54. She is survived by her husband, Richard; sons, Aaron and Ethan; daughter, Brenna; mother, Serena Blumenfeld; and sister, Sherry Rothstein. Groman

Frances Platzer died Nov. 27 at 91. She is survived by daughters Lori (Michael) Solomon and Meril; five grandchildren; sisters Ruth Wasserman and Irene Robinson; nieces; and nephews. Groman

Ferdose Rabbani died Nov 24 at 80. She is survived by her son, Hamid; daughter, Tamar Bakshian; and grandaughter, Atoofa. Chevra Kadisha

Jean Riskin died Nov. 24 at 96. She is survived by her sons, Lester and Sheldon; daughter, Myrna; and sister, Minnie Joseph. Mount Sinai

Jeff Robinson died Nov. 26 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; son, Adam; daughter, Sabrina Hansen; one grandchild; mother, Sophie; and sister, Janice Kriegel. Groman

Esther Rubenstein died Nov. 3 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Arthur; son, Howard (Lauri) Roberts; daughter, Sue (David) Northrup; granddaughter, Rachel (Tim) Davidson; and great-granddaughters, Emilee and Jacqueline. Mount Sinai

EDYTHE SCHWARTZ died Nov. 25 at 101. She is survived by her son, Merton (Jacqueline); daughter, Elaine Marshall; three grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Hillside

HARRIETT SCHWARTZ died Nov. 24 at 86. She is survived by her son, Gary; and daughter, Rhonda. Hillside

Marion Shafer died Nov. 25 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Ilene (George) Chiochios and Lois (Michael) Bergman; four grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Doris Siegel died Nov. 25 at 77. She is survived by her daughters, Susan (Harvey) Lopez-Giss and Joann (Elaine Chernoff); sons, Scott (Nikki) and Jerry; and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Leon Tabak died Nov 24 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Rebeca; daughters, Aida Kaufer and Vivian; six grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren.

Sadie Weizer died Nov. 23 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Marc (Lorrie) and David (Christine) Winters; seven grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Dr. Murray (Trudy) Grant. Mount Sinai]

 

Obituaries


JACK ADRIANUS ABBENHUYS died Nov. 11 at 73. He is survived by his domestic partner, Helen Jasik; sons, Jimmy and Jerry; and brother, Frank. Hillside

Rosalyn Abrams died Nov. 16 at 77. She is survived by her son, Howard (Dawn); daughters, Sherry (Marc) Rosenberg and Elaine (Richard) Lucia; six grandchildren; and brother, Edward (Fay) Schneier. Mount Sinai

SIDNEY MELVIN BAKER died Nov. 12 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; sons, Neil and Gary; and one grandchild. Hillside

Irving Baron died Nov. 14 at 86. He is survived by his son, Fred; grandchildren, Jennifer (Michael) Van Iersel and Josh (Tracy); great-grandchildren, Ethan and Alec; and sister-in-law, Florence Kirchner. Mount Sinai

Gary Anton Berge died Nov. 6 at 51. He is survived by his mother, Fay. Groman

Allan Bluestein died Nov. 8 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Selma; and daughter, Ilene Kosof. Malinow and Silverman

Elizabeth Straus Boasberg died Nov. 10 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Susan Turner; son, Dr. Peter; and sister, Barbara Weil. Malinow and Silverman

Jonathan Delamere Booth died Nov. 18 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Nancy; sons, Sean and Michael; daughter, Andrea Yakerson; two grandchildren; mother, Mary Scibetta; and brothers, Nat, Jim, Bill and Tom. Groman

BERNARD BROWN died Nov. 16 at 94. He is survived by his son, Roger; daughter, Barbara ( Edward); grandchildren, Ryan (Amy) and Erica (Bill), four great-grandchildren; sister, Zelda; brother, Harold; companion, Shirlee Tzinberg; nieces; and nephews. Hillside

Blanche Brussell died Nov. 18 at 82. She is survived by her daughters, Bobbette Kemp and Heidi Brosnan; five grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

HELEN CHAPNICK died Nov. 4 at 98. She is survived by her son, Michael. Sholom Chapels.

Vivian Churg died Nov. 7 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Warren and Dr. Andrew; and two grandchildren. Groman

ANITA COHEN died Nov. 3 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Karen Knapp and Marilyn Candus; son, Richard Candus; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

RALPH DAYAN died Nov. 17 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Nina; daughters, Irma Silberman and Judy (Tony Jones); grandchildren, Ilana (Kevin) Hinners and Aaron Silberman; brother, Clement; and sisters Alice, Allegra and Nina. Sholom Chapels.

RENE DOMROY died Nov. 3 at 85. She is survived by her son, Ted (Donna); two grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Bernice Duban died Nov. 8 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Susan; and son, Larry. Malinow and Silverman

Seymour Eidman died Nov. 9 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Rhoda; son, Richard (Lisa); daughter, Adrienne (Val Tierney); grandchildren, Rachel Wells and Daniel; sister-in-law, Natalie Goodman; and brother-in-law, Saul (Lenore) Roseman. Mount Sinai

Dorothy Fisher died Nov. 15 at 91. She is survived by her son, Mark; daughter, Arlene; and three grandchildren. Hillside

STAN FLINKMAN died Nov. 15 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; sons, Lewis, Michael (Penny) and Russell (Marta Jevenois); daughter, Linda (Marty Humphreys) daughter-in-law, Gina Oken; and three grandchildren. Hillside

J. Harold Fox died Nov. 15 at 98. He is survived by his friends. Malinow and Silverman

DONALD LEON FRANKLIN died Nov. 9 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Marie; son, Cary; grandchildren, Emily and Hannah; and sister, LaVerne Kayne. Hillside

Marilyn Freeman died Oct. 14 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Paul Freeman; daughters, Louise (David) Goldstein and Sandy (Bob) Hart; and three grandsons. Mount Sinai.

JOEL FRIEDHEIM died Nov. 5 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Sherry; children; and parents, Max and Pat. Sholom Chapels.

Meyer Friedlander died Nov. 7 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Dorothy; sons, Norman, Gary and David; five grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, Murray. Groman

Eunice Fruchtman died Nov. 6 at 75. She is survived by her son, Michael; three grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, David Dashevsky. Groman

Jean Gardsbane died Nov. 13 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Herman; sons, Steven Dale and Kenneth; and three grandchildren. Groman

Muriel Roselyn Garver died Nov 3 at 79. She is survived by her son, Bruce (Alicia); and daughter, Rita Margaret Besikof. Chevra Kadisha

Alfred Geibelson died Nov. 5 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Mitzi; son, Jeffrey (Melody); daughter, Vicki Sostman; 18 grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Al Gerow died Nov. 3 at 78. He is survived by his daughters, Barbara Flax and Sharon (Jeff) Jacobs; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Claire Freeman. Groman

David Goldberg died Nov. 8 at 90. He is survived by his son, Joel. Malinow and Silverman

Ettie Golden died Nov. 5 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Steven (Nancy) and Kenneth; daughter, Susan Weinreb; five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Anne Goldstein died Nov. 12 at 88. She is survived by her son, Jerry (Colleen); daughter, Lea (Brian) Greenberg; grandson, Brian; and brother, Ben (Sally) Slavkin. Mount Sinai

MALCOLM GREGORY GORDON died Nov. 17 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Annette; son, Bruce; daughter, Heidi (Bob) Bendetson; and six grandchildren. Hillside

Ann Gorowitz died Nov. 10 at 76. She is survived by her daughter, Susan (Andy); son, Warren (Phil Levin); and grandsons, Alex and Harrison Trachman. Mount Sinai

STEPHEN LEWIS GRACE died Nov. 7 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Marcia; daughters, Marjorie (Jeffrey) Grace-Sayers, Anna (Jim) Blanc and Debora; six grandchildren; brother, Irv; sisters, Alice Lapan and Rose; and niece, Marion Lapan. Hillside

Henry Grossberg died Nov. 8 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Lola; sons, Leonard and Rudy; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

THEODORE HARRIS died Nov. 3 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Constance; and son, Steven. Sholom Chapels.

Hyman Samuel Heimowitz died Nov. 17 at 78. He is survived by his niece, Barbara Goldberg. Malinow and Silverman

Shirley Lana Heller died Nov. 3 at 59. She is survived by her sister, Linda Scholl. Malinow and Silverman

Ann Bachner Hirsch died Nov. 16 at 93. She is survived by her son, Samuel (Arleen) Bachner; daughter, Glenda (Melvyn) Schneidman; four grandchildren; 11 great-grandchildren; and sisters, Faye Reisman and Shirley Miller. Mount Sinai

Janet Hyman died Nov. 13 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Edward; daughters, Kathi (David) Sandweis, and Laura (Brett) Kaufmann; three grandchildren; sister, Zona; and brother, Stephen (Barbara) Bernstein. Mount Sinai

Joseph Horst Joffe died Nov. 8 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Janet; sons, Larry (Sharon) and Martin (Kathy); three grandchildren; sisters, Judith Schwartz and Seldi (Harold) Ruchlin; and brother, David. Malinow and Silverman

Harold Kahn died Nov. 16 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; son, Richard; daughters, Dr. Myra Lipsey and Marlene; and two grandchildren. Groman

IRENE KALLISON died Nov. 5 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Marvin; daughters, Jane (Harry) Bruckel and Lynn; sister, Alma Malet; and brother, Leonard Swatt. Hillside

Henrietta Katz died Nov. 12 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; son, Robert; daughters, Julie Meyers, Laurie Matuso and Marsha Sasville; five grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Lawrence Lesser; Groman

MARVIN KOMORSKY died Nov. 14 at 73. He is survived by his wife Linda; son, Jason; daughters, Marci, Sherri, and Melissa; and four grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Audrey Doreen Koz died Nov. 4 at 73. She is survived by her husband, Melvin Pearlman; sons, Jeffrey and David; daughter, Roberta Wilson; stepdaughters, Debra Pearlman, Linda Lentz and Ellen O’Regan; and eight grandchildren. Groman

RUTH GOLDSCHMIDT KUNZER died Oct. 9 at 90. She is survived by her sister, Mirian Solomons; nieces; nephews; and cousins.

Edward Lash died Nov. 15 at 79. He is survived by his son, David (Beth Becker); daughter, Karen; granddaughters, Drew and Ryan; and sister, Dale (Len) Pitt. Mount Sinai

Ester Lavi died Nov 3 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Parviz and Ibrahim; daughter, Meira Yedidsion; and grandson, Elazar. Chevra Kadisha

ROBERT LAZARUK died Nov. 14 at 74. He is survived by his son, Kirk (Samantha). Sholom Chapels.

Miriam Leboff died Nov. 10 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; daughters, Dr. Ellen Leboff-Ried, Dr. Judith Leboff-Levi and Karen Migdal; seven grandchildren; sister, Losa (Rabbi Benjamin). Groman

Ethel Lee Lenske died Nov. 5 at 97. She is survived by her sons, Sherman and Stephen; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

Betty Lerman died Nov. 8 at 94. She is survived by her niece, Joanne Talpins. Malinow and Silverman

Maximilian LeRoy died Nov. 3 at 30. He is survived by his mother, Kay; and sister, Carolyn. Malinow and Silverman

HARRY LEVIN died Nov. 14 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Rose; daughter, Fern (Sam Flores); and son, Roy. Hillside

Hedy Linstone died Nov. 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Harold, sons, Clark and Fred (Elissa); and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ruth Lipsey died Nov. 2 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Lewis and Marty; and sister, Hannah Lotnick. Groman

MARIAN ROSE LIVINGSTON died Nov. 10 at 88. She is survived by her son, Larry; daughter, Laura Beck, six grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Robert David London died Nov. 15 at 51. He is survived by his mother, Jean. Malinow and Silverman

Murray Louison died Nov. 8 at 81. He is survived by his son, Raymond; and daughter, Stephanie. Groman

Dr. Samuel Lyon died Nov. 15 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Daniel; daughters, Wendy (Robert Wienner) and Dawn (Robert Mann); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Max Marsten died Nov. 5 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Anita; daughters, Loni and Robbi (Tom Schiff); and grandchildren, Matthew and Olivia. Hillside

Helen Maurer died Nov. 17 at 83. She is survived by her sons, Alan and Michael; daughter, Randi; and four grandchildren. Groman

Hannelore McCarty died Nov. 6 at 78. She is survived by her son, Kent (Patty Stewart). Malinow and Silverman

BERT MICHAELS died Nov. 13 at 84. He is survived by his sisters, Joan Weinrauch and Muriel Tower; niece Darielle Podoksik; and nephew, Donn Warshow. Hillside

LINDA MINER died Nov. 13 at 65. She is survived by her granddaughter, Sabrina; and brother, Larry Wohl. Hillside

Esther Moskovitz died Nov. 4 at 93. She is survived by her daughters, June (Murray) Bass and Lois Powers. Malinow and Silverman

Miriam Moss died Nov. 6 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Martin and Jay; daughters, Renal Carol Stone and Bonnie Miller; and 11 grandchildren. Groman

Sara Movshovich died Nov. 9 at 70. She is survived by her son, Roman; and granddaughters, Ariel and Naomi. Mount Sinai

SIMON MUNTNER died Nov. 3 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Janet; sons, John and Joel; daughters, Nancy, Ellen and Jill Howat; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Edna Ostrin died Nov. 6 at 90. She is survived by sons, Murray (Marissa) and Ronald (Leslie); four grandchildren; brother, Ed Nupoll; nieces; and nephews. Mount Sinai

Naomi Ozeran died Nov. 5 at 100. She is survived by her son, Dr. Robert. Malinow and Silverman

Mildred Pakcyk died Nov. 17 at 89. She is survived by her children, David and Alan (Monica); daughter, JoAnne (Dennis) Johnson; grandson, Daryn; and two stepgrandchildren. Mount Sinai

Susan Nisker died Nov. 16 at 56. She is survived by her, daughters, Sari and Heidi (Patrick Kerney); brother, David (Gaylia) Lassner; half-sister, Mary Jean (Bruce) White; and friend, Sherry Kerdman. Mount Sinai

DANIEL PONITZ died Nov. 6 at 74. He is survived by his sister, Linda Stengel. Hillside

ELIZABETH RABINOWITZ died Nov. 13 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Diane (Jonathan) Bear; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Edward Esau Rapoport died Nov. 9 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; daughter, Paula (Leslie) McAfee; three grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Don Reynolds died Nov. 3 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Jeanne; children, Leslie, Greg (Carol), Samantha (Andrew) and Alan; two grandchildren; and brother, Marshall Reznick (Edie).

Max Rice died Nov. 8 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Maxienne; daughters, Wendy Wintrob and Debra Sadun; sons, David and Michael; nine grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Harry. Malinow and Silverman

Joseph Rein died Nov. 13 at 89. He is survived by his daughters, Rita Rudolf and Delcine Tartow; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Bernice Rosenfield died Nov. 15 at 87. She is survived by her husband, David; daughters, Susan (Rick Poe) Fin, and Leanna (Ron) Watts; stepdaughters, Shelly (Grady) Smith and Paula (Fred) Weiner; seven grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

JOYCE ROSEN died Nov. 16 at 85. She is survived by her daughters, Jan Morris and Linda Siegel; son, Daniel; five grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Hillside

Lucille Rosenthal died Nov. 9 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Eugene; son, Richard (Cathy); daughter, Susan (Larry Grosberg); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ROCHELLE O’BRAND ROTH died Nov. 3 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Hal; daughter, Aliza; son, Aaron; sisters, Marilyn (Larry) Franklin and Diana (Steve) Brown; cousins, Bill and Joan Raskin; and three nieces. Hillside

Esther Rubenstein died Nov. 3 at 90. She is survived by her son, Howard (Lauri) Roberts; daughter, Sun (David) Northrup; granddaughter, Rachel (Tim) Davidson; and great-granddaughters, Emilee and Jacqueline. Mount Sinai

Anne Rubins died Nov. 4 at 86. She is survived by her son, Alex (Valerie); daughter, Janis Gardner; and sister, Frances Neiman. Mount Sinai

Gertrude Rudnick died Nov. 11 at 93. She is survived by her son, David (Sandra); daughter, Joyce Leddel; three grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Harry (Shirley) Gershon. Mount Sinai

Rabbi Martin Ryback died Nov. 16 at 87. He is survived by his daughters, Anne (Steve) Schmidt and Elizabeth; son, Charles; and grandaughters, Samantha and Cassandra Schmidt. Mount Sinai

Shirley Shudnow Sass died Nov. 16 at 101. She is survived by her son, Howard (Ronda) Zieff; daughter, Marjorie (Gerald) Finn; grandchildren, Stephanie (Matthew) Landers and Deborah Fin; three great-grandchildren; and brothers, Phillip and Dr. Bernard (Lucille) Shudnow. Mount Sinai

Maxwell Schatz died Nov. 14 at 86. He is survived by his daughters, Laurie (Jerrold) FeiVou and Madeline; grandchildren, Blair and Svetlana; and sister, Pearl. Mount Sinai

Ronald Schneider died Nov. 14 at 76. He is survived by his sons, Brad and Evan; and sister, Shirley Edrington. Malinow and Silverman

Florence Schwartz died Nov. 9 at 82. She is survived by her son, Martin; daughters, Laurie (Michael) Warren and Helene (Joel) Silverstein; four grandchildren; brother, Marvin (Geri) Snyder; and sister, Harriet Guterman. Mount Sinai

Florence Schwartz died Nov. 14 at 78. She is survived by her daughters, Julia Baker and Laura Cohen; and one grandchild. Groman

Miriam Schwartz died Nov. 6 at 78. She is survived by her sons, Barry and Jeffrey (Nancy); daughter, Darlene (Steve) Du Frane; grandsons, Scott Du Frane and Sam; and brother, Marvin Lamm. Mount Sinai

Russell Scott Schwartzman died Nov. 8 at 47. He is survived by his wife, Rita; daughter, Madeline; son, Benjamin; parents, Irving and Edith; sister, June Soberman; and brothers, David (Susan) and Jonathan (Runa). Malinow and Silverman

Elizabeth Bertha See died Nov. 9 at 96. She is survived by her cousin, Peter Glaser. Malinow and Silverman

ANITA LEE SEGAL died Nov. 15 at 78. She is survived by her son, Edward; and daughter, Jan. Hillside

Pearl Semer died Nov. 10 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Allen (Joyce) and Stephen (Ilene); and brother, Jack Pollack. Mount Sinai

GAIL DIANE SHAFRAN died Nov. 7 at 59. She is survived by her husband, Joel; sons Philip and Jonathan; and sisters, Marion Freeman and Deborah Leeds. Hillside

Mildred Eve Sharon died Nov. 2 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Goldstone; and two grandchildren. Groman

Ethyle Sher died Nov. 8 at 85. She is She is survived by her family; friends; and caregivers. Mount Sinai

Nancy Shuirman died Nov. 13 at 50. She is survived by her parents, Gerry and Evelyn; sisters Marilyn Maddux; Felicia (Barry) Keller and Lorri Herman; two nieces; and three nephews.

SUSAN SMITH died Nov. 9 at 57. She is survived by her sons, Jamie and Shawn Silverstein; mother, Bernice; and many relatives. Hillside

Pauline Snider died Nov. 9 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Arlene Calhoun; son, Stephen (Hea); granddaughters, Tracey and Kimberly Calhoun; and brother, Hyman (Pearl) Davis. Mount Sinai

ROBERT SPERO died Nov. 3 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Pearl; sons, Mark and Rabbi Gary; and one grandchild. Hillside

Ruth Sternhill died Nov. 14 at 89. She is survived by her daughters, Sherry Lipman, Maryl Magee and Fritzi Feruson; six grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; brother, Morris Shapiro; and sister, Esther Merches. Groman

Kenneth Suskauer died Nov. 7 at 76. He is survived by his sons, Stuart and Jeffrey; daughter, Eileen Schwartz; and four grandchildren. Groman

Yousef Nourollah Tashkandi died Nov 3 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Sakineh Doulatshahi Moghadam; and sister, Habibeh Naygael. Chevra Kadisha

AARON DANIEL URFRIG died Nov. 16 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Anne; sons, Jerome (Suzanne) and Donald (Carole); daughter, Wendy (Michael) Temple, six grandchildren; four great-granddaughters; brother-in-law, Leo Kolb, and sisters-in-law Jeanette Becker and Naomi Kraus . Hillside

JACK WALLIN died Nov. 8 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Fred (Sandy), Paul (Sharon) and David (Robin); and seven grandchildren. Hillside

Marion Weber died Nov. 7 at 97. She is survived by her daughter, Beverly (Tommy) Williams; grandchildren, Charles Ritch and Judith Gabriel; and great-grandchildren, Alexander and Jameson. Mount Sinai

Melvin Wolf died Nov. 5 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Frances; son, Daniel; daughter, Randee Paller; three grandchildren; and sisters, Eleanor Hammer and Gerry Finegold. Groman

BEVERLY WOLFSON died Nov. 14 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Hershel; sons, David and Bruce; and brother, Robert Blue. Hillside

Sylvia Wolinsky died Nov. 16 at 85. She is survived by her husband, William; daughter, Estelle (David) Horwitz; son, Carl (Laura Vink); grandchildren, Leah and Joshua; and sister, Yetta Berkowitz. Mount Sinai

Betty Yager died Nov. 8 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Herman; daughters, Allison (Joe) Schneider and Molly (Gene) Hofacre; five granddaughters; brother, Shimon (Ruth) Aharoni; and half-sister, Rita (Yankule) Benttaroosh. Mount Sinai

MARK ZAIFMAN died Nov. 17 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Lucy; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Roza Zborovsky died Nov 6 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Marina Kramarov; and grandchild, Basika Kramarov. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries


DR. RICHARD ANTIN died Nov. 2 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Hong; daughter Pauline; stepdaughters, Tricia and Pam; grandchildren Geneva and Savannah; sister, Nancy; brother, Mike (Evie); three nephews; and one niece. Sholom Chapels.

Zvi Baum died Nov 2 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Rachel; son, Menachem; and daughter, Elli Kohl. Chevra Kadisha

Frances Becker died Nov. 2 at 84. She is survived by her daughters, Michelle (Marc) Tuchman and Roberta Becker. Mount Sinai

Robert Bell of died Oct. 31 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Lillian; daughters, Rivian and Charlotte; sons, Martin and Hanan; daughter-in-law, Joyce Shirado; and three grandchildren.

HARRY BERLIN died Oct. 28 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Helen; son, Dr. Michael; daughters, Marla (Randy Cooper) and Adrienne (Frances Edwards); three grandchildren; and sister, Rose Racimore.

Ida Berman died Oct. 29 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Esta (Mark) Keller; and one grandchild. Groman

GARY CADISH died Oct. 28 at 62. He is survived by his wife, Carolyn; son, KC; daughter, Camie (Zach); parents, Harriet and Mitchel; brother Bob (Rosie); and niece, Lauren. Hillside

Susan Corn died Oct. 28 at 50. She is survived by her son, Morgan Beaton; brother, Glen; and close friend, Graham Beaton. Mount Sinai

VERA DHONT died Oct. 28 at 97. She is survived by her nephews, George and Jonathan Banks. Hillside

James Jean Doran died Nov 2 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Felicia; son Andrei (Vicki); grandsons, James and Daniel; and niece, Wanda. Beth Olam

REVA LESLIE FAIN died Oct. 31 at 77. She is survived by her husband, Harry; daughters, Jeanette Fain Miller, Beth and Barbara; sons-in-law, Dr. Robert Miller and Marc Meshekow; three granddaughters; and great-granddaughter, Maya Papoulias. Hillside

Berl Fajerberg died Oct. 29 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Rose; sons, Leon (Janet) and Jack Fainstadt; and granddaughter, Rachele. Mount Sinai

ROBERT FEDER died Oct. 29 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Rita; and children, Mark and Ilene. Hillside

Marilyn Freeman died Oct. 14 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Paul; daughters, Louise (David) Goldstein and Sandy (Bob) Hart; and three grandsons. Mount Sinai.

Robert Friedman died Oct. 29 at 88. He is survived by his son, Michael; daughter, Monica Hellman; and six grandchildren. Groman

TULA FRIEDMAN died Oct. 29 at 93. She is survived by her, son, Roger Friedman; and daughter, Elise (Rabbi Jay) Miller. Hillside

Andrew Gal died Oct. 31, at 82. He is survived by his wife, Ilona; son, Peter; grandchildren, Kristna (Jose) Suarez and Justin. Mount Sinai

Arthur Grebler died Oct. 31 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Rene; son, Robert; daughters, Gillian (Robert), Elizabeth and Harriet (Shlomo); five grandchildren; and sister Vivian. Hillside

Fay Greenspan died Nov. 2 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Frances; and nieces, Wendy, Wilma, and Emma. Mount Sinai

Lupu Velvel Gutman died Nov 1 at 79. He is survived by his son, Alex; and many friends. Chevra Kadisha

Hersz Jalowitz died Nov. 1 at 104. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; daughters, Ettie (Samuel) Councilman, Shandell (Morton) Graham, Tema (Jim) Smith and Fayga (Michael) Murane; son-in-law, Ed Selcer; nine grandchildren; and 15 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jack Jonah died Nov 1 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Helen; son, Jonathan; daughter, Rebecca; and sister, Rachel Levy. Chevra Kadisha

Iva Klein died Nov. 1 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Jonas; daughter, Michelle (William) Brock; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marvin Harold Komen died Oct. 30 at 81. He is survived by his sons, Steven and Jeffrey. Groman

EDWARD KRAKOVER died Oct. 28 at 88. He is survived by his grandchildren, Mark, Sheila, Robert and Samuel; and 10 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Edythe Lebow died Oct. 28 at 80. She is survived by her daughters, Lois (David) Goren and Michele (Gary) Proffett; brother, Fred Bassuk; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Ethel Lomars died Oct. 28 at 100. She is survived by her daughter, Donna Lomars; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Harold Lustig died Oct 29 at 55. He is survived by his cousin, Linda (Saul) Bernstein. Chevra Kadisha

Samuel Meltzer died Oct. 29 at 78. He is survived by his son, Daniel. Malinow and Silverman

FRED MENDELSOHN died Oct. 30 at 82. He is survived by his sons, Michael and Randy; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Annette Faye Ofstein died Oct 28 at 94. She is survived by her family. Chevra Kadisha

Annette Snitowsky Orisman died Oct 29 at 86. She is survived by her sons, Mike, Howard (Myrna) and Gary; daughter, Barbara (Jim) Starnes; grandchildren, Morgan Starnes and Matthew; and sister, Marilyn Geller. Chevra Kadisha

Jan Neufeld died Oct. 28 at 77. She is survived by husband, Murray; sons, Mathieu and Todd Ellis; and granddaughter, Alanna Ellis. Mount Sinai

Roman Rakover died Oct. 30 at 87. He is survived by his stepdaughter, Drane Weiss; and friend, Joan Rubin. Groman

Edith Rivkin died Oct. 30 at 97. Malinow and Silverman

Rebecca Bertha Rothman died Oct. 27 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Michael and Arthur (Morea); daughter, Marsha (Gig) Lu Metta; five grandchildren; and brother, Lee Gordon. Mount Sinai

Stanley Jules Sacks died Oct. 29 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Lucille; sons, Joel and Barry (Susan); sister, Tina (David) Kruter; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

FLORENCE SCHATZ died Oct. 31 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Martin; daughter, Sloan (Gene) Rowe; and granddaughter, Zoe Lampel. Hillside

Janet Schein died Oct. 28 at 72. She is survived by her sons, Eric, Roy and Aaron; stepsons, Alexander and Loren; and six grandchildren. Groman

Edythe Schlasky died Oct 27 at 89. She is survived by her nephew, Robert Flecker. Chevra Kadisha

Betty Silversher died Nov. 1 at 80. She is survived by her daughter, Marcy Saklad; son, Neal; and granddaughters, Marissa Saklad and Kim (Rob) McDaniel. Mount Sinai

Zelda Solomon died Nov. 1 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Alvin; daughter, Judy Marks; son, Michael (Lori); six grandchildren; and great-grandchild, Brady. Mount Sinai

Max Soibelman died Oct. 30 at 100. He is survived by his son, Dennis (Carol); five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jean Starr died Oct. 31 at 85. She is survived by her daughter, Carole Lazar; four grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Henry Strull died Oct. 28 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Karen Greenberg; sister, Gertrude (Jules) Heichman; and brother, William. Mount Sinai

PHILIP SUBAR died Oct. 27 at 85. He is survived by his daughters, Sharon Furman and Marilyn (Claude) Fernholz; sons, Paul (Tina) and Jerry (Jan); six grandchildren; brothers David (Claire) and Seymour (Phyllis); sisters, Shirley Sklash and Adeline (Frank) Lowenberg; nieces; and nephews. Sholom Chapels.

JEFFREY PAUL WEISSBACH died Oct. 30 at 32. He is survived by his parents, Leonard and Marilyn; brother, Kevin; and grandparents Eunice and Jack Zachariash. Sholom Chapels.

Mary Winkler died Oct. 30 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Eileen Tannenbaum. Malinow and Silverman

Florence Wolf died Oct. 28 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Roberta (Larry) Weinstein and Linda; son, Michael (Ruth); and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Mollie Zankan died Oct. 29 at 92. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughter, Susan Newman; sister, Augusta Singer; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

 

Obituaries


Theodore Allan Benaron died Oct. 25 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Barbara; daughters, Ruth (Frank) Rodriquez, Marsha and Judy; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Beatrice Clara Boyer died Oct. 27 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Mark and Richard; daughter, Sharon Kline; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Groman

Lillian Eva Cooper died Oct. 22 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Steve (Donna) and Philip; and granddaughter, Nicole. Mount Sinai

Maurine Cowan died Oct. 26 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Robert; sons, Eric, Jeff, Howard and Barry; 10 grandchildren; and sister, Ruth Sigman. Groman

STEVEN ALAN DAVIDSON died Oct. 26 at 55. He is survived by his mother, Ann; sister, Linda (Gary) Goldfein; niece, Courtney; and nephew, Kevin. Hillside

Phyllis Ann Dembicer died Oct 22 at 74. She is survived by her husband, David; sons, Daniel and Dr. Joshua; daughters, Robin (Dr. Reynold) Stein and Melissa (William) Hargiss; nine grandchildren; and brother, Michael Kahn. Chevra Kadisha

STELLA DERSHEWITZ died Oct. 26 at 91. She is survived by her daughters Enid (Igo) Kantor and Gail; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Bernard Finkle died Oct. 26 at 84. He is survived by his daughter, Claudia. Mount Sinai

Shirley Fischer died Oct. 22 at 84. She is survived by her son, Sam; daughter, Keri (Stan) Hausner; and granddaughter, Danielle Hausner. Mount Sinai

Rosanne Begard Foster died Oct. 25 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Susan Kennedy; and two grandchildren. Groman

ALLEN FOX died Oct. 27 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Jeanine; son, Richard; sister Sybil Fein; and cousin, Ginette Mizraki. Hillside

Murray Gesshel died Oct. 24 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Susan; daughters Nancy (Marcello) Rachilewski and Diana; son, Dan (Arcy); and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

EDITH GINSBURG died Oct. 22 at 99. She is survived by her daughter, Janice Gootkin, three grandchildren; five great-grandchildren. Hillside

Edith Gitelstein died Oct. 25 at 91. She is survived by her daughters, Ruth (Ron) Amen and Brooke Lefferts; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Anne Gleimer died Oct. 27 at 87. She is survived by her son, David; brothers, Harry and Simon Hershfeld; and sisters, Sylvia Frank and Leona Slater. Groman

ABRAHAM GOLDBERG died Oct. 26 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Alice; son, Mitchell (Miriam); daughter, Cheryl Schmidt; and six grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Barbara Hamer died Oct. 25 at 77. She is survived by her husband, William; sons, Jeff (Deborah) and Marc; and three grandchildren. Mount Sinai

JUNE ORAH HAASE died Oct. 22 at 71. She is survived by her son, Tom Troccoli; and mother, Jean Desmond. Sholom Chapels.

Minnie Horowitz died Oct. 25 at 84. She is survived by her sons, Kenneth and Gerald (Jaime); daughter, Doris (Stephen) Finestone; and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Minnie Jaffee died Oct. 21. She is survived by her daughter, Sharon Lee; sons, Howard (Suzie) and Bruce (Ann Rogers); seven grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Bernard Wenst. Mount Sinai

Lucian Karp died Oct. 24, at 81. He is survived by his son, James (Vivien); daughter, Sandra; and grandchildren, David and Jennifer. Mount Sinai

Katie Korman died Oct. 26 at 82. She is survived by her husband, Jerry; and daughter, Sherrie. Mount Sinai

Ruth Goldschmidt Kunzer died Oct. 9 at 90. She is survived by her sister, Miriam Solomons; nieces; nephews; cousins.

Robert Ellis Levin died Oct. 27 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; daughter Victoria Zito; sons, Steven (Robyn) and Ira (Kelly); and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

DR. KLAUS LEWIN died Oct. 25 at 69. He is survived by his wife, Patricia; children, Dr. David, Dr. Nicola and Dr. Bruno; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Ellen Litsky died Oct. 25 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Paula (Dr. Alan) Kanter. Malinow and Silverman

Sedal Lurie died Oct. 25 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Jeff and Rick; and two grandchildren. Groman

ARNOLD LUBIN died Oct. 24 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Elsye; sons, Jeff (Barbara) and Dean (Adriane); four grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; and sister, Shirley Polier. Hillside

Michael Marker died Oct. 25 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Honey; sons Richard and Kenneth; daughters-in-law, Kathy and Cindy; sister, Betty (Al) Haagen; five grandchildren; brother-in-law, Bill (Bobbie) Porter; sisters-in-laws, Barbara and Dorothy Porter; four nephews; and three nieces. Hillside

IRWIN MASON died Oct. 25 at 82. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; son, Randy; and one grandchild. Hillside

Mildred Miller died Oct. 22 at 89. She is survived by her son, Harvey; daughters, Jan Greif and Beverly Morhaime; seven grandchildren; and eight great-grandchildren. Groman

Albert Murray died Oct. 26 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Sheila (Elliott) Lokitz; son, Ken; three grandchildren; and nine great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ROBERT NINBERG died Oct. 26 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Sue; daughters, Naomi (Jeff) Kalvin and Karen (Roy) Schwartz; son, Darrell; and six grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

RENEE PEREZ died Oct. 23 at 49. She is survived by her daughter, Nicole; brother, Alan Nierob; father, Jack Nierob; and sister, Doris Levy. Hillside

Jerry Ravitsky died Oct. 27 at 86. He is survived by his domestic partner, Alfred Gernsbacher; brother, Sherman Ravine; niece, Harriet Margulies; nephews, Sid (Gloria) Kassler and Jerry Mathews; and great-nephew, Bruce (Yvonne) Kassler. Mount Sinai

SARAH BUCHSBAUM RING died Oct. 21 at 85. She is survived by her daughters, Sheila (Andy) Garb and Judy (Richard) Ellis; stepchildren, Jori (Richard) Carmel, Francie Iglow and Robert (Susan); five grandchildren; six stepgrandchildren; four great-grandchildren; one stepgreat-grandchild; and sister, Eleanor (Leonard) Mann. Hillside

Charlotte Samuelson died Oct 22 at 97. She is survived by her son Albert Selleck. Chevra Kadisha

TED SCHOENBERG died Oct. 12 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Marj; sons, Frank (Claudette), Gary (Laurie), Mark (Robert) three grandchildren; and brother, Bob . Hillside

Alexander Shwarts died Oct. 22 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Tamara; daughter, Anna Goodman; and grandchildren, Eric and Michelle Goodman. Mount Sinai

Rose Sharfstein died Oct. 24 at 97. She is survived by her daughter, Frances Shiffman; grandchildren, Michael Shiffman and Lisa (Mark) Schaffer; and great-grandchildren, Scott and Emily. Mount Sinai

Benjamin Siegel died Oct. 25 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Rachel; sons, Elliot, Joshua and Avi; mother, Annie; and brother, Stanley. Mount Sinai

Marilyn Milou Sorkin died Oct. 24 at 67. She is survived by her husband, Joel; daughter, Jill (Douglas) Lieblein; four grandchildren; and sister, Phyllis Bloom. Malinow and Silverman

Edith Sultan died Oct. 22 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra; and sons, Gary and Michael. Groman

Seymour Spector died Oct. 21 at 79. He is survived by his son, Gregg (Cora); daughters, Hilary Koloff and Debby D’Innocente; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Lee Weinstein died Oct. 22 at 85. She is survived by her sons, Harvey (Gemma), Frank, and Sheldon (Leslie); eight grandchildren; great-grandchild; brother, Phil Kaminsky; and sister, Hilda (Fred) Michaelson. Mount Sinai

PAUL MAURICE WEINSTEIN died Oct. 24 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Tessie; sons, Stuart and Barry; daughter-in-law, Kathy; four grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and sister, Evelyn Evans. Hillside

Isadore Widre died Oct. 21 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Lorraine; son Mark; stepson, Brian (Mary) Jaye; stepdaughters, Karen and Robin Jaye; five grandchildren; and sister, Dorothy Goldsmith. Mount Sinai

Yevgeny Vayngurt died Oct 23 at 81. He is survived by his son, Arkady. Chevra Kadisha

 

Jack and Judaism


Jack Stein taught me about being Jewish.

First, he told me that Jewish husbands are the best husbands because

they “only cheat a little.” Jack grinned up at me and I smiled back. At 5-feet-8 inches tall, I am used to being taller than many men, but when I put my arm around my diminutive father-in-law, the top of his bald head barely reached my shoulder. Still, he stood as tall as any man I ever knew.

When Jack congratulated me on converting to Judaism, he said, “Don’t be ashamed.” That time he wasn’t kidding — he really meant it. His admonition made me sad, but also taught me more than any book or museum could teach about persecution, cruelty and hatred. I knew intellectually what I was in for, but Jack’s words hit me in my new Jewish gut: “Don’t be ashamed.”

When I met my husband-to-be more than 25 years ago, I had no idea that I would gain not only a wonderful mate, but an entire culture and religion that was more than 5,000 years old. What I learned in my conversion class was thimble sized compared to what I soaked up by spending time with Jack and his friends. His survivor havurah had been together since they arrived in Dallas after the war and raised their families together. I learned from them that being Jewish leaves one open to irrational hatred that no one can understand, much less explain. What Jews do, I learned, is survive.

One night I sat on the couch with Mrs. “Red” Goldberg and Mrs. “Black” Goldberg (so designated by the hair color of their respective husbands) and listened as they described the Nazi horrors inflicted on them and their families. They described their hardship without self-pity or bitterness, but with a will to survive that didn’t have to be expressed specifically because it was infused in their words. They talked with gratitude about the life they had been able to build in this country.

Mrs. “Black” Goldberg told me the Nazis liked to watch her husband, Herschel, run up hill while carrying two soldiers, one under each arm. It amused them, and probably saved his life. Herschel was still a bulldog of a man who, well past retirement age, worked part time at a deli and was the source of day-old bagels for the group.

When Jack told me not to be ashamed of being Jewish, he spoke volumes about what it is like to belong to this tribe. An unbreakable thread runs through it that has never been severed, in spite of the most evil attempts. By telling me not to be ashamed, Jack was telling me to be proud of my decision to become a Jew.

Jack taught by example to survive terror and pain and go on to live a good, long life surrounded by family and friends. Jack didn’t just survive, he chose to love life again. He teased the ladies and cheered for the Cowboys and hummed in the shower. I saw a gleam of triumph in his eyes, filled with tears, as he watched his granddaughter ordained as a rabbi.

We lost Jack five years ago this month, just before Thanksgiving. Last week, as we rose for the Kaddish, I gave thanks to God that Jack was part of my life and that he taught me to be a proud Jew.

I could not have asked for a better teacher.

Kathleen Vallee Stein is a freelance writer who lives in Monrovia and has been a proud Jew-by-choice for 20 years. She can be reached at

Obituaries


FLORENCE BECKER died Oct. 17 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Duke; sons, Barry (Judy) and Rob (Rona); four grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; nieces; and nephews. Hillside

Mohtaram Benji died Oct 20 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Sion and Rohollah Ahdoot. Chevra Kadisha

Abraham Braer died Oct. 20, at 90. He is survived by his son, Stanley (Marlene); and grandson, Jeffrey (Rebecca). Mount Sinai

Abe Bolotin died Oct. 20 at 98. He is survived by his daughter, Elaine (Zev) Edelstein; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

MORTON BROOKS died Oct. 20 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; daughter, Leslie Rosen; grandson, Jeremy (Jodi) Rosen; great-grandson, Ethan; and sisters Lillian and Evelyn. Hillside

Denise Clumeck died Oct. 19 at 74. She is survived by her sons, Larry (Lea) and Ralph (Debra); daughter, Ginette (Morris) Eskinazi; 10 grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and brother, Maurice Caniado; Malinow and Silverman

William Cohen died Oct. 14 at 94. He is survived by his son, Neil (Bonnie); daughter, Bette Tydings; four grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

FRANK EVANS died Oct. 18 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Claire; and son, Ronald. Hillside

Lillian Feinberg died Oct. 21 at 89. She is survived by her son-in-law, Gary Kosar; and grandsons, Scott and Ken Kosar. Mount Sinai

Esther Shana Fifield died Oct. 17, at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Lillene (Margret Marshall); stepgrandson, Eric (Crisanta) Brown; and four stepgreat-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Rita Miller Fischer died Oct. 18 at 73. She is survived by her daughters, Susie (Bill) Hutton and Elizabeth (Anthony) Mar; son, Jerry Corcoran; six grandchildren; and brother, Al (Ann) Miller. Mount Sinai

Marilynn Frank died Oct. 18 at 61. She is survived by her daughter, Lisa; son, Robert (Angela) Ginsburg; stepchildren, Jodi, Sue and Billy (Antoinette Abbott); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Marilyn Freeman died Oct. 14 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Paul; daughters, Louise (David Goldstein) and Sandy (Bob) Hart; three grandchildren; and great-grandchild, Daniel Hart. Mount Sinai

JEROME SHELDON GOTTLER died Oct. 11 at 89. He is survived by his son Anthony Capper. Hillside

Annette Harris died Oct. 20 at 81. She is survived by her daughters, Donna O’Donnell and Susan Strinden; three grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Jorge Abel Herzer died Oct. 20 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Victoria; daughter, Emanuela; sons, Bernardo and Julio. Malinow and Silverman

Miriam Hoffman died Oct. 15 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Richard; son, Perry (Sandra); daughter, Barbara (Robert) Duben; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Jerome Leonard Jacobson died Oct. 18 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Ethel; daughter, Yvette (Don) McClung; son, Lewis (Anne); and three granddaughters. Mount Sinai

POLA KELLERMAN died Oct. 11 at 93. She is survived by her daughters Marta (Fred) Samulon, Harriet Ratner and Patricia Friedman; six grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

Mildred Kraus died Oct. 13 at 81. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

DR. SIDNEY LANE died Oct. 12 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; sons, Michael, Robert and Philip; and two grandchildren. Hillside

Doreen June Landau died Oct. 17 at 81. She is survived by her sister, Barbara Ruth Rose. Groman

Louis Lawson died Oct. 20 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; daughters, Sherry and Michelle; son, Graig (Terry); and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Shirley Lein died Oct. 17 at 91. She is survived by her sons, Yale (Jean) Weiser, Isaac (Margaret) and Murray (Vickie); daughter, Jean; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Mount Sinai

EVELYN LEVINE died Oct. 20 at 79. She is survived by her husband, Bernard; son Jay; daughter, Tobi (Marty Bogoratt); and two grandchildren. Sholom Chapels.

Blake Lewis died Oct. 20 at 16. He is survived by his parents, Jamie and Andrea; sister, Hannah; and brother Jared. Malinow and Silverman

Bessie Nathan died Oct 20 at 78. She is survived by her brothers, Morris and Ralph. Chevra Kadisha

Mary Nahmias Nelson died Oct. 20 at 80. She is survived by her son, Albert; daughters, Gentille Koosed, Sara Blatt, Zoe Miner, Esther Emison and Betty Day; 14 grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

Moshe Netanel died Oct 13 at 69. He is survived by his sister, Maggie Feinstein; and cousin, Nathan. Chevra Kadisha

Susan Toby Ozeran died Oct. 20 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Robert; daughter, Victoria; sons, Dr. Steven (Stephanie), Dr. Larry (Carrie) and Dr. J. Danny (Janelle); seven grandchildren; sister, Baba (Alan) Rosin; and brother, William (Lorene) Hartmann. Malinow and Silverman

Leona Padorr died Oct. 21 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Janet (Dr. Stanton) Canter; son, Stanley (Revelle) Cowen; four grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren; and brothers, Albert (Abby) and Ronald Agins. Malinow and Silverman

Melvin Parnes died Oct. 18 at 83. He is He is survived by his wife, Maryon; daughter, Elise; son, Bart; two grandchildren; and brother, Herbert (Carol). Mount Sinai

Joseph Press died Oct. 18 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Larry (Marcela) and Jim (Linda); six grandchildren; great-grandchildren, Moshe and Jacob; sister, Daisy Nemzer; and brother, Louis (Thelma). Mount Sinai

JULES ROCKLIN died Oct. 15 at 85. he is survived by his sons, Burt and Neal. Hillside

HELGA RODMAN died Oct. 19 at 89. She is survived by her sister, Inge (Steve); sister-in-law, Eve; nieces; nephews; and friends. Hillside

Richard Ruston died Oct. 16 at 65. He is survived by his daughters, Bonnie Buchanan and Delaney; two grandchildren; and sister, Lesley Devine. Groman

Rhonda Schachtel died Oct. 19, at 45. She is survived by her husband, Jack;daughter, Michelle; sons, Marc and Marshall; parents, Edward and Elca;brothers, Stephen (Johanne), Jacob and Nicholas Shinder; and parents-in-law,Harry and Linda. Mount Sinai

Shalom Melekh Shalom died Oct. 17 at 81. He is survived by his son, Dr. Fred. Malinow and Silverman

Anne Silver died Oct. 20 at 54. She is survived by her brother, Robert (Melen) Burton; and fiancee, Joel Warren. Mount Sinai

Naomi Singer died Oct. 17 at 84. She is survived by her sons, Bruce and Henry; daughter, Bette Andrews; one grandchild; and four great-grandchildren; brother, Donald Heller; and sister, Ruby Fangmyer. Groman

James Aaron Smith died Oct. 19 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Ethel; son, Barry (Lori); daughter, Susan (Lynda Lyons); six grandchildren; brother, Herold. Mount Sinai

Edith Solomon died Oct. 16 at 78. She is survived by her sons, Martin and Phil; daughter, Barbara Gordon; and four grandchildren. Groman

BERNICE STERNFELD died Oct. 14 at 95. She is survived by her sons, Allan (Barbara) and Earl (Janet); five grandchildren; five great-grandchildren; sister Claire Hyzen; and adopted son, Emanuel Friedman. Hillside

Gertrude Jacobs Streit died Oct. 20 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Vernon; sons, Ronald (Joan) and Craig; daughters, Marlene (Edward) Glick; and two grandchildren. Groman

Stuart Brian Struhl died Oct. 20 at 62. He is survived by his son, Greg; daughter, Rhonda; mother, Shirley; brothers, Jon and Eric; and sister, Michelle Mascarenas. Groman

Jack Weitzman died Oct. 20, at 95. He is survived by his wife, Miriam; son, Michael (Jodi); and grandsons, Errol and Andrew Silverstein. Mount Sinai

Malcolm Winer died Oct. 17 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Laura; daughters, Leslie Winer and Jennifer (Rafi) Gordon; one grandchild; and brother, Howard (Charlotte). Malinow and Silverman

Rose Wolkin died Oct. 19 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Cynthia Robinson and Florence Lefkowitz; and five grandchildren. Groman

Obituaries


George Allen Smith,
Philanthropist and Founder of George Smith Partners, Inc.,
Dies at 70

George Allen Smith, a leader in Southern California’s real estate finance industry, died Nov. 3 at 70. A graduate of the Harvard Business School, Smith, whose career in the industry spanned four decades, founded George Smith Partners Real Estate, a commercial mortgage brokerage firm, in 1992.

Smith and his wife, Pam, championed many institutions, including The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles and the Museum of Contemporary Art. His chief philanthropic endeavor was the founding of the Ataxia Telangiectasia Research Foundation (A-TMRF), an organization devoted to funding research into a rare neurological disease affecting his daughter, Rebecca. Since its inception in 1984, the A-TMRF granted more than $10 million in research funding worldwide, including the endowment of the Rebecca Smith Chair in A-T Research at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA.

“George approached every challenge with a level of confidence that was inspiring and contagious,” said Dr. Richard Gatti, who holds the Rebecca Smith Distinguished Professorship at UCLA.

To raise funds for the A-TMRF, Smith initiated the annual George Smith Partners Real Estate Luncheon, an event which now attracts more than 1,500 industry professionals. At this year’s event, Smith was presented with an honorary doctorate from Tel Aviv University.

Smith is survived by his wife, Pam; sons, James and Matthew; daughters, Jill Oaks and Rebecca; grandchildren, Samantha and Hannah; and sister, Eleanor (Gerald) Sorkin.

Donations can be made to the A-TMRF c/o Haskell and Davis, 16000 Ventura Blvd., Suite 806, Encino, CA 91436. — Nancy Sokoler Steiner, Contributing Writer

Samuel Baradaran died Oct. 12 at 65. He is survived by his daughter, Shaleen; and cousin, Michael Amin. Groman

ROUHOLLAH BARKHORDARIAN died Oct. 12 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Rose; six children; 16 grandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Annette Berman died Sept. 17 at 86. She is survived by her daughters, Jackie (Andy) Stern and Lynn; granddaughters, Traci Tannler and Molly (David) Schlussel; great-grandchildren, Zackary Tannler and Vivienne Schlussel; and brother, Sy (Lennet) Ogulnick. Mount Sinai

RAYMOND BLACKMAN died Oct. 11 at 81. He is survived by his brother, Al. Sholom Chapels.

HYMAN BARNETT BOOKMAN died Sept. 28 at 95. He is survived by his son, Jack; two grandchildren; and brother, Albert. Hillside

HARRY BRODSKY died Oct. 12 at 95. He is survived by his daughter, Iris (Mickey) Weiss; three grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Hillside

MELINDA EVELYN BRUN died Sept. 30 at 63. She is survived by her husband, William; daughter, Chandra; and nephew, Erik Laykin. Hillside

RAYE REENA CARLIN died Oct. 8 at 87. She is survived by her son, Martin (Caroline); daughter, Maxine; grandchildren, Laura and Mitchell; and great-grandson, Daniel. Hillside

SARAH GARFINKEL died Sept. 28 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Sandy (Ron) Shenkman; and granddaughter, Stephanie Shenkman. Hillside

MARIAN LAURANS GETZOFF died Sept. 29 at 88. She is survived by sons, Peter and Stephen; daughter, Barbara Huff; daughter-in-law, Kay; seven grandchildren; three great-grandchildren; sister, Eleanor Feller; and brother, Raymond Laurans. Hillside

NANCY LYNN GOFF died Oct. 10 at 50. She is survived by her mother, Cecile; and sister, Julie (Dr. Ben) Simon. Sholom Chapels.

JANICE HAMLIN died Oct. 2 at 83. She is survived by her husband, Morris; sons, Richard (Delia) and Robert; and four grandchildren. Hillside

HYMIE HERSOWITZ died Oct. 11 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Eva; and son, Selwyn. Sholom Chapels.

Estrea Rozanes Kapuya-Berro died Oct. 12 at 93. She is survived by her son, Eliezer (Venus) Kapuya; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Ralph Kaye died Oct. 11 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Helen; sons, Irv and Marc (Renée); daughter, Debbie; five grandchildren; and brothers, Eugene and Norman. Sholom Chapels.

BOB LEVY, JR. died Oct. 8 at 95. He is survived by his son, Bob. Hillside

CLARA LEWIN died Sept. 27 at 90. She is survived by her nephew, Gabor Szekeres. Hillside

Joyce Loraine Lynch died Oct. 10 at 67. She is survived by her daughters, Catherine and Michele. Malinow and Silverman

Leon Markus died Oct. 13 at 89. He is survived by his wife, Charlotte; sons, Jeffrey and Michael; daughter, Judith Knobel; five grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Karl Meyer died Oct. 11 at 81. He is survived by his children, Steven (Randi) and Michael (Heather). Mount Sinai

WILLIAM NEWMAN died Sept. 29 at 79. He is suvived by his wife, Sheila; son, Ian (Karen); daughters, Dana (Tim) and Mara (Paul); and six grandchildren. Hillside

Shoshana Noily died Oct. 13 at 97. She is sirvived by her sons, Josh and Samuel; daughters-in-law; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren.

MARVIN DAVID RATNER died Sept. 29 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Mildred; sons, Rabbi Robert (Susan) and Andrew (Kathi); brother, Stanley; eight grandchildren; and great-grandson, Yael. Hillside

BEATRICE PEARL RIEMER died Oct. 3 at 86. She is survived by her children, Rick, Ken and Terry; and four grandchildren. Hillside

Sylvia Ringelheim died Oct. 14 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Sherrill Lewis and Arlene Parker; and one grandchild. Groman

MARLENE ROBINSON died Oct. 10 at 73. She is survived by her daughter, Marlene (Richard) Arnold. Sholom Chapels.

Morris Romerstein died Oct. 11 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Anne (Charles) Grob; son, Samuel; and one grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

DOROTHY ROSENTHAL died Oct. 10 at 83. She is survived by her daughter, Michele (Sam); two granddaughters; brother, Bernie (Marcia); three nieces; and eight great-nieces and great-nephews.

Bernard Saffe died Oct. 13 at 81. He is survived by his son, Gary; daughters, Sari Garger and Rickie Louis; and three grandchildren. Groman

LORAINE ROSETTA SCHWARTZ died Oct. 11 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Carole Jablon; and granddaughters, Tess and Jordon Jablon. Hillside

MONETT SCHWARTZ died Oct. 3 at 83. She is survived by her son, Paul (Sheila); daughter, Susan (Steven) Bromberg; seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Martha Sego died Oct. 13 at 96. She is survived by her son, Peter; and one grandchild. Groman

Art Shaimes died Oct. 12 at 68. He is survived by his wife, Meredith; daughters, Cathy (Robert) Manzi and Lori (Rich) Hammer; son, Martin (Jeanette); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Elias Solz died Oct. 13 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Harriet; daughter, Heidi (Roger) Kerr; son, William (Susan) Solz; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Esther Mazo Sosner died Oct. 14 at 97. She is survived by her sons, Bernard (Phyllis), Harold (Gail) and Howard (Elaine); seven grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; and sister, Beatrice Cord. Mount Sinai

FREYDA PENNER SPATZ died Sept. 30 at 87. She is survived by her daughers, Julie DaVanzo (Frank), Barbara and Andrea (Bob Wunderlich); and four grandchildren. Hillside

Harry Weiner died Oct. 11 at 89. He is survived by his sons, Ken and Norm; daughter, Charlene Garcia; nine grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

CHARLOTTE MARIE COFFMAN WEISS died Sept. 28 at 88. She is survived by her sons sons, Rabbi Ken (Sue) and Dr. Mark (Marilyn); eight grandchildren; six great-grandchildren; and sister, Mildred Foreman. Hillside

MORRIS WINKLER died Oct. 8 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Mitzi; and son, Jaime. Hillside

 

Obituaries


Julie Carol Andelman died Sept. 22 at 56. She is survived by her brother, Dr. Ross (Hannah Dresner); sisters, Lani Dossett and Alice; and nephew, Daniel Dossett. Mount Sinai

Shirley Axelrod died Sept. 21 at 87. She is survived by her son, Richard (Rae); daughter, Barbara (Andrew Bajor) Tushnet; five grandchildren; and two great- grandchildren. Mount Sinai

PEGGY BERK died Sept. 20 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Jan Sonken; and sister, Selma Asher. Hillside

DR. VICTOR BIRNBERG died Sept. 22 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; son, Fred; daughter, Peggy; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Evelyn Brendzal died Sept. 24 at 89. She is survived by her son, Larry (Kathy); daughter, Iris Brown; five grandchildren; one great-grandchild; and brother, Harvey (Ilene) Schwartz. Mount Sinai

Gertrude Brown, died Sept. 19 at 88. She is survived by her son, Jack; daughters, Pat (Elliot) Schutzer, Helaine Ruth and Stephanie Goldie; four grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Groman

Romaine Cinamon died Sept. 23 at 95. She is survived by her niece, Noreen Schreiber. Malinow and Silverman

Naomi Blum Cohen died Sept. 20 at 96. She is survived by her son, Burt (Suzanne Sedlewicz) Blum; daughter, Sharon Levin; two grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Miriam Bird. Malinow and Silverman

Harvey Cranow died Sept. 23 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Ruth; son, Steven (Nikki); grandchildren, Aaron and Benjamin; and sister, Hamla (Tzur) Levitt. Mount Sinai

Philip Delman died Sept. 23 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Owen and Ivan; brother, Robert; and two grandchildren. Groman

Ruth Ehrlich died Sept. 24 at 84. She is survived by her son, Karl; and grandchildren, Justin and Paula. Mount Sinai

Erna Elias died Sept. 25 at 80. She is survived by her sons, Alex and Robert (Robin); and grandsons, Michael and Steven. Mount Sinai

LAURA FELDMAN died Sept. 24 at 82. She is survived by her nieces, Shari and Susan Silver; and nephew, Steve Silver. Hillside

Joyce Finestone died Sept. 20 at 82. She is survived by her son, Steve (Doris); and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

SALLY FLEG died Sept. 21 in Los Angeles at 97. She is survived by her daughters, Julie, Stephanie and Marian; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Herbert Gale died Sept. 23 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Sydelle; daughter, Rhonda; son, Paul (Rochelle); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Bella Gans died Sept. 22 at 89. She is survived by her niece, Fanya Soll. Malinow and Silverman

Magda Ganz died Sept. 20 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Dr. William; sons, Dr. Tomas (Dr. Patricia) and Dr. Peter (Miriam); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Yelena Genkin died Sept. 25 at 41. She is survived by her husband, Felix; son, Allen; daughter, Ester; parents, Natan and Muysia Primak; and brother, Leon (Lyudmila) Primak. Mount Sinai

Daniel Glickman died Sept. 20 at 28. He is survived by his father, Kenneth. Malinow and Silverman

Bertha Goodman died Sept. 19 at 89. She is survived by her son, Daniel; three grandchildren; and sister, Bessie Stein. Mount Sinai

Dr. Abraham HarolD Gottesman died Sept. 20. He is survived by his wife, Julia; daughters, Nancy Evens and Ann; son, Dr. Robert (Susan); and companion, Aviva Ellis-Namir. Mount Sinai

Zina Grosleib died Sept. 25 at 79. She is survived by her daughters, Lillia Singer and Marina Berger; four grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

ARLENE NORTMAN JONES died Sept. 22 at 64. She is survived by her husband, Joseph; two grandchildren; and brother, Stanley. Hillside

DONALD KING died Sept. 20 at 75. He is survived by his wife, Sandra; daughters, Jennifer (Steve) Moore and Suzanne (Jonathan) Scharfstein; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Lillian Klapper died Sept. 25 at 94. She is survived by her daughter, Barbara Rosenman; son, Howard (Diane); four grandchildren; and sister, Ethel Kreutzer. Mount Sinai

ESTHER LESSINGER KLEIN died Sept. 19 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Joel (Nikki) and Robert (Maggie); grandchildren, Meredith and Daniel; and brother, Jack Lessinger. Hillside

Rita Kuperberg died Sept. 22 at 78. She is survived by her husband, Sidney; sons, Joel and Daniel; daughters, Debra Kuperberg-Kruger, Marsha Kuperberg-Hernandez and Judith Kuperberg-Bock; and 10 grandchildren. Groman

KURT LANDAUER died Sept. 20 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Eve; daughter, Lynn (Miguel) Kahan; three grandchildren; seven great-grandchildren. Hillside

Samuel Lasser died Sept. 20 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Anne; sons, Andrew, Stephen (Martha) and Robert (Sylvia); grandson, Mitchel; and sister, Ida (Leon) Jacobs. Mount Sinai

Leah Levine died Sept. 23 at 85. She is survived by her daughters, Carol (David) Dang and Sue (Russ) Robin; sons, Michael (Carole) and Bob (Roberta); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Immanuel Lewin died Sept. 20 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Margo; and son, Ralph James Lewin Rosenberg. Malinow and Silverman

Harvey Lippman died Sept. 23 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Renee; daughters, Karin (Shawn) Salter and Heather (Darren) Shack; four grandchildren; and sister, Barbara (Ken) Seltzer.

Clara Paige died Sept. 23 at 94. She is survived by her daughters, Joann Ruden and Debra (Merrill) Schultz; and brother, Dr. Marcus (Babette) Horenstein. Malinow and Silverman

Marvin Papurt died Sept. 22 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Anne; sons, Dennis Winkler and Alan; daughter, Phylis Jacobs; and six grandchildren. Groman

Eli Passy died Sept. 19 at 79. He is survived by his daughter, Karen Valladeres; son, Stephen; and three grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Barry Lynn Pfeiffer died Sept. 19 at 66. He is survived by his sister, Carl Mc Williams. Groman

ISADORE POLONSKY died Sept. 20 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia. Hillside

Benjamin Popiel died Sept. 20 at 91. He is survived by his sons, Alan (Marilyn) and Marvin (Jean); daughter, Roseana (Mark) Rosenberg; six grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and brother, Lester (Idie). Groman

Victor William Potts died Sept. 25 at 92. He is survived by his daughter, Carole; and brother, Sam. Groman

ROBERT LYLE RICH died Sept. 22 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Velda; sons, Steve (Maria), Ben and David; 10 grandchildren; and brother, Arnold. Hillside

Gladys Robbins died Sept. 19 at 94. She is survived by her son, Alan; and two grandchildren. Groman

Benjamin Ruthman died Sept. 22 at 84. He is survuved by his friends. Groman

Molly Shapiro died Sept. 24 at 92. She is survived by her nieces; nephews; great-nieces; great-nephews; great-great-nieces; and great-great-nephews. Mount Sinai

Leah Shenkman died Sept. 24 at 91. She is survived by her son, Ronald (Sandra); granddaughter, Stephanie; and brother, Harry (Lillian) Burgeman. Mount Sinai

June Ellen Sherman died Sept. 19 at 42. She is survived by her parents Sheldon and Rina; brothers, and Robert (Kala) and Harry (Susan Laks). Groman

Sylvia Siegle died Sept. 22 at 88. She is survived by her sons, Dr. Stephen Siegel and David; daughter, Shelly Land; sister, Florence Harmetz. Groman

Seymour Travis died Sept. 21 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Beatrice; daughter, Karen; sons, Paul and Mark (Annabelle); and grandson, Jason. Mount Sinai

Gertrude Weiner died Sept. 20 at 93. She is survived by her sons, Ted and Sherwin; five grandchildren; two great-grandchildren; and sister, Bernice Mogil. Groman

JOSEPH WOLF died Sept. 23 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Marilyn; daughter, Karen; son, David (Susan); grandsons, Brandon and Adam; and sister, Jean (William) Schulman. Hillside

 

Refuge From Cancer


Four years ago, my wife told me not to build a sukkah. She had a good reason. In early September of 2001, Marsha was diagnosed with bilateral breast cancer — a tumor in each breast.

Cancer was pretty much running our lives. We were visiting doctors every other day for more opinions as Marsha tried to settle on a team of physicians and appropriate treatments. And did I mention we were planning our younger daughter’s bat mitzvah?

So Marsha was absolutely right. How could I find a couple of hours to gather up the two-by-fours that sit in our garage all year and turn them into a prefab sukkah?

But I didn’t listen. Years earlier, Marsha was the one who had wanted us to become a family of sukkah builders. It meant a great deal to her to erect the fragile shelter, where our family would fend off yellow jackets and enjoy a few meals. With no experience at sukkah building, I was reluctant at first. It seemed like a lot of work for one week of dinners al fresco. But I came around. It was great having our own, intimate backyard booth, harking back to the days of the Bible.

Building a sukkah had become a family tradition, and I didn’t want cancer to take it away from us. With the help of my two daughters, Maya and Daniela, I put up the structure. As we sat in the semirickety sukkah, peering up at the stars through boughs of green overhead, we felt as if we’d found temporary refuge from the breast cancer ordeal.

There were other times I didn’t listen to my wife during her battle with breast cancer. And in those cases, not listening was a big mistake. Like the day Marsha called me at work to tell me that a blunt radiologist had eyeballed her mammogram and said, “Sure looks like cancer to me.” I ignored the anguish in Marsha’s voice. I pretended everything was fine. I stayed at work until quitting time. And when I did come home, I still wasn’t sure how to listen. My instinct was to try and cheer Marsha up instead of paying attention to how she was really feeling.

As the weeks went by, I honed my listening skills. In the doctor’s office, I took notes and would later read them back to Marsha, who wasn’t able to absorb all of the awful information. Having a second pair of ears at an appointment is a benefit for any patient.

Listening, I found, can be complicated. What if your wife says, “You don’t have to come to the doctor with me”? Maybe she wants to spare you from the inconvenience of taking off from work. Then again, maybe you’re not good when it comes to medical matters, and she’d rather have her sister the nurse with her. You can take your wife at her word. Or you can follow the advice of Anne O’Connor, a nurse care coordinator at Georgetown University’s Lombard Cancer Center: If your wife claims she doesn’t need you by her side, she suggests saying, “I love you and I need to know what’s going on. We’re in this together.”

Listening also means letting your wife speak, and not cutting her off if she wants to talk about how scared she is. Many people think optimism is a cure for cancer. Alas, it is not. But studies have shown that breast cancer patients who let out all their emotions cope better with the stress of treatment. Sometimes, Marsha just felt lousy, and all she wanted to do was talk about it. And who better to listen than me?

Maybe that’s why cancer experts told me that the breast cancer husband’s motto should be “shut up and listen.” By following that credo, I was able to help my wife as she endured a lumpectomy in each breast, chemotherapy and radiation treatment. Today, she is in good health.

To my surprise, I could have learned some of the same listening lessons by turning to the Torah.

In the story of Sarah and Abraham, Abraham is distressed about Sarah’s wish to “cast out” Hagar and her son. And what did the Lord advise Abraham? In His infinite wisdom, He said, “Whatever Sarah tells you, do as she says.”

So there you have it: biblical advice for the breast cancer husband. And the only time you don’t have to listen is if she tells you that you don’t have to build a sukkah.

Marc Silver, an editor at U.S.News & World Report, is the author of “Breast Cancer Husband: How to Help Your Wife (and Yourself) Through Diagnosis, Treatment and Beyond” (Rodale, 2004).

A Place of Worship Where We Belong


It baffled my parents that I went with my husband and his family to Christmas Eve services, but he didn’t accompany me to synagogue on Rosh Hashanah.

“That doesn’t seem fair,” my mother pointed out. “You’re celebrating his holiday, but he’s not celebrating yours.”

We do hold to my parents’ tradition of a festive erev Rosh Hashanah meal, complete with white tablecloth, fancy china, and ritual foods (wine, challah, apples and honey), and I reminded her of that. Synagogue or no, we were welcoming the Jewish New Year together in our home.

So she tried another tack: “Wouldn’t he go with you if you asked?”

The answer, of course, was yes; but I didn’t want to ask. I wanted his engagement with Judaism to be his choice — not because he felt obligated to my family, my tradition or me.

Besides, my Rosh Hashanah observance was pretty variable. I had tried one synagogue, then another. One year I barely went to shul at all, spending the day outside instead, reading poems and prayers alone under the trees. It was easy to include my husband in the home-based rituals I felt grounded in, but synagogue attendance was another thing entirely. How could I help him feel welcome in a congregation if I didn’t belong anywhere myself?

Year after year, the synagogue portion of Rosh Hashanah got more and more frustrating. I cut my attendance shorter and shorter, wanting to escape so I could do my homegrown Tashlich ritual with my friends. The nadir was the year I tried the temple nearest our house, got stuck in the upper balcony of the sanctuary and didn’t know a soul.

My resolution that High Holiday season? To find a congregational home by the following fall. I’ve lived in this cluster of small towns for almost a decade: people know me on the street, at the grocery store, at the community-supported organic farm. It felt wrong to be so rootless when it came to religion.

So I drove around. I sampled the area options: Conservative, Reconstructionist, Reform. I liked the idea of attending services in the town where both my husband and I work, so I went to lunch with the rabbi there. I liked him immediately, but was nervous about explaining our situation: I still remembered our wedding-officiant search, when rabbis hadn’t always been kind.

It turned out that the rabbi had written his rabbinic thesis on intermarriage; that one of the congregation’s co-presidents is married to a Christian man; and that the congregation, although small (many Friday nights we have to skip the prayers that require a minyan), is welcoming and friendly. They use a siddur and a machzor, that they compiled themselves: a fair amount of Hebrew, and a lot of singing, but also excellent translations and transliterations. They’re user-friendly.

I started going to Shabbat services there, maybe once a month. And, as Rosh Hashanah approached, my husband asked, casually, whether I wanted company that year.

The congregation’s new building was under construction, so we met to worship in the ballroom of the Holiday Inn downtown. Several people shook our hands as we walked in, and greeted us by name. My resolution had worked: I wasn’t a stranger anymore.

We ducked out shortly before the end, and stopped for lunch together on the way home. He spoke of how the rabbi seemed smart, the people seemed friendly, the liturgy wasn’t impenetrable and he might go with me once in a blue moon.

Maybe the best part was the follow-up letter we got from the membership chairwoman, who had noticed us in the crowd. The synagogue’s standard membership form includes room for two adults’ names, birthdays and religious affiliations. Even as a non-Jew, my husband is welcome to be a member; when we join, both of our names will appear on the roster. It’s a far cry from the shul of my childhood, where at my bat mitzvah, my sister-in-law (then in the midst of her conversion process) was denied the chance at an aliyah because she “wasn’t Jewish yet.”

I doubt my husband will ever choose to consider himself Jewish, and I suspect I will always find special resonance in the home-based rituals we celebrate together with our circle of family and friends. Still, there’s something wonderful about finding a Jewish community, without changing — or hiding — who we are.

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More Love and Lust From the Bible


“The Song of Hannah” by Eva Etzioni-Halevy (Plume, $14).

Biblical fiction is enjoying a renaissance. Some say it began in 1998, with Anita Diamant’s “The Red Tent” — a fictionalized account from Jacob’s daughter, Dinah, of daily life with her aunt Rachel and mother Leah. For the last few years, writers have started mining the Bible for similar stories — that they could rewrite into a Harlequin-type romance, replete with heaving bosoms and burning loins. The stories of Queen Esther and matriarchs Sarah and Rebecca, to name a few, have been rewritten in this manner.

The latest addition is “The Song of Hannah,” Eva Etzioni-Halevy’s debut novel about the mother of Samuel the prophet, the man who anointed both King Saul and King David. Hannah earned her own place in Jewish history through the power of her prayer. Bereft at not conceiving children, Hannah went to God’s tabernacle in Shiloh and prayed for a son, promising God that if He would grant her a son, she would give him up to serve God for all the days of his life.

The presence of Hannah and her husband, Elkanah, in the biblical text is brief — the account is written in 28 sentences in Chapter 1 of Samuel I, while her famous “song of joy” is 10 sentences in Chapter 2.

“The Song of Hannah” as imagined by Etzioni-Halevy, tells the story of two women — Hannah and Peninah, Elkanah’s other wife — and its chapters alternate between their two voices. It is essentially the tale of two young women who find themselves wedded to a faithless husband, in a community where women have few rights. Although both women are scribes, their status depends on Elkanah, who is portrayed as a cruel, polygamous beast and expects servile obedience, while he sleeps with and impregnates his many maids. The only reason he marries Peninah (in the novel) is because he has impregnated her out of wedlock. And at their wedding, he spies out Hannah and starts wooing her. Soon after he marries Peninah — once she is pregnant with their child — he tells her that there will soon be three in the family, and no, he is not referring to the fetus she carries. He means Hannah, who is Peninah’s childhood friend.

He marries Hannah, giving her a far more beautiful bedroom than Peninah, and his relationship with his wives, and their relationship with each other, is forever tinged with jealousy and some bitterness. Peninah satisfies Elkanah’s lust, but he loves Hannah. Yet his love for her doesn’t stop him from sleeping with the maids (whom he admits mean nothing to him) or from spending most nights of the week in Peninah’s room.

The book has some feminist points: As many characters point out — it’s unfair that ancient Israel was a polygamous society but not a polyandrous one. Of course, what the author does not say is that had that society been polyandrous, a person’s paternity could never have been established.

But Elkanah is not the only character who needs to repent. The book is full of sex — and purple prose. Perhaps the best pick-up line is by a priest to Hannah: “Come with me and I will show you how beneficial my priestly blessing, my triple priestly blessing, can be.”

Peninah takes a lover of her own, and Hannah helps her keep the secret from Elkanah. Meanwhile, Hannah’s son, the prophet Samuel, grows up and marries a woman whom he impregnated before their wedding, and then falls in love with Peninah. In this ancient Israel, all the men, it seems, lust after women who are not their wives, while the idol trade does good business among the sinning multitudes.

Etzioni-Halevy, a professor emeritus of political sociology at Bar Ilan University in Tel Aviv, admits that there is no evidence in the Torah for Samuel’s attraction to Peninah (nor is there evidence of him getting his wife pregnant before he married her), and the description of Elkanah as an imperious, lustful cad is at odds with the Elkanah of Samuel I. Traditional commentators note that Hannah was Elkanah’s first wife, not his second, and it was only at Hannah’s urging — because she saw that she was barren, that Elkanah took a second wife. Elkanah was, according to tradition, kind to Hannah and a God-fearing man, who bought his children to God’s tabernacle in Shiloh because he wanted to instill in them fear of God.

“The Song of Hannah” might inspire readers to study the source, but as biblically inspired material, such books can come across as either religiously superficial or so filled with melodramatic guesswork that their value as something more than light entertainment is open to question. Taken seriously, it’s a fairly dispiriting look at the origins of Judaism — presenting our forefathers and mothers as adulterers and worse. Perhaps the next wave of biblical fiction will have something deeper and better to offer.

Eva Etzioni-Halevy will be appearing Sept. 20, at 7:30 p.m. at the Jewish Community Library, 6505 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles. Free, but reservations required at (323) 761-8644 or resource@jclla.org.

 

Obituaries


Meyer Adler died Aug. 10 at 94. He is survived by his sons, Jeffrey and Arnold; daughter, Sharyn; two grandchildren; and sister, Goldie Wolinski. Groman

MIRIAM AUSTERLITZ died July 24 at 59. She is survived by her brother, Dr. Michael. Sholom Chapels

Ida Bender died Aug. 10 at 87. She is survived by her son, Les (Dianne); daughter, Elaine (Paul) Seidman; grandchildren, Rachel and Michael; and sister, Frieda Schiller. Chevra Kadisha

Joan Mary Blumenstein died Aug. 4 at 75. She is survived by her daughter, Anne (Lance) Mejia; son, Carl (Hannah Rebkin); four grandchildren; and brothers, Athol, Owen and Keith Lawrence. Malinow and Silverman

Saltanat Banayan died Aug. 3 at 80. She is survived by her husband, Dr. Habibollah Rokhsar; sons, Drs. Manucher, Massoud and Mehrdad Rokhsar; daughter, Jackline Mahanian; nine grandchildren; brother, Eskadar; and sisters, Akhtar Ghadoshi, Ashraf Bakhshi, Ezat Tehrani and and Malieh. Chevra Kadisha

Doreen Bonner died Aug. 9 at 77. She is survived by her sons, Ivan (Ruth), Charles (Leah) and Mark; daughter, Joy; brother, Arthur Levy; eight grandchildren; sister, Esther Saltz. Chevra Kadisha

Frieda Chesler died Aug. 5 at 99. She is survived by her son, Leonard (Linda); five grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ESTHER MANTEL COHEN died Aug. 3 at 91. She is survived by her son, Larry (Paulette); daughters, Sharon (Robert) Wiviott and Faye (Gary) Waldman; 12 grandchildren; 20 great-grandchildren; and sisters, Edythe Merkow, Sara Mazur, Mary Davis, Millie (Milt) Kaplan and Roz Coleman. Hillside

Sidney Erlbaum died Aug. 8 at 86. He is survived by his wife, Edna; daughter, Tina (Rick) Eckstein; sons, David and Alan (Jane); eight grandchildren; and sister, Hildy Freiman. Mount Sinai

Philip Farber died Aug. 9 at 83. He is survived by his brother, Samuel; nephew, David (Joy); niece, Judy (Joe) Salamon; great-nephew, Brian; and great-niece, Nicole. Mount Sinai

Helen Feldman died June 26 at 93. She is survived by her daughter, Keren (Fernando) Goldberg; son, Lane (Marie); grandsons, John and Evan; and sisters, Ruth (Dave) Pollock and Gertrude. Palm Springs Mortuary

Harold Finkel died Aug. 3 at 93. He is survived by his daughters, Arlene (Michael) Bernstein and Barbara (Stan) Trachtenberg; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Randall Cary Frank died Aug. 9 at 53. He is survived by his wife, Lisa; sons, Sean and Joshua; daughter, Juli; three grandchildren; and brother, Jay. Groman

Isabel Gilbert died Aug. 9 at 94. She is survived by her son, Charles. Malinow and Silverman

David Gordon Gill died Aug. 7 at 57. He is survived by his son, Jarrod; daughter, Roxanne; brother, Richard (Eve Newton-Gill); sister, Irene Yeger; three nieces; and two nephews. Chevra Kadisha

Vera Golbin died Aug. 9 at 83. She is survived by her daughters, Caryn (Dean) Hanna and Barbara; grandchildren, Dina and Sean; and brother, Jack (Sally) Pullman. Mount Sinai

Nettie Isenberg died Aug. 3 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Jerrold (Madeleine) and Sherwin (Rina); daughter, Roberta Maimes; nine grandchildren; nine great-grandchildren; and sister, Toby Kass. Chevra Kadisha

Philip Kalish died Aug. 9 at 90. He is survived by his wife, Mildred; sons, David and Richard; six grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Groman

IRVING KATES died Aug. 8 at 80. He is survived by his sons David, Howard and Steven; daughters, Michele Schulman, Cheryl Remington and Linda Norton; 12 grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Sarah Klapman died Aug. 5 at 88. She is survived by her daughters, Karen Jackman and Jacqueline Bacharach; seven grandchildren; and 12 great-grandchildren. Groman

Sally Kurlander died Aug. 7 at 94. She is survived by her son, Donald Charein. Malinow and Silverman

TILLIE LANG died Aug. 9 at 98. She is survived by her sons, Melvin, Kenneth and Howard. Sholom Chapels

Bertha Leiner died Aug. 5 at 92. She is survived by her stepsons, Fred and Lewis. Groman

Anne Levine died Aug. 5 at 62. She is survived by her husband, Harvey; son, Marc; and daughter, Sarah. Groman

ALICE LEVY-STEWART died July 28 at 46. She is survived by her brother, Morris Levy. Sholom Chapels

Sandra Lynn Loen died Aug. 8 at 66. She is survived by her husband, Harold; son, Lloyd; stepdaughter, Linda; and sister-in-law, Jan Laquidara. Groman

Alex Miller died Aug. 9 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Henrietta; daughters, Joy (Robert) Stigile and Darlene; granddaughter, Sara Nygard; and sisters, Dolly (Irwin) Green, Gloria (Abe) Boyarsky and Irene (Jerry) Cohen. Mount Sinai

BARBARA NASH MISSMAN died July 29 at 64. She is survived by her sister, Bonnie Nash. Sholom Chapels

Dorothea Elizabeth Odenheimer died Aug. 6 at 90. She is survived by her husband, Frederick; son, Michael; and two grandchildren. Groman

Lillian Oreck died Aug. 10 at 90. She is survived by her son, Les (Phyllis); daughter, Sherry (Michael) Showacter; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

ESTHER PFEFFERMAN died July 23 at 75. She is survived by her son, Sam; daughter, Ethel Perles; and grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Eleanor Helen Philips died Aug. 5 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; sons, Stephen (Caren), Rodger, Michael (Jan Rothchild); daughter, Renee (Murray) Hutchings; eight grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

RACHEL RICHARDS died Aug. 4 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Tom; parents, Simon and Sima Friedman; sister, Esther Friedman; and brother, Michael (Etti) Friedman. Sholom Chapels

Jerome Rocklin died Aug. 10 at 82. He is survived by his sister, Gloria London. Malinow and Silverman

ROBERT ROSE died Aug. 7 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Joyce; daughter, Susan (Chuck) Weisbart; sons, Steven (Mary) and David (Mary Anne); six grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Hillside

LILLIAN ROSENZWEIG died Aug. 10 at 88. She is survived by her son, Gary (Mazine). Sholom Chapels

Shirley Sadofsky died Aug. 5 at 81. She is survived by her sons, Greg and Jay; and sister, Sara Flaum. Mount Sinai

CAROLYN RUTH SCHACHTMAN died Aug. 7 at 86. She is survived by her sons, William and Robert; daughter, Judith Schwartz; five grandchildren; and six great- grandchildren. Hillside

Charlotte Shapiro died Aug. 7, at 105. She is survived by her daughter-in-law, Leslie; and grandson, Miles. Mount Sinai

Gilda Berdine Shaevitz died Aug. 7 at 55. She is survived by her husband, Leonard; father, Julius; sister, Rhonda; and brothers, Howell, Joel and Harrison Karabel. Malinow and Silverman

Melvin Charles Shryer died Aug. 8 at 88 He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; daughter, Sandee (Gary) Glickman; sons, Jeff and Marc (Kimberly); four grandchildren; and sister, Helyn Lederman. Mount Sinai

Nate Silberberg died Aug. 5 at 69. He is survived by his son, Fred (Deborah); former wife, Euy; three grandchildren; and sisters, Alice (Leo) Granierer, Ruth Lester and Inge Rubin. Mount Sinai

FRIEDA SILBERMAN died July 28 at 90. She is survived by her son, Allen (Judy); daughter-in-law, Irma; three grandchildren; and sister, Bertie (Sam) Krieger. Sholom Chapels

Elizabeth Speiser died Aug. 7 at 79. She is survived by her daughter, Lisa (Paul) Hessell; son, Steve (Leslie); four grandchildren; sister, Olga (Julian) Reinheimer; and sister-in-law, Henny Daly. Mount Sinai

Annie Tessel died Aug. 3 at 86. She is survived by her son, Larry; daughters, Esther (Dave) Collins, Sharon Belson and Reba Tessel; three grandchildren; sister, Miriam Lewis; and nephew, Larry Fox. Groman

Zola Tisherman died Aug. 7 at 85 He is survived by his wife, Lillian; son, David; daughters, Phyllis (Tom) Foreman and Bari (Caleb) Edwards; grandson, Jonathan Foreman; and sister, Pauline Greenstein Mount Sinai

Olga Wittenberg died Aug. 8 at 93. She is survived by her son, Joseph; daughter, Judy Barnhardt; and one grandchild. Groman

Samyil Yudilovich died Aug. 10 at 60. He is survived by his wife, Lyudmila. Groman

ESTHER ZACKS died Aug. 9 at 86. She is survived by her son, Charles. Sholom Chapels

Bette Zinderman died Aug. 7 at 80. She is survived by her son, Mark (Carole); daughters, Danaand Jann; and four grandchildren. Mount Sinai

 

Obituaries


Bernard M. Shapiro,
El Caballero Country Club Founder,
Dies at 89

Bernard M. Shapiro who founded the El Caballero Country Club in Tarzana in 1957, died Aug. 26. He was 89.

After playing golf at the Bel-Air Country Club in 1954, Shapiro wanted to join, but a friend told him he would not be welcome because he was Jewish, Shapiro told the Los Angeles Times in 1998.

With the help of a few friends, including supermarket owner Eugene Gelson, Shapiro built a member-owned country club that anyone was welcome to join.

Shapiro was born in Minneapolis to parents who had fled Eastern Europe. His Los Angeles company, Royal Seal, began in the 1930s as a vending machine business and expanded to processing nuts and manufacturing for national candymakers.

When he sold the company in 1947, he retired and became a philanthropist. He helped found the Boys and Girls Club of the San Fernando Valley and served on the board of many service organizations.

He is survived by sons, Melvin, Stanley and Gerald; daughter, Janice; and four grandchildren.

Memorial contributions may be made to the Boys & Girls Club of the San Fernando Valley, 11251 Glenoaks Blvd., Pacoima, CA 91331.

Esther Wapner Arbeitel died July 30 at 97. She is survived by her nephew, Judge Joseph (Mickey) Wapner; niece, Irene (Russell) Franklin; and many great-nieces and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

Morris Baram died July 30 at 96. She is survived by her daughters, Beverly Young and Charlotte Seigel; seven grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Groman

Rachel Berdischewsky died July 28 at 94. She is survived by her son, Myron (Lilith). Chevra Kadisha

Bernard Bergal died Aug. 2 at 77. He is survived by his wife, Caroline; son, Mark; daughter, Lisa; and sisters, Jeanette Braner and Mickie Stangler. Groman

Alfred Biller died Aug. 2 at 97. He is survived by his wife, Judith; son, Jim (Diane); daughters, Jacki (Roger Bjorklund) Coates and Brenda (Daniel) Hanin; and three grandchildren. Groman

Esther Block died Aug. 2 at 86. She is survived by her son, Mitchell. Malinow and Silverman

Arlene Blonsky died July 27 at 72. She is survived by her husband, Paul; sons, Larry (Barbara), Jerry (Sunny), David (Cheryl) and Barry (Siska); six grandchildren; and brother, Ronald (Annette) Aberhams. Mount Sinai

Jacob Churg died July 27 at 95. He is survived by his sons, Warren and Andrew; and two grandchildren. Groman

Solomon Cohen died July 27 at 86. He is survived by his brother, Isaac; sister, Esther Bension; and niece, Delecia Enenstein. Groman

DAVID SOLOMON CRYSTAL died Aug. 1 at 85. He is survived by his son, Lee; daughter, Robin Johnson; seven grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Hillside

Bruce Deyong died July 31 at 57. He is survived by his wife, Paula. Malinow and Silverman

Leo Diamond died July 30 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Kathleen (Pedro) Vargas; and sister, Ruth Freund. Mount Sinai

Harold Dropkin died Aug. 1 at 93. He is survived by his wife, Mazie; son, Lester (Sara); daughter, Mara (Bruce) Kasper; and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Jack Fargo died July 29 at 78. He is survived by his companion, Marilyn Weinshenk; sons, Gary (Angela) Herschel, Steven (Debbie) Weinshenk and Lance (Tye); and grandchildren, Daniel, Nicole, Justin, Sarah and Leah. Mount Sinai

GILDA FINK died July 28 at 76. She is survived by her daughter, Arlene (Stanley) Greengard; son, Nelson; four grandchildren; sisters, Marylan Marsh and Sara Bogard; and brother, David Treister. Hillside

Walter Firstman died Aug. 1 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Lee; sons, Curtis and Bruce; daughter, Barbara (Don) Kaplan; and six grandchildren. Groman

Benjamin Glass died July 29 at 91. He is survived by his son, Stanley; and two grandchildren; and brother, Sidney. Groman

Edith Hanauer died July 30 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Sandra (Les) Bursten; son, Gary; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Malinow and Silverman

Philip Heine died July 31 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Rhoda; sons, Richard, Bruce and David; one grandchild; and brother, David. Malinow and Silverman

Malvina Hersh died July 29 at 95. She is survived by her daughter, Rita Smith; two grandchildren; and sister, Pearl Gottesman. Groman

Jack Hirshleifer died July 26 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; sons, John (Linda) and David (Siew Hong); and three grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Esther Knoblowitz died July 27 at 86. She is survived by her husband, Bernard; and son, Martin. Chevra Kadisha

Nathan Kort died Aug. 2 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Diane; daughter, Stephanie (Tim) Trombley; son, Glen; step-daughter, Cindy (Patrick) Napolitano; seven grandchildren; and brother, Barney (Jean) Kort. Mount Sinai

Tsilia Laufer died July 30 at 90. She is survived by her sons, Eugene and Boris Bakalinsky; two grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Sol Meyerson died July 31 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Estelle; son, Steven (Annette); daughters, Jo Anne (Paul) Block and Deborah (Abraham) Raphael; four grandchildren; and sisters, Harriet Weisner and Florence Essman. Groman

Avrim Namak died July 27 at 64. He is survived by his wife, Judy; daughter, Shulamit; three stepchildren; mother, Gertrude; and sister, Dena Katz. Malinow and Silverman

MARY RACHLIN died July 29 at 91. She is survived by her daughter, Carol (Marvin D.) Rowen; four grandchildren; 10 great- grandchildren; and brother, Melvin Weintraub. Hillside

Lisa Francine Rowen died July 29 at 46. She is survived by her husband, Eric; sons, Hunter and Austin; daughter, Jessica; brother, Brad (Gina) Lieberman; sister, Kiera (David)Allen; and mother, Laurayne Lieberman. Chevra Kadisha

Arnold Schnitzer died July 29 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Sylvia; and daughters, Leslie Jacobs, Stacy Kenyon, Wendy Willock and Anita McLaughlin. Malinow and Silverman

LAWRENCE SCHULNER died July 11 at 66. He is survived by his wife, Sharalynn; sons, Keith (Debbie) and Matthew; stepsons, David (Gigi) and Brian Shapiro; daughter, Shulamit (David) Widawsky; four grandchildren; and sister, Avis (Marshal) Cohen.

Manfred Schweda died July 31 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Lenora; daughters, Margaret Chroman and Sharon Neiyer; and four grandchildren. Groman

ROBERT MILTON SERIN died July 28 at 65. He is survived by his sons, William and Scott; and two grandchildren. Hillside

BETTY SHEPARD died July 28 at 86. She is survived by her daughter, Maxine; four grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Herbert Singer died July 29 at 76. He is survived by his sons, Jeff (Kellie), Michael (Jennifer) and Stephen (Maureen); daughter, Debbie (Frank) Dimario; six grandchildren; and sister, Helene. Mount Sinai

Irwin Phillip Solomon died July 30 at 71. He is survived by his wife, Marcia; and daughters, Stacey and Shelby. Groman

Robert Turer died July 31 at 47. He is survived by his wife, Shellie; sons, Ethan and Shane; daughter, Nicole; parents, Mark and Betty; sisters-in-law, Debbie, Brenda (Phil), Sherrie, Toni (Dave) and Teri (Craig); and 10 nieces and nephews. Chevra Kadisha

Carol Underwood died July 29 at 55. She is survived by her daughters, Tewlyn (Jesse) Yoburn and Amanda (Kevin) Musselwhite; brothers, Michael (Natalie) and Stanley (Ella) Schwartz; and ex-husband, Phillip (Auyrina). Mount Sinai

Joan Vineberg died July 29 at 74. She is survived by her sister, Jackie Zuravel; brother, Marvin Ripes; and several nieces and nephews. Mount Sinai

Dr. Ernest Otto Weinman died July 31 at 82. He is surivived by his wife, Phyllis; and his brother, Hans. Groman

Lillian Weinstein died July 29 at 88. She is survived by her daughter, Susan; and son, Robert (Alvina) Weinstein. Malinow and Silverman

Mohtaram Youssefzadeh died July 30 at 76. She is survived by her husband Asher Benyamin; and children, Lida Hanaie and Kamal Benyamin. Chevra Kadisha

 

Obituaries


Cyril Amitin died July 26 at 87. He is survived by his wife, Renee; sons, Alan (MaryAnne) and Michael (Valery); and eight grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Mone Anathan Jr. died July 21 at 95. He is survived by his wife, Adele; daughter, Caryl Sunshine; and son, Mone Anathan III. Malinow and Silverman

DEANNA ATKINS died July 20 at 64. She is survived by her sister, Joanne Bryan; brother, Jack Cohn; nephew, Michael Lang; and niece, Kari Jelsma. Hillside

Esther Bergstein died July 21 at 102. She is survived by her niece, Judy Green. Groman

Nina Berman died July 21 at 97. She is survived by her daughters, Teraza (Norman) Weiss, Sheila and Marcia; four grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sister, Sara Greenberg. Mount Sinai

Lee Blair died July 22 at 85. She is survived by her son, David. Chevra Kadisha

Eva Bledstein died July 26 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Harry (Steffi) Blitzstein and Bernard; grandchildren, Joseph and Andrea Blitzstein; great-grandson, Andrew; and sister, Anne (Bernard) Krom. Mount Sinai

LEONA BLEIBERG died July 22 at 72. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Daniel; daughter, Laura Rogers; and five grandchildren. Hillside

Shirley Brown died July 24 at 79. She is survived by her son, Michael; daughter, Judith; three grandchildren; two grandchildren; and sister, Hilda. Groman

Sunnie Crasnick died July 24 at 100. She is survived by her sons, Gerald (Sylvia) and Donald; three grandchildren; and great- grandson, Daniel. Mount Sinai

ANTHONY DANNO died July 22 at 50. He is survived by his sister, Nancy; brother, James; and companion, Tony Yollin. Hillside

Mikhail Dranitsky died July 22 at 79. He is survived by his wife, Dora; sister, Reva Huberman; nephews, Norman (Dalia) and Bernie Huberman; nieces, Mimi (Albert) Assanti and Evette (Johnny) Knight; and nine great-nieces and great-nephews. Mount Sinai

MILDRED DRESNER died July 22 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Sol; son, Dr. Steve; daughters, Marcia Kabaker and Joanne; five grandchildren; sister, Elaine Michaelson; and brother, Sidney Auster. Hillside

Stuart Elkins died July 26 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Rochelle; daughter, Dori; sons, Glenn (Danielle) and Kieth (Jackie); and six grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ursula Flink died July 25 at 92. She is survived by her daughter, Vivienne Jimenez. Malinow and Silverman

Robert Gerry died July 23 at 84. He is survived by his wife, Catherine; son, Michael; and daughter, Patricia Gerry Wilson. Groman

HELEN RUSTY GILFORD died July 24 at 80. She is survived by her brother, Stanley (Marrisa). Hillside

Louise Gillin died July 23 at 94. She is survived by her sons, Philip and Andrew; brother, Stanley Herzoff; eight grandchildren; and 15 great-grandchildren. Groman

Mia Goldberg died July 22 at 84. She is survived by her sons, Mark (Pat) and Alan; daughters, Donna (John) Carter and Lynda Ehrlich; seven grandchildren; and five great- grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Burton Goodman died July 23 at 70. He is survived by his wife, Sonja; children, Karen (Eric) Forsberg, Keith (Patti O’Farrell), Kelly and Kenneth; and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

David Gordon died July 25 at 88. He is survived by his nephew, Howard Scheckman. Groman

Henry Greenberger died July 21 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Florence; sons, Martin (Terry) and Sam (Christine); daughter, Ellen; three grandchildren; and sisters, Sara Flaum and Shirley Sadofsky. Chevra Kadisha

Evelyn Grossman died July 21 at 90. She is survived by her son, Gary; and three grandchildren. Groman

Rouhollah Issac Hakim died July 22 at 94. He is survived by his wife, Fahimdokht Barkohanai; and daughter, Jilla. Chevra Kadisha

HELENE HERZ died July 22 at 88. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughter, Joanne; three grandchildren; and two great grandchildren. Hillside

Jack Hurwitz died July 25 at 92. He is survived by his wife, Bette; daughter, Leslie (Robert) Bergman; three grandchildren; brother, Harvey (Peaches); sisters, Rhoda Schwarz and Arlyne (Milton) Ray; and several nieces and nephews. Mount Sinai

BERNICE KERT died July 23 at 81. She is survived by her son, Charles; daughters, Kathryn Kert Green and Elizabeth; and eight grandchildren. Hillside

BEN KRINITT died July 21 at 95. He is survived by his son, Phillip; daughter, Barbara (Andrew) Danny; stepsons, Rick, Dennis and Perry; six grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Hillside

Kathleen Riback Kwasman died July 22 at 53. She is survived by her husband, Samuel; son, Matthew; daughter, Alyssa; mother, Beatrice Riback; brothers, Michael (Elizabeth) and David (Rose) Riback; and sister, Karen (David) Barnes. Mount Sinai

Tillie Lasker died July 23 at 91. She is survived by her son, Martin; daughter, Penny Sax; and four grandchildren. Groman

Sam Maltz died July 26 at 80. He is survived by his nieces, Jodye (Joel Kirshman) and Arnaa (Bill McCarthy) Alcon. Mount Sinai

Ruth Manns died July 21 at 94. She is survived by her nephew, Robert. Groman

Lewis Margulis died July 21 at 96. He is survived by his sons, Marc and Burton; and daughter, Rita Eklof. Malinow and Silverman

Leland Jack Metzger died July 22 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Sondra; sons, Jeffrey (Lisa) and Keith (Lori); daughters, Karen (John) Sheets and Kim (Jim) Gilfellin; and four grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Eleanor Anita Modes died July 22 at 70. She is survived by her sons, Scott and Jeffrey (Saffron); brother, Paul Tayne; and seven grandchildren. Groman

Dorothy Oleesky died July 22 at 89. She is survived by her sons, Norm (Helene), Alan (Brenda), Robert (Carol) and Mark (Jackie); daughter, Barbara (Andre) Llanos; 12 grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Ann Olen died July 24 at 96. She is survived by her daughters, Nancie Piccus and Joan Schloss; four grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren. Groman

Moreno Perez died July 26 at 72. He is survived by his wife, Esther; son, Mark; daughter, Judtih Hawes; and four grandchildren. Groman

Abrahim Rashtian died July 21 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Tiuran; and son, Tom. Chevra Kadisha

Rose Kaplan Romm died July 20 at 92. She is survived by her son, Richard; and daughter, Barbara (Morton) Barancik. Malinow and Silverman

Solomon Julius Saffian died July 21 at 68. He is survived by his son, Mark; and daughter, Lisa. Groman

Janet Semler died July 25 at 73. She is survived by her sons, Daniel Gutman and Gary; daughters, Lisa Larson and Maren; five grandchildren; and brother, Jerry Lushing. Groman

Carole Sindel died July 22 at 74. She is survived by her husband, Howard; son, David (Karen); daughter, Maura; and two grandchildren. Groman

Hyman Sisko died July 25 at 83. He is survived by his sons, Marty (Diane) and Howard (Geraldine); five grandchildren; great- grandson, Ethan; and sister, Anna (Irv) Pollin. Mount Sinai

EDITH MALKOFF SOCOL died July 26 at 85. She is survived by her husband, Albert; daughter, Susan Moon; eight grandchildren; and brothers, Mel (Mary Ann) and Irving Hoffman. Hillside

SIDNEY SOLOMON died July 26 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Shirley; son, Alan; and three grandchildren. Hillside

Dulcy Rhea Steinlauf died July 21 at 80. She is survived by her son, Mitchell Lauford. Malinow and Silverman

Samuel Ross Tannenbaum died July 24 at 86. He is survived by his daughters, Jane and Barbara; and two grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Anna Thorn died July 25 at 94. She is survived by her daughters, Sondra Stahler and Susan Appel; five grandchildren; and five great-grandchildren. Groman

Jean Weisman died July 22 at 95. She is survived by her nephew, Alan D. Weisman. Malinow and Silverman

Ethel Weintraub died July 20 at 66. She is survived by her husband, Alvin; sons, Ronald and Daniel (Virginia) Friedman; stepdaughters, Linda Firestone, Sondra (Thomas) Ditty and Diane; three grandchildren; and sister, Pearl Spiszman. Mount Sinai

Helen Wisotsky died July 26 at 86. She is survived by her son, Richard; daughters, Michele Perl and Judith Left; eight grandchildren; four great-grandchildren; and sister, Beverly Miller. Groman

Lulu Yellen died July 20 at 99. He is survived by his grandson, Jerry Jacobson. Groman

First Person – Death by Oprah


Oprah Winfrey is doing a show about “Ethnic Men Who Reject Their Own Women.” I am invited as an expert witness because I speak and write about the ugly stereotypes Jewish men have created about their wives and mothers.

You’ve all heard the jokes: the nagging wives, the frenzied mothers and, worst of all, the Jewish American Princesses. I am not amused by stories about JAPs who are spoiled and whiny and can’t cook and hate sex. I mean, no fair. I love sex — well, at least I did until I got Tivo. And I can cook very well, thank you; I just prefer not to. So what if I’d be willing to pay extra for a house without a kitchen?

Anyway, courtesy of Oprah, I now get to speak out on behalf of maligned Jewish women. And, courtesy of Oprah, I’m going in style. Her staff flies me to Chicago, first-class.

This turns out to be a big mistake — though I suppose I should resist blaming Oprah.

You see, I’ve got this problem with food. If someone else is paying, and I can have whatever I want, I just lose all control. It’s like there’s this tape in my brain that keeps playing over and over from my immigrant mother: “Finish your plate! Little children in Europe are starving!”

My friend Sandra’s mom had her own version: “Eat whatever you want — and the rest put in your mouth!”

So I’m on the plane, and the chirpy stewardess says, “Hi there! For your hors d’oeuvres, would you care for smoked salmon, caviar or paté?”

And what do I say? “Yes!”

I follow that with a stuffed Cornish game hen and a hot fudge sundae. Oy!

I wobble off the plane and a limo whisks me to my luxurious hotel just in time for dinner. Oprah Winfrey is trying to kill me — or is this an initiation rite or a test of some sort? Or maybe it’s like a drinking game where the winner is the last one to fall under the table. Didn’t Oprah have an eating disorder at one point? She ought to know better.

I don’t feel so good. All my body really wants is a nice cup of chamomile tea, but I tell my body to mind its own business. I sit down for a five-course dinner with beef Stroganoff. (I don’t usually eat red meat, but it’s the most expensive thing on the menu.) My body is angry with me. But the starving little children in Europe must be so happy!

Hours later, I am seriously unwell. I can’t sleep. What am I going to say on the show tomorrow? How can I convince people that Jewish women deserve respect? As I toss and turn, I indulge a favorite fantasy about a Jewish woman president. She would trim the budget by asking everyone to “Please bring a dish to the Inaugural Ball.” She would exchange guns for violins, and shut down prisons because they attract a “criminal element.” She would practice tough love, and demand social activism with the motto, You live here, too: I expect you to help with the housework!

I finally fall into fitful sleep, and at 5:30 a.m. I get a wake-up call. I’m sicker than ever, but unfortunately breakfast arrives. I force down eggs Benedict and a stack of buttermilk pancakes. Hey, it’s paid for. At 6:30 a.m., the limo arrives to take me, sick and nauseous, to the studio.

It’s showtime!

I’m ushered into the Green Room (how appropriate) with other guests, and introduce myself to another woman.

Me: “Hi, I’m Annie Korzen.”

Her: “How do you do, my name is Dr. Judith Cohen.”

Her mother named her “Doctor?” I think not.

There’s also a Chasidic rabbi: “Hello Rabbi, I’m Annie Kor….”

He pulls away like I’ve got leprosy: “Excuse me! But the only woman I am allowed to touch is the mother of my 24 children.”

We enter the studio. Lights, camera, action!

The first speaker is a single Jewish professional man: “I never date Jewish women. They look alike, they think alike, the only thing they’re interested in is the size of your wallet!”

It’s my turn; I want to bury this jerk with cutting wit and irresistible charm. But, it seems, clumps of Stroganoff in Benedict sauce are clogging my esophagus. I think I’m running a fever, and I am about to represent Jewish women by vomiting in front of 22 million people. With wit and charm in digestive cardiac arrest, pure animal venom takes over: “Same to you and double!”

The day after the show airs, I hear my son talking to one of his friends on the phone: “No way, that wasn’t my mother. I mean, not my real mother. Duh, you didn’t know I was adopted?”

My husband makes a feeble attempt to console me: “Don’t worry about it. Who watches Oprah anyway?” Yeah, right.

I guess the old saying is true, “There’s no such thing as a free lunch.”

For information about Korzin’s Aug. 13 show at Steinway Hall, see calendar

Annie Korzen is a writer and actress best known for her recurring role as Doris Klompus on “Seinfeld,” and her humorous essays on NPR’s, “Morning Edition.”

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Obituaries


Irvin Atkins died July 14 at 88. He is survived by his wife, Ida Mae; and daughter, Marilyn Feiman. Groman

LILLIAN BADEN died July 14 at 90. She is survived by her son, Jerry; grandchild, Dylan; and many relatives. Hillside

Theodore Berg died Aug. 9 at 91. He is survived by his wife, Sarah; daughters, Elayne, Sandi and Judy; grandchildren, Beth and Michael; and sister, Esther Gillman. Mount Sinai

ANNE BOVILL died July 13 at 90. She is survived by her daughter, Davida; son, Martin (Pirjo); sister, Esther Morris; and many relatives. Hillside

Beryl Caron died July 19 at 81. He is survived by his wife, Helene; son, Daniel (Debra); daughters, Cherie Hickok, Kathy Mandell and Suzie Caron; and five grandchildren. Groman

Rose Cohen died July 18 at 87. She is survived by her daughters, Shelley (Mike) Lubinsky and Sandra Gallob; six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren; and brother, Meyer (Margie) Jacobs. Malinow and Silverman

STANLEY COOPER died July 16 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Evelyn; and daughter, Shelley. Hillside

Bessie Farash died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, Marty (Judy); daughter, Marilyn (Murray) Cohen; three grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Alexander Farkas died July 19 at 75. He is survived by his wife, R. Barbara; son, Steven (Susan); daughters, Marilyn (Scott) Pilcher and Ellen (Gary) Davidson; and six grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

LOIS FRANKEL died July 19 at 75. She is survived by her brothers, Walter and Richard. Hillside

Abraham Froch died July 15 at 78. He is survived by his wife, Lois; daughter, Alieen (Gil) Borok; sons, Michael (Jill) and Larry (Cari); and five grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Karl Gerwer died July 14 at 73. He is survived by his wife, Satoe; and sons, Scott and Eric. Groman

Bess Helen Gold died July 18 at 95. She is survived by her son, Peter. Chevra Kadisha

Sumner Granby died July 18 at 88. He is survived by his sons, Alan and Mark; two grandchildren; and one great-grandchild. Groman

Gloria Glauber died July 18 at 77. She is survived by her daughter, Micki (Mark Flint) Hollien; son, Russ (Olivia); five grandchildren; 10 great-grandchildren; and two great-great-grandchildren; brother, Sidney (Dolly) Goodman; and sister-in-law, Judy (Lou) Shaltzer. Mount Sinai

Bertha Hellman died July 16 at 96. She is survived by her son, Bryce (Hannah); daughter, Racelle Manes; eight grandchildren; and 10 great-grandchildren. Sholom Chapels

Marilyn Bella Horowitz died July 16 at 76. She is survived by her husband, Irving; son, Alan; daughter, Sherry; and four grandchildren.

Michael Bernard Horowitz died July 18 at 59. He is survived by his wife, Diane Ganley; stepson, Tom Ganley; sister, Margie Bonar; and brother, Thomas. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Horowitz died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her daughter, Judith; one grandchild; two great-grandchildren; sisters, Frances Aoltz, Belle Schneider and Sylvia Hallman; . Groman

ESTHER HOUGH died July 16 at 53. She is survived by her brother, Randal Grant Powers; and sister-in-law, Shendl Diamond. Hillside

TERRY JACKSON died July 17 at 91. She is survived by her son, Michael (Alana); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Fred Kelly died July 12 at 76. He is survived by his son, Robert (Debbie); daughter, Helaine (Andy) Rogers; and two grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Robert Kranz died July 15 at 63. He is survived by his wife, Madelon; son, Bryan; daughter, Tamara (Eran) Bikovsky; one grandchild; and mother, Irene. Malinow and Silverman

CHARLOTTE LAKSBERGER died July 17 at 97. She is survived by her son, George (Robin) Lakes; daughter, Annette (Ron) Massman; six grandchildren; and 13 great-grandchildren. Hillside

Eve Lester died July 19 at 82. She is survived by her husband, David; son, Larry Gay; daughters, Julie Moores and Susan Meyers; eight grandchildren; and three great-grandchildren. Groman

CAROL MARJORIE LEVIN died July 15 at 84. She is survived by her husband, Marty; sons, Steve (Pam) and Robert (Julie); and three grandchildren. Hillside

Michael Levine died July 17 at 65. He is survived by his wife, Yehua Zhu-Levine. Malinow and Silverman

Ruth Levine died July 12 at 82. She is survived by her sons, Steven (Elizabeth) and Mitchell (Sharon); and by five grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Thelma Jo Lewis died July 19 at 85. She is survived by her friends. Malinow and Silverman

Kay Gertrude Lipton died July 18 at 83. She is survived by her sons, David and Jay; and one grandchild. Groman

SHARON WEISS HARRIS LUSSIER died July 18 at 75. She is survived by her husband, Paul; son, Larry Harris; daughter, Jill Cordova; four grandchildren; and one great grandchild. Hillside

Shirley Manoil died July 17 at 89. She is survived by her daughter, Melinda; son, Robert; three grandchildren; and three great grandchildren. Malinow and Silverman

Vera Miller died July 14 at 87. She is survived by her husband, Solomon; son, Stephen (Celia); daughter, Sharon (Brian) Olson-Ahern; and four grandchildren. Chevra Kadisha

Fahimeh Nathan died July 12 at 61. She is survived by her husband, Manoucher; sons, Ramin and Elly; daughter, Noushin (Morris) Farajola; two grandchildren; sisters, Frough (Sion) Shooshani, Mangeh (Manoucher) Gohre, Gili (Firous) Tabiri and Mino (Mandour); and brother, Iraj (Faraba) Raouf. Mount Sinai

Rhoda Neiman died July 14 at 71. She is survived by her husband, Harold; daughters, Jillana and Paula; brothers, Harry, Mark and Bernard Wisner; and sister, Brandi Wisner. Chevra Kadisha

Joe Orloff died July 13 at 96. He is survived by his wife, Ruetta; daughters, Tami (Robert) Finkbeiner, Penny and Rikki; son, Michael (Karen); seven grandchildren. Mount Sinai

Klara Sapirshteyn died July 17 at 93. She is survived by her son, James. Malinow and Silverman

Gertrude Jane Schwab died July 16 at 87. She is survived by her sons, Howard (Michelle) and Richard (Colleen); daughter, Helen; and four grandchildren. Groman

Julius Selinger died July 12 at 80. He is survived by his wife, Elinor; daughter, Anita Anderson; sons, Henry and Gary; six grandchildren; brother, Frank. Malinow and Silverman

Hertzel Shirazi died July 13 at 49. He is survived by his wife, Mitra; brother, Mike; and brother-in-law, Abe Manzour. Chevra Kadisha

Julie Ann Siem died July 19 at 44. She is survived by her daughter, Elisha; son, Jordan; and parents, Donald and Lois Arnstein. Mount Sinai

Dan Silberberg died July 19 at 67. He is survived by his wife, Phyllis; daughters, Jennifer and Nicole; brother, Naftali; sisters, Inga Rubin, Ruth Lester and Alice (Leo) Granierer. Mount Sinai

ETHEL SOLOMON died July 17 at 94. She is survived by her friends. Hillside

J. Dorian Sonnenschein died July 17 at 56. He is survived by his brother, Marco; and sister, Miriam (Max) Feit. Malinow and Silverman

Sidney Stonehill died July 14 at 74. He is survived by his wife, Joan; son, Anthony; and daughter, Dena Stonehill Penney. Groman

Theresa Remes Suffin died July 15 at 86. She is survived by her son, Steve (Leah); and daughter, Fay Shinder. Chevra Kadisha

Morton Wolk died July 12 at 89. He is survived by his daughter, Rolinda Suttle; granddaughter, Tessa Suttle; and significant other, Annette Naftal. Mount Sinai

Mitchell Wortsman died July 19 at 83. He is survived by his wife, Edith; daughter, Melissa Applebaum; and brother, Abner. Groman

Yahya Jonathan Yasharpour died July 17 at 76. He is survived by his wife, Louise; son, Sami; and daughter Yasamin. Chevra Kadisha

Marcus Gershun Zilber died July 17 at 85. He is survived by his wife, Anna; daughters, Sima Epshteyn and Masha Serebryany; and grandchild, Inna. Chevra Kadisha