Motherhood 101 – Growing Up


I survived week one in my empty nest. It was really hard, but I did it. The simple truth is I really miss my son. We talk several times a day, and I saw him during the week, but I miss having him at home. Not only do I miss him, but so does Fiddles the cat. When he came over today she about lost her mind. She followed him around like a dog and could not get close enough to him. When he left we both cried. Literally. We sat together on the couch and cried like a couple of babies.

When he said he was coming over I started to cook. I cooked as if I was having a dozen people over for dinner, even though it was just us. He walked in with a load of dirty laundry and I was so happy I thought I would burst. I did his laundry, fed him, watched Fiddles snuggle up, and stared at my grown up baby. He is a wonderful human being and I am proud of him. There is a piece of my heart that will always wish he was still with me, but a larger piece that is happy he has gone out on his own.

We are both out on our own for the first time and it has been bonding. We are going through the same changes and emotions. If you want to gage who is handling this time in our lives better, and make that decision based on the number of tears shed, I lose. He is thrilled about being on his own and I don’t think he has cried. I on the other hand still cry a lot, but for different reasons. I cried in the beginning because I was sad, and now I cry because I am so proud and excited for him.

I also cry because I am proud of myself. I have raised a good man. He is very much like my beloved father, and has all the good parts of his own dad, but at the end of the day this kid is just like his mom. I don’t have to worry about him because like me, he will always land on his feet. Maybe that is why I love Fiddles so much, we share that skill. My son is going to be fine and I am quickly realizing that so will I. My life is blessed and this time is important for a variety of reasons.

Life changes when you are not cleaning up after someone. I don’t have to pick up clothes off the floor, because I never throw my clothes on the floor. I never find dishes in my sink, because I put them straight into the dishwasher. I don’t have meat in my fridge, which as a vegetarian matters. Important to note I cooked a vegetarian feast for my boy on Sunday and he loved it. This are all really good things. Plus, there is the joy of walking around naked, simply because I can.

I am ready to shake things up. It is time to live my life out loud in new and different ways. I am going to slow things down so I can properly enjoy everything that is happening. My Rabbi taught me to meditate and I am going to implement her teachings into my everyday life rather than just my religious life. It is time to not only take a deep breathe, but listen to the air going in and coming out. I want to live a purposeful life, all the way down to my breathing. Listening to not only people, but things, matters.

The truth is I am lucky my son stayed at home as long as he did. He was ready to move out a long time ago, and only stayed to take care of me when I got sick. He did more than was required or expected, and I will be forever grateful. His leaving means not only have I done my job, but I have kicked cancer’s ass. I look forward to seeing my boy embrace all life has to offer. We are both growing up. It is time to count our blessings and focus on keeping the faith.

 

 

 

 

 

Temple Mount activist Yehuda Glick breathing on own after shooting


Yehuda Glick, the Temple Mount activist shot in a failed assassination attempt, is communicating and breathing on his own.

Glick until Tuesday had been on a respirator at Shaarey Zedek Medical Center in Jerusalem since the Oct. 29 attack outside a city conference center.

The speaker of Israel’s Knesset, Yuli Edelstein, wrote Tuesday afternoon in a Facebook post that Glick, a personal friend, had called him to say that he was breathing on his own.

Glick’s father, Shimon, told Army Radio that his son was communicating through writing and asked for chocolate mousse.

Glick was shot at close range in the chest and abdomen by an assailant who fled on a motorcycle. The alleged assailant, a member of Islamic Jihad who worked in the center’s kitchen, was killed in a shootout outside his eastern Jerusalem home hours later.

Immediately before he was shot, Glick had spoken at the center on the Jewish right to pray on the Temple Mount.

 

UPDATE: Gabrielle Giffords continues her recovery in Houston


March 4, 2011, 9:05 a.m.: Eight weeks after the tragedy that struck Arizona, Gabrielle Giffords continues to recover in Houston ” title=”KHOU.com reports”>KHOU.com reports.

Jan. 13, 2011, 9:12 a.m.: President Obama went off script last night to let the crowd in Tucson know that Gabrielle Giffords had opened her eyes for the first time since last weeks shooting. Those in the room believe she was aware of their presence and that she seemed to be responsive. CNN reports:

Giffords was squeezing and stroking Gillibrand’s hand, as doctors previously said she had been able to do.

Giffords “absolutely could hear everything we were saying,” Gillibrand said. “And Debbie (Wasserman Schultz, D-Florida) and I were telling her how much she was inspiring the nation with her courage, her strength, and we were talking about the things we wanted to do as soon as she was better.”

Jan. 12, 2011, 1:15 p.m.: Dr. Peter Rhee says Gabrielle Giffords is making ‘spontaneous movements,’ the ” title=”Washington Post reports” target=”_blank”>Washington Post reports.

Giffords, 40, remains in critical condition after she and 19 other people were shot Saturday at an event she was holding to meet constituents outside a Tucson supermarket. Six were killed and 14, including Giffords, were wounded when a young man with apparent mental problems opened fire on the gathering with a handgun. The suspect, Jared Lee Loughner, 22, was arraigned in federal court in Phoenix on Monday. He faces federal murder and attempted murder charges.

Read more at ” title=”jewishjournal.com/arizona_shooting” target=”_blank”>jewishjournal.com/arizona_shooting

VideoJew’s VideoGuide to L.A. #5–Jew vs. Wild


VideoJew Jay Firestone goes native in this episode of VideoJew’s VideoGuide to Los Angeles

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