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October 2, 2014

Yom Kippur is our time to reflect, think and ask for forgiveness. Not because we have to, but because we want to. It is our time to look back at all the times we were so convinced we’re right that we let our fingers type or our mouth speak harsh words towards others. Sometimes, it seems that instead of forming a united global community, we only drift further apart, finding more reasons to differ ourselves from others and judge them because of that.

 

None of us is a saint when it comes to judgment, especially in the age of social networks. We press “enter” so quickly, sometimes without thinking, and share with the world our opinion on pretty much everything. We spare no one, and because it is easy for us to send the message out there, it’s sometimes difficult for us to understand how hard it is for someone else to read it.

 

Even within our Jewish community, judgment does not skip any of us, and when it comes to a fellow Jew choosing to express his Judaism in a different way than another, I believe judgment should take a step back. I am not a saint, either. In fact, from time to time I used to make remarks on fellow Jews who don't fast on Yom Kippur or mix meat and dairy. This was simply something I did, without even noticing. That is until I heard myself talk.

 

Nowadays, right before Yom Kippur, all of the fast/no fast discussions take place. With them, come the Mitzvahs arguments, and with them come condescending comments about those who don't see some of the Mitzvahs as something worth keeping. When I rolled my eyes to a friend after stating she doesn't give a damn about Yom Kippur, it suddenly hit me: why do I do that? Why do I judge somebody else's perspective on Judaism? After all, when religious friends of mine make such comments on my secular way of Jewish life, I get all Big Hulk on them, firmly saying: “live and let live.” If this is how I see my relations with them, the relations between me and the even-less-religious should not be any different.  Judaism is a wide rainbow, with many paths to choose. There is not one path better than another, and there's not just one path leading to a good and healthy life. “More religious” is not better than “less religious,” it's just a different path.

 

Yom Kippur is, to me, the realization that God respects all beliefs, even of those who don't believe in God. We sometimes tend to forget we are all in the same boat. We are all Jewish, just different types of “Jewish.” When the gates of heaven open as the sun goes down on Yom Kippur, God doesn't measure our Mitzvahs, so I believe. He measures our behavior, and our ability to be kind to others. He measures our humaneness and compassion for each other, the ability to look behind skin color, sexual preferences, or ways of beliefs.

 

When I will look to the skies on Yom Kippur, moments before the fast ends, I will know deep in my heart that what I have to say or ask for is worth just as much as the heart-wishes of an Orthodox person or the ones of my non-fasting friend. You may agree with me, and may completely dismiss my entire statement, and that's okay. But I can only hope every single one of us will remember, especially in this time of the year, that all people on this planet are equal, and that none of us is better than the others, or entitled to more rights- in front of God or in front of the people of the world. I would like to use this stage to call you to do your best in thinking twice before passing a judgment on someone else.  I sure will. חתימה טובה וצום קל!

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